We're all in this together!

[Laura2806]

Can guarantee about once a month, normally as I'm due on, she bring something up that's causes an argument or tension. Hate it he says he won't but somedays I'm not so sure. Just came upto bed and didn't say a word to him, normally he follows shortly after, not tonight! If it weren't for disturbing Oscar I'd take him with me and go to my mums! I slept on the sofa till 2am the other week, Simon was awake when I went down and Oscar woke in the night so I went upto him, settled him down and got my hoodie then went downstairs, Simon came down and asked what I was doing, told him I'd been down there all night and he hadn't noticed. Was so upset with him. Why can't everything be simple? It's times like this I think twice about another baby, but then I know it's what we both want and we love each other more than anything in the world, other than Oscar, he was gutted earlier when he asked if I was pregnant as I had a sore tummy and I said no. Eugh xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Babe Why Don't You Try Telling Simon How You Feel. MIL's Can Be Like This Hun & It's Because They Feel Like The Child's Been Taken Away From Them By You Even Though There All Grown Up & Have A Family Of There Own Now, My MIL Did And Admitted It, But That's No Excuse To Treat You Like Nothing Hun. Maybe Stick Up For Yourself Around Her Not That I'm Saying You Don't But Believe Me They Find It Shocking But Wont Say A Word Wrong Again. Like I Say Sometimes You Have To Be Really Cruel To Be Kind. Try Not To Let Her Get To You Babe. Big Hugs. x X x

 

[20yearslater]

Laura - I know I wished you a Happy Birthday on Friday but I never got around to wishing you it on here, so, Happy belated Birthday chick, glad to hear that you had an amazing day We love you too chickadee xxxxx

Same..I know I did on facebook but happy birthday! Even if it is late sorry!! Me and bnb arent the closest of friends atm hehe ;D

Thanks ladies

right so.....

I dont know where im at with my cycle, like at all!! thought i ov'd at CD14/18, seems not as no AF and still BFN's got my BFP at CD16 last time should have had something by now if preggers. BUT i then had possible ov pains on friday so I'm mega confused! was having symptoms post first lot of ov pains but now nothing other than one cramp earlier and a sore foofoo like i've got a water infection but it doesnt hurt when i pee so i know i dont have one. so confused

Its possible that you tried to OV the first time and didnt, and that youve gone on to ov now maybe. Its hard to say without the temping to be honest!!

so I saw the heading "We're all in this together" and tears started to roll down my face. Yup, I think I need to be in this conversation.

Awww..you are very welcome here Chasta! x

I think its sad that noone unerstands your need to TTC. It doesnt matter that you have grown up children and a grandchild on the way..at the end of the day an ache is an ache no matter the circumstances hun. I think its lovely that you want to have another child and give that experience to your hubby too..congrats on being newlyweds btw!

Sorry to hear about your loss Its a horrible situation to be in, one I think most of us around here can empathise with on bnb. You will find a lot of support chick

I highly recommend fertility friend. The free version is just as good as the vip tbh..only thing it doesnt do which in my opinion is a fun extra is count the dpo..but lets be honest...we can all count!

Hi ladies! Do you mind if I join in on this thread with you all? I post on a couple other TTC Buddies threads, but they aren't very active like this one seems to be. I am 26 and my DH is 31. We got married in March of this year and this is our first official cycle of TTC #1. It is very exciting! Since this is my first cycle charting, I'm not exactly sure which CD I ovulate on, but I'm thinking it should've been somewhere around yesterday...perhaps a few days before or even a few days after, so we are still BD'ing just about every day to try to up our chances. I have had some light spotting that started Sunday evening a light pinkish color, but yesterday and today is a brownish color. It has almost gone away today though. I'm hoping it is just either ovulation spotting or implantation spotting. I am almost 100% sure it can't already be my AF, as it would be way to soon for that. Good luck to everyone and it's very exciting following others' journeys at the same time. to everyone!

The more the merrier! Nice to have you here also


AFM:

Im sarah 33years old and my partner is 32 and Swedish. We started trying to conceive in 2009 and nothing happened. In 20011 we had a surprise bfp and were over the moon. Unfortunately after going through a lot of backwards and forwards (being told id miscarried, then told all was fine, then finding out it wasnt fine and it was in my tube) we had to let go of the pregnancy. It hit me really hard as it was my first ever bfp and I really thought "this is it". It was a long recovery as I didnt really respond to the treatment at the time, but we eventualy got through it.

We continued ttc, doing the whole hog: having sex every day, sometimes multiple times, trying the every other day, taking every vitamin known to man, using opks, temping, etc etc. Nothing was happening. In the following year we were seen by our GP who thought I needed help ttc so we were referrd to a specialist. I was told that I wasnt ovulating, at all, and that was the biggest emotional blow. I was so convinced with my charts etc that I was so I couldnt understand why they were telling me I wasnt. Additionally, the week before my first fertility appointment I had a surprise bfp. I was so happy and thought that I was lucky enough to be one of those women who seem to fall naturaly when the threat of intervention turns up. But later that day I started to bleed and after three days of blood testing it was confirmed it was a chemical and it hadnt stuck. So, I was scheduled for an HSG to check my tubes were not blocked and was waiting to attend the follow up where I was likely to start with Clomid. I had the hsg done which confirmed I had some scarring in my right tube from the ectopic.

I lost all hope at this point. I had a dud tube, I wasnt ovulating..how could I get pregnant? I stopped me and the OH taking all the vitamins, mentally I gave up, got drunk as hell to celebrate out anniverary and low and behold, two weeks later I was shocked to my teeth to find out I had conceived :O After lots of bleeding scares, a pregnancy of consistent morning (all day seriously...) sickness, I gave birth to my son Alexander on my OWN birthday! So pleased with that

Wall of text...sorry! But long story short...after heading on 4 years of hopes and dreams, I finally gave birth to my world.

We are now ntnp no2. I dont actively try to get pregnant at the mo because my son has been sickly as he has really bad reflux and is milk allergic, but we are not on any birth control..so hopefully we shall be blessed with another, but if not, Alex is the most wonderful gift.

xx

Oh Sarah, thank you for your story the whole up and down thing them telling me I wasn't then HPT saying yes..... wow, I know for me it was hard I am sorry for your loss and then with the tubal, Congrats with your son though OH and I might add that HSG - did that - they told me it was going to be like a few bad period pains - - WTH were they smoking when they had theirs' done. -.- Anyhow xoxoxox

 

[20yearslater]

I hope it let me upload more then just the one photo-BA
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GRAN BABY!!!! @ 12 WEEKS

 

[20yearslater]

One on the left is off to college in sept the one on the right is in the process of making me a Gran

 

[20yearslater]

It only took us 20 years to get back together But here we are

Chat with you all tomorrow and thank you for making me feel as home and at ease.....

To tired to carry on tonight, I was on the road for over 12 hours and have been up for 16 - good night everyone

 

[Laura2806]

Thanks jess hun I do chick and it makes no difference, Sion knows how she upsets me but won't do anything or stand up for me. I say all this to him and it still makes no difference. Xxx

Yay for piccies! Gran baby is cute! Your girls look lovely and so did you and hubbster on the wedding day xxx

 

[Excalibur]

Laura - Big hugs hunni xxx

Chasta - Love the pictures! xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Your Welcome Hun, I'm Sorry That Nothing Changes When You Tell Simon How You Feel. I Really Wouldn't Have A Clue What I Would Do Next Hun. Maybe His A Mummy's Boy & I Don't Take This The Wrong Way Hun, But Some Men Just Love There Mum's so Much That Nothing Can Come In-between Them, But I'm Not Saying He Don't Love You Cause He Clearly Does To Have A Child With You, Want Another & Getting Married To You. Maybe He Think's If His Rude To His Mum OR Sticks Up For You That She Might Not Speak To Him But He Might Feel Like He Don't Have To Stick Up For You & That Your His Wife To Be & His Baby's Mother And You'll Always Be There. If You Know what I Mean. I Don't No Hun. I Want To Help You All I Can, But Sometimes Life Is Not That Simple. x X x

Awww Moi Hun Lovely Picture Of Your Gran Child, Children & Wedding. x X x

 

[20yearslater]

Hey Laura,

I know that it can be frustrating with the MIL, It took me a long time to figure out how to deal with the other halves parents. Definitely not telling you what to do; In all of my situations - I have done one of two things, ignore them and their comments - If DH does nothing why should you? For It to cause you more grief and for you to be the bad guy, I've done this when I was younger, now that I am older I am a hell of a lot more fierce.

I speak my mind with no regrets and to the people who are there that hear the way I am speaking, I figure if she was the miserable one to begin with, then me piping off to her, to put her back in her place is ok too. HOWEVER, sugar like I said took me until my girls were 2/3 I had to learn to stand up for them and myself at a young age LOL but once I got that down It seemed too be all good after that.

I know I said two things well, sorry I went squirrel; LOLOLOL, The other is not to say a bloody word to her and just smile then walk away. - This is the BEST!!!

Anyhow, didn't mean to bud in, Just thought I would let you know, I've been there - hated that he never said anything (ex) & (ex MIL)

So chin up, when the time is right you'll know what to do.

 

[Laura2806]

thanks ladies Jess i know what you mean chick, what upsets me is he sat sobbing in my arms a couple weeks back over how his mother is atm and said he's often wondered what life would be like without her in it but then he still jumps when she tells him to! Thats what hurts. He knows id like him to stick up for me once in a while. Guess this i show its gonna be from now on!

Thanks Chasta, you didnt but in at all chick I think its owrse because it always happens as i'm due on, i reckon she keeps track! lol

He's home from work and i've barely spoke to him, not even kissed him, maybe if i carry on like this for a while he will realise how much he has upset me know too. But then if sobbing on the landing at night doesnt do it, what will

I just need a break from all the shit xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Awww Hun, Sometimes We Have To Just Get On With Thing's But If We Cant Put Something Behind Us Then We Need To Fix It & If You Have To Ignore Him & Not Kiss Him, Then Go For It & Then Maybe He Will Realise. Sometimes We Have To Be Cruel To Be Kind, Even When In Love. x X x

 

[20yearslater]

ok so I was playing with FF and I charted last month on there, yay, lol. Ok so why did they take the red drawn lines out? I liked them, I went back to look at something then went back and bam they were gone.

Is it because it's the free trial, or is because they moved onto the next month. -.- that's why I entered all the info for last month was to see if they saw a line and where.

 

[Laura2806]

So true jess! Alls good now

And seriously hoping I ov'd last Friday and we caught the egg, only DTD Friday night, not dent it since! so we will see! Feeling like I did with Oscar though so here's hoping!

Chasta post a link hun, lets see if anyone here can shed any light on it xx

 

[20yearslater]

I think I stuck it in my signature ?? HA !!! not to sure but I'll give it a go.
Let me know if you can see it

 

[Laura2806]

I see it! I'm wondering if its because although your temp went up it wasn't a massive jump? It may only pick it up if it goes up by a certain amount, can't remember though! Lol

Sarah hunni do you have the details of the prediction you had done? Simon said I can get one

No AF, didn't test, will take one tomorrow if she doesn't show before then, praying she doesn't! It's be ace to get one the day before I return to work! xxx

 

[Laura2806]

Just had to share this with you ladies! Enjoy!

WOMEN'S REVENGE
'Cash, cheque or charge?' I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.
As she fumbled for her wallet, I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse.
'So, do you always carry your TV remote?' I asked.
'No,' she replied, 'but my husband refused to come shopping with me,
and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.'


UNDERSTANDING WOMEN
(A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women.
I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax,
pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root,
and still be afraid of a spider.


WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word..
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
neither of them wanted to concede their position..
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
the husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?'
'Yep,' the wife replied, 'in-laws.'

WORDS
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day.
30,000 to a man's 15,000.
The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...
The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'

CREATION
A man said to his wife one day, 'I don't know how you can be
so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
'The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain.
God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;
God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!

WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who
should brew the coffee each morning.
The wife said, 'You should do it because you get up first,
and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.
The husband said, 'You are in charge of cooking around here and
you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.'
Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible that the man should do the coffee..'
Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.'
So she fetched the Bible, and opened the Old Testament and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says . 'HEBREWS'


The Silent Treatment
A man and his wife were having some problems at home
and were giving each other the silent treatment.
Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him
at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.
Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper,
'Please wake me at 5:00 AM .' He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him,
when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed.
The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM . Wake up..'
Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.

God may have created man before woman, but there is always a rough draft
before the masterpiece


Xxx

P.s my GRANDAD emailed this to my mum who forwarded it to me!

 

[20yearslater]

OH MY WORD - those are too funny. Thanks for the morning giggle.

As for the red line beats me; I was board this morning so I went back onto FF
and posted my AF sightings since Feb, just to give FF a bit more of something to go by
it was telling me that I am on a 25 day cycle, anyhow now it's at least more on track.

:sigh: DH is in still in new York, was not going to make it down there this month, but I am thinking..... I just might do the drive on Monday and stay for a week, If my daughter was already at school I would have no issues - but I feel bad knowing that she is leaving in Sept and im not here to hang out with her.

But then I think during the week and weekend she is only home 1-2 days anyhow. :crys:

I don't know what to do I am feeling soooooo torn. The drive back and forth is almost 200.00 it just seems for me to go for a week is pointless

I miss him so much, this "apart" thing is really erking me lately - anyhow, venting...
Did I mention that my car feels as though it's going to die soon too. In two yrs I have put 140 000 km's on it, just doing the drive to see him. "sigh"

OH and keep us posted, I soo would have taken a test - thinking of you for you to get your BFP lol that would be great. hugs guys sorry for the long rant.

 

[Laura2806]

Firstly, you're welcome for the giggles, secondly NEVER APOLOGISE FOR RANTING!! And thirdly, I'd go hun, the drive will be worth it to see hubby and spend some time with him, your daughter will understand I'm sure

CD 41 - no AF (obvs) no spotting, cramping but diff to AF cramps BFN but 9dpo so still early! Feeling good and don't wanna say this to jinx things but I feel how I did early pregnancy with Oscar...*runs away and hides from * also I think I'm scared to in case it brings AF on and shatters us! Xxx

 

[xXxJessicaxXx]

Soooo Funny Hun, I Even Was Reading Them Out To DF lol. Ooooowww Hun GL & FX'd. x X x