DocMcStuffins
Cautiously expecting #3
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Hi,
I'm new here so i'll introduce myself. I'm a very very proud mummy to 2 gorgeous girls. My eldest is 3 years old and my youngest is 21 months. I've been with my oh for 11 years and married for 6 years.
I only ever wanted 2 children, and 2 girls so I'm extremely lucky in that my dreams came true and I got all I ever wanted. My oh however has always been very open that he'd like 3 children. Not to get a boy as he would happily have another girl, but he just said he always imagined us having 3 children.
I'm not totally opposed to it and would love to go through all the excitement of trying, the pregnancy, having a newborn in the house again. BUT then my practical head kicks in and I think about how we're at such a great place with the girls now, they both sleep well, they're at that age where they play wonderfully together and I'm just loving every minute.
Our house would be big enough for one more, we have a spare bedroom, but we would need to change both our cars in order to accommodate 3 car seats. Both me and oh work full time, well i work in a school so i work full time but term time only so i get all school holidays off. this means both girls currently go to nursery 2 days a week, 2 days a week my mil has them, and the other day my oh works from home to have them. As my eldest is 3 we no longer pay for her childcare (15 hours a week free), so that cost has drastically reduced. She will be starting school in September and then it won't be long after that that my youngest will turn 3 and we won't have any childcare costs for her either which will be really nice. If we had another baby we would be looking at another 3 years of childcare costs. Plus I love our family holidays abroad, I like the typical all inclusive package deals with kids clubs and lots for them to do. It's expensive seeing as we have to go during the summer holidays but if we had another the price would jump dramatically because all holidays are tailored to families of 4.
I don't know, I'm in turmoil as to what to do. One day I'm all set to tell my oh we can go for it, then the next I'm thinking about all the practical things and talking myself out of it.
So I guess I don't know if I'm wtt or not really. If we do then I don't want too big an age gap so would ideally need to start trying in the next few months.
So anyway, essay over! Nice to meet you all!
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I'm new here so i'll introduce myself. I'm a very very proud mummy to 2 gorgeous girls. My eldest is 3 years old and my youngest is 21 months. I've been with my oh for 11 years and married for 6 years.
I only ever wanted 2 children, and 2 girls so I'm extremely lucky in that my dreams came true and I got all I ever wanted. My oh however has always been very open that he'd like 3 children. Not to get a boy as he would happily have another girl, but he just said he always imagined us having 3 children.
I'm not totally opposed to it and would love to go through all the excitement of trying, the pregnancy, having a newborn in the house again. BUT then my practical head kicks in and I think about how we're at such a great place with the girls now, they both sleep well, they're at that age where they play wonderfully together and I'm just loving every minute.
Our house would be big enough for one more, we have a spare bedroom, but we would need to change both our cars in order to accommodate 3 car seats. Both me and oh work full time, well i work in a school so i work full time but term time only so i get all school holidays off. this means both girls currently go to nursery 2 days a week, 2 days a week my mil has them, and the other day my oh works from home to have them. As my eldest is 3 we no longer pay for her childcare (15 hours a week free), so that cost has drastically reduced. She will be starting school in September and then it won't be long after that that my youngest will turn 3 and we won't have any childcare costs for her either which will be really nice. If we had another baby we would be looking at another 3 years of childcare costs. Plus I love our family holidays abroad, I like the typical all inclusive package deals with kids clubs and lots for them to do. It's expensive seeing as we have to go during the summer holidays but if we had another the price would jump dramatically because all holidays are tailored to families of 4.
I don't know, I'm in turmoil as to what to do. One day I'm all set to tell my oh we can go for it, then the next I'm thinking about all the practical things and talking myself out of it.
So I guess I don't know if I'm wtt or not really. If we do then I don't want too big an age gap so would ideally need to start trying in the next few months.
So anyway, essay over! Nice to meet you all!
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