Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[Grey Eyes]

Congrats on the BFP!! Well, our Feburary pregnancy was unexpected, we werent trying as we didnt know if he could get me pregnant. After our loss in April, we've started trying in May. I think sometimes were trying too hard to be honest.

I have heard a lot of ladies say relaxing is a big part of it With our MC in November we weren't trying to get pregnant before either- just happened But after the mc we decided to try. I was worried about age but my doc said egg health is more reliant upon the woman's health rather than her age, so that was good news!

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM-

Hi ladies do you all remember me complaining about Dingbat? Well believe it or not he called our home the other night and demanded to know if I had had my baby yet! When I politely told him "no" he jumped my case and basically told me to "Sh#! or get off the pot" and that I should consider induction to get "the ball rolling". I mean- is he SERIOUS? Wth does he think he is? It's like he really does havea complex and thinks he's God or something I gave the phone to dh and walked away UnbelIEVABLE!

 

[Philomena]

AFM-

Hi ladies do you all remember me complaining about Dingbat? Well believe it or not he called our home the other night and demanded to know if I had had my baby yet! When I politely told him "no" he jumped my case and basically told me to "Sh#! or get off the pot" and that I should consider induction to get "the ball rolling". I mean- is he SERIOUS? Wth does he think he is? It's like he really does havea complex and thinks he's God or something I gave the phone to dh and walked away UnbelIEVABLE!

What a jerk!!! It's not even your due date yet.... next time you should just tell him you've decided to keep the baby in forever, never to give birth..... what a nosey so and so!!!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM-

Hi ladies do you all remember me complaining about Dingbat? Well believe it or not he called our home the other night and demanded to know if I had had my baby yet! When I politely told him "no" he jumped my case and basically told me to "Sh#! or get off the pot" and that I should consider induction to get "the ball rolling". I mean- is he SERIOUS? Wth does he think he is? It's like he really does havea complex and thinks he's God or something I gave the phone to dh and walked away UnbelIEVABLE!

What a jerk!!! It's not even your due date yet.... next time you should just tell him you've decided to keep the baby in forever, never to give birth..... what a nosey so and so!!!!

Lol, what a man of God, right? Here he is trying to do God's job I only expect her sooner than my edd because she has dropped so low but Kat was low and made me wait an extra 10 days! Aaargh! How are ya btw? Good to "see" you

 

[Grey Eyes]

OMG. I just ate dinner I am sooo stuffed. I cooked baked butternut squash, and garlic marinated steak with portabello mushrooms Nice for a change once in a while....Anywhoo, I thought it was funny because dh showed himself to be a typical MALE, lol...I asked him what he wanted for dinner and he says "Anything is fine with me hon" so I say..."Are you sure? I mean what are you in the mood for?" And he answers emphatically "Anything sounds great-whatever you cook is fine". Ah. So when he comes to the table and sees steak, squash, and mushrooms he says "Ohhh....I thought we were having-" whatever it was. LOL! Kidding me, right?! He is a habit-monster...so I cooked him some rice to eat with it and he was happy I love my man but he can be such a guy sometimes

 

[Grey Eyes]

...........Where is everyone?.......

 

[Philomena]

AFM-

Hi ladies do you all remember me complaining about Dingbat? Well believe it or not he called our home the other night and demanded to know if I had had my baby yet! When I politely told him "no" he jumped my case and basically told me to "Sh#! or get off the pot" and that I should consider induction to get "the ball rolling". I mean- is he SERIOUS? Wth does he think he is? It's like he really does havea complex and thinks he's God or something I gave the phone to dh and walked away UnbelIEVABLE!

What a jerk!!! It's not even your due date yet.... next time you should just tell him you've decided to keep the baby in forever, never to give birth..... what a nosey so and so!!!!

Lol, what a man of God, right? Here he is trying to do God's job I only expect her sooner than my edd because she has dropped so low but Kat was low and made me wait an extra 10 days! Aaargh! How are ya btw? Good to "see" you

One thing I know for sure is that he is NO "Man of God".....
*sigh*
I've been lurking... it's good to see how everyone is.
AFM, well, it's been touch and go. DH keeps having 'revelations' and making promises that things would be different, that he would be more considerate, take more time to consider his actions and work at being a part of the family. And then.... well, let's say nothing ever changes around here. I'm tired of the empty promises and the plethora of catch phrases ... "oh, I wasn't thinking..." or "I'm sorry, I'll just have to try harder"....
I don't know what to do anymore. I am finding it so hard to keep the negativity from bubbling up to the surface when he's around. When he's at work or in bed, I can function. When he is around, well, it's so hard to manoeuvre through our time in the same space.
*sigh*

AFBaby.... well, she's doing perfect.... I'm losing my belly button! She is the bright in all this chaos.... she moves all the time and I love it... it reminds me that there is good in the world... that regardless of anything else, she is my little miracle and DD#1, babes and I are all the family that matters. I spend my time thinking about her, wondering what colour her hair will be, what colour her eyes are. I think about how much I enjoyed breastfeeding DD#1 and that I get the chance to do it all over again with this one. I will hold her little body close to mine and breathe in that beautiful newborn smell every baby has.... and remember that nothing matters but that I have my two girls and that is what makes life good.

 

[Philomena]

Oh, and Coy, I've been taking a page from your book lately.... My grandfather made a solid maple wood toy chest with doors on the front for my mom when she was little. Then I had it when I was a child, and DD#1 used it, too! Now, this baby doesn't need it, but I never got rid of it because it is a lovely size and has a shelf inside. We've used it to store fabric and crafts, and since we moved into this new house last year, it's been sitting in the furnace room, unused. Well, my Nana has a sideboard (or buffet depending on who you ask) which she wasn't sure would fit into the new space she's moved into and I NEED one... I have so many serving dishes etc that have no cupboard to go into.... right now they are living on the floor in my dining room! Well, her sideboard does fit in her new space and I was trying to think of a way to acquire a sideboard without spending any (or hardly any) money.... hmmmm, I thought..... hmmmm, that toy chest would make a good sideboard... it's not too deep and solid wood, and if I change the kiddie doors, put crazy awesome legs on it, and stripped the red and white paint off..... maybe stain it a lovely deep shade of eggplanty purple..... voila! I would have a lovely piece of grown up furniture!! Like I don't have enough to do to get ready for Babes already.... ?
*grin*
I borrowed an electric sander from my uncle and proceeded today to strip it down to the bare wood.... 3 hours later, and all of the paint is off... I have a little bit of hardware still to remove but the wood underneath 60 years worth of painting and repainting is GORGEOUS!
I just want to get this house organized and I want it all finished before Babes comes.... especially since I'm going to have a home birth, and the midwives and doula will be here for hours!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil- sounds like you are getting that nesting feeling The side board sounds awesome! Plus something handed down makes it even more special I am sorry your dh is being such a nut--I hope you can work things so that you are happy. I know when their is a negative individual around it seems to drain the energy out of you I think too knowing all the past makes it hard to sort out the future sometimes. I do know it will get sorted and you'll do wonderfully! You are an awesome mom and a very tough lady!

Wow, I didn't know you were doing a home birth! Good for you! My first dd was delivered at hospital but with midwife- I am happy I did that but now as I am in this little town I am stuck with a doctor. Buthis wife is a MW and has taught him everything he knows so he is pretty relaxed and understanding.

When is your next appointment? Mine is tomorrow we will see if anything has changed!

 

[Philomena]

Phil- sounds like you are getting that nesting feeling The side board sounds awesome! Plus something handed down makes it even more special I am sorry your dh is being such a nut--I hope you can work things so that you are happy. I know when their is a negative individual around it seems to drain the energy out of you I think too knowing all the past makes it hard to sort out the future sometimes. I do know it will get sorted and you'll do wonderfully! You are an awesome mom and a very tough lady!

Wow, I didn't know you were doing a home birth! Good for you! My first dd was delivered at hospital but with midwife- I am happy I did that but now as I am in this little town I am stuck with a doctor. Buthis wife is a MW and has taught him everything he knows so he is pretty relaxed and understanding.

When is your next appointment? Mine is tomorrow we will see if anything has changed!

My appointment is next week... it was supposed to be this week, but for me to meet the one midwife in my team I haven't met yet, I had to put the appt back a week....
I had DD#1 with a midwife and a doula in the hospital and the original plan was to do that again this time around... BUT the hospitals here have a "nobody under 18 years old" rule and DD#1 wants to be there.... I think it's a great experience for her (can we say best birth control EVAR?) ... and in the hospital I would be limited to how many support people I could have with me. My mom is going to be here, and my best friend.... both for support, and my doula. I don't want my daughter to feel obligated to stay if she finds it's too much... but want her to feel welcome to stay if she chooses too as well.... she's there for the experience but not to work iykwim? So with all these women and a team of 2 midwives, it's going to be a full house! I feel very confident with my midwives, and I know that if anything changes during the pregnancy or the labour that we will be heading to the hospital anyway.... but if I stay 'low-risk' then why not deliver at home? The stats here show that there is no greater risk to mom or baby delivering at home vs hospital.... I'm sure that's because the midwives are very skilled at knowing 'when' to move to the hospital...

I like the idea of being where I'm comfortable, and we have a big tub in the master bedroom, so maybe I'll labour in that for awhile... I'm not planning on delivering in a tub, but I did labour in the tub at the hospital with DD#1 and it was heaven to be in the water....

I am so TOTALLY nesting these days!! Plus it gives me something to focus on other than DH.... *grin*

 

[Philomena]

mmmmm, before bed snack.... 1 cup of raspberries, with strawberry and rhubarb yogurt..... SO tasty!

 

[TerriLou]

Morning Coy, yes, I have had AF without seeing ovulation, from what I could understand, doc is testing for anything abnormal including hormones, they don't really like to go into much detail, I tried and failed to get anything out of him. To be honest, I'm more interested in the scan as if I still have cysts and fibroids, that'll throw my hormones out of whack. I did show him all my charts since the miscarriage and because of my weight issues, he wasn't surprised as that can effect a lot with hormones.

Its so frustrating. I've been telling my Hubby for years about the possiblity of this happening, you see, after so many years together, he's only just ready for a family. I've been ready since puberty I've been telling him for the last few years that I have a lot of things going against me getting pregnant, so the earlier we start trying, the better, I told him that it may not happen straight away and if it did anyway, he'd have 9 months to get used to the idea. He would be the best dad, he is so good with everyone elses kids, they are drawn to him, just like I am.

 

[twotogo]

AFM-

Hi ladies do you all remember me complaining about Dingbat? Well believe it or not he called our home the other night and demanded to know if I had had my baby yet! When I politely told him "no" he jumped my case and basically told me to "Sh#! or get off the pot" and that I should consider induction to get "the ball rolling". I mean- is he SERIOUS? Wth does he think he is? It's like he really does havea complex and thinks he's God or something I gave the phone to dh and walked away UnbelIEVABLE!

Oh, my! Who DOES he think he is????

Ali - sorry you have to go back to the daily grind. Hope you enjoyed your vaca though.

Terri - I forget if I've asked (and I probably have, so forgive the repeat question) have you ever tried herbs to get your cycles to regulate? I used a mixture of herbs in a tea, and it really shortened my cycles. I think the main herb was vitex or agnus cactus - it's the same thing, but goes by different names.

Jess - life is treating me fine. but we've been busy. This Sunday I am preaching at the two Methodist churches in our county, as they are without a pastor right now. That will be fun. I really enjoy the people in those congregations - our churches do quite a bit together.

AFM - My sliced finger is healing well. I did find a pair of gloves I can wear while doing dishes, so that helped. The meetings went well and it was nice to get away and spend time with other pastors.
AF definitely made her appearance! And that's fine. It really didn't bother me as much as I thought it would. I have been cramping really bad, though.

My kids spent the night with some of our friends who also homeschool so they could make it to basketball practice. When we picked them up from practice, my daughter and two of her friends were really upset. I guess at practice, one of the player's husband came in place of his wife (the wife is 17 or 18, and he is 19. They had a baby early last year and got married) because she couldn't make it. While the coach was busy with the smaller girls, this guy started getting rough with the older girls, poking them in the stomach, hitting them in the face and chest with the basketball, and tried to 'box out' with my daugher, and wanted her to 'box out' with him. Um NO!
I called the coach to let her know what happened. I wasn't the only mother who had called. She informed me he wouldn't be there again. I told her if he was, that my DD would just sit down and not particpate, and if he tried to touch her in anyway that she had my permission to flatten him!

 

[babydust2me]

Good morning guys! Day 4 of charting and just curious how to get my chart to show up in my signature? Not very good at these kinds of things Oh and I'm cutting back to one cup of coffee a day...from 6...ay yi yi...pray for me!! lol

 

[FirstTry]

Hi everyone :wave:

So, I'm 3 dpiui. Is it too early to ?

The TWW can make the most sane person nutso!

 

[Philomena]

Hi everyone :wave:

So, I'm 3 dpiui. Is it too early to ?

The TWW can make the most sane person nutso!

Hi FirstTry!
I got my bfp with IUI! I started testing at 7 dpiui and got my first extremely faint positive at 10 dpiui..... you have to give the hormones time to double etc so they can register!
Good luck!!

 

[alicatt]

Morning,

So I'm back at work, and wishing I was still in bed. I caught a cold while I was up in Canada. Well I probably caught it on the plane, and it just took until yesterday to incubate. I took some sudafed or maybe it was sinutab? IDK, I was half asleep when I took it, but it seems to have masked the side effects so I can function.

Can't wait until I can go home and crawl back into bed!

 

[FirstTry]

Hi everyone :wave:

So, I'm 3 dpiui. Is it too early to ?

The TWW can make the most sane person nutso!

Hi FirstTry!
I got my bfp with IUI! I started testing at 7 dpiui and got my first extremely faint positive at 10 dpiui..... you have to give the hormones time to double etc so they can register!
Good luck!!

Thanks, Philomena. I plan to wait til 9dpiui to begin testing. We'll see how that goes. I just want to know now!

 

[Aloir]

Hi, this is my first time using anything like this, a bit nervous!!
We are trying for a second baby at the moment. Took us a while with our first, hoping not to become obsessed!

 

[twotogo]

Hi, this is my first time using anything like this, a bit nervous!!
We are trying for a second baby at the moment. Took us a while with our first, hoping not to become obsessed!

Hi Aloir! Welcome! I understand about not wanting to become obsessed - it's not easy to keep from it when you want something so much. We are trying for our second pregnancy but third child. We have 14 year old twins. Hope it doesn't take you long to get your BFP!