We made the trimesters pass quickly!

[Mummy to be x]

Ooh wow what a bargain!! Looks great

They did it to me with housing benefit so now I'm paying them back weekly, no way I could pay it all back in a one x

 

[ab75]

We are paying money back just now Beckii as they worked our claim out wrong when we moved and dh's income changed, it's ridiculous. And I hate phoning them as you are on hold for half an hour before you even get to speak to anybody!!

Yay for bargains.
Disney store have got 25% off disney junior stuff online today. Typical, I have already ordered and wrapped 4 of the things on offer. Always the way though xx

 

[Carlyp1990]

I'm paying back housing benefit too because they said I was on more money per week than I told them but I wasn't! They kept hassling me and my employer messed me about with wage slips so I could never prove it
That garage looks great UB! If katie wasn't already getting a garage and train table then I may have got it xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Gosh Carly that is crap, so your paying money you don't actually owe?! Xx

 

[Carlyp1990]

Yea! About £400 aswell.
With tax credits I changed my claim to single when jon moved out of my parents and they asked if I wanted it backdating so I said yea... when April came around I got a letter saying I owed them £160 because they had overpaid me and when I phoned it was because they had backdated the claim so effectively paid me twice because they had been paying me as a couple and when they backdated it they just paid me all over again instead of the bit I was owed! Xx

 

[Swtpinkbabi]

So ladies I fell suddenly ill this weekend after several Christmas parties and now have the flu. Makes me mad because I already had the flu shot this year and caught it anyway.

 

[ab75]

Hope you feel better soon pnk xx

Happy 38 weeks Carly xx

 

[Kiwiberry]

Happy 38 weeks Carly!

So ladies I fell suddenly ill this weekend after several Christmas parties and now have the flu. Makes me mad because I already had the flu shot this year and caught it anyway.

How long ago did you have the flu shot? I think it "can" protect you when you first get it but takes at least 2-4 weeks to be complete. Hope you feel better soon though .

 

[UniqueBeauty]

Hope you feel better soon, Pink!

Happy 38 weeks Carly!

I have to go to the chemist today and get some hemorrhoid relief, I hoped I wouldn't get them this time but they have come back to bite me in the ass, quite literally so bloody painful.

What's everyones plans for today?

OH rang me yesterday to let me know sadly his Grandad is no longer with us. They switched his life support off

He made me really angry because a few hours after he'd calmed down we were talking normally then he said "I may have bought a Subaru" I was like excuse me? He said when they were a bit tipsy he shook on it with his brother I said oh please, grow up. You're 26 years old and going to be a father of two for god sake! He then went on to say when a man shakes hands it means business etc, pathetic. Then I told him about Jaydens Christmas tree being a mess and that Jayden was on about getting an even bigger one for Daddy and he said well next year when we're in the new house in Preston we'll have a nice big tree in the window and I said don't go there again, I'm not moving. He said yes you are because I'm putting my foot down. There will be 2 car seats in the car and a free passenger seat whether you decide to come or not. I said don't you fucking dare threaten to take them away from me and he laughed and said well I know you'd never leave the kids so it looks like we're moving. I said to him that's emotional abuse! I went silent because it made me cry and he said what are you sulking for now? you're meant to be cheering me up and I said well don't get me down all the time then, he said you know I wouldn't take you away from the kids, saying it and doing it are two different things.
He's emotionally abusing me! he said well the move wouldn't happen for a while yet because there's Christmas and the birth etc and getting her settled in. THAT'S what I have to put up with every time I talk to him

You're probably sick of hearing about it as much as I am, I just have no where else to rant x

 

[Mummy to be x]

Happy 38 weeks Carly
Pink I hope your better soon.

UB - I'm so sorry to here that at least now he's at rest and no longer suffering, it's terrible when you lose a loved one xx on the other hand your OH is been ridiculous, why the heck is he buying another new car?! He should be buying things for Xmas and the new baby, and he shouldn't be telling you that your moving to Preston, you don't need this right now. I know he's lost his grandad but it's no excuse to treat you this way. Rant away all you like that's what where here for what are you going to do Hun xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

It's ridiculous isn't it. He hasn't got a thing with his money this Christmas, the only thing he has purchased is the pram. He said "oh well I got the stocking fillers" what all of 12 quid!

He really needs to grow up. He was meant to bring the money down here for us to live off for when Aimee-Jo arrives but clearly he has other immature ways to spend it. You wouldn't believe how angry it's made me x

 

[ab75]

Sorry about Simons grandad ub.

I honestly can't believe that he has bought another car. He seriously needs to grow up and realise what his priorities are. I think if you did move(I know you don't want to) that you would be in serious shit. You would be up there without your family for support, oh could still go out with his brother and mates. God knows how he is going to manage to pay rent when he thinks its better to buy cars.
I wish I lived nearer you so we could go for a coffee and be friends irl. You do not need this right now. You are the one who has bought everything for Jaydens Christmas and for Aimee-Jo arriving and you should be so proud of yourself for that. You are managing really well.
Your oh needs to accept that you are staying where you are, with both kids and then he can decide what he wants to do from there. Unless you get pissed off and take that decision away from him xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

To me it's as though he's living the life of a single guy, spending money left right and centre and not thinking of the consequences. Very selfish. Stay strong UB and stand your ground don't let him make you feel bullied

I agree with Amanda it would be so good if we all lived close and could meet and have a coffee and chats. How good would that be! X

 

[ab75]

I agree that he is living the single life.
Don't let him emotionally blackmail you. I know that you want to be with him but seriously think about everything. I was in a shitty relationship, obviously no kids involved though so I know that makes it different, but the best thing I did was throw him out. I was devastated but after a few weeks I started getting myself a life and it was the best thing I ever did. I am not saying this is what you should do, but think about it. You can't live the rest of your life like this.

And he was going to be getting J a tree, and now he is saying next year. Just as well J has you. You put your kids first. I am not trying to make you feel bad as I know you must be hurting. But I honestly don't know how he thinks it is ok to be like this with you, especially at this time of year and at this stage of pregnancy xxx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

He gets his wages on Friday so we'll soon find out. I'm tempted to tell him if he does get the car then not to come down and we aren't going up there for Christmas but won't that make me a bit of a bitch or just playing him at his own game? I wish I had the guts.

Jayden is seriously annoying me this morning, he's obsessed with the moses basket but he's being so rough with it shoving it into the tree and hitting it with his toys. I'm going to take it upstairs now x

 

[Mummy to be x]

I don't think that'd be harsh at all UB. He should of bought Jayden the big tree before shaking on buying a car! I'm sorry but that's not what parents do, kids first all the time no matter what. x

 

[ab75]

That won't make you a bitch at all. He isn't thinking about you and the kids when he is out buying cars. Why should your benefit claims be affected because of him when he doesn't support you properly financially.
He needs to be giving you regular money from every wage and supporting if not you, then at the very least his children xx

 

[UniqueBeauty]

See he turned around to me and said when I get my own house you won't get a penny because I'll have food, rent, C-tax etc to pay for. I didn't get any money Friday just gone because he only worked 2 days and spent that wage on the BMW.

He needs to go and buy 5 Christmas cards and put 10 quid in each for the kids, reckon he will? I sure can't!

I told my Mum what he said to me last night and she went bonkers. She needs to understand though if she goes bat shit crazy at him it's going to make it worse for me so she just needs to let me rant and just be there for me not fight for me.. I know what happens when she does that. My Nan understands lol

Not long to go till the midwife. PLEASEEE little on be engaging! x

 

[Carlyp1990]

Sorry oh is being a dick UB! If i'm honest jon used to be exactly like that when it came to cars and money. He had 9 cars within the space of 1 year when I was pregnant and katie was a baby! Luckily he's grown up abit now though. I understand it's so frustrating though and that's why he's never lived with me, because he's never been reliable for money and I can't risk me and katie going without. You are much better standing on your own 2 feet and not relying on him, even though he should be supporting his family

Thanks ladies! I can't believe I'm 38 weeks only a maximum of 4 weeks until my baby girl arrives!! Xx

 

[Mummy to be x]

Oh Beckii he's been a dick head, but you've done everything on your own, christmas things, Aimee-jos things...EVERYTHING! you don't need him anyway, if I where you i would carry on as you are and leave him too it.

What times your mw appointment? xx