Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Alin! Great to hear from you, sounds amazing.. the shopping spree, not the reno. Still, that is exciting making your house larger, and getting all new things! We do miss you, and I hope that maybe the distraction is making it possible for your body to get you pregnant

TwoToGo, sounds like your appt went well, and you got some positive feedback. That at least you can keep trying and what ever it is, is not going to be that serious I wouldn't worry about your Chinese Buffet trip, we all have weak moments, just get back on the horse and back to eating right

BabyWhisperer - looking at your chart it looks like you O around CD11? That is normal, they would prefer most women to O around CD11-14 I think. I O late around CD16. If this isn't your month, it just means you need to start around CD 8! As soon as AF finishes. I still think this month looks good, and with the alternate tube in play. I'm excited

AFM - I ran into the Dr's office like a fool. I took 2 benadryl and crashed for 10 hours, I was out cold from 9ish through until 7 this morning. That is how benadryl affects me. So I go in there, and the Dr is like, where are the hives? I'm like they are all gone. He asks were you having trouble breathing, is your throat swollen? He just says, keep taking it, and let us know immediately if there are any more problems, and calls it PPS! The nurse and I look at him, and he says.. post period syndrome. I said.. that sounds good, lets go with that. So as I'm leaving the office manager pulls me into her office. She says.. they have been invited to be part of a reality TV series on single women wanting to have a baby. She wanted to know if I was at all interested? I'm like really? OMG. Wouldn't that be crazy? I don't think it is for me. I've attached the PDF if you want to take a look at it. I all the way from the Dr's office back to my office.

 

[jm1355]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

HMMMMM... I just did some chart stalking of my own.. You are 15DPO! Look at that dip at 7DPO (that is perfect implantation time)!

I wouldn't worry about the HSG and the radiation you had then. You weren't pregnant then, and the egg hadn't even released. I think things look great. Maybe the HSG cleared the way for the and you O'd right after the HSG, and wham, bam, bing! Stranger things have happened!

Ali! Unless there was still in me from when we on CD5, then I just don't see how it happened. That would mean lived in me for SIX DAYS!!! I don't know...but we shall see. I'm just saying there is usually 15 days in between the last day of spotting after my period ends and the first day of spotting before my next period. And currently I am on day 17 with absolutely NO spotting...I'm afraid to because right now I am enjoying the possibility.

 

[alicatt]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

HMMMMM... I just did some chart stalking of my own.. You are 15DPO! Look at that dip at 7DPO (that is perfect implantation time)!

I wouldn't worry about the HSG and the radiation you had then. You weren't pregnant then, and the egg hadn't even released. I think things look great. Maybe the HSG cleared the way for the and you O'd right after the HSG, and wham, bam, bing! Stranger things have happened!

Ali! Unless there was still in me from when we on CD5, then I just don't see how it happened. That would mean lived in me for SIX DAYS!!! I don't know...but we shall see. I'm just saying there is usually 15 days in between the last day of spotting after my period ends and the first day of spotting before my next period. And currently I am on day 17 with absolutely NO spotting...I'm afraid to because right now I am enjoying the possibility.

I hear you. Well do what you think is best. It would probably be better if you waited to get pregnant until next month, but you know how these things happen. They always happen when you least expect it!

Did you see my previous post? Oh and I forgot to mention, I am signing up for acupuncture! I'm so excited about it. I have my first treatment next Tuesday at 8:30am.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

Jess - I agree with Ali- I understand if you get a bfn you feel like you lost something- at least I did. But just for a minute, then my hopes would raise for the next day I'm kinda pathetic and hopeless, huh! lol! Can't wait for you to test! Oh btw- sperm CAN live up to 6 days in optimal cm...and you've been on Mucinex right? Doesn't mean you are and doesn't mean you aren't and we all love you no matter what!

 

[jm1355]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

Jess - I agree with Ali- I understand if you get a bfn you feel like you lost something- at least I did. But just for a minute, then my hopes would raise for the next day I'm kinda pathetic and hopeless, huh! lol! Can't wait for you to test! Oh btw- sperm CAN live up to 6 days in optimal cm...and you've been on Mucinex right? Doesn't mean you are and doesn't mean you aren't and we all love you no matter what!

I just don't think it is possible that I am PG. The would have been washed out by the HSG I'm sure...

 

[alicatt]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

Jess - I agree with Ali- I understand if you get a bfn you feel like you lost something- at least I did. But just for a minute, then my hopes would raise for the next day I'm kinda pathetic and hopeless, huh! lol! Can't wait for you to test! Oh btw- sperm CAN live up to 6 days in optimal cm...and you've been on Mucinex right? Doesn't mean you are and doesn't mean you aren't and we all love you no matter what!

I just don't think it is possible that I am PG. The would have been washed out by the HSG I'm sure...

I'm not so sure. They just used saline right? What if they pushed them closer to the ovary? Possible? I think so!

WOW, wouldn't it be awesome? Jess and BabyWhisperer getting pregnant this month, one by using the HSG to push the to the egg, and the other using her non-dominant ovary. I would have such a party!

PS.. I love the little So adorable!!

 

[JenSC]

Hello ladies. I am so glad I found this thread! I am 35 years old, and I have been married for three years and three months. In that time, my husband and I have never used birth control. We weren't exactly trying, just not trying not to, if you follow me. When I didn't get pregnant after a year, even two, I blamed our mostly weekends-only sex life, figuring that if you added up the months we had had sex at the right time, we were under 12 months and everything was fine. I started to grow progressively more concerned and started doing ovulation detection kits, which are never positive. I have mostly regular periods, though last month was a 23 day cycle, and that was very odd. I have a doctor's appointment for next Wednesday, the 21st. I am very nervous and feeling scared. I always thought that when the time came for me to get pregnant, it would be easy like it is for all the other women I know. I never thought I would be in this position. I want to cry every time I am confronted with other people's pregnancies. My husband is wonderful, but he seems to feel we have all the time in the world. Meanwhile, my biological clock is ticking so loud in my head it is keeping me awake at night. For some reason, I do not want to talk to the women in my life about this. I think it is because they do not understand, and the few trial balloons I have sent up have been met with "don't worry about it" sort of responses. I tried another forum, but a lot of the women there were trying to conceive number 3, 4, or even 5, and many were in their mid-20's. I do not mean to be reductive about what they are going through, but there is something unique about feeling like the clock is running out and fearing you may never have any children, let alone 5! One 26 year-old replied "wow, I would really be kicking myself if I had waited until after 30! Your fertility is decreasing substantially." It made me furious. I know she meant well, but it did not go over well with me. I replied that I was not in a position to have children when I was in my 20s, so I really couldn't regret it, but of course that is not completely true. I do feel like I wasted my fertile years and wish things had been different. I am in need of support on this issue and am happy to give it in return. I am happy I found you all, as you seem like such a nice group. Sorry this was so long!

Hi Jen :wave: You found the right place! There are many success stories for women 35 and over to be found here.

I would suggest that your first step, if possible, would be to change your mindset about getting help with your fertility. You shouldn't be nervous or scared. You're on the road to beginning to understand why you're not getting pregnant and how you can change that!

Welcome and we look forward to helping in any way we can

Hi! No, it is really not possible for me not to be nervous about going to the doctor because if the problem is anything that requires more than a blood test to diagnose, I cannot afford to do it. That is difficult. I have been following all of your posts and love the knowledge and experience you all share with each other, not to mention the support. My best to you!

 

[Grey Eyes]

K, dh and I are talking Hawaii... He swears I can get a tan there I def have a red-head complexion Takes a lot mixed with a miracle for me to tan Plus dh says they don't stab your tires there for being howlie lol!

Right now Hawaii sounds sooOOoo awesome....any of you ladies been there?

Ali- I have ben to FL once in January ('99 or 2000) in Tampa, it was nive but humid!! Ahh! lol Dh went to university there somewhere but I forget which part..

 

[JenSC]

Hi Ali. Thank you for the reply. I am not sure I am replying to you correctly as I chose "quick reply". Not sure yet what that does! Anyway, I am completely without medical insurance, so I am hoping my problem is just that I am not ovulating and they can get my hormonal cycle jump started without much ado. I am pretty confident the problem lies with me and not my husband since I am not ever getting positives on the ovulation prediction kits.

You are so brave to do this all on your own! I know some people would not want to, but I think it is a wonderful option. I have plenty of married friends that are raising their children all on their own, and I would much prefer your situation to theirs! Are you in your 2 week wait now?

My best to you!

A lot of women have had success getting their body to ovulate with a few simple drugs, clomid or femara, and if you have any hint of PCOS (see below), then metformin can help too.

Have you ever been diagnosed with PCOS? It's symptoms are abnormal periods, lack of ovulation, excess hair growth, skin tags, cysts on ovaries, weight trouble, sluggish metabolism.

If you haven't been able to get an ovulation kit to show positive, it is definitely a good idea to get yourself checked out. Since I've been through a lot of it, and some of the other women here have or are going through it right now, you will find loads of help and suggestions here..

As for me, I am about 5 days into my next cycle. I'm taking lupron right now, this is the first step of what is called a long lupron protocol for IVF. I take this for 17 days, then I start taking the stimulation medications that will make my ovaries produce 20-30 follicles each with an egg in it (we hope), then around Dec 8th we are going to go in and harvest them, called the egg retrieval (ER). They will then fertilize them in the lab with the donor sperm, and 3-5 days later they will transfer (ET) 1-3 nice little embryos back into my uterus. So I'll be in the 2WW around Dec 11-15th somewhere in there!

Unfortunately I have had 3 failed IUIs and 1 failed IVF, we now find out it was likely due to the sperm I was using. I've spent close to $30K so far and it could have been avoided with a different donor! It makes me to think about it.

Oh, that is awful! It sounds like malpractice (though that is the lawyer in me). I am glad you found the new donor and hope it goes smoothly from here on out.

 

[jm1355]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

Jess - I agree with Ali- I understand if you get a bfn you feel like you lost something- at least I did. But just for a minute, then my hopes would raise for the next day I'm kinda pathetic and hopeless, huh! lol! Can't wait for you to test! Oh btw- sperm CAN live up to 6 days in optimal cm...and you've been on Mucinex right? Doesn't mean you are and doesn't mean you aren't and we all love you no matter what!

I just don't think it is possible that I am PG. The would have been washed out by the HSG I'm sure...

I'm not so sure. They just used saline right? What if they pushed them closer to the ovary? Possible? I think so!

WOW, wouldn't it be awesome? Jess and BabyWhisperer getting pregnant this month, one by using the HSG to push the to the egg, and the other using her non-dominant ovary. I would have such a party!

PS.. I love the little So adorable!!

OK....so taking a look at my chart, could it be possible that I actually ovulated on the CD18 as opposed to CD11? That's what I am thinking. Then I really would not be late. I don't know. Now I am an obssessed woman AGAIN! ...even after I told myself I would not do this.

Perhaps my cycle is just changing...

 

[Grey Eyes]

JenSC- you must be on the same insurance plan that I am on In other words, um, I don't have any... lol! It makes it really hard to plan medical journeys, doesn't it? I have a limited plan that will cover up to my first pap smear (which I'd love to just skip right over ) and that's it. But because of dh's insurance (military) the dd's are fully covered What is your plan at this point?

 

[alicatt]

K, dh and I are talking Hawaii... He swears I can get a tan there I def have a red-head complexion Takes a lot mixed with a miracle for me to tan Plus dh says they don't stab your tires there for being howlie lol!

Right now Hawaii sounds sooOOoo awesome....any of you ladies been there?

Ali- I have ben to FL once in January ('99 or 2000) in Tampa, it was nive but humid!! Ahh! lol Dh went to university there somewhere but I forget which part..

Hawaii.. sounds awesome, but it is mega expensive. I am with you on the tan (or lack thereof). I can't tan either! Living in the northern part of the state isn't as expensive and it is more temperate I think. Like around St. Augustine? I think you would like it here or Hawaii. Just as long as you MOVE!

Did you see my post about the reality tv show?

Oh and I'm going to start acupuncture next week.

Oh oh.. and guess what? My freaking hives are back.

 

[JenSC]

K, dh and I are talking Hawaii... He swears I can get a tan there I def have a red-head complexion Takes a lot mixed with a miracle for me to tan Plus dh says they don't stab your tires there for being howlie lol!

Right now Hawaii sounds sooOOoo awesome....any of you ladies been there?

Ali- I have ben to FL once in January ('99 or 2000) in Tampa, it was nive but humid!! Ahh! lol Dh went to university there somewhere but I forget which part..

Hawaii is beautiful! Oahu has the most jobs but is my least favorite island. Maui is amazing. I live in Tampa and I LOVE the weather. Hawaii is the only state to which I would consider moving. I can see why you want to move. Slashed tires? Eeek!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi Ali. Thank you for the reply. I am not sure I am replying to you correctly as I chose "quick reply". Not sure yet what that does! Anyway, I am completely without medical insurance, so I am hoping my problem is just that I am not ovulating and they can get my hormonal cycle jump started without much ado. I am pretty confident the problem lies with me and not my husband since I am not ever getting positives on the ovulation prediction kits.

You are so brave to do this all on your own! I know some people would not want to, but I think it is a wonderful option. I have plenty of married friends that are raising their children all on their own, and I would much prefer your situation to theirs! Are you in your 2 week wait now?

My best to you!

A lot of women have had success getting their body to ovulate with a few simple drugs, clomid or femara, and if you have any hint of PCOS (see below), then metformin can help too.

Have you ever been diagnosed with PCOS? It's symptoms are abnormal periods, lack of ovulation, excess hair growth, skin tags, cysts on ovaries, weight trouble, sluggish metabolism.

If you haven't been able to get an ovulation kit to show positive, it is definitely a good idea to get yourself checked out. Since I've been through a lot of it, and some of the other women here have or are going through it right now, you will find loads of help and suggestions here..

As for me, I am about 5 days into my next cycle. I'm taking lupron right now, this is the first step of what is called a long lupron protocol for IVF. I take this for 17 days, then I start taking the stimulation medications that will make my ovaries produce 20-30 follicles each with an egg in it (we hope), then around Dec 8th we are going to go in and harvest them, called the egg retrieval (ER). They will then fertilize them in the lab with the donor sperm, and 3-5 days later they will transfer (ET) 1-3 nice little embryos back into my uterus. So I'll be in the 2WW around Dec 11-15th somewhere in there!

Unfortunately I have had 3 failed IUIs and 1 failed IVF, we now find out it was likely due to the sperm I was using. I've spent close to $30K so far and it could have been avoided with a different donor! It makes me to think about it.

Oh, that is awful! It sounds like malpractice (though that is the lawyer in me). I am glad you found the new donor and hope it goes smoothly from here on out.

Jen- are you an attorney? Sweet! That is what I am studying for, trying to get a degree or two under my belt then going to go for the bar...I am guessing that is the correct path to take. I have a bit of attorney in me to, the part that says "Nail'em!" lol!

 

[alicatt]

Still no spotting...hmmmm...I wonder what the deal is. I have a little bit of cramping today. So I think I will wait til Monday to test. Or maybe even Tuesday...that is when I will be officially late.

Ali...You made me laugh so hard with your " to TX!"

I have not tested yet. I just don't see where we BD'd at the right time for it to happen. And if it happened at the beginning of the month, before my HSG, then I could be in real trouble because the HSG involved X-Rays...

Jess - I agree with Ali- I understand if you get a bfn you feel like you lost something- at least I did. But just for a minute, then my hopes would raise for the next day I'm kinda pathetic and hopeless, huh! lol! Can't wait for you to test! Oh btw- sperm CAN live up to 6 days in optimal cm...and you've been on Mucinex right? Doesn't mean you are and doesn't mean you aren't and we all love you no matter what!

I just don't think it is possible that I am PG. The would have been washed out by the HSG I'm sure...

I'm not so sure. They just used saline right? What if they pushed them closer to the ovary? Possible? I think so!

WOW, wouldn't it be awesome? Jess and BabyWhisperer getting pregnant this month, one by using the HSG to push the to the egg, and the other using her non-dominant ovary. I would have such a party!

PS.. I love the little So adorable!!

OK....so taking a look at my chart, could it be possible that I actually ovulated on the CD18 as opposed to CD11? That's what I am thinking. Then I really would not be late. I don't know. Now I am an obssessed woman AGAIN! ...even after I told myself I would not do this.

Perhaps my cycle is just changing...

Did you have any EWCM then? I doubt you would ovulate without it. Next cycle you need to use your trusty OPKs!!!

 

[JenSC]

JenSC- you must be on the same insurance plan that I am on In other words, um, I don't have any... lol! It makes it really hard to plan medical journeys, doesn't it? I have a limited plan that will cover up to my first pap smear (which I'd love to just skip right over ) and that's it. But because of dh's insurance (military) the dd's are fully covered What is your plan at this point?

Yes, not being insured is no fun! I am going to see an Ob/Gyn on Wednesday, and I will pay for that visit plus whatever blood tests she recommends. Anything beyond that and I can't do it. I have enough money to cover the medical costs associated with pregnancy and delivery, and a baby would be insured through my husband, but I can't spend the pregnancy and delivery money for anything else . I thought military insurance covered spouses very thoroughly. I am sorry to hear it doesn't!

 

[jm1355]

K, dh and I are talking Hawaii... He swears I can get a tan there I def have a red-head complexion Takes a lot mixed with a miracle for me to tan Plus dh says they don't stab your tires there for being howlie lol!

Right now Hawaii sounds sooOOoo awesome....any of you ladies been there?

Ali- I have ben to FL once in January ('99 or 2000) in Tampa, it was nive but humid!! Ahh! lol Dh went to university there somewhere but I forget which part..

Hawaii.. sounds awesome, but it is mega expensive. I am with you on the tan (or lack thereof). I can't tan either! Living in the northern part of the state isn't as expensive and it is more temperate I think. Like around St. Augustine? I think you would like it here or Hawaii. Just as long as you MOVE!

Did you see my post about the reality tv show?

Oh and I'm going to start acupuncture next week.

Oh oh.. and guess what? My freaking hives are back.

Hawaii does sound beautiful! But I have heard that it is expensive too. My brother played in the NFL and went to the pro-bowl in Hawaii. And, while he didn't use the word "expensive" he did mention that things cost a little more there than what he was used to seeing.

Jenn, are you an attorney? I used to want to be an attorney. But, as I am finishing up my masters this semster, I just can't stomach the thought of any more school!!

 

[JenSC]

I am and my husband is as well. With the exception of two states, you have to graduate from an ABA-approved law school to sit for the bar. Law school is three years. It is a great profession. I have the "nail-em" gene too; I never wanted to be any type of lawyer except a prosecutor. I am not currently working, and I miss it! Good luck with everything, and I will be happy to give you any guidance you might want.

 

[JenSC]

K, dh and I are talking Hawaii... He swears I can get a tan there I def have a red-head complexion Takes a lot mixed with a miracle for me to tan Plus dh says they don't stab your tires there for being howlie lol!

Right now Hawaii sounds sooOOoo awesome....any of you ladies been there?

Ali- I have ben to FL once in January ('99 or 2000) in Tampa, it was nive but humid!! Ahh! lol Dh went to university there somewhere but I forget which part..

Hawaii.. sounds awesome, but it is mega expensive. I am with you on the tan (or lack thereof). I can't tan either! Living in the northern part of the state isn't as expensive and it is more temperate I think. Like around St. Augustine? I think you would like it here or Hawaii. Just as long as you MOVE!

Did you see my post about the reality tv show?

Oh and I'm going to start acupuncture next week.

Oh oh.. and guess what? My freaking hives are back.

Hawaii does sound beautiful! But I have heard that it is expensive too. My brother played in the NFL and went to the pro-bowl in Hawaii. And, while he didn't use the word "expensive" he did mention that things cost a little more there than what he was used to seeing.

Jenn, are you an attorney? I used to want to be an attorney. But, as I am finishing up my masters this semster, I just can't stomach the thought of any more school!!

I am. I hear you about being totally DONE with school. Plus, it is SO expensive. The recession has hit the field of law so hard that it is not a good financial investment anymore...

 

[jm1355]

I am and my husband is as well. With the exception of two states, you have to graduate from an ABA-approved law school to sit for the bar. Law school is three years. It is a great profession. I have the "nail-em" gene too; I never wanted to be any type of lawyer except a prosecutor. I am not currently working, and I miss it! Good luck with everything, and I will be happy to give you any guidance you might want.

A prosecutor!! Wow!! I always wondered how prosecutors handled it when they are having to go to trial for someone that might be innocent. Have you ever had to do that? You probably already told us but how old are you? How long have you been an attorney? Are you not working by choice or has the job market played a role in your unemployment? I work in legal services for the state of Texas and I know a lot of the attorneys in our office do extra consulting stuff online. Have you ever thought about doing that?
(I'm so nosey!)