Chele, I have two things for you on opposite sides of the field here:
1.) So.... who cares if you DO decide to find out?? The whole idea of being 'team ____' is for the FUN.... so if it turns out that waiting is too stressful, then don't worry about it!! Find out! Do whatever will be more fun for you... this is not about a test of wills, mama.
However:
2.) What's stressing you out? You said you're stressed about the sex... but there's really nothing to stress about..... you can be perfectly prepared for baby without knowing the sex, and you can do nursery decorating and shopping for gender-specific cute stuff later after babe is born. As long as you've got a few cute sleepers/onesies, the baby necessities (Which aren't often gender specific anyway) and a place for baby to sleep, you're good. You won't even use your nursery at first, baby will sleep in your room.
So.... whatcha' stressin about?
Thanks Hun,
Ok so 1) I have always been really adamant that it annoys me when people find out. I loved the not knowing with Max and know deep deep down how disappointed I'd be in myself that i gave into that temptation.
2) I'm not stressed at all about the organisational aspect, it's a doddle I think, just the same as it was first time.
It's just..........I want a girl
Before I got pregnant with Max I wanted a girl, then when I was pregnant I had a feeling he was a boy, and got used to the idea he was a boy and in the end wanted a boy, but always to follow him with a girl. I love him to bits and love having a boy, don't get me wrong. But it's my long term desire to have a girl. I have a very close relationship with my mum and it's something I want with my own daughter. Yes you can be close to your son but there is something about a mother/daughter bond that I long for. I want to be the mother of the bride, not the mother in law.
I know the true answer for me is that I need to stay team yellow. Once he's born, I'll love him no matter what. I have to admit I know that I will have a split second of disappointment, but once he is in my arms, I am pretty sure my love will flood and I won't mind. And therefore if I do find out now and it is a boy, I'll have four months of that disappointment in my mind. Sounds awful and I hate myself for thinking it.
No one I know with a girl longs desperately for a boy, knowing they wouldn't be complete without one. It's always the other way round.
But should I find out now to get my head round it? I secretly hope my patience will pay off and ill be rewarded with a girl, but do i deserve one for thinking like I do?!
I think it also doesn't help that there is a massive chance it'll be a boy anyway. In DH's family there are NO girls. DHs dad is one of 4 boys, DHs uncle has had two boys, DH has a brother, DHs cousin had a boy, DHs other cousin had two boys. Plus time of conception means there's a greater chance it's a boy anyway.
But the funny thing about all this is that I only see my family as me, DH and two boys. Maybe I just can see into the future???!!
. We don't get much choice in colours here anyway
surprise when the baby is born, without feeling any guilty disappointment - if you know what I mean.
As for car seats, we went for a maxi cosi cabriofix in brown & cream last time (to fit a quinny buzz 4 in raccoon brown). Loads of people commented on how nice is was that it wasn't black 
