messymommy
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Andrea- Yes, I believe you can love another just as much as your first. For a long time that same fear held me back from even thinking about having more kids. I now wish we wouldn't have waited after Gage was born and we will not wait after the next child. Our pastor said something once in a service about this very thing with loving another as much. He said he had that fear after his daughter was born and his wife was pregnant again with their son. He feared he wouldn't love the boy as much because he didn't know where the love would come from since he loved his daughter already with all of his heart. When his son was born he says his heart didn't divide to share the love taking from his daughter to give to the boy but his heart doubled in side to love them both equally. Beautiful words to my heart!
Sara- I understand your situation. We talked the last time we were in AR and decided for sure we will be moving there when our house sells. On the drive home we talked about how life will be a total new beginning for us there as only 2 people in the whole state know us. We could do new things and live however we wish. We talked about expanding the family as I'd always "needed" to having another baby. We decided on 2 more babies. Our son is 9 and Kayla 19 at the time. I went off of b/c which I was on for 6mos only just because he kept talking about his retirement plan and such and it didn't include more kids and I tried to play along. 2-3 weeks before Christmas the call came in from Kayla asking to talk to me alone. I feared the worst but and my heart did sink when she said she took a HPT and it's got 2 lines on it. It was hard for me to hold it together on the phone with her but when I got off the line I broke down and the DH freaked out! Royally FREAKED out. He said nasty things to me that we were not having more kids, I was nuts to think we could do it all again, he's too old, we're going to be grandparents it's not appropriate, to the worst point where I asked what if I'm already pregnant since in September we talked and I stopped taking my pills. He said he'd leave me & send the child support check he guessed! Disgusting!!! I said I wanted a divorce after this went on through the later part of January. He didn't believe me till he saw job applications on the table and saw the computer history where I was searching for a place to live. THEN, he changed his tune. He wanted to go to theropy together, really reached out to the church, and then talked privately with a pastor he found at one of his stops on his trucking route. I guess the guy asked him some questions that made him realise what he truly wanted. He called me one night late and told me all these things about talking with this truck stop pastor, which I found insane!, and said he was asked what makes him happy. He answered his wife and kids. He asked what the wife wanted and he said I wanted the happy home and more children in the yard. He then asked him how happy his life would be without his wife and children in his life constantly. I think that's where he changed his mind for real. He said he wanted the little house with the white fence and children playing in the yard. HE wanted the job of getting all the leaves out for the table on holidays just to fit all the family around it for a meal. He wanted to be in a rocking chair with gray hair next to me and covered in grandbabies. It still brings tears to my eyes.
Sara- I understand your situation. We talked the last time we were in AR and decided for sure we will be moving there when our house sells. On the drive home we talked about how life will be a total new beginning for us there as only 2 people in the whole state know us. We could do new things and live however we wish. We talked about expanding the family as I'd always "needed" to having another baby. We decided on 2 more babies. Our son is 9 and Kayla 19 at the time. I went off of b/c which I was on for 6mos only just because he kept talking about his retirement plan and such and it didn't include more kids and I tried to play along. 2-3 weeks before Christmas the call came in from Kayla asking to talk to me alone. I feared the worst but and my heart did sink when she said she took a HPT and it's got 2 lines on it. It was hard for me to hold it together on the phone with her but when I got off the line I broke down and the DH freaked out! Royally FREAKED out. He said nasty things to me that we were not having more kids, I was nuts to think we could do it all again, he's too old, we're going to be grandparents it's not appropriate, to the worst point where I asked what if I'm already pregnant since in September we talked and I stopped taking my pills. He said he'd leave me & send the child support check he guessed! Disgusting!!! I said I wanted a divorce after this went on through the later part of January. He didn't believe me till he saw job applications on the table and saw the computer history where I was searching for a place to live. THEN, he changed his tune. He wanted to go to theropy together, really reached out to the church, and then talked privately with a pastor he found at one of his stops on his trucking route. I guess the guy asked him some questions that made him realise what he truly wanted. He called me one night late and told me all these things about talking with this truck stop pastor, which I found insane!, and said he was asked what makes him happy. He answered his wife and kids. He asked what the wife wanted and he said I wanted the happy home and more children in the yard. He then asked him how happy his life would be without his wife and children in his life constantly. I think that's where he changed his mind for real. He said he wanted the little house with the white fence and children playing in the yard. HE wanted the job of getting all the leaves out for the table on holidays just to fit all the family around it for a meal. He wanted to be in a rocking chair with gray hair next to me and covered in grandbabies. It still brings tears to my eyes.
wooo haha xxx
chin up hun 
commence!! 
charts not looking good. Think my hormones are majoraly out of wack. Started to get very low cramps which I got last month before spotting and then AF started. Last month I was excited cause I thought it was too early for AF but now I know. Fingers crossed I hope wrong but don't think I am. 
