Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Me stay in bed til noon? Not since having kids

That is what I figured! How has your day been? I hope you ate some food and got a little 'me' time!

AFM.. AF is being annoyingly slow.. she is here almost, at least the pain and cramping and migraine are! I have taken it somewhat easy, but it just means I'll have to move at warp speed tomorrow
Oh well, the doggies are happy and I'm watching hockey and drinking a beer (shh) YUM!
Zoe is napping in her bed which is now a double decker bed on top of Zach's bed and 3 blankets, and Zach is draped across my lap. Perfect evening!

 

[never_give_up]

Thank-you Angel. How are you feeling? I am praying for you. I still think of myself as your pregnancy buddy even though it hasn't worked out for me. I still have very sore swollen breasts and feel super tired. No there was no heartbeat. Not even a fetal pole. The sac appeared to be empty whereas in the 2 previous sonograms there was a yolk sac and they had told me it was a good sign. OBGYN phoned me today and agreed to due autoimmune testing. Though she seems to be insisting on chromosome issue due to me age. She said they will analyse the 'products of conception' from the d & c. I was not comfortable with her trying to schedule a d & c as soon as possible this week. Dh would like to wait another week since I have had no cramping or bleeding. Also he has read the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. They have found babies at 9 weeks that were still hiding in what appeared to be an empty gestational sac. Maybe just grasping at straws. This was our last chance to conceive naturally as the rate of chromosomal disorders increases dramatically at age 42 which I will be in a few months. I don't want to try again with my eggs.

Hello Ladies

Well this isn't going to be our miracle baby sonogram showed that this isn't a viable pregnancy. Dh and I are very sad since we know it is our last chance conceiving naturally since I will be 42 soon
I have a blood clot in my uterus under the gestastional sac. The sono tech also found 2 cm fibroid which they didnt see last time but she said the pregnancy hormones could have made it grow over the last several weeks. She said it's not the same kind of fibroid as I had 3 years ago with last miscarriage. That one was protruding into the uterus while this one is not.

I will be going to OBGYN on Monday and we will discuss further if a d &c needs to be done. I really was praying that I would never have to go through another miscarriage.

Chantal, I am so sorry . Even though it isnt going to be viable due to the fibroid and clot do you mind if I ask if they found a heartbeat? The reason I ask is if there was one or evidence that the fetus was growing before this affected things that could be one hurdle overcome and unfortunately life has been **** and delivered you this blow .


I cant strongly echo Ali's advice enough, get blood tests done now while you are pregnant as it may help identify something. If you do have to go for an EPRC also see if it is possible to get the 'products of conception' (I hate that term) analysed. The clot may be a one-off thing but if clots are found in the sac etc it may point to a clotting issue.


My heart is breaking for you Chantal, I had such high hopes for you and you have remained so positive, that's a really big thing to achieve. I wish I was as strong .


Get the tests done and take the doctors advice next week and go from there. How will they treat the fibroid? Give yourselves time as well to figure out your next steps, and remember that you have conceived and it can be done again, and just after a pregnancy you are super fertile xoxo

 

[alicatt]

Chantal.. make sure you do the clotting tests as well as the autoimmune. I actually have a picture of the list of things they tested for.. I'll post it for you! Then you can say.. this is what I want! LOL!

I think your DH has a good point. Waiting a week is probably not going to hurt, and you can get the tests done.

 

[never_give_up]

Thank-you Ali. I had made up a list but yours gives actual names of tests so is much better.

 

[Samsfan]

Chantal- My heart feel for you. I agree, I see no harm in waiting, except for the blood clot. Can it be potentially dangerous? I have faith that a miracle is always possible! Don't lose faith Chantal!


AFM- I tested this morning and it was a big NEGATIVE at 7dpt3. I know it's early, but I'm not hopeful that this worked. I can't believe going through all this and it not working. The strip looked so stark white today

Thank-you Ali. I had made up a list but yours gives actual names of tests so is much better.

 

[twiggers]

x

 

[Grey Eyes]

Chantal- My heart feel for you. I agree, I see no harm in waiting, except for the blood clot. Can it be potentially dangerous? I have faith that a miracle is always possible! Don't lose faith Chantal!


AFM- I tested this morning and it was a big NEGATIVE at 7dpt3. I know it's early, but I'm not hopeful that this worked. I can't believe going through all this and it not working. The strip looked so stark white today

Thank-you Ali. I had made up a list but yours gives actual names of tests so is much better.

Sam, Sam, Sam Lol it is waaay too early to test! Stay positive hon, you might just get one BIIIGGGG surprise! The day before I got a strong positive was, as you stated, stark white. So chin up! I got my toes crossed and my fx'd!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Chantal- it won't hurt to wait a bit. Just keep aware of what's happening with your body and keep in touch with your doc, no problem I know it's early, but if this pregnancy is not viable are you considering a surrogate or donor egg? My dh and I have talked adoption for years....would still love to do that!

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM-

Guess you has white spots on her tonsils?

Me.

But I'm gonna kick its a$$ I don't like messing around

 

[alicatt]

WOW.. where is everyone? I figured the board would be full of chatter..

Sam.. today was the earliest I would have tested, and you are only 10 dpo today, which is very early. A lot of tests don't show positive until 14 dpo so you still have time, plus the Dr's make us wait until 16-18dpo to do the BETA which makes the best of us go crazy I hope that you get a nice surprise in a few more days

Poor Coy.. all alone and sick too. UGH. Darn spots! Give them some serious and tell them they are not welcome!!!

AFM.. I wrote twiggers about the interloper and what he said.. so she can make sure she doesn't have some stalker. Chantal.. you know we are always here for you and will do whatever we can to help!

So I've been busy, getting the kitchen cleaned and organized, the family room organized, putting the clutter AWAY so it is no longer clutter, laundry, putting clothes away, washing dogs, and soon I will go out and get a few errands done. I need to return some jeans, pick up some clothes I ordered, get gas (but I'm afraid to go to my normal place for fear I'll be shot at), and then once all of that is done I'll be able to relax.

Since the house is getting painted tomorrow, I'll be working from home, so at least I don't have to rush out of the house at the crack of dawn!

Still no full flow why does taunt us all so much? I certainly feel like she is here, cramps, and lower back pain, but just a tiny bit of brown spotting. I figure she will appear soon, but when?

My Zach is in another contest for the donation of Kong's to Dachshund Rescue South Florida.. if you want to help, just click on this link and click like! It's as easy as that!

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?...628.1073741827.476713095676459&type=3&theater

 

[Samsfan]

Coy- I know you'll kick those white spots butt!!!! How are the kids? and its the it warming up over there? Thanks for being so positive. 5 days to testing!

Alicatt- I don't know where you find the energy! You certainly were very productive today

Twiggers- How creepy! We need to keep an I out! girl power

Chantal- Hope you are having a relaxing Sunday

AFM- Well this is the 4th day I had to take a nap. I don't know if it's the estrogen that is making me.. but it is now part of my schedule. It's slowing me down!

I started freshology today.. yum! I had a hunger headache though! I had eggs and veggies for breakfast with a kick of sage, salad with beans for lunch with a light vinaigrette and for dinner, salmon, quinoa and string beans. All organic. Very yummy, portions are much smaller than my usual, but I'm definitely eating much healthier and I'll probably drop 10 lbs in the next two week.

WOW.. where is everyone? I figured the board would be full of chatter..

Sam.. today was the earliest I would have tested, and you are only 10 dpo today, which is very early. A lot of tests don't show positive until 14 dpo so you still have time, plus the Dr's make us wait until 16-18dpo to do the BETA which makes the best of us go crazy I hope that you get a nice surprise in a few more days

Poor Coy.. all alone and sick too. UGH. Darn spots! Give them some serious and tell them they are not welcome!!!

AFM.. I wrote twiggers about the interloper and what he said.. so she can make sure she doesn't have some stalker. Chantal.. you know we are always here for you and will do whatever we can to help!

So I've been busy, getting the kitchen cleaned and organized, the family room organized, putting the clutter AWAY so it is no longer clutter, laundry, putting clothes away, washing dogs, and soon I will go out and get a few errands done. I need to return some jeans, pick up some clothes I ordered, get gas (but I'm afraid to go to my normal place for fear I'll be shot at), and then once all of that is done I'll be able to relax.

Since the house is getting painted tomorrow, I'll be working from home, so at least I don't have to rush out of the house at the crack of dawn!

Still no full flow why does taunt us all so much? I certainly feel like she is here, cramps, and lower back pain, but just a tiny bit of brown spotting. I figure she will appear soon, but when?

My Zach is in another contest for the donation of Kong's to Dachshund Rescue South Florida.. if you want to help, just click on this link and click like! It's as easy as that!

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?...628.1073741827.476713095676459&type=3&theater

 

[Grey Eyes]

Thanks ladies! Yes, Sams, stay positive! Awesome chance for this time round. I can't wait!

Ali- stop being so busy you make me feel lazy! I have decided tho that if I need to rest I gonna just stop and rest. I don't want to get drug down with this junk. I did read tho that babes is best breastfeeding even if I get a bacterial infection

 

[never_give_up]

Hello Ladies,
Sam you have great quality embryos. You are testing too early. Wait for your beta on the 22nd. If you can't wait at least for the 20th. If you are using a regular hpt and not an early one like first response or Answer it will not show up positive till probably after the beta date. We all have our fingers crossed for you.

Coy I am sorry that you have the white spots on your tonsils. Gargling helps. Oh and icecream Does your daughter still have it? How is your dh feeling?

Yes we are definately going to do donor egg. I will be 42 in a few months and so Feb was our last attempt ttcing on our own. We were supposed to have a consult after Barbados but then I postponed it because I got my bfp.

Ali you are a busy bee. Didn't you know Sundays were made for relaxing? I did all the cleaning and laundry yesterday and today relaxing while dh works on updating website.

twiggers sounds like you had a nice cruise. I am happy you liked Barbados. I wish I was there again right now. Happy to be pregnant with no stress or worries.

Yes you ladies are so right. This OB has been negative from the beginning so I am not letting her push me into a d & c so soon. She hasn't even sent me for any betas since the 7th March! She did agree to do the auto-immune testing and I insisted it had to be done while I was still pregnant. She said it was not necessary to do testing before it could be done after the d & c and I said no. She was not on call yesterday when she phoned me and said she wanted to work on finding available date first thing Monday morning. She is so pushy! Sheesh! Dh said just blame it on him, say he wants us to wait. No Sam the bleed is not dangerous, it called a Subchorionic bleed and quite common the tech said. Still no spotting. I am so tired going to take a nap.

 

[alicatt]

Coy.. Oh yes, gargling with salt, hot tea with lemon and honey, will help make your throat feel better. I hope you all get better! I think that Aeryn is fine breast feeding, the longer she does the better for her immune system!

Sam.. I had hoped I would lose weight this week, but alas I gained a pound! I finally got my period which is probably why I gained 1 lb. Normally I gain 3-4 lbs so maybe I can consider that a loss?

I'm beat, dogs are clean, laundry is done, errands complete, and now I ache from head to toe and my head is pounding. I just had some corned beef and a root beer mmmmm..

But I am going to feed the pups, water them and go to bed!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali-

"I had hoped I would lose weight this week, but alas I gained a pound!"

Welcome to womanhood. lol

 

[Samsfan]

I ate all my meals, felt like I was starving and ate dinner again! . What is wrong with me! I ate like I hadnt eaten in a week.

 

[alicatt]

Ali-

"I had hoped I would lose weight this week, but alas I gained a pound!"

Welcome to womanhood. lol

I know! Crazy! I can tell you that it is all in my belly too I do think that I will lose a few pounds once the bloat goes away. I didn't even attempt to try clothes on this afternoon as my belly looks like I'm several months pregnant!

Sam.. the progesterone and estrogen that you are taking mimic pregnancy which make you want to eat for 2! Just try to stick with healthy foods, eat more veggies if you are still hungry. Or more lean
meat. Or if you can handle it just keep to your diet only, in a few days your stomach will shrink. My stomach isn't usually my issue its more an issue of monster headaches.

Sorry got sidetracked by a phone call..

Not sure what else I was going to say?

I'm now going to bed!

 

[alicatt]

I ate all my meals, felt like I was starving and ate dinner again! . What is wrong with me! I ate like I hadnt eaten in a week.

it's the hormones.. now you know how I gained 10 lbs!

 

[twiggers]

x

 

[Samsfan]

Ali. Dont know what happened to me tonight. Bread, food and magnum ice cream, like it was my last meal. I suffered from a faint headache all day. Thats how toxic my body is. Well I managed not to again any weight through the needles and stims. I was careful and drank water. I need to hold steady at least to Friday. Tomorrow is a new day!

I ate all my meals, felt like I was starving and ate dinner again! . What is wrong with me! I ate like I hadnt eaten in a week.

it's the hormones.. now you know how I gained 10 lbs!