Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[Grey Eyes]

Philomena-

Thanks for letting me in on your temping--experiences help me understand wether I am normal or not LOL! I will check mine in the morning...

As far as clueless dh's mine is totally awesome and 100% supportive but he had no clue my egg only stuck around for 6-12 hours or so! I told him "you men have millions every day and we poor women get one a month! " But he understands now and doesn't mind me testing. I did get some digitals to use when I thought the peak was there just so I could take a break from guessing.

Marathongirl-

Check out this link I found

"Although you may worry the embryo will have trouble burrowing into the wall or could "fall out" during exercise, this is not the case. Drs. Malpani and Malpani call the uterus a "potential space," meaning it becomes a space only as a baby grows inside of it, just as a balloon only contains space when it is inflated. Prior to pregnancy, the uterus is completely closed inside with all the walls touching each other. Therefore, when a fertilized egg is arrives inside the uterus, it is firmly held within the uterine walls. Gravitational forces cannot cause it to fall out"

Read more: https://www.livestrong.com/article/...mplantation-stage-of-pregnancy/#ixzz1kpLO0fTS

lol, I had no clue the uterus walls touched! Sigh. And I thought I knew it all (jk)

 

[Philomena]

Well, on the plus side, if the opk's did pick up a potential surge then I've been guessing at my o day as 1-2 days later than it actually was which would explain why we were having troubles! The (maybe) surge and the temping may suport each other. I will keep going and see what tomorrow brings!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Well, today I woke up with a bbt of 97.9. I am usually 97.5 so am wondering if this can be considered enough of a shift to count as ovulation?

I am exhausted lol my little girl woke me up 3-4 times last night . I am trying to figure a way to get her to quit doing that! She'll outgrow it

Philomena-

Yes, I think combining the temping with opk's helps pinpoint o'day so much easier! I thought for sure I would have ovulated the very next day after my positive opk but no rise in temp indicated I hadn't. As I mentioned earlier, I wonder if this .4 rise indicates ovulation

Fx'd for all of

 

[marathongirl]

I'm feeling positive. I have many friends that believe in the law of attraction. The "ask and you shall receive" theory. I am slowly trying to change my way of thinking but also knowing that it may not happen this cycle. I do believe we will all get our BFP's.
Did you gain any weight with your last BFP? I didn't really gain weight but my body put on a layer of fat on my tummy even though it only lasted 3 months. I feel kinds fat too but I'm not going to worry about it. Lol. I have always been very fit and lean so it's a bit hard for me.

Wow, yeah, last summer I was toned and fit and hard and now I have a small little fat layer just on my tummy. It drives me crazy LOL! And it's impossible to lose without some serious cardio and crunching. But both of my doctors told me that it is better to not lose any more weight than I already have. I pretty much lost any prego weight that I had gained, just about 5 pounds or so. I am so used to being toned and hard I love that feeling! but I decided I can put my wants and preferences on hold until BFP becomes baby in my arms Then I'll work out like crazy and drink coffee againlol!

I too am trying to stay positive. Tough time tonight however, as I was tucking my little girls in my 7 year old started quizzing my on the baby. I told her that baby hadn't started growing yet - I haven't had the heart to tell her it had stopped growing. I am keeping my fx'd for a bfp so that they'll have another sybling- they were so much looking forward to it! Honestly I am trying to focus more on my future baby and it is sometimes hard not to think about the one that I lost. So in order to stay positive I focus ahead, because I think you are right- staying positive about this is sooOOoo important!

It is so hard to not think about the baby I lost as well. Every time I see a pregnant woman I get a twinge of envy and feel sad. I just try so hard to think about it as that the spirit of that baby will come back when it's ready. My kids know that I don't have a baby anymore and they ask me everyday if I am pregnant yet. They are so sweet. Hopefully soon we will be able to tell our kids that we have a baby growing in our tummy again It will happen,keep believing

 

[marathongirl]

Well, today I woke up with a bbt of 97.9. I am usually 97.5 so am wondering if this can be considered enough of a shift to count as ovulation?

I am exhausted lol my little girl woke me up 3-4 times last night . I am trying to figure a way to get her to quit doing that! She'll outgrow it

Philomena-

Yes, I think combining the temping with opk's helps pinpoint o'day so much easier! I thought for sure I would have ovulated the very next day after my positive opk but no rise in temp indicated I hadn't. As I mentioned earlier, I wonder if this .4 rise indicates ovulation

Fx'd for all of

For sure you o'd!!! Yay! That is definitely a rise. It will probably rise more over the next few days Fx'd you caught your little eggy

 

[marathongirl]

Grey eyes- Wow thanks for the info!! Im so glad you posted this as I was starting to make myself crazy. Like every little thing would prevent you from maintaining a pregnancy. I am still exercising and was starting to think maybe I should stop but now I know it should be ok as long as I keep it moderate.Lol!! I need it for my mental health more than anything .

Philomena- it sounds like you may have missed the surge. Maybe the opk that was almost the same was on your way up or down? The fact that your temp rose is a good sign that you o'd as long as it stays up! You will know in 2 days because your temp will have been up for 3 days straight. I love temping because it is the only way to be sure that you actually o'd. Yay hope you caught your little eggy too!

AFM- 7 dpo and bbt was 98.2. Feeling a bit dizzy today and still sore bb's

 

[Grey Eyes]

Grey eyes- Wow thanks for the info!! Im so glad you posted this as I was starting to make myself crazy. Like every little thing would prevent you from maintaining a pregnancy. I am still exercising and was starting to think maybe I should stop but now I know it should be ok as long as I keep it moderate.Lol!! I need it for my mental health more than anything .

Philomena- it sounds like you may have missed the surge. Maybe the opk that was almost the same was on your way up or down? The fact that your temp rose is a good sign that you o'd as long as it stays up! You will know in 2 days because your temp will have been up for 3 days straight. I love temping because it is the only way to be sure that you actually o'd. Yay hope you caught your little eggy too!

AFM- 7 dpo and bbt was 98.2. Feeling a bit dizzy today and still sore bb's

Wow, you get clear up to bbt 98.2? I am still a newby to bbt'ing, this is my first month trying, I appreciate all of you info.Does it rise over a period of days or do I look for a spike? Since we dtd on the 26th very late and I o'd on 27th I am hoping And I am wondering why you are feeling dizzy? Do you normally feel dizzy on your 7 dpo?I never noticed if I did.

AFM- I am twiddling my thumbs in the tww now... I have started heavy with my weights again, I love tomaintain strong arms and legs and do tons of crunches for abs. Hope this is all okay, according to my midwife as long as I have been doing them it's okay during pregnancy too. Except for the crunches of course (I can barely tie my shoes at that point, imagine me doing a crunch!) can't wait to test in a couple weeks (orless...)

 

[Grey Eyes]

Oh, I just read that once an idividual does get a rise in temperature that the egg most likely released the day before. Soooo that would mean if I got a temp rise the 28 that I probably ovulated on the 27th. Sorry ladies I am just talking it out to get it straight!

Btw, a heads-up ladies in case you didn't already know...I just found out today that if you purchase the First Response Digital "Yes/No" opk's...they only work once. In other words, I checked today to see if I was getting additional surges (stuck egg, etc, I know I'm mental ) and it informed me that once the digital reader has read ONE positive "YES" it turns of and will never come back on again. So here I am with all of these extra strips for the digi and no reader.

 

[marathongirl]

Grey eyes- I have noticed slight dizziness with my last BFP's. Who knows I am trying not to read into anything. I think you are covered with dtd at the right time. There are some people out there that believe that dtd on the day of the temp rise is good as well just to cover your bases. We can only do our best I mean my dh is game always but sometimes life gets in the way so we just do our best.
Yes my bbt has been as high as 98.5 during my last BFP but that was only 1 day. It is generally over 98 for my luteal phase. I think everyone is different so I don't know if you will get a spike or a slow rise. As long as your bbt stays about your last temps before o you know that you o'd

 

[Grey Eyes]

Awesome! I know that it's hard not to read anything into the symptoms and signs but it is seriously difficult not to! Perosnally I gave up trying not to and just put a microscope on them! It gives me hope day by day. If I get a bfn then I focus my hope forward againwhat else can I do? So if you are 7dpo today then in another 4-6 days you can test! Yay! I can't wait!

AFM- I am not feeling fat today, just tired. Noticed some sticky/creamy cm and wondering if that is normal post-ovulation...not a lot of it, just a little. I am trying to keep up with my two monster children (jk!) and they are whipping my butt! I am amazed at the energy these little bodies contain..

 

[marathongirl]

Awesome! I know that it's hard not to read anything into the symptoms and signs but it is seriously difficult not to! Perosnally I gave up trying not to and just put a microscope on them! It gives me hope day by day. If I get a bfn then I focus my hope forward againwhat else can I do? So if you are 7dpo today then in another 4-6 days you can test! Yay! I can't wait!

AFM- I am not feeling fat today, just tired. Noticed some sticky/creamy cm and wondering if that is normal post-ovulation...not a lot of it, just a little. I am trying to keep up with my two monster children (jk!) and they are whipping my butt! I am amazed at the energy these little bodies contain..

I think I will test next Fri or Sat I usually try to wait until the day before af is due. I think the cm is normal for sure. I have had a lot in the last few days. Can't wait for us to get our BFP's

 

[Grey Eyes]

Me too!I gotta say I love your positive attitude! It is disheartening to hear "I'm sure it won't be THIS month, but maybe someday" especially when it very well could be this month! I know with my second pregnancy we were trying but not really you know? In other words, no charting or temping or trying to time things...I was stunned when I checked and I was pregnant! I did random hpt testing because I like to do hard sports and such and cleansing diets once in a while and know that's not healthy for pregnancy. I was always surprised!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ok ladies, I am getting worried again Just to see I tested my lh iwth a cheap internet brand opk. It came out positive! I am wondering how long an lh surge lasts...When I got my digital positives on the 26th I tested again on the 27th with a cbe digi and it came out negative. I am wondering how if the cheap brand doesn't pick the up and down surges? Look at the picture here (I apologize for the size, photobucket can't resize).

https://i1150.photobucket.com/albums/o611/greyeyes3/lh004.jpg
The line on the right is the control line, left is test line. The packet declares the test line should be equal or darker than the control line.

 

[marathongirl]

Me too!I gotta say I love your positive attitude! It is disheartening to hear "I'm sure it won't be THIS month, but maybe someday" especially when it very well could be this month! I know with my second pregnancy we were trying but not really you know? In other words, no charting or temping or trying to time things...I was stunned when I checked and I was pregnant! I did random hpt testing because I like to do hard sports and such and cleansing diets once in a while and know that's not healthy for pregnancy. I was always surprised!

Thanks I try to stay positive as for getting pregnant without really trying it was definitely like that with my first 2 they are only 14 months apart I wish I could have that attitude right now but I am way too obsessed and I don't feel like I have the time to just let it happen if you know what I mean I have had a few people tell me that I am trying too hard well you can imagine what I would say to those people....... How can you try too hard. I feel all I am doing by temping and opk'ing and timing things is maximizing my chances. Let me know what your temp is tomorrow stay positive. You should feel better now that you are working out again

 

[marathongirl]

Ok ladies, I am getting worried again Just to see I tested my lh iwth a cheap internet brand opk. It came out positive! I am wondering how long an lh surge lasts...When I got my digital positives on the 26th I tested again on the 27th with a cbe digi and it came out negative. I am wondering how if the cheap brand doesn't pick the up and down surges? Look at the picture here (I apologize for the size, photobucket can't resize).

https://i1150.photobucket.com/albums/o611/greyeyes3/lh004.jpg
The line on the right is the control line, left is test line. The packet declares the test line should be equal or darker than the control line.

I wouldn't worry about it. I never keep testing after I get a positive. I'm pretty sure you will see your temp stay up which means you already o'd. Let me know

 

[Philomena]

Grey Eyes, I did read somewhere that the actual surge may be different for everyone. How long it lasts can vary from woman to woman and cycle to cycle. If in doubt keep BD'ing!!
Looks like we are going to be in the TWW all together! We can try and keep each other sane! My breasts are starting to get sore, but I think based on my last cycle that this is normal for me in this part of my cycle. Perhaps another indication I 0'd? One can hope anyway! I have stopped taking the First Response opks and am just doing the tests asked for by the clearblue monitor. I suspect there is a problem with the monitor and I plan on calling them tomorrow to get some more info.
I plan on trying to get a lot of sleep and drinking loads of water the next few weeks! And I am going to try, TRY, not to test until the 7th or 8th of February!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Marathongirl and Philomena-

Thank you! You are both helping me out in a huge way. That's what I love about bnb-if one of us starts to worry there's another to say "knock it off!" lol! I appreciate all your advice. I won't worry about it.

Yay! We can all test very similar times. I plan to test about the 8th or 9th of February.

 

[josephine75]

Hi Ladies!
I watched the Dr.Oz show today, too, and found it didn't really give me any NEW insights...
There was a lot of unnecessary fear-mongering (my mom was 40 when she had me and 47 when she died and so older moms always end up having someone else raise their kid)... I thought that was a little much... in our society the average woman can expect to live to 80 or longer.... the girl never said what her mom died of. I was sad for her, but it is unreasonable to say that every older mom will die and leave her kids to be raised by others.
Hrmph.... maybe I'm feeling a little catty since I am annoyed with the OPK's right now.
So the Clearblue digital monitor is still on 2 bars (no surprise) but the First Response was looking promising. I got three sticks over a day and a half that had lines which were 'almost' as dark as the tester line. I figured I am about to ovulate... just waiting on the line to be 'as dark' or darker than the tester line... and the last one is back to being barely there light. do I have an issue with LH? maybe that's my problem? it doesn't surge enough? I guess I keep on with the temping and see if it goes up to indicate I have, indeed, ovulated. If it continues to sit at about the same temp, then it's reasonable to think I may not have ovulated this cycle, right? Any thoughts?

Hey Philomena, i live in the uk so wont probs get to see the show but just reading what you have quoted and I cant believe it, I was my mums 5th child and she had me at 43 years old, I am now 36 almost 37 my mum is one of the fittest healthiest people I know, my dad too, both in their 80's and forever laughing and looking after all of their grandchildren and great grandchildren.

fingers crossed for you hope things are ok

 

[PositiveUs]

Hi gals. I just read the posts on this site and you are all so great!

I am gonna be 39 on thursday. My fiance who previously said he wants a family is now saying it would be too hard to have a child and that it would ruin our relationship. This is obviously causing a lot of stress.

Why are they just allowed to change the whole life plan??

It's outrageous PositiveUs. My husband finally agreed to try for baby#2 after 5 years of persuasion and we have been TTC for more than a year. Unfortunately, it didn't happen as fast as with our DD 10 years ago. And now he feels "tired". I need him for this and not planning to give up, so using my imagination and cooking skills. Let me tell you, they do come in handy But, jokes aside, I know how frustrating it can be, I am going through it myself. Good luck to you and lots of positive wisdom to your fiancé.

I know we posted this many months ago, but I wanted to update: my fiance is toatlly in agreement with TTC as of 2 weeks ago. But come to find out my estradiol is high and masking FSH levels which could be much higher. While there is still a chance it is very low. I will try IUI and IVF but there are really no guarantees. Now that he wants one, I may not be able to produce one. Damn.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi gals. I just read the posts on this site and you are all so great!

I am gonna be 39 on thursday. My fiance who previously said he wants a family is now saying it would be too hard to have a child and that it would ruin our relationship. This is obviously causing a lot of stress.

Why are they just allowed to change the whole life plan??

It's outrageous PositiveUs. My husband finally agreed to try for baby#2 after 5 years of persuasion and we have been TTC for more than a year. Unfortunately, it didn't happen as fast as with our DD 10 years ago. And now he feels "tired". I need him for this and not planning to give up, so using my imagination and cooking skills. Let me tell you, they do come in handy But, jokes aside, I know how frustrating it can be, I am going through it myself. Good luck to you and lots of positive wisdom to your fiancé.

I know we posted this many months ago, but I wanted to update: my fiance is toatlly in agreement with TTC as of 2 weeks ago. But come to find out my estradiol is high and masking FSH levels which could be much higher. While there is still a chance it is very low. I will try IUI and IVF but there are really no guarantees. Now that he wants one, I may not be able to produce one. Damn.

Hello ladies- I am 36 (soon 37) and my doctor told me that I had nothing to worry about because I am healthy. I eat very healthy, I exersize regularly, don't smoke or drink, etc. From what I gathered watching the Dr.Oz program when we are unhealthy we cause our eggs to mature rapidly, basically they deteriorate. But if we stay healthy we prolong the youth of our eggs. Sweet