Marie000
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This is my first pregnancy, and most likely my last. I still don't know the sex of the baby.
I'm ok with having just one child. Two would be nice, but my OH is dead set against it (he already has a son from a previous relationship). I've always imagined that I would have one child, and in my mind, it was always a girl.
The thing is, I'm not a girly girl at all. I also don't believe in strict gender roles. Boy or girl, I will teach my child to be kind and sensitive, we will play in the mud, learn about nature and science, learn to draw and do crafts, etc. I also don't plan to have much gender-specific baby things. I really hate how almost all children's products now are gender specific, especially toys. The whole 'princess' thing seems depressing to me. This is really, really not what I would want for my daughter.
So why do I want a girl? I'm not quite sure.
Maybe it's because I've never had a sister and always wanted one.
Maybe it's because I want to have the pride to have a strong, intelligent young daughter. I wouldn't be against girly interests, but I would love the chance to share other things too.
Or maybe I'm afraid that passed a certain age, a son would not look up to me anymore. He'll have a dad who will teach him all sorts of cool things (role-playing games, video games, science fiction...) and I will just be the one to feed him and clean up after him.
I'm also worried that his dad will not encourage a boy to be sensitive. On the other hand, I know he would be fine teaching his daughter to play in the mud and build things out of legos.
OH really wants a son. He's scared of ever having a teenage daughter who will date idiots (and all teenage sons are idiots, according to him). I think it's unfair... why be so worried about that with a girl and not about a boy?
Strange thing is, I have a nephew and a niece. I've always been much closer to my nephew. My nephew and I got along right away and always played together. Some of my best memories in life involve playing with him when h was little. Now that he's older (8), we're not as close. Then again, I've always had a harder time bonding with older kids, boys or girls.
So where does all that rambling leave me? I'm not sure. Rationally, it sounds like I would be fine with either a boy or a girl. But I'm still hoping for a girl, as I always imagined would happen. I'm so scared to be disappointed if it's a boy.
I'm also worried that my OH will be disappointed if we have a girl.
I guess there's not much to do now but wait and see (another month until the 20 week scan)
I'm ok with having just one child. Two would be nice, but my OH is dead set against it (he already has a son from a previous relationship). I've always imagined that I would have one child, and in my mind, it was always a girl.
The thing is, I'm not a girly girl at all. I also don't believe in strict gender roles. Boy or girl, I will teach my child to be kind and sensitive, we will play in the mud, learn about nature and science, learn to draw and do crafts, etc. I also don't plan to have much gender-specific baby things. I really hate how almost all children's products now are gender specific, especially toys. The whole 'princess' thing seems depressing to me. This is really, really not what I would want for my daughter.
So why do I want a girl? I'm not quite sure.
Maybe it's because I've never had a sister and always wanted one.
Maybe it's because I want to have the pride to have a strong, intelligent young daughter. I wouldn't be against girly interests, but I would love the chance to share other things too.
Or maybe I'm afraid that passed a certain age, a son would not look up to me anymore. He'll have a dad who will teach him all sorts of cool things (role-playing games, video games, science fiction...) and I will just be the one to feed him and clean up after him.
I'm also worried that his dad will not encourage a boy to be sensitive. On the other hand, I know he would be fine teaching his daughter to play in the mud and build things out of legos.
OH really wants a son. He's scared of ever having a teenage daughter who will date idiots (and all teenage sons are idiots, according to him). I think it's unfair... why be so worried about that with a girl and not about a boy?
Strange thing is, I have a nephew and a niece. I've always been much closer to my nephew. My nephew and I got along right away and always played together. Some of my best memories in life involve playing with him when h was little. Now that he's older (8), we're not as close. Then again, I've always had a harder time bonding with older kids, boys or girls.
So where does all that rambling leave me? I'm not sure. Rationally, it sounds like I would be fine with either a boy or a girl. But I'm still hoping for a girl, as I always imagined would happen. I'm so scared to be disappointed if it's a boy.
I'm also worried that my OH will be disappointed if we have a girl.
I guess there's not much to do now but wait and see (another month until the 20 week scan)