Wishing, wanting, waiting.....TTC for a year PLUS!

[Moondance]

Yuk. AF reared her ugly head yesterday. I didn't realise and after several hours wound up with bloody jeans and a bloody couch where it had soaked through my jeans... Crap!!!

I haven't been temping or any of that stuff in awhile, have just been trying to relax about it.
But AF shows up, I go into my last chart and count backwards 13 days, as my luteal phase is 13 days - I then discover that my partner and I had near to PERFECT timing, we BD'd the day before O and the day of O. And still nothing.
Everyone keeps blaming my partner saying it would be because he's "old", as he's older than me, but does motility really decline as men age?


ETA: after speaking to my partner, we looked through my past cycles and found a bunch of times we've hit the nail right on the head with timing but yet nothing has happened. He's offered to go get a sperm evaluation...

 

[Moondance]

DP's doctor says he has "average sperm count for his age and 50/50 chance of getting me pregnant"

 

[Ejay]

Hiya Moon, glad OH's sperm count came back good.

We have had all the tests done and so far remain unexplained!! which is super frustrating

 

[Moondance]

Average and 50/50 chance is GOOD???
He's been saying its bad...

 

[wantingagirl]

yep 'unexplained fertility' sucks no matter what we do perfect bedding etc and still nothing for us Glad the count came back good tho xx

 

[paula181]

Can i join in please?

I have been trying for over a year

xx

 

[Moondance]

Join away Paula!!! We're always happy to have more!

Many of the original girls from here finally got preggers, so this thread isn't the most hugely active thread going, but its a good place for support.

Right now, I am scared.
My cycles were getting back to normal, and then this last cycle, they went for over 40 days. AF stuck around, rather heavily for 8 and a half days, before finally going away and now its CD15 and today I found I had thick, green mucus coming out of me. I've had a persistent headache for 10 days straight now, and I've been feeling sick a lot, like I want to throw up and my stomach has felt really weird. Its really bothering me. Also for the past week I've been especially moody, quick to fly into a rage over the tiniest thing, but also quick to start crying over any tiny thing. I don't usually get like this until after I've ovulated, and not usually until the week before AF is due. So, this behaviour and all this stuff is just not right for me. I know my body and mindset and emotional tract well enough now to know, this isn't normal... But.... I am running clueless as to what it could be.
Haven't been able to get to my doctors as I have no car. Really wish I knew what was going on, but the tummy cramping and green sludge are making me worried.


ETA: Trip to the doctor confirmed bacterial vaginosis. I was put on a course of antibiotics for 10 days.
Its now day 10 of that antibiotics, but there is still thick discharge with flecks of blood in it. Not sure what the go is. Not very happy.

 

[Moondance]

This thread just about died in the arse didn't it.
Where did everybody go???

No posts since September!

 

[Titi]

Hey Moondance-well, pretty much everyone is knocked up now, I guess...........and I think those of us that are still ttc #1 for like 3 years have too hard a time coming in bnb much...........lots of dust to you!!!

 

[tryforbaby2]

Good Luck and loads of dust and well wishes to everyone!

I'm going to ask for my gals to get their bfp's. Thats going to be my christmas wish!

 

[Titi]

Thanks!!! I miss this thread!!

How are you doing anyhows Julia? Is it overwhelming joy or crazy at the moment? I can't imagine two!!!!!!!!!!!! : )

 

[tryforbaby2]

Its overwhelmling for sure, but I know this is my gift from above and I must be wise with my gifts. I don't want to seem ungrateful by complaining of exhaustion.

This thread sure was fun but I totally understand not wanting to come on bnb much. For several months last year I didnt come on.

Where are you at now in your ttc journey?....

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

Squirrely and Titi both have crazy news but I won't ruin the fun by posting on their behalves. Let's just say their journals have been really interesting, and the next two weeks will be even MORE interesting!

 

[tryforbaby2]

Ohhhhh youre killing me with suspense!!!!!!!

 

[Titi]

Ha Ha....I'm going to keep you in suspense just a little longer til I have more details~!

 

[soph77]

Yay for secret news, but I know what it is!!!

 

[Moondance]

I am absolutely gutted like you would not believe....

My best friend (who is my brothers girlfriend) just came and told me she found out today that she is pregnant.
By ACCIDENT. She's been on the pill and managed to get knocked up.

And here I am, 2 years in, still not managing to pull it off. I'm back to seeing a specialist in the new year. Had an ultrasound done and blood tests to check my hormones.

She's all confused and doesn't know what to do. They've been together just on a year now and she's pregnant and his first thought was to abort it.

I'm just too hurt and confused and upset and I can't even cry.

 

[Moondance]

My partner doesn't understand why I'm so upset by the fact that she's pregnant...

She's 18, pregnant by accident with a baby she doesn't want, to a guy who doesn't want a baby and who treats her like crap, a guy who is a pretty poor dad as he has no idea about discipline and lets his kids treat her like crap and when she tries to discipline the kids, he has a go at her....

I'm jealous as hell, it feels like the world is going against me saying "hey look, I can make every single person on the planet EXCEPT YOU be pregnant, even people on contraceptives, hahahahaha, coz you suck, so everyone else can get pregnant and not you"

And I know its not about me, but it just hurts.
Especially knowing they managed to get pregnant and neither of them want a kid. And my partner and I have been trying for 2 years and nothing. Like a kick in the teeth.

I'm trying to be supportive, because she's so lost and confused and doesn't know what the hell to do..... but at the same time, I'm finding it hard. It hurts....

Does that make sense?

 

[Titi]

awww hun I know exactly how this feels. My brother has knocked up TWO girls since I've gotten married-he already has an 11 year old daughter he doesn't support and the last girl was a heroin addict and went to jail for six months after having baby.......it pretty much ripped dh's and my hearts out......and made me question and yell at the universe/God, etc.....how bad of mother do you think I'd be if this is what you let happen?

Next month is year four for me. You have no idea how many pregnancies I have had to watch from the side in this time. People have already had SECOND babies that started TTC after us........it's another painful part of this journey-and I completely understand how hard it is to be supportive. It's nice you are even trying. I wasn't able to be supportive of my brother at all the last time.....but for good reason-neither one them could or did end up taking care of that child-if you know that-wrap it up!!!

 

[tryforbaby2]

I am sorry Moon


Titi, I just adore you