Where the hell do i start? Divorce.

[special_kala]

Im looking at the gov website and its all confusing me.

What do i need to do

 

[Harveysmum369]

You can get free half hour's with soliciters hun.xx

 

[special_kala]

i went to a legal place but got to go again to see specialist.

hes the one who wants this but i know if left to him it would never get done and the idea of being married to someone who happy to throw it all away makes me feel a bit sick

 

[tina3747]

Really sorry to hear your situation.. I think the citizens advice bureau offer free unbiased advice to point you in the right direction. Haven't beeen in this situation but been through it with 4 customers in the last few yrs. Can be a very long process, up to 2 yrs if it's just down to unreasonable behavior ect but I think adultery can be quicker (don't quote me on that). I will be honest, it's cost so much money for them to do it, each soliciors letter can be £100 + and phone calls. It's just a horrid thing to go through. I know most have my customers have done the free advice, none have qualified for legal aid, not sure what the criteria is? Have you looked in home and relasionships section? Have a feeling some will be in the same boat. Hope you get sorted x

 

[cherryglitter]

my dad and his ex managed to do it all online quite cheaply. i don't know the ins and outs of it though. all i know was she got the paperwork and because they both agreed to it, it was easy peasy.

just sign and send, and done. x

 

[tina3747]

Think it's that quick if you agree with regards to children, money, house ect. All my customers have had to fight their toss pot exs for them!!
Be lovely if you can do it easy no fighting, must be a rarity!

 

[tina_h75]

Do you work or are you entitled to legal aid? I am in the same situation and it really is confusing. I think ( but not 100% sure ) that when children are involved then you need a solicitor. I can get legal aid but my husband will have to pay for his which is probably why he is stalling, as after 2 years of being separated its much cheaper and quicker to get a divorce. I already had my solicitor booked but I cancelled because I am moving so will get one closer to my new house. Its an absolute nightmare. Why are men such pricks anyway ?!

 

[MrsGlitz]

I looked into this recently and as far as I could make out, as long as you are both agreed on division of assets and custody/access arrangements for children, it can all be done fairly quickly (a few months) and cheaply (around £250). If not then it can a long, drawn out and costly process.

Do you know if you'd qualify for legal aid?

 

[vix1989]

awwww kala!
i dont have any advice, im sorry!!
i just wanna say im so sorry!!

 

[special_kala]

I think im entitled to legal aid.

Bloody men

 

[cherryglitter]

better off without.

 

[Bittersweet]

No advice so lots of x

 

[rwhite]

I'm useless, so no advice, but some for you x

 

[Baby France]

First things first Kala...get yourself to a local court for the forms and guidelines.

When OH wanted to divorce (without children BUT owned house) they got all the documents needed, with completed step by step guide on divorce from the county court house.

I handled the whole divorce (he didn't have a clue but the guide told me what to do) and we didn't pay any fees other than the court fees. In total it cost us £300-£400.

If you go to court, you can get the info and guides yourself...that is whether or not he is accomodating at willing to work with you and divorce papers?

 

[lindseymw]

As others have said, aslong as you can come to an agreement on children/house/finances before Divorce proceedings then it can be done quickly & cheaply. If you end up fighting over something, that's when it has to go court & get long & drawn out. Your best bet would be either Citizens Advice or a solicitor, you usually get the first 30mins/initial appt free.

DH's Divorce cost about £700 including court fees, he also had to pay to get the title deeds on the house changed into his sole name which would have been around £300 as he had to remortgage the house to pay her off.

I'm sure you have to wait 2 years though unless it's adultery (which has to be admitted by the offending party), but could be wrong.....it's been a few years since I dealt with Divorces (was a legal sec)

 

[special_kala]

He seems happy to just wait the 2 years and do it that way but thats Chris all over. Easy way out.

Im citing unreasonable behaviour on his part, i dont think he will defend it as this has completly been his choice and hes refused any suggestion of trying to work it out/counselling etc.

 

[pinklightbulb]

Don't have any advice as I'm in the wrong country but wanted to send

 

[sam2eb]

go and speak to a solicitor, you will be entitled to legal aid.

sorry your going through this

 

[Lellow]

Oh Kala, i didnt realise things had got this far - I really thought you'd be able to sort things.

Sorry i have no advice about divorcing tho, i dont have any knowledge on the subject.

 

[faun]

Sorry its come to divorce hun here is a good link for you explaining what you need to do https://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/your_family/family_index_ew/ending_a_marriage.htm#divorce