sandilion
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Took DS to a indoor play center about a week ago and he absolutely loved it. My mother came along, and it was a great afternoon!
At one point though when i put LO in the enclosed toddler area so i could have a cuppa with mum and watch as he played, he was playing happily - then a mother put her DS in there (he looked a bit older than DS - maybe 2.5) and this boy was a bit of a little devil! He was in a foul mood, and walked over to my DS and ripped the ball from his hands, DS smiled back thinking the kid was ready to play with him, but instead the kid bashed him in the face with it, making him fall back quite hard and smack his head on the toys behind him.
I quickly ran in to see if DS was ok, he was crying and seemed very shocked with what happened. The other boy laughed at pointed at my DS so i told him that wasn't very nice, picked DS up and walked out with him and took him elsewhere to try and help him feel better and forget about what happened. When i picked DS up, i glanced over to the bully boy's mother and she was watching everything that happened but did nothing. And looked away when i made eye contact with her.
Now, when i told a couple friends and DH about that incident they told me i should have told the mother off. And now i feel like i didn't defend my son well enough for not doing so. I gave her 'the look' but just wanted to remove my kid from the situation as it was pretty unpleasant.
I dont know why but i sort of keep beating myself up about this, feeling like i didn't handle it right and just wanted to know your input. i keep replaying it over in my head on what i should have done instead f what i did do... Do you think i should have said something to the mum? or was it enough for me to just nurture DS and remove him and tell the other boy that it wasn't nice? I have had a theory to not make a big deal when he gets bullied, like step in and help out.... but I also want him to grow up knowing how to look after himself too ya know. I don't want to fight all of his battles, but is he a bit too young for that yet?
How would you have handled that situation? And no flames please for me telling the other boy that what he did wasn't nice, I said it calmly. Not that it would have done anything as it really needed to come from his own mother IMO.
At one point though when i put LO in the enclosed toddler area so i could have a cuppa with mum and watch as he played, he was playing happily - then a mother put her DS in there (he looked a bit older than DS - maybe 2.5) and this boy was a bit of a little devil! He was in a foul mood, and walked over to my DS and ripped the ball from his hands, DS smiled back thinking the kid was ready to play with him, but instead the kid bashed him in the face with it, making him fall back quite hard and smack his head on the toys behind him.
I quickly ran in to see if DS was ok, he was crying and seemed very shocked with what happened. The other boy laughed at pointed at my DS so i told him that wasn't very nice, picked DS up and walked out with him and took him elsewhere to try and help him feel better and forget about what happened. When i picked DS up, i glanced over to the bully boy's mother and she was watching everything that happened but did nothing. And looked away when i made eye contact with her.
Now, when i told a couple friends and DH about that incident they told me i should have told the mother off. And now i feel like i didn't defend my son well enough for not doing so. I gave her 'the look' but just wanted to remove my kid from the situation as it was pretty unpleasant.
I dont know why but i sort of keep beating myself up about this, feeling like i didn't handle it right and just wanted to know your input. i keep replaying it over in my head on what i should have done instead f what i did do... Do you think i should have said something to the mum? or was it enough for me to just nurture DS and remove him and tell the other boy that it wasn't nice? I have had a theory to not make a big deal when he gets bullied, like step in and help out.... but I also want him to grow up knowing how to look after himself too ya know. I don't want to fight all of his battles, but is he a bit too young for that yet?
How would you have handled that situation? And no flames please for me telling the other boy that what he did wasn't nice, I said it calmly. Not that it would have done anything as it really needed to come from his own mother IMO.