Rachael was born at 24wks and lived for 17 hours and Thomas was born at 34wks and lived for 28wks.
Blimey...if I only had enough time to write down all the insensitive things that have been said to me.....
You are young, you can have another
Maybe you were too young and your body couldn't cope with pregnancy
At least now you can go to college
Are you gonna try again soon?
It may be ok next time
With Thomas, my friend was due the day after me....she drank and smoked like a trooper and complained the whole way though her pregnancy even though I'd lost Thomas.
She said she wanted me to be her baby's godmother....when she got her Christened, she didn't ask me
.
At the Christening, she found me crying in the toilets and said
"everything happens for a reason"
I mean WTF
how would she bloody well like it if her babies had died in her arms and she had nothing to show for it apart from a few pics.
The same "friend" said to my hubby that I was
"out of order" for giving Thomas my name and putting it on the headstone
. Erm....it was my baby too and he was known as baby Lievesley for his short life in the hospital....why the hell shouldn't I give him my name????? Hubby didn't bother in the slightest about it anyway
Oh yeah, also I got pregnant the month after losing Thomas (not planned) and everyone kept saying
Awww, it'll be fine this time
I'm glad you got pregnant so quick, it'll help
At least you've got something to look forward to....etc
And yep....I too had a couple of people say about my picture of Rachael
"is she dead there?"
....as if you need to ask as she's lay in a little moses basket with a blanket and a teddy...at 1lb 10ozs she would have been in an incubator with monitors, wires and a ventilator obviously when she was alive (those pics are more upsetting though I think)