Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[never_give_up]

Just to let you ladies know, Ali has had a d & c this morning and on her way home to recover now.

 

[alicatt]

Chantal was amazing, she woke up and FB messages me up until I went back to be prepped. You have no idea how much you all mean to me. Thanks to you all for being there for me. It really means a lot to me.

I'm home now and it is finally quiet and the Percocet has kicked in. So I'm off to dreamland now.

I will tell you 2 little stories..

Yesterday I stopped at the drugstore on my way home to get my prescriptions filled and I was still so upset that I kept tearing up while waiting. Well another woman was waiting too and she got up and walked away. I didn't pay much attention, I was just trying to keep it together. Well a few minutes later she came back and handed me a little travel pack of Kleenex! I thanked her and told her it had been a rough day and I had just found out I was losing my baby. I handed her back the package after taking a Kleenex and she said, please keep it, I bought them for you! She'd gone and found them in the store and bought them for me! It made my day, a random act of kindness by a complete stranger. Bless her heart!

My other story is a little scarier.. when being prepped for surgery the man in the next curtain was having heart trouble. It was beating uncontrolably fast, and irregukarly, they revived him 2 times using the crash cart and had to administer all sorts of meds to bring it back into normal rhythm. The anesthesiologist said he couldn't operate on him and the ambulance came to take him to the ER. His outpatient surgery probably saved his life, as he was likely about to have a heart attack. He will now be treated and will hopefully be fine!

Thanks again ladies!

 

[Babywhisperer]

I'm sorry I don't have very good news to share. My baby is not going to make it. It hasn't grown at all since last week, and there was no HB. I'm having a D&C tomorrow morning

Ali, just popping on to catch up quickly as I have been having lower right quadrant pain and my dr sent me to ER for an MRI. So sorry I have been MIA while you're going thru this. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope they find out what caused it. Please know I am thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I wish these things didn't happen and I wish I could help take away the grief and disappointment. I'm here if you need to talk.

 

[alicatt]

I'm sorry I don't have very good news to share. My baby is not going to make it. It hasn't grown at all since last week, and there was no HB. I'm having a D&C tomorrow morning

Ali, just popping on to catch up quickly as I have been having lower right quadrant pain and my dr sent me to ER for an MRI. So sorry I have been MIA while you're going thru this. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope they find out what caused it. Please know I am thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I wish these things didn't happen and I wish I could help take away the grief and disappointment. I'm here if you need to talk.

I'll muddle through! You know me, I'll pick right up where I left off and try again

How are you doing? Anything to be worried about?

 

[melly2]

Chantal was amazing, she woke up and FB messages me up until I went back to be prepped. You have no idea how much you all mean to me. Thanks to you all for being there for me. It really means a lot to me.

I'm home now and it is finally quiet and the Percocet has kicked in. So I'm off to dreamland now.

I will tell you 2 little stories..

Yesterday I stopped at the drugstore on my way home to get my prescriptions filled and I was still so upset that I kept tearing up while waiting. Well another woman was waiting too and she got up and walked away. I didn't pay much attention, I was just trying to keep it together. Well a few minutes later she came back and handed me a little travel pack of Kleenex! I thanked her and told her it had been a rough day and I had just found out I was losing my baby. I handed her back the package after taking a Kleenex and she said, please keep it, I bought them for you! She'd gone and found them in the store and bought them for me! It made my day, a random act of kindness by a complete stranger. Bless her heart!

My other story is a little scarier.. when being prepped for surgery the man in the next curtain was having heart trouble. It was beating uncontrolably fast, and irregukarly, they revived him 2 times using the crash cart and had to administer all sorts of meds to bring it back into normal rhythm. The anesthesiologist said he couldn't operate on him and the ambulance came to take him to the ER. His outpatient surgery probably saved his life, as he was likely about to have a heart attack. He will now be treated and will hopefully be fine!

Thanks again ladies!

It sounds like it has been an emotional couple days, but the random act of kindness is such a sweet story. It's amazing how we all endure different situations, heartbreaks, achievements, losses, etc., throughout life...and yet we mange to persevere. And you all will! Everyone on this board who has recently suffered a loss, my heart goes out to you. All our futures are left to be defined, but making the most out of our bad situations will only make us stronger.

Who knows if my husband and I will ever have a child, but reading this board and learning from everyone's experiences, gives me an ounce of hope...and sometimes that's all you need.

 

[Babywhisperer]

I'm sorry I don't have very good news to share. My baby is not going to make it. It hasn't grown at all since last week, and there was no HB. I'm having a D&C tomorrow morning

Ali, just popping on to catch up quickly as I have been having lower right quadrant pain and my dr sent me to ER for an MRI. So sorry I have been MIA while you're going thru this. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope they find out what caused it. Please know I am thinking of you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I wish these things didn't happen and I wish I could help take away the grief and disappointment. I'm here if you need to talk.

I'll muddle through! You know me, I'll pick right up where I left off and try again

How are you doing? Anything to be worried about?

You are a strong woman and an inspiration with your dedication. But please allow yourself to grieve and vent.

I'm fine, I think. MRI was negative for apendicitis. Maybe I'm just tender from organs getting jostled around. It could also be a tear in the abdominal wall, but it's literally directly over the appendix. I had some white blood cells in my urine but they said it's normal. They will keep an eye on me and baby is fine, 160bpm. I think this can sometimes happen in your 2nd tri as baby grows and things get moved around. They just wanted to be sure.

Sending you hugs from NY.

 

[alicatt]

Glad there wasn't anything for concern BabyWhisperer!

I'm not any stronger than the rest of you, I think I had a few days to mourn before now. I pretty much knew from the start something was wrong. I should have been 9 weeks tomorrow, but baby last week and yesterday only measured 6w3d. So even last week I was a full week behind. So I've really been waiting for the other shoe to drop for a while now.

So while I feel ok now, I'm waiting for the hormones to crash, apparently that sends you into an emotional mess. Really looking forward to that!

Next steps for me..

1) Take it easy
2) Discuss chromosomal testing with FS on July 10th
3) Get a plan for next cycle in place (FET or IVF)
4) Wait for body to recover
5) Work my tail off with diet, exercise and supplements
6) Do a cycle in 2-3 months (FET or IVF) Will depend on results of hormone panel and FS's recommendation

 

[Samsfan]

Alicatt. Hugs hugs. A million hugs.....

 

[alicatt]

Alicatt. Hugs hugs. A million hugs.....

I'm doing OK! I think I'm getting a cold, my idiotic co-worker came into the office and contaminated us We have a very strict rule about that! No bugs in the office! So on top of being post op, I'm hacking up a lung and have lost my voice.

On the fence about working tomorrow, part of me wants to take a mental health day and part of me wants to work to keep occupied

 

[melly2]

Alicatt. Hugs hugs. A million hugs.....

I'm doing OK! I think I'm getting a cold, my idiotic co-worker came into the office and contaminated us We have a very strict rule about that! No bugs in the office! So on top of being post op, I'm hacking up a lung and have lost my voice.

On the fence about working tomorrow, part of me wants to take a mental health day and part of me wants to work to keep occupied

If you're feeling sick, then you probably shouldn't go into work, otherwise, I personally like staying busy, helps keep my mind off of things.

I'm officially on 7DPO, and have 0, nada, NOTHING for symptoms. So, I will go to happy hour tonight and drink knowing with 99.8% certainty that I'm not pregnant (though I didn't expect to be either).

So it goes, until next month...

 

[alicatt]

thanks Melly.. I only worked a 1/2 day from home. Then took a nap and ran some errands. Going to recuperate this weekend.

You are only 7dpo, far too soon to be feeling much of anything. Give it a few more days, see how you feel in another 3-4 days!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi ladies, quick check in--I am back reading

Not much going on found myself "school-less" for almost 10 days and have taken a sort of vacay iykwim? Not been up to much but playing w/fam...dd's are sick (summer cold) so it is chaos atm. more later.

Ali and Chantal- huge to you both! Stay strong!

 

[Samsfan]

Where is everyone!

 

[alin3boys]

Ali and Chantal am so sorry for your losses
Coy nice to hear from you, hate it when the kids are poorly

Afm been through a bit of rough patch with dh but all is well and can even say its better than has been in a long time after a long heart to heart, I am officially 1 day late, have not had usual spotting or cramping before af but my boobs are so sore its untrue, not been temping but took my temp at resting as was curios and was 37.14 which is high for me as normally only low 36 range, according to ff we have low chance of conceiving as only had 4 days before ov and morning after ov cramps (cramping evening 12dpo did the deed morning of 13dpo ) I also have a banging headache which came on this evening.

I had results of cd 3 bloods which came back normal and have to ring for cd 17 bloods tomorrow,then I think its onto fs.

 

[Babywhisperer]

thanks Melly.. I only worked a 1/2 day from home. Then took a nap and ran some errands. Going to recuperate this weekend.

You are only 7dpo, far too soon to be feeling much of anything. Give it a few more days, see how you feel in another 3-4 days!

Hey Ali been thinking of you. I hope you are being kind to yourself and keeping the faith. I also hope you are blessed with the plumbing fairy! Sounds like you need it.

Chantal how are you lady?

Hi Coy! I hope you relaxed with your time off and that dd's feel better soon.

Hi Alin fx'd you caught that eggy.

How is everyone else??

Afm feeling tired tonight but want to stay up a little since dh is home for once early. Next appt is 7/10. We got the results from the Maternity21 test and all is normal. So far so good!

 

[alicatt]

Ali and Chantal am so sorry for your losses
Coy nice to hear from you, hate it when the kids are poorly

Afm been through a bit of rough patch with dh but all is well and can even say its better than has been in a long time after a long heart to heart, I am officially 1 day late, have not had usual spotting or cramping before af but my boobs are so sore its untrue, not been temping but took my temp at resting as was curios and was 37.14 which is high for me as normally only low 36 range, according to ff we have low chance of conceiving as only had 4 days before ov and morning after ov cramps (cramping evening 12dpo did the deed morning of 13dpo ) I also have a banging headache which came on this evening.

I had results of cd 3 bloods which came back normal and have to ring for cd 17 bloods tomorrow,then I think its onto fs.

It's good that day 3 bloods were normal! YAY! Dare I say

 

[alicatt]

Well ladies I feel a little like I'm getting kicked when I'm already down..
I'm recovering physically from the D&C, minimal spotting and very little cramping. Unfortunately I've had some household issues to resolve.. leaking dishwasher, washing machine wasn't draining, shower head exploding on my head, and my thermostat decided that my programmed temperatures weren't really what I wanted and my house has been like a freezer! On top of my house issues, my coworker gave me bronchitis! Went to urgent care on Sunday and my O2 sats were only 95%! That is very very bad! They should be 99%.

I bought and installed a new thermostat (with wifi) and a new shower head, and a repair man came today and fixed the dishwasher and the washing machine.

Now if only I could kick this bronchitis, they gave me some cough syrup with codeine to help me sleep, good stuff!

My FS office called today to get me to come in to get bloods taken to
make sure my HCG level was returning to 0. I told them that I'm not able to come in until next week. I'm not driving all the way there for bloods when I'm sick and needing to recover! Monday is soon enough! Then if they want to retest they can do it on Wednesday when I'm meeting with the FS to review the chromosome test they did on the fetus. We'll also discuss our plan.

I keep waffling between a fresh IVF with CCS or just transfer the 2 I have. Oh and I need an alternative to the IVIg it's just too expensive to keep doing.

So that's what's been going on here.. pretty sucky weekend


Happy Canada Day!!!

 

[alin3boys]

still no af or signs shes coming, ringing drs this afternoon for day 18 blood results

 

[melly2]

Hi All,

Ali- Sorry about the house drama. Ugh! On top of that being sick, too! You poor girl. Just hang in there!

Alin- Good luck on the tests!

Chantal- Thinking of you!

AFM - Pretty sure Aunt Flo will be visiting in the next day or two. Cramps in the belly, quite pissy with my co-workers, husband and anyone else who crossed my path...all signs of PMS, not pregnancy. Hah! Oy yay!

 

[alicatt]

Hi All,

Ali- Sorry about the house drama. Ugh! On top of that being sick, too! You poor girl. Just hang in there!

Alin- Good luck on the tests!

Chantal- Thinking of you!

AFM - Pretty sure Aunt Flo will be visiting in the next day or two. Cramps in the belly, quite pissy with my co-workers, husband and anyone else who crossed my path...all signs of PMS, not pregnancy. Hah! Oy yay!

I had a lot of PMS like symptoms when I was first pregnant. So don't count yourself out! I was amazed at all the symptoms that were the same as AF, but there were subtle differences. Like twinges and stretching in the uterus. I remember crying my eyes out the day before I got my BFP, thinking it didn't work, totally PMSing! LOL! So just keep the faith for a few more days!