Where the hell do i start? Divorce.

[Ozzieshunni]

No advice. I went through divorce in California and even though there were no kids, it's still not easy.

 

[jellybean83]

Didnt want to read and run so


Just remember what a fabulous strong status your sending out to your 2 girl's with you taking the bull by the horns,Im sorry it's come to this.

I hope you manage to get the ball rolling soon xx

 

[Hayley90]

i have no idea hun, but always here if you need a rant/cry xxxxxx

 

[EllaAndLyla]

Can't offer advice, all I know is my parents split over two years ago and the divorce is still going through xx

 

[TattiesMum]

I think im entitled to legal aid.

Bloody men

Kala you will be entitled to legal aid as long as you are in receipt of Income Support

Secondly don't try to jump ahead of the process ... what will happen is that you will see the Family Law specialist, who will talk through what you want in terms of access, contact, maintenance, child support etc and who will then send Chris a letter telling him what you are asking for and advisising him to get a solicitor

The actual divorce won't be granted until all the arrangements regarding the children have been agreed to ... so how long it takes is a bit 'how long is a piece of string' Anything between 6 months and a year is the norm ... mine was hugely complicated and even that only took about 18 months

If you need any advice or are worried about the legal side of it then just PM me Sweetie

 

[5-a-side]

Firstly I'm sorry for the situation you are in.

I went through a divorce a few years ago and although it was difficult at the time it was truly a good thing to happen. Even with 2 children.
Others have given the advice I was going to so I wont repeat them. Just wanted to add to the support that you are not alone.

 

[Louppey]

As long as you're on amicable terms, and can agree on who gets what asset wise and what to do regarding the children then you can do it yourself.

When I divorced my ex (way before I had Coralie) I filed for it and dealt with all the papers myself. It was straightforward and cost around £250.

 

[BleedingBlack]

Wish I could help but I'm in the states.

 

[Jemma_x]

 

[ellismum]

No advice Hun although i concur about the bloody men part. just want to offer you a ((((hug)))) xxx

 

[hardworknmama]

 

[special_kala]

thank you ladies.

ex was supposed to be ordering marriage certificate so until he does that i cant do anythiing (

 

[summer rain]

I recently helped my friend with the process, she did it all herself even though she is from abroad which can make things more complicated-but there were no kids involved. It is now up to them waiting for the decree absolute stage and has been very straightforward. Now the court fees for a basic divorce are around £400 altogether including the fee for the decree absolute. If you want any help, feel free to ask. If you remember a few details of when you married (which I hope you do ) then you can order a copy of your marriage certificate from the GRO, this is a certified copy so acceptable when divorcing. It really doesn't cost much; about £9.50 I think. xx

 

[summer rain]

Here is the GRO (general records office) link

https://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/certificates/default.asp

Some areas have their own BMD sites run by the local council where you can order certificates as well, but most only go up to 2005 xx

 

[special_kala]

Thank you SR

 

[cherryglitter]

hope you're doing okay hun. xxxxx

 

[mummy_ellie09]

for you Kala. Sorry you're going through this. I don't remember many details from mine, other than I got legal aid. If you get Income Support, you should get legal aid too xx

 

[summer rain]

BTW my friend got her divorce on the unreasonable behaviour grounds even though it was amicable between her and her ex-OH; she only had to write a small paragraph not even filling the box on the form and they accept it; examples of unreasonable behaviour include things like chatting to other women/men online and not coming home when they said they will; really it doesn't have to be anything major but its just box-ticking really as there is no truly 'no fault' divorce in this country as there is elsewhere xx

 

[tina_h75]

I am divorcing my husband because of his adultery. I will get legal aid but he said he is not having a solicitor. I really want to file the divorce against both of them and have her named as co-respondent but he is refusing to name her. I don't see why she gets away with it when she is as much to blame as he is.

 

[Snowball]

I am divorcing my husband because of his adultery. I will get legal aid but he said he is not having a solicitor. I really want to file the divorce against both of them and have her named as co-respondent but he is refusing to name her. I don't see why she gets away with it when she is as much to blame as he is.

Mine did the same hun. Didn't want his unattractive tart to be named as an easy slapper (god forbid how that would have made her feel, poor love )

I don't know the ins and outs Kala. If you aren't working then you should get legal aid which makes things a lot easier. If he's not willing to agree to unreasonable behaviour that will drag things out though. Ben is refusing to agree to the fact that he (and his mother) worked together to try and force me to abort Louie... Even though I have evidence in abundance. It does make me laugh... they do all this crap but they can't bare with the idea of it written down

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