When should I tell people?

[lexie24]

So I'm 5wks 5days (not confirmed by doc yet).
When did you start telling close friends/family you were pg or when are you planning on telling them if you haven't already? I really want to tell my mum and my best friend but my OH thinks that we should keep it to ourselves as it's early days and something could go wrong. I just want to tell SOMEONE!

 

[fairydust87]

I told my mum and sister as I had suspisions and Ive told 4 work collegues who I work closely with. In a way I wish I hadnt as I am still very early only 5 weeks but I wont be telling anyone else until after my first scan just to be on the safe side. Can you not tell your mum if you really have to share it?

 

[Geegees]

I told my mum straight away, I see her every day, so couldn't keep it a secret!!

 

[1liz9]

I kept it a secret until the first ultrasound. But everyone does something different. Do what feels right for you. Happy and healthy 9 months

 

[Mari30me]

We told our parent's when I was 10 weeks and the rest of family and friends after the first ultrasound at 12 weeks. Everyone does something different, so tell when u feel like it

 

[Chiclet2012]

Lexie, I am 5+5 as well!

Last week when I found out, I told my mom right away as I want her there for support and advice as I go through my first trimester. The way I thought about it.. who would I want to be able to go to for help if something bad did happen? So I told her and I also told two of my best friends.

I am going to wait until the ultrasound at week 8 to tell my work (there is a lot of schedule changes that have to happen) as well as my in laws. Then I think I will wait until week 12 or more to tell everybody else.

It's nice to have this website to come to when you want to share things that are happening! You ladies are great.

 

[sweetpeaxo]

I told my husband's parents and my parents right away they are so excited! And a few close friends and some coworkers know, but that's about it. There are more friends and all of the extended family that don't know. But I'm not going to officially announce it or put it on Facebook till after my first scan We were both way too excited to keep it a secret.

 

[megangrohl]

Tell people when you want. It's your baby and your news.

 

[lexie24]

Thanks for all the replies! I guess I'm just being impatient! I'm going to at least wait until I've been to the doctors.

 

[Aimee1003]

I am waiting until my scan at week 7 to tell both sets of parents. I have already told one close friend but that is it. I will have to tell boss at 7 weeks as well- I have already had to leave early 3 times to have HcG levels checked plus the actual scan at 7wks plus my real doctors appt will be 2 weeks later. I am going to wait to annouce to my work colleagues until 10 or 11 weeks. Depends on how I feel.
I read that the miscarriage risk drops to 5% once you have heard the baby's heartbeat at the 7-8 wk scan.

 

[Vickie]

We told our parents right away but asked them to keep it a secret. I ended up having a big scare with low HCG levels so we waited until we had an US on Monday to tell the rest of our family and some close friends. Since I am having twins and I know there are greater risks involved we won't be telling anyone else until after first tri.

 

[Wantingbbbump]

I posted it on my facebook pretty much as soon as I found out. I knew that things could go wrong but I just wanted to enjoy being newly pregnant and shout it to the world so I did. Yes it would of sucked if I had to say that I lost the baby but I just don't want to live in the world of "what if" I think it's better to live in the here and now. Things can go wrong at any stage of pregnancy so I say if you want to tell some people and get that joy of hearing "congrats" from your friends and loved ones then go for it!!

 

[Stash777]

We told our parents and one of my best friends right away because they all knew how long we had been trying. It's really hard to keep it to ourselves because we're just so excited about it.

 

[loverguts]

With my last pregnancy i told people the same week that i found out for definite! This time i am being a lot more cautious and waiting till my 12 week scan. I know it sounds stupid but i feel like i will jinx myself if i start telling everyone!

 

[Rach27]

I have only told OH and my doctor (and midwife). I am so proud of myself because I have no patience whatsoever!!!
During my first pregnancy, about 5 people knew in the early days (two of them were my in-laws because we thought we had lost it early on and I had rung them in tears) and I felt sort of under pressure for it to go well for them (and us of course). Then this July, we had a miscarriage and I had let it slip to a few people. Although I coped quite well, I felt I had let them down and in fact dealing with their reaction to our loss was harder than going through it directly at times!
So....our plan is to get to just over 12 weeks, have the nuchal scan and then tell our nearest and dearest.

 

[tkeith8109]

With my first two pregnancies I told everyone right away, but the 2nd one ended in m/c. So this time my hubby and I are keeping it a secret until we get our first scan and know for sure that everything looks good. Do what you feel is right. Telling your mom or a close friend wouldn't hurt since you will need support. I told one of my friends and I felt a lot better.

 

[bklove]

i'm at 8 weeks and just told my mom and 2 co workers as I couldn't hold it any more. But I do want to wait as long as I can/don't show, until I tell more people. I guess you just want to be safe. and like someone else said its dealing with other peoples reactions thats more difficult than a loss sometimes. But fingers crossed, this is a go!

 

[x_Sarah_x]

Im 5 weeks and 2 days and I've told my family and select few friends! I figured that the support is there is anything goes wrong and if I'm honest it's more for advice because it's my first! It's nice to know your family care and mine are already telling me to take it easy as it's a delicate time! I think you should tell them when your ready xx

 

[Rhiaberry]

Im not going to share until im in the safe zone. 13-14 weeks... as it is very early days... BUT i know how you feel, iv even had dream about just screaming it out in the middle of town! x

 

[babyv_s2012]

In told my mum literally within a few minutes of doing the test and getting a bfp shes my best friend and i tell her everything! We also told hubby's parents and brothers/sisters etc. Not gone 'public' with the news yet but its entirely personal choice. x