TheNewWife: Good luck!!!!
I know i said i probably wouldn't be around much but had a conversation this morning with my Grandma and some of the things she said quite upset me, we were talking about the fact that i was waiting for another scan on Tuesday to find out what is happening and she said: "Well if it is twins i feel sooooo sorry for Toby"
and said my Aunty (the same one who was negative when i told her we were expecting another) had said how quickly he would have to "grow up" once the new baby/babies were here. I said "No he wouldn't" and she said "Oh come on, he would, twins would take 100% of both of your attention"
I just changed the subject by saying "Well there's no point thinking about it right now because we're not even sure they're going to make it" I hate confrontation, and she is generally very supportive and we have a good relationship but she has absolutely no qualms saying exactly what she is thinking and on this occasion she has really upset me
We are here desperately hoping that both of them are going to still be there on the next scan, not knowing if i am going to end up having a MMC and she is already on about how we won't be able to manage and Tobias will be shoved to one side.
I know she's not right...but she's got me wondering now if people will think i am a terrible mother to Toby if i am pregnant with twins due before he turns 2
...obviously there was no way to plan for twins, and they don't run in the family and yes, the idea of 3 under the age of 2 was a shock but ever since we found out there were 2 little sacs we've been rooting for them both. I am sure we will cope...children are a blessing rather than a burden...right?!
I just think that saying she feels sorry for my son was a really horrible thing to say, i thought we were giving him a great gift by having a sibling close to him in age and that it was the right thing for our family now i feel that people think it's a terrible mistake, and what's worse is that if it doesn't work out and the scan on Tuesday is not good, i can just imagine her saying something awful like "Maybe it's for the best..." and then i
really won't be able to keep my mouth shut!