Wishing, wanting, waiting.....TTC for a year PLUS!

Merry Christmas to you, too Lucky! and everyone else!

Awww, Julia. Sorry about dh. It is hard to dtd so many days in a row isn't it? We are always so busy and coming home late and when I get sleepy I have to go to sleep.

I am feeling crampy like I always do before af now and my bb's are so tender I can't stand for anything to touch them, but this happens every month. I think I have gotten my hopes up for nothing. :(
 
well DH fell asleep last night and I was so pissed!!!!
but now I am just going to say whatever and just wait for next cycle to go to the RE. I will not postpone this appointment again because he is nervous to do the SA, because now I am just annoyed. Every cycle I try to get him to dtd every day for at least 3-4 days straight right through the fertile period and he can never ever handle it. I can hardly handle it but I want a baby so bad.

He better try and come home for lunch today or else!!!! :haha:

I hope dtd 3 times does the trick.......

arghhhhhh I HATE forcing dh to do it every day in a row for whole fertile period + a few days before/after. By the second or third night it's like I have to nag him until bed time and force him in there!!!! I told him I was tired of it-that it's no fun for me either every day in a row FACE DOWN BUTT UP (Dr's orders) getting all dried out and sore when at least he can eh, hem.."enjoy" it still every time without a "friend"! (even the friend had a tough job by the end of this last week).

My dh was a champ this time-I guess knowing it was our last ttc cycle and that we missed the egg last month dtd only when he "wanted" to. BUT I have had to put up with that crap for two year! Jaimie & I were laughing at how some times, over the years, we've gotten in fights with our dh during fertile time but we are still like "I hope they still do me!" even we might be fuming mad!!!!!!!
 
OMG Titi!!! Ahahaha....I feel the same way! I will get so mad at him but I will bite my tonuge until after my fertile period so we still dtd! :rofl:

TOO FUNNY!!!!

It is so frustrating to try and dtd every single day during the fertile period....its exhausting and at the end of the month, its usually disappointing :(

Have you dtd alot this time during your fertile period???


bbdreams, you just never know if you are really pg or not wihtout taking a test. I had sore boobs and af cramps when I was due for af in May when I was already pg. Still trying to hold out hope for you!!!

FX'd!!!
 
titi are you sure you're not doing smep in secret!?!? lol.

i saw the acu lady today. love her. she said to take this cycle to bond with dh, as i wont really know when to start doing opks and it'll stress me out. and bond we shall. every other day. lol. going to try to focus on him rather than babies though, as that's what i did on my last cycle and it worked. so, i may not be around here as much, at least til the witch shows in over a months time, then i'll be back on the ttc crazy train...... will still be on fb though. love you.xxxxxx
 
xxooxxoo I understand Honeybee! I take my little breaks from time to time and they do help. I actually consider taking one when and if I get my bfp soon. I was thinking of keeping it a complete secret from the entire world when it happens 'just in case' ya know? Afraid to jinx it.

As of the beginning of January I may take a short break to recoup my thoughts, go to the RE and we have an appointment with the adoption agency January 19th for information, and training starts Januray 25th. So come the New Year, I was thinking of a mental health break for a few months....Lets hope I can stay away and not check in and stress myself out.

I think the idea of bonding with dh is lovely......every other day? Are you sure YOU ARE not doing SMEP?......lol If I remember correctly, I 'think' I got my first period after mc 5 weeks after D&C.....not sure though.

Enjoy your bonding time with your man!!! :winkwink:


So I had a 45 minute conversation with Amy from the adoption agency and I had a good cry. I explained how I DO NOT want foster care just adoption only. I dont want to get used to a child to have it taken away by its crazy parents or relatives. I want a child thats MY son or daughter, and will always BE my son or daughter. Does that sound selfish?
This adoption stuff is very emotional for me right now as we are still ttc. I wonder if we stop ttc if the adoption process would be easier? Or if we keep ttc, going for adoption after failing ttc will give us more determination?
 
haha for a crazy moment i did consider it, as i read somewhere it has a high sucess rate after loss! lol. going to aim to dtd every other night if we can.

that's interesting re adoption vs ttc. I really think it depends on what you want most. I couldnt foster either, would be really hard. well, maybe i could when i have all my babies, but not right now.

im going now. shout at me if you see me in here! see you on fb.xxx
 
wow titi!!!! 5 days in a row!!!!!! holy canoli!!!

Listen-I want to act like I'm all sexy and cool but five days of sex in a row, after 10 years together......for ttc purpose only was one of the hardest feats in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here is the scenerio (tmi warning):

8am (me): "Good morning sweetie.........BTW fertility monitor says "still fertile and I have EWCM! It's on again today!"
(dh): "oh boy!" (sarcastically)

noon (me)....."so..........still have ewcm..........................."
(dh)......"uh huh".......................

6pm (me)......"So are you feeling sexy yet? Remember I AM NOT BEGGING YOU FOR TTC SEX THIS CYCLE!!!"
(dh).."Of course-I was just thinking if we wait til you go to bed it will be better b/c you will stay down for the night and maybe that will help"....

9pm (me) "so help me GOD if you make us miss another ttc BD! You know we missed ov completely last month b/c of you!"
(dh) "Are you ready? B/c I'm just waiting for when you go to bed?"

9:30 (me) "okay, I'm going to bed" (gets ready-dh starts methodically laying out a towel on the bed, getting the pre-seed, the "friend" etc)............
9:40 (dh) "Assume the position!"
(me) "PLEASE don't make me do that again! ARGH can't we just missionary or something? One time? Pretty please?
(dh) (while simultaneously squirting non-sperm killing spermicide all over me in the most unsexy way possible)..........."Nope....Doctor's orders......Face down, ass up!!!"

(no bum chicka bow bow soundtrick here...........play noises of me grunting in a cross of pain and trying to sound sexy while we immediately have foreplayless sex for the fifth night in a row)


Sorry for tmi girls-just hoping to cheer you up if anyone can relate to the torture of what is LTTTC babymaking DTD...............

BTW Honeybee-I was thinking we might as well be smepping this cycle! Do you remember when my DH coined the term "speed smep" because it was so miserable? For anyone who hadn't heard-our LAST bd session of the fertile period during the SMEP routine I was like "oh just please get it over with!" and DH was literally saying "speed smep, speed smep" while dtd.
 
oh my gosh titi!!! You are hysterical!!! ahahahaha :rofl:

You DID put a smile on my face!!!!

Honeybee, enjoy your break and come back with a bfp!!!!
 
oh Em-I'm glad you mentioned you'll still be on FB-I will miss you too much a whole cycle or more!!! oh no-just finished this sentence and saw you may be taking a break Jules! hope we can still keep up on fb/email, etc.

I don't blame anyone for wanting a break. I take them here and there and sometimes plan on never coming back but I just can't-I miss everyone too much. But I did tell dh today that I hate pregnancy tickers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jules-I agree about foster care. It's not for me..with not even getting my own baby or child, how could I then form attachments to other children just to give them up????? How much pain am I supposed to endure???
I am anxious to hear about your conversation though as I've not yet taken the next step to talking to anyone.

As for whether you should stop ttc-I remember reading in a thread that in order to adopt some agencies require you are not ttc b/c so many people start adoption process-get a child hopeful and then conceive miraculously on their own and then don't want to adopt anymore. I don't remember though if that was here or overseas.

If I had chosen a child no way would I back out just if I was blessed with our own baby! Sometimes I get a feeling like we aren't meant to have our own baby until we save someone else's-crazy but true.

I guess I'll be in the category of NTNP once we are adopting-only b/c if this cycle isn't sucessful-which at 9dpo it's not feeling like it is-we HAVE to give it up and turn it over.

:hugs:
 
oh my gosh titi!!! You are hysterical!!! ahahahaha :rofl:

You DID put a smile on my face!!!!

Honeybee, enjoy your break and come back with a bfp!!!!

ha ha then it's worth it....I'm so jealous of washing machine ttc! we only have good "ttc" the first night of the cycle.....then it drastically goes downhill from there!!!

Honey-Lots of love, will miss you on here but will keep in touch other ways!!!!!:hugs::hugs:
 
First of all.... You can turn off viewing siggys if you want! It's a setting somewhere in your UserCP page. Maybe that will make it easier for those that don't like the preggo tickers and such?

second.... WTF to a bunch of spotting today on CD16. If I've already O'd there's zero chance for me this cycle. Wanna know why? Well, I jumped on OH last night and he was literally like trying to avoid me. Turns out he had "helped himself" in the shower earlier!! I was soooooo pissed I nearly cried. I asked him why he did that when he knows he shouldn't be doing that any time other than during my period. He said "I dunno but you usually don't want to do it on Mondays". WTF!


STUPID MEN! I tell you what.
 
Oh Sara-I just posted in my journal to this. What is wrong with our husbands that makes them sooooooooooo dumb during ttc???????? See my post....I'm sorry hun-but you aren't alone!
 
Titi- that was hillarious. Love the dialogue... so sad, but true.
 
Oh my, so much to reply to. I'll start with the fun stuff, first.

Shoes. I have an obsession with them. Not really shoes in particular, but boots. I hate when my feet are cold in winter and have been doing some serious boot investing over the past couple of years. I don't just want my feet to be cute, but I want them to be comfortable. Which means, I've spent a lot of $ on high quality shoes. I'm a Zappos addict. If you haven't checked them out, try it. They usually ship overnight (and for free). La Cannadienne are my absolute favorite brand. They are not only cute and warm, but waterproof! I'm actually thinking about selling my Uggs at the consignment shop, though. They are so warm and comfy, but mine have laces on the sides that make them very hard to get on and off. It takes me 10 minutes to put them on, and then my hubby usually needs to pull them off. So, I was looking for some slip on Uggs, but have been spending so much money lately on shoes that I picked up a pair of Bear Paws, instead. They are basically Ugg knock-offs, but still warm and cozy with the shearling lining and got good reviews.

Last time I signed on I was telling you how I thought I was PG and had a plan to tell DH. Well, my plan involved shoes. We got into a fight recently because I went out to get some winter boots (the Bear Paws) and came home w/ 3 pairs of shoes. They were buy one get one half off and the others were on clearance, so I didn't spend a lot, but DH just saw 3 pairs instead of 1 and was like WTF? He is very frugal, and I'm not. Anyway, I thought I was pg, so after the big fight the plan was, I was going to tell him I just had to get one more pair of shoes and then show him the bag and inside would be a pair of baby shoes. That was the plan, but sadly I had nothing to announce. In my crying fit I told DH I thought I was pg and even had a way to announce it, but didn't tell him what it was, so maybe will still get to use it someday.:haha:

Wow, I'm randomly blabbing and haven't even gotten to my replies, yet...saw the Ugg convo and got all excited.

Regarding adoption, my OB actually said she had a friend who was having trouble TTC and had a baby ready to adopt when she got PG and then decided not to take the baby. :growlmad: So, I guess that does happen a lot. I would still take the baby, though. I don't know if it's just that we've been having a hard time TTC, but I feel like maybe we're meant to adopt? I would like to be pregnant at least once, but I feel like we're going to adopt, either way. Not right now (I'm not ready to go through the process), but in a year or two if no baby of our own, and in our 40's when we're all settled in, I'd like to adopt at least 1 or 2 more. I don't know why I have that feeling. Is it weird?

Titi, you seriously crack me up!!!!!!!!!!! Someday I want to write a book about TTC...except I think I need to hire you for input. It's almost like you were looking in on my day/sad bedroom experience. :haha: Seriously, that totally cheered me up. Love the stories about your furbaby, too!

Squirrel, we've all been there, but the "you usually don't want to on Mondays" kind of made me laugh. :haha: I second the being thankful for what we DO have! Love it. Also, how is furbaby Jack?

Ejay That is the cutest little puppy ever!!

Lucky Merry x-mas to you, too! I was just thinking about you the other day...I can't believe you're so far along already! I was thinking "maybe some of LuckyD's luck will rub off on me in 2011?"

Tryfor - Thank you for your words of encouragement. :friends: Also, just have to echo the others that I'm so envious of the washing machine BD! My personal favorite is couch BDing with me on top. :blush:

Honey - I'll try to be on here more. It's been harder with my new job to sneak on BnB while I'm working at home and that's when I always got my best BnB time in (or when I'm procrastinating from my thesis, which I haven't worked on in a while). I met DH at the casino! Well, I was there with a friend for her b-day and he met up with us for a little while because he was friends with her then BF (who is now her husband).

The story of how we met: Kind of a random story how I met DH, actually. I guess I'll give the long version. So, I had recently moved back home and got a new job. Most of my friends had moved away, and the one that was left I stupidly started dating. Except, it turned out to be the best thing ever. I was thinking about our relationship one night and got this feeling like "there is someone else meant for me." So, I made a list of the perfect guy I was thinking of (his attributes and such...not really appearance, but personality) and broke up with my BF. The next weekend, it was my coworker's b-day. We had been friendly at work, but I still didn't know her all that well. Randomly at a work event I asked what she was up to that weekend and she said that it was her b-day and she was celebrating at the casino, then she asked what I was doing (probably just to be polite). My reply went something like "well, I just broke up with my BF, and my friends all moved away, so...nothing." Sounds like a sob story, but I was joking when I said it. :haha: Her reply was, "why don't you come to the casino with me?" And that is the night I met Joe. We didn't talk much that first night (we met up with him for a total of 5 minutes), but just had a feeling. When I saw him the next night, I pretty much knew he was the guy from my list, even though I didn't want to get my hopes up. Now, the coworker and I are very good friends and she and her husband were in our wedding, and Joe and I were in theirs. The end. :haha:
 
P.S. Usually when asked how I met DH, I give the abridged version, which is either "at the casino" or "through a mutual friend." I'm not sure if I've ever told anyone the full story besides my sis.
 
P.S.S. DH once told me that right after we met he said to a close friend "I think I'm going to marry that girl." And he had never thought about getting married before. I really believe that everything happens for a reason. Even having a hard time TTC happens for a reason.
 
Hey everyone! :hi: I am super duper busy and wil reply to all the posts in a bit. But before I go I am wondering how Soph is doing? She is 17dpo and her temps from ast week are high but with no update.........I am getting excited!!!

Soph, if you can here me........checking to see if you have gotten a christmas miracle?!
 
Hi everyone

Titi - well!! love the TTC marathon, how true it is

Honey - take care hun, see you when you are ready xx

Myturn - I too believe that things happen for a reason, I just really want to know why TTC is so tough.

SOPH - where are you? any news
 
forgot to say, looks like I am out again this month, having had no spotting yet this cycle, I now have a bit today. have been really grumpy too. January brings our next visit to the doctors and hopefully finally our referal to a FS or at least some more tests
 

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