Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Thanks Ali I really think that I got a bfp and miscarriage so that we would stop hoping I can get get pregnant naturally and just go ahead with egg donor. Now looking at my list of tests again the OB ticked the APTT blood clotting test but did not actually send an order for it. Maybe I can try asking the RE to do it. If he ever calls me back!!
So I know what the baseline is but what is the patch? It that what gave you the migraines last month? I hope not!

Yep, sometimes things happen for a reason. Although if it were me I would like to know for sure that it was my eggs (by doing the analysis), plus it will help lend more credence to the fact that you will be able to carry a DE embryo if it is indeed a chromosomal issue. Have they done karotyping on your DH? That would also be helpful to make sure he doesn't have anything wrong with his

The patch is a form of estrogen. Last cycle we did the shots which were every 4 days, but my body didn't metabolize the estrogen like it should and it spiked then dropped instead of staying in my system. The drops killed my lining. The patch is just that a band-aid like thing I wear for 3 days and provides constant estrogen, so it should give me a better level (they hope), and not cause my lining to shrivel. Each time I change the patch I put 1 more on, so the first time was 1 patch, then on Thursday I will put 2 on, and then 3 and finally 4 (that is supposed to be the max). I don't think they will test my estrogen levels this time and just go by the lining itself. At least that is what they said. Who knows? I want to ask the Dr a few questions when I go back on Friday. At least I did get the answer about whether I should be taking baby aspirin or not. FS said YES. Good thing I took one last night The nurse commented on how on the ball I am about everything, she said it was nice to have someone be so into what they are doing. I'm like.. how could you not be? It is MY body and it is my MONEY!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hello ladies

Chantal- I am glad you are seeking some counseling: this is one reason I found bnb. When I had my d and c in November of 2011 I was sort of lost and looking for answers, support, you name it. I found a lot of help from the ladies here. It helped so much because, as supportive as my dh can be it kind of takes another woman in a sense to provide insight into that kind of crush, iykwim. So I thank all you ladies on here!

Ali- yay for patch #1!!! Onward! How are you feeling? Is Zoe getting around good or is she sore?

Babywhisper- glad to have you on board again posting, I missed you!

Phil- how are you? Have you noticed babes nursing routine constantly changing? Heheh...only a parent will understand the importance and significance of poop btw Color, texture, Yay!your pooping! period They grow so fast, I cannot believe my Aeryn is getting so big so fast!

AFM- definately seeing a change in babes. She is eating a couple times a night but I push it too so that she gets the extra immunities and antibodies that breastmilk offers. Otherwise I think she would sleep all night We wanted to start her on cereal but I am now thinking its best to keep her non as much breastmilk as I can. So funny this morning, she would follow my toast fromt he plate to my mouth, and back to the plate again! Then again Funny baby is ready for cereal I think
Well, dh is at the doctors office now for an exam of his parotid gland...if the doctor thinks he is improving sifficiently we can continue his antibiotic regiment at home. If not- they'll hospitalize him for a few days And tbh neither of us seeing a huge improvement Whatever this damnable bug is, it's super tough to get rid of!

 

[melly2]

29th day in this cycle and I'm just now ovulating today?!?! This is exactly what happened last month, however, all previous months it was 29-30 days. WTF?!? I don't understand why my cycles are now 42 days. I was hoping acupuncture would solve this, but not so far. Anyone else experience sudden, long cycles? I don't know what that may mean...I guess it's taking my body longer to brew up an egg?

 

[alicatt]

Coy - eek for you and your DH! I wish you guys could figure out what is plaguing you!! Let us know how his appt goes, and if they make him stay. How are you feeling? Are you kicking the spots in the a$$? It does sound like Aeryn is ready for the first steps into real food. I'm pretty useless about counseling you on if you should or should not! Since I've never been a mom. Plus I've never really paid too much attention to when you are supposed to start introducing baby food. I figured I would figure that out when I had a baby!

Zoe is doing amazingly well, she was chasing Zach around the house 2 days after her surgery so I realized at that point she probably didn't need her pain meds. I mean if she was capable of jumping on the couch, and chasing Zach at full speed, then she was feeling OK. She gets her stitches out on Friday, YAY!

There is a lull at my house, the painter is gong until tomorrow, and my electrician is off on a run to home depot. I don't think he is going to finish today, so that means I will likely have to work at home tomorrow. Not a bad thing for me, but I hope my boss isn't mad!

Melly - Have you talked to a RE about your cycles? I know that there are 2 things that have helped other women in the past. Metformin, and vitex, or a combination of the 2. Vitex helped mine, that is for sure!

 

[melly2]

Melly - Have you talked to a RE about your cycles? I know that there are 2 things that have helped other women in the past. Metformin, and vitex, or a combination of the 2. Vitex helped mine, that is for sure!

I think I will be going back on Vitex again. I was taking it, but my boobs got HUGE and they hurt all the time. I guess I'll just have to suck it up and let everyone assume I got a boob job.

 

[alicatt]

Melly - Have you talked to a RE about your cycles? I know that there are 2 things that have helped other women in the past. Metformin, and vitex, or a combination of the 2. Vitex helped mine, that is for sure!

I think I will be going back on Vitex again. I was taking it, but my boobs got HUGE and they hurt all the time. I guess I'll just have to suck it up and let everyone assume I got a boob job.

My boobs have been huge for the past few months too. It is the hormones! I'm almost 1 full cup size bigger right now than I normally am (and I'm a D cup regularly)! So yikes! Now they are bursting out of my bra!

 

[never_give_up]

Ali you are so funny. I quite like that mine are bursting out of my bra since I'm usually only a B cup

Yes it is your body. Your nurse shouldn't be so surprised about being on the ball about things. They think they are the only ones that can learn.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Yes, I am kicking spots in the a$$ lol...well, I guess No worse and by this stage w/dd's it was always full blown Dd's are clear right now tho thank God! Dh is good to stay home, doc said he is seeing improvement! yay!

 

[alicatt]

Yes, I am kicking spots in the a$$ lol...well, I guess No worse and by this stage w/dd's it was always full blown Dd's are clear right now tho thank God! Dh is good to stay home, doc said he is seeing improvement! yay!

YAY!!! Great news Coy.. now you can breathe a sigh of relief and hopefully recover too!

AFM.. I'm on call again I worked until 7 then rushed to the hardware store to pick up the missing pieces and parts we needed to complete the electrical work. Both the painting and the electrical should be done tomorrow!

I'm so full and tired. It's been a long couple of days!

 

[Samsfan]

Hi Babywhisperer. Sometimes I think my attitude stinks, but thanks. I think we started on pur quest around the same time. I ended up with a place in Long Island, because I received more benefits under my plan. Ihave to say in the beginning they wereunorganized and not very personal. I had my doubts, but as time went on they got personal and were very organized. The doctor i went to see didnt do the procedure, but I ended up with one of Americas top 10 doctors for IVF. I also had AMH of .47 and they suggested I not wait. Looking back I don't think Im a candidate for IUI. I would take a shot at it if your skeptical. I however, am comfortable with the docs taking a look at egg quality andpicking the best. I didn't have much to pick. They had to do assisted hatching and icsi also. They fertilized 4 eggs and only 2 made it and that is was we implanted. At 39 I prefer IVF rather than taking a blind shot with IUI. You can make 10 eggs and (its highly unlikely)' but all 10 can get fertilized. My friend did IUI and ended up with triplets. With my poor egg quality (my best being a B anf the others being a D or less) it scares me.

So Friday I test. I tested Sunday and Monday and they were negative and I' m not doing it anymore. Im going to wait, I think for now.

Alicatt. So happy that the doggies are healthy and running around how is your food program?

Coy. Im praying your DH gets healthy soon and you kick the white spots butt. It sounds so cute how Aeryn stares when shes hungry. I girl after my own heart! She loves food! Me too!

Chantal. Be assertive with your RE. This is your chance to get information. Im so glad you spoke to a counselor. I am heart broken for you, but I have faith that your happiness is around the corner. I am wondering why the placenta broke away. If you were 7 months would they call that placenta privia (sp). My mom had that with my brother and was bed ridden and my brother was premature, but it was a result of a car accident.

Afm. Ive been busy with work events after work. Im exhausted and have a ton of work to do. I feel bloated and my chest is hard and sore. I guess its the meds. I have been able to stick to breakfast and lunch on freshology, but dinner is always out. Hope it doesnt mess me up. Today Im coming home reasonably early, so Ill stick to the program! Good day ladies. I missed you guys

Coy - eek! I really hope you get over your sinus infection and spotted tonsils fast! I can totally understand you worrying, especially with your DH possibly needing to be in the hospital. You can't both be sick! Sending you my NK cells to fight it

Angel - so glad you got to tell your DH, and what a touching moment to do so as well. Now he's on board. I have good feelings about you and your job situation as well as your baby. I think that things are looking up for you! I can just feel it!!!

AFM - its been a crazy busy day!!! EEK! My family room and kitchen are all painted They look amazing! So happy Then I got a call from my electrician and he said he wanted to be here tomorrow I of course said sure that is great, but man. Why couldn't he have told me on Friday so I could go out and buy all the fixtures So then I called my FS office and they were like we need to see you today. NOW! AHH! So I had to run down there at 2:30 to get my baseline done. Everything looks great, my lining was 2.4mm, no cysts and I got the all clear to put my estrogen patch on By the end of the cycle I'll be wearing 4 patches, but right now I am to put 1 on. Then in 3 days I put 2, and then 3, etc. So that is all great!!!! Then I stopped to pick up all the fixtures and of course they were out of one of them so I had to go to a second Lowe's then I didn't like the light switches at Lowe's so I had to go to Home Depot too I'm finally home and now I have to put in another 2-3 hours of work that I missed earlier. All I really want to do is

Drumroll... Zoe's tumor was just fatty cells, and NO CANCER! So she is going to be just fine! So happy

So that is my update.. I'm going to post pictures of the new family room and kitchen on FB for those that want to see it! Course the kitchen will look better tomorrow after the new pendant lights are in and the under cabinet lighting is there. OHH.. can't wait. I will be so strange to be able to SEE in my kitchen at night! I won't have to wear a headlamp on my forehead

Hi everyone!! Ali this is great news, I have been following your posts and I am happy to hear the cut little pup is going to be ok. How is the rest of your amazing journey going? I must say that everything you have posted has really informed me for my next step.

Coy - the white spots, are they coxsackie (sp?)? I know it goes around schools as it's very contagious. I remember having it when I was little and swallowing hurt like hell. I hope you get better. As for dh, maybe a few days out of the house will help him, let alone the IV will do wonders, When I had Lyme the IV checked the bacteria faster than oral antibiotics. I hope he gets better soon. In the meantime you need your sleep and nutrition to stay healthy for yourself and your family.

Chantal, my heart breaks for you. When I read about your bfp I was so thrilled for you and felt like "yes good things do happen to good people". This is not the end of your journey. My friend just gave birth last Friday to twin boys with donor eggs. She had a chromosomal defect that prevented her from carrying past 1st trimester. Needless to say she had many mc's and heartbreak, but her and her dh are on Take your time in going for the d&c, and definitely get all those tests done beforehand. I will say a prayer for you.

Angel, congrats girl!! I don't know how you kept it from dh for so long! I suck at keeping stuff from my dh and have no poker face whatsoever! I hope you get past the and asap. I look forward to hearing all about your pregnancy.

Samsfan, I am so curious how your journey has been?? Your attitude is inspiring. Any tips or insight for me? Stay patient and don't drive yourself crazy with early testing...try and keep busy.

Hi Twiggers I am 37, dh 35 and we have been trying to conceive since the Summer, but ntnp for the year+ we have been married. His morphology is 5%, count 90 million, motility 55%. My FSH was 7.8, AMH was .47 in Dec but after a lot of acupuncture and herbs it jumped to .79. I went to a RE in Dec and she placed such an urgency on our stats, highlighting my AMH and DH's morphology. I have since received a second opinion from Cornell in NYC and they said they look for a minimum of 4-5% morphology...they were not as concerned with that figure. When they did a u/s the RE even said the follicles he saw suggested a higher AMH than .47 so he retested me.

We have decided to try IUI with injections of Gonal-F. I am currently waiting for AF today or tomorrow so I can go in for my baseline u/s and blood and start that night with injections. I felt that at the very least we could try a less invasive approach before IVF and they can see how I stimulate. I don't know what to expect other than what the class I took said. I would love for this to work, but I have a feeling it won't. If it doesn't we will have to decide where to do IVF since the RE on LI while disorganized staff seem not as caring and not as compensated like at Cornell, they participate with Attain so it would be more affordable and put less pressure on me if the 1st cycle doesn't work. I do have a better feeling about Cornell though. They are a well oiled machine, thorough, and had me pre-authorized, meds ordered and delivered from Freedom Pharmacy 24hrs later. We'll see.

I have missed you all so much, but while debating what to do I felt that staying off BNB kept my mind quiet and emotions steady to make a decision. I hope all of you aren't upset that I have been MIA.

Speaking of....where is Jess??? How are you graduate?

 

[Samsfan]

Ok so I tested and it was negative. At 10dpt3. Is that how you write it?

 

[alicatt]

Ok so I tested and it was negative. At 10dpt3. Is that how you write it?

AWE.. it's 10dp3dt. It's still a little early! Here is hoping for a late bloomer!

: hug:

 

[never_give_up]

Good morning ladies!

Sam only 2 more days. Testing before your beta test is only making you feel disappointed. I think you should stop testing and think positive thoughts. I have a good feeling. Fingers crossed for you

Coy I'm So happy to hear your dh is home and feeling better! You have been under alot of stress lately worrying. So I am sure you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Hope you start feeling better soon too!

Ali you will also be relieved today when painting an electrical are all done. I am glad to not have the gas men coming in and out of the house every few mins like they were yesterday. (tracking mud with their boots) Plus the peace and quiet. It was so noisy yesterday and I was so tired.

 

[alicatt]

Good morning ladies!

Sam only 2 more days. Testing before your beta test is only making you feel disappointed. I think you should stop testing and think positive thoughts. I have a good feeling. Fingers crossed for you

Coy I'm So happy to hear your dh is home and feeling better! You have been under alot of stress lately worrying. So I am sure you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Hope you start feeling better soon too!

Ali you will also be relieved today when painting an electrical are all done. I am glad to not have the gas men coming in and out of the house every few mins like they were yesterday. (tracking mud with their boots) Plus the peace and quiet. It was so noisy yesterday and I was so tired.

WOW.. that must not have been fun, and yes, I will be happy when they are all gone! They should both finish up today, but they are both not able to come until 11ish. I'm so tired I just want to I haven't gotten a good nights sleep since Saturday night, and its catching up to me. Tomorrow is going to be a whirlwind too. I meet Victor for lunch around 1ish then my cleaning ladies are coming after that. Then I have a massage again at 7:30. I bet I fall asleep on the table! I wish I could just go back to sleep for 2 hours. That would be wonderful!

 

[never_give_up]

Ali so exciting that you are meeting Victor tomorrow!

I can't wait to hear your experience. I remember when I met dh my friend Karen knew about because she had heard me talk about him for 3 years she said so tell me honestly was it a little weird? I could honestly tell her that it was not weird at all! It felt so comfortable and I was so happy to finally be with him. When he left after 10 days I would cry when I woke up form sleeping and I remembered that he wasn't there anymore. I felt so empty and alone. That's how I knew he was literally my other half.
I had been on a date with someone my Dad had fixed me up with a couple months before. A Canadian chef and I only went because I felt I had to because he was a chef at the hotel and worked with my Dad. I told my Dad to never do that again! My parents were always innocently trying to introduce me to guys because they thought my online relationship with a guy in another country would never work out!! Were they ever wrong! Well the whole time ( on the so called date) I was thinking about my dh (who I hadn't met in person yet) Finally the chef guy ended up talking about his ex ( who he had just broken up with) and me about my future husband. We both realized there was no chemistry between us

 

[alicatt]

Ali so exciting that you are meeting Victor tomorrow!

I can't wait to hear your experience. I remember when I met dh my friend Karen knew about because she had heard me talk about him for 3 years she said so tell me honestly was it a little weird? I could honestly tell her that it was not weird at all! It felt so comfortable and I was so happy to finally be with him. When he left after 10 days I would cry when I woke up form sleeping and I remembered that he wasn't there anymore. I felt so empty and alone. That's how I knew he was literally my other half.
I had been on a date with someone my Dad had fixed me up with a couple months before. A Canadian chef and I only went because I felt I had to because he was a chef at the hotel and worked with my Dad. I told my Dad to never do that again! My parents were always innocently trying to introduce me to guys because they thought my online relationship with a guy in another country would never work out!! Were they ever wrong! Well the whole time ( on the so called date) I was thinking about my dh (who I hadn't met in person yet) Finally the chef guy ended up talking about his ex ( who he had just broken up with) and me about my future husband. We both realized there was no chemistry between us

That is really funny! I know a Canadian chef that works part-time in Canada and works part-time in Barbados! He and his wife were splitting their time between the 2 areas, well then they had a baby, and now that their little girl is older, they had to make a decision as to what to do, and I think they are now staying in Canada full time. I wonder if it was the came guy before he met his wife? Wouldn't that be funny?

I'm very anxious to meet Victor. I think our senses of humor are dead on, and we are both Geographers/Mappers (even though I no longer do that). We have very similar outlooks on life and how we want to raise children. I think he is a really interesting guy, but I'm not sure if the chemistry is there? It is so hard because all we have done is email back and forth. So I'm not going to say for sure the chemistry isn't there, or not. I will just have to wait and see how things go tomorrow. I will say that just thinking about it makes me have butterflies and anxiety like crazy!

 

[never_give_up]

Oh I remember the butterflies! lol
Relax and enjoy tomorrow Ali! I am sure you will have a wonderful time! It helps that you know him already. I often think of that first visit with my dh and it makes me smile.

The guy's name was Rick and I only remember because when my parents met Eric my dh they kept calling him Rick and I was sooo annoyed! I think dh might have thought it was just their french canadian accent not pronouncing the "E" because he never said anything and I didn't either. After a few days my parents got it right!

 

[alicatt]

Oh I remember the butterflies! lol
Relax and enjoy tomorrow Ali! I am sure you will have a wonderful time! It helps that you know him already. I often think of that first visit with my dh and it makes me smile.

The guy's name was Rick and I only remember because when my parents met Eric my dh they kept calling him Rick and I was sooo annoyed! I think dh might have thought it was just their french canadian accent not pronouncing the "E" because he never said anything and I didn't either. After a few days my parents got it right!

HEHE That is too funny! I don't remember his name I just know his wife's name. There can't be too many chef's from Canada in Barbados though


I'll try to be calm and relaxed, but sometimes I can't help it. Would it be bad to drink at lunch? Probably. I'll just take deep breaths and stay CALM.

 

[Grey Eyes]

HI ladies! Gotta post quick as there are brownies in the kitchen and (in a nutshell) that means the kids are going to be hounding me soon lol...

Chantal- huge your way! How are you feeling today?

Sams- bit too early, I agree with Ali. Try to relax RIGHT. Like that's gonna happen What did you end up having for dinner?

Ali- lookoed at your fb pics of lighting- looks like it is well underway Yay for your lunch date--hope it goes well

Babywhisper--where are you? Don't go MIA again

AFM- ahhhhh! heheh...NUTSHELL post--dd's got in trouble for fighting over cardboard. Yes- cardboard Kids. They are fighting for attention, Kat has turned a corner in the struggle to still be the baby I am keeping up in my new course (nailed a 98.5 % in my last course-yay!) It is snowing here again today and I have to go cut wood...My rib is still buggering so I have to be super careful. Haven't checked my throat yet.

Got a positive opk on the 18th and a negative on the 19th so... I am guessing maybe I ov'd? We'll find out. Guess I'm in the 2WW now ............lol

 

[alicatt]

HI ladies! Gotta post quick as there are brownies in the kitchen and (in a nutshell) that means the kids are going to be hounding me soon lol...

Chantal- huge your way! How are you feeling today?

Sams- bit too early, I agree with Ali. Try to relax RIGHT. Like that's gonna happen What did you end up having for dinner?

Ali- lookoed at your fb pics of lighting- looks like it is well underway Yay for your lunch date--hope it goes well

Babywhisper--where are you? Don't go MIA again

AFM- ahhhhh! heheh...NUTSHELL post--dd's got in trouble for fighting over cardboard. Yes- cardboard Kids. They are fighting for attention, Kat has turned a corner in the struggle to still be the baby I am keeping up in my new course (nailed a 98.5 % in my last course-yay!) It is snowing here again today and I have to go cut wood...My rib is still buggering so I have to be super careful. Haven't checked my throat yet.

Got a positive opk on the 18th and a negative on the 19th so... I am guessing maybe I ov'd? We'll find out. Guess I'm in the 2WW now ............lol

Yes, kids do the darnedest things!!! Fighting over cardboard. Oh well, I think you are right they want your attention, and you are busy working on school and talking to us!!! Well I hope they don't think that with that behavior they are getting brownies. I think I would make them be good all afternoon and get their schoolwork done, and if it is done well and right then they can have a brownie. Am I going to be a mean mom or what?


Yes, the lighting is coming along. The fixtures are up in the kitchen and the bathroom too. The only thing left is the under-cabinet lighting. The product I bought is not going to work, so we have to try something else. So he is going to go find some options for me and will call me tonight with what he finds, then he said he'd come back on Saturday to install them.

My painter is working here today, and will probably need to come back another time. It is not likely to be completed today either. But the majority of both jobs will be done. I will have a quiet day tomorrow morning, then I'm taking most of the afternoon off, then into the Dr's on Friday morning, then to the office then racing home to take Zoe to the vet. I can hardly wait until this week is OVER.