Hi HighHopes - try not to worry about the job. The stress of worrying is the last thing that you need in addition to the stress of IVF. If you do take the job offer, I probably wouldn't tell them that this was a planned pregnancy. Do you have the option of staying on in your current job? Would that provide you with better maternity benefits then if you switched to a new role. I'm not sure how it works with schools, but I know that with my old firm you had to be there for a minimum of 12 months before you could claim enhanced maternity pay. Before that, it was the minimum prescribed by the Government. I had a slightly similar dilemma myself at the end of last year. We relocated and I had to decide whether I wanted to take on a full time position at a new firm knowing that I was trying to get pregnant. In the end, I decided not to look for a new role, but to work on a temporary ad-hoc basis until we were successful. I felt that the stress of trying to prove myself in a new firm (with the inevitably long work hours that would involve) would be counter-productive to the IVF treatment. Touch wood, I've managed to take on a number of ad-hoc pieces of work so far this year, so we have not suffered financially. However, I appreciate that not everyone would be able to do it. Is the new role a promotion for you or are you currently a deputy head at your current school. If a promotion, do you think you will be under lots of stress taking this role on?
i reckon we will b starting ivf within a few weeks of each other! 
Can't believe this has only been detected now...
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