Hi girls,
This could be long...
Been having a re think about TTC. I do desparatly what another child, and for A to have a sibling, but I dont think its the right time to actively try. It's not that I doubt myself as a mum and would find it too stressful, its that I dont feel OH is ready yet.
I went to my mums yesterday for about 9hours in total, and OH looked after A whilst having a friend round. I came home to find that all he had feed her was porridge for breakfast( I was still here for this), 3 yoghurts at lunch and another bowl of porridge for dinner. He never offered her any water throughout the day either. I was so upset by all of this, but because I felt sorry for A. We had melon, mango, cucumber, cheese, stuff to make sandwiches that he could of made her, and he chose the 'easy' options so that he could get straight back to playing his x-box with his friend. it was the longest time I had left A since she was born, and I honestly felt that she would be okay. i know she didnt starve and was feed some food...
Then later on, we accessed OH's online banking because somehow we went over drawn and wanted to check what was in his account (what was left was going to be used for the wedding and some food shopping leading up to the wedding) and the top thing on the statement was £17 on x-box points!!! He didnt tell me he brought them, and he knew the money was for the wedding and knew how tight money is at the moment. His reason was that he 'wanted to get something for himself'
They were brought for after the wedding because he is getting this certain game! I was so upset last night and really hurt that he felt the need to lie to me and keep thing from me, and effectivly steal from our household (despite him earning it int he first place) He isnt great with money, and ive been trying for years now to get him to be better with it, and it hasnt worked. It may seem stupid, but I told him to pack up all the consoles until I feel they should be brought out again. I felt like is blooming mother, but I think it's gonna be the only way that he will focus.
I honestly dont feel we should be activly trying to get pregnant when he still hasnt got his priorities in order. He would love another child but I worry he wouldnt engage in family life and I would be left with two babies, and an unsupportive husband.
So I guess we are more NTNP. i dont want to go back onto the pill (said I cant go back on my pill I was on before because im overweight, yet I was put on it when I was over weight
) and dont particulaly want to use condoms, as we never used them before I was always on the pill. If I do get pregnant in the comming months then we will take it in our stride and of course will be over the moon. If it doesnt happen then thats okay, it will just give OH more time to focus on the important things.
Hope everyone's having a good weekend. My Nan is bringing our Order of Service round today, so Im quite excited about that!