Hi,
Firstly don't feel bad for your feelings. You can't help them
I'm not in the same position as yourself as dh is ready to ttc. In fact I'm the one holding it off as I dont want another winter baby. Well I say that, but everytime I get another step closer to our ttc date I panic again.
I'm going to try and explain how it is for me n quite possibly ur dh.
I didnt know I wanted another baby until a scare after missing my depo injection. I only wanted one, then whilst pregnant I got depression which turned into pnd after ds was born. I tried to cope myself but ended up on tablets to help. I weaned myself off them after we spoke about the scare to clear my body. However I still have more "down" days than most people and get very short n snappy with ds on those days (only ds too poor boy) I have this longing now for another baby but I keep panicing. What if ds doesnt cope, what if my pnd comes back and worse this time! How could i ever overcome that. The wanting and longing for myself are strong but my fears are what i focus on due to my anxiety (i had never had that before ds was born n its awful) and fear of depression spiralling.
We have now said that we will most likely be ntnp from our ttc date as this way it will be down to fate and not my worries that will decide if we have another.
Afterall what will be, will be
It might be worth having a real heart to heart with your dh. I know its hard to find the time with everything thats going on for you right now but you might find its worth it.
Tbh i am still not decided and we are supose to be ttc from july