We made the trimesters pass quickly!

[UniqueBeauty]

He says he can't give his brother any less because he wouldn't have transport and that if he keeps giving him 200 then it's paid off quicker wouldn't I have to pay back what he sends in wages though if I try claim for income support? x

 

[ab75]

How would they know what he is sending you? Don't tell them. Just say he has moved back up North, you don't really know any more than that!! You are worried because you are left with J and baby xx

 

[Carlyp1990]

Your entitled to some child maintenence though UB, you have his son and are pregnant with his daughter xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I've just been told because his post comes here, his clothes are here and because the property is in both our names we're still classed as living together

Things will be okay when this car is paid off because then he'll be sending me 250-300 not 100 or less!

Just got back from taking Jay to nursery, he was so excited to be there again I love watching him. They're having a bug week and they caught a huge spider and put it in a container and I bet one of those kiddies opens it Yesterday they were singing incy wincy spider and Jayden came home singing it, I was like huh? I didn't teach you that lol he learns so fast. I've managed to get him to count from 1 - 14 now x

 

[Ziggie]

UB - talk to the CAB, they will help you set up payments to various places if they can, and will help you with any debt management/financial management. They can also advise you on what money you might be entitled too.

I'm struggling to understand why your OH would be paying £200 a week for a BMW?!!! I mean, priorities..... Surely any car in working order would be better than a BMW that is forcing you into masses of debt??? I'd say sell the bloody car, pay the brother off and buy a very cheap run around!!!!! That is financial suicide!!!!

You're a better woman than me putting up with all that stress and drama. You'd be better off on your own in reality, he's dragging you right down!!! (Financially I mean!!). He'd be better off having his place of work as his main address and just visiting you. Whatever you do, do NOT declare that though if it's not the case. I've seen too many people do that and get all benefits stopped and investigated for fraud... Speak to the cab.

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I've been to them before and heard nothing back. He doesn't owe the money he's actually buying the car from him. I've asked him to give his brother less but he won't. On the other hand working tax is set up now so that's going to help a lot! x

 

[Mummy to be x]

UB I hope things get easier for you soon

It's great Jayden's enjoying nursery UB, Madeleine comes back singing songs and I'm so shocked how fast she learns them, it's amazing how quickly they pick things up ain't it x

 

[UniqueBeauty]

It will definitely ease up a bit in about 3-4 weeks but I need to pay a full months rent by the 6th and buy the pram so it's a bit tough, I really don't want to have to let the woman down.

And It's scary, you think everything else they see or hear too. Like that boy next door to me who spat on the floor, I'd go mental at the boys father if Jayden had copied that. The poor boy is 2 and still babbles like a baby, nothing wrong with him, he just hasn't been taught. He's not even in nursery. x

 

[Mummy to be x]

That's so sad UB, I knew a boy like that and he never went to school until he was around 6 and he couldn't speak a word, it's so sad. Children do pick up everything though it's scary, you're right.

 

[ab75]

That is shocking!
I hope things get easier soon too UB.


Just made a big pot of chilli for dinner. That'll save time after the scan as I'll just need to make the rice.
Looking forward to seeing my little man again, hope all is ok. He was doing some rolling about last night lol xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Is it scan day today ab??! xx

 

[ab75]

Yeah, 3pm xx

 

[Ziggie]

But why buy a BMW when a cheaper car would suffice?? Seems reckless when you're so tight for money and going week to week with a tenner here and there for food!!! Guess I just don't get it!!! We are financially stable and still make sure we save where we can, certainly don't own a BMW lol!!!!!

 

[Mummy to be x]

Good luck ab! Xx

 

[ab75]

Thanks mummy xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

Oh I know it's ridiculous. I am better off now we're not claiming JSA, I haven't run out of electric I just like to know there's money left after bills JUST in case iykwim.

Good luck with the scan Ab, I'd love to see our girlie again x

 

[ab75]

Baby's heart is fine. Consultant was lovely, said she wasn't allowed to confirm gender but showed me that he is definitely a boy!! Yay xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Yay ab that is such great news I'm so pleased for you, I bet you feel releived xx

 

[Carlyp1990]

Aww that's fab new ab! So happy to hear it

 

[UniqueBeauty]

Glad everything was okay Ab

I'm thinking of treating myself to some maternity leggings but I have no tops to go over my bum! x