Your thoughts on nursery?

[louandivy]

I hate it when I answer a thread and then realise its like 6 months old

 

[BabyJayne]

River wont be going t nursery, she will just go to pre school when shes 3.

Unless they need to go into nursery because of work i dont really think its necessary. Children under 3 dont need interaction with other kids. They dont understand the concept of sharing etc and at best they will play at the same time but wont play together if that makes sense/

Madeline and a little girl at her nursery play together - they sit opposite each other with plastic rings in their hands and one of them drops one and the other picks it up, then vice versa. This goes on and on apparently. I know what you are saying though - and unless I had seen them doing it myself I probably wouldn't have believed it.

If I win the lottery this weekend I'll drop my three days a week at work (although Madeline is such a live wire at the moment this is where I get a break!).

 

[louandivy]

River wont be going t nursery, she will just go to pre school when shes 3.

Unless they need to go into nursery because of work i dont really think its necessary. Children under 3 dont need interaction with other kids. They dont understand the concept of sharing etc and at best they will play at the same time but wont play together if that makes sense/

Madeline and a little girl at her nursery play together - they sit opposite each other with plastic rings in their hands and one of them drops one and the other picks it up, then vice versa. This goes on and on apparently. I know what you are saying though - and unless I had seen them doing it myself I probably wouldn't have believed it.

If I win the lottery this weekend I'll drop my three days a week at work (although Madeline is such a live wire at the moment this is where I get a break!).

Ivy and her little friends definitely acknowledge each other too. Ivy looooves other babies. Yesterday her and her little friend Max spent about half an hour in the playground standing on either side of a gate and taking it in turns to shriek at each other

 

[Kimmy25]

i really dont see the point in having kids if your just planning to send them off to daycare all the time. sometimes its unavoidable but i did my work experience at a daycare and their were little babies there from 8am til 6pm. whats the point in having a kid?

what a downright insensitive and bitchy comment to make!

I think the general idea is to pay for a roof over my kids head, food in there tummys and clothes on there backs oh and the odd treat here and there!

I hate leaving them but the only other choice I have would be a life on benefits which is something I personally dont want..Sure id be home all day but we would have next to nothing and every taxpayer would be paying for my children!

I also want my kids to have a good work ethic and not just expect things to fall at there feet.

Now if only I could find myself a rich fella....

 

[Kimmy25]

River wont be going t nursery, she will just go to pre school when shes 3.

Unless they need to go into nursery because of work i dont really think its necessary. Children under 3 dont need interaction with other kids. They dont understand the concept of sharing etc and at best they will play at the same time but wont play together if that makes sense/

Madeline and a little girl at her nursery play together - they sit opposite each other with plastic rings in their hands and one of them drops one and the other picks it up, then vice versa. This goes on and on apparently. I know what you are saying though - and unless I had seen them doing it myself I probably wouldn't have believed it.

If I win the lottery this weekend I'll drop my three days a week at work (although Madeline is such a live wire at the moment this is where I get a break!).

Ivy and her little friends definitely acknowledge each other too. Ivy looooves other babies. Yesterday her and her little friend Max spent about half an hour in the playground standing on either side of a gate and taking it in turns to shriek at each other

my eldest made friends with a boy when he was a baby and there both 7 and still best friends!

 

[leelee]

River wont be going t nursery, she will just go to pre school when shes 3.

Unless they need to go into nursery because of work i dont really think its necessary. Children under 3 dont need interaction with other kids. They dont understand the concept of sharing etc and at best they will play at the same time but wont play together if that makes sense/

Madeline and a little girl at her nursery play together - they sit opposite each other with plastic rings in their hands and one of them drops one and the other picks it up, then vice versa. This goes on and on apparently. I know what you are saying though - and unless I had seen them doing it myself I probably wouldn't have believed it.

If I win the lottery this weekend I'll drop my three days a week at work (although Madeline is such a live wire at the moment this is where I get a break!).

Max and his friend interact with each other too. They shout hiya and each other and smile and giggle at each other.

I went to the ball pool at Christmas with my 2 friends and both of their 2 year olds interacted with each other (even sitting together for lunch at a small table) the whole time they were there.

I definitely believe in kids interacting with each other from a young age. Max was at baby groups with me from when he was 5 weeks old. At first it was for me to see other mothers, but now it is for him to see other babies.

 

[Lellow]

Another example here too:

Aymen has a little boy at nursery who is his friend, his name is Toby and whenever i take him [Toby is there first] he crawls over to Aymen and they sit and pass each other rattles/rings etc, Aymen shrieks at him, he does it back, its all very lovely
Then when i pick him up, Toby shrieks cos Aymen has to leave!

Speaking to Tobys mum, they are a month in age apart, they will be going to the same pre-school and primary school so there is potential for them to be mates for life

 

[mummyclo]

F won't be going till he is 3-4 either but only because i am staying at home, completely understand if people have to work though. On the other hand i know people who have put their LO's in nursery 2 days a week at 10 ish months to get some time to themselves!!

 

[xemmax]

Nursery would be like Oliver's idea of hell because annoyingy he is terrified of babies. What's that about?

 

[Janidog]

Even when I drop my hours to just 2 afternoons a week, Lo will still be going to nursery 3 afternoons a week. He loves going there and he has a couple of friends and plenty of girlfriends He would be bored if he spent all his time with me

 

[leelee]

F won't be going till he is 3-4 either but only because i am staying at home, completely understand if people have to work though. On the other hand i know people who have put their LO's in nursery 2 days a week at 10 ish months to get some time to themselves!!

My friend was saying she knew a woman who didn't work at all but put her baby into creche 5 days a week (8am-6pm) to get time to herself. Now I would defo question why that woman had a baby!

 

[LankyDoodle]

Children do develop social skills from the day they are born and will begin socialising with each other from very early on. That comes from professional knowledge, not just opinion by the way.

My little girl goes to nursery one day a week, soon to be 2 days. I think the person who said the comment about there being no point having kids if you plan to send them to daycare, is at best insensitive but generally a bit of a naive bitch! No one PLANS to send their child to daycare; for most of us it is necessity! Edd didn't start this thread for people to come along and shoot down people who send their children to nursery; she just wanted to know if it was needed and why/why not! Comments like yours are uncalled for. Mums and dads find it hard enough leaving their children and I am sure most of us would stay at home if it was at all possible. During the 3 months unpaid element of my mat leave, we went into an interest free card and were really struggling; that is us living quite frugally - one car, no holidays, neither of us smoke or drink, never go out etc. So to do that long term was not possible and whether I work or not, we are not entitled to any benefits AT ALL because my husband brings home about 1600 a month and we are told that makes us wealthy! AS IF! I would rather my daughter spent a couple of days a week at nursery and a couple of hours with her nanna, which she gets lots of enjoyment from anyway, than we were constantly worried about how we were going to feed ourselves, how we were going to pay the next bill, how we were going to pay off the debts we would undoubtedly acrue. Oh and we had savings when we started mat leave as well!

My daughter squeals with excitement when we arrive at nursery, but I leave her and cry all the way to work (only been back at work 7 weeks so still getting used to leaving her); and comments like that make me feel violent, which is saying something as it is totally out of my nature to be that way!!

My daughter has a fabulous bond with both parents. I studied child psychology and did a lengthy thesis about attachment theory (the basis of new fangly dangly AP). If I thought for one moment that my actions were affecting my child, I wouldn't do it!

 

[louandivy]

Nursery would be like Oliver's idea of hell because annoyingy he is terrified of babies. What's that about?

Oh no Ivy is going to terrify Oli when we meet next month! She likes to get all up in the other babies' grill and go BAAAAHHHHHHH.

 

[louandivy]

Children do develop social skills from the day they are born and will begin socialising with each other from very early on. That comes from professional knowledge, not just opinion by the way.

My little girl goes to nursery one day a week, soon to be 2 days. I think the person who said the comment about there being no point having kids if you plan to send them to daycare, is at best insensitive but generally a bit of a naive bitch! No one PLANS to send their child to daycare; for most of us it is necessity! Edd didn't start this thread for people to come along and shoot down people who send their children to nursery; she just wanted to know if it was needed and why/why not! Comments like yours are uncalled for. Mums and dads find it hard enough leaving their children and I am sure most of us would stay at home if it was at all possible. During the 3 months unpaid element of my mat leave, we went into an interest free card and were really struggling; that is us living quite frugally - one car, no holidays, neither of us smoke or drink, never go out etc. So to do that long term was not possible and whether I work or not, we are not entitled to any benefits AT ALL because my husband brings home about 1600 a month and we are told that makes us wealthy! AS IF! I would rather my daughter spent a couple of days a week at nursery and a couple of hours with her nanny, which she gets lots of enjoyment from anyway, than we were constantly worried about how we were going to feed ourselves, how we were going to pay the next bill, how we were going to pay off the debts we would undoubtedly acrue. Oh and we had savings when we started mat leave as well!

My daughter squeals with excitement when we arrive at nursery, but I leave her and cry all the way to work (only been back at work 7 weeks so still getting used to leaving her); and comments like that make me feel violent, which is sayin something as it is totally out of my nature to be that way!!

I think it is lovely that your daughter enjoys nursery so much, I think its really healthy for a child to be happy under the care of lots of different people If I could sort out Ivy's naps I would definitely consider it at least once a week, once they get a bit older it must be so much fun to be around friends all day!

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

You know what Lou, she might be completely different if you are not actually there, in a different environment. Ruby's childminder was telling me that parents often tell her that she will need to rock their child to sleep or push them in a pushchair etc, but she has found they go straight to sleep for her. (and she is totally no-cry etc.)

Not that I would personally send Ruby to childcare under age 3ish if I didn't have to, OMG the trauma of the settling in period! Having to leave a child clinging to you, crying and shaking was by a long way the worst experience of my life! (she was 11 months. It didn't last long but still.)

 

[LankyDoodle]

i really dont see the point in having kids if your just planning to send them off to daycare all the time. sometimes its unavoidable but i did my work experience at a daycare and their were little babies there from 8am til 6pm. whats the point in having a kid?

As part of the extensive and thorough studying and experience I have done with children, I have done work experience in nurseries, children's homes, social services, refuges (I work in the children's service at a refuge at the moment), hostels, youth projects, schools and on and on and on. I have seen children neglected, dirty, hungry, malnourished, unloved, trembling with fear, battered and bruised. THAT is when people should assess whether they should have children. Sending your child to nursery because you NEED to work in order to provide the care they have a right to receive, does NOT make you a bad person or a bad parent and does NOT mean there was no point in having children.

You need to think about the implications of what you say, before you actually say it.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I used to think that before I had kids, let me own up to that one! There is a nursery near me called 'Dawn to Dusk' and everytime I drove by it I used to think 'well why have kids then?'

Then, I had a kid with a man who doesn't earn very much money! And I revised my ignorant views accordingly!

 

[littlestar85]

I don't intend to send my LO until he's 3/4 i.e just before school and even then I only want him to go part-time. That's what my Mum did with me and my brother and it worked perfectly. x

 

[kerrie24]

I really think everyone has jumped on kittykatx unnecesarily,she did say that it was sometimes unavoidable,which is obviously if you need to go to work.Those are unavoidable circumstances,as you have to work to support your family.

I think what she meant was when the parents put the baby in nursery so they can just sit around while somebody else looks after them,and I totally agree with her on that.

My cousin used to work 2 days a week from her baby being a few weeks old,but then when she was off she still put him in nursery when she could have been spending time with him.
In my opinion that is a shame,missing important milestones etc.I live next to a nursery which offers free places and some children are there from 8 am till 6,they get all their meals there and get home more or less in time for bed.When do they see their parents?

 

[clara123]

My ex sil put my nephew into nursery full time when she didn't need to and even said it was a shame nurseries aren't open at weekends. She treated him like a burden. My lo starts nursery on Monday as I'm back at work. I'm really nervous but I need to work and he's going to the same nursery as my daughter did and she loved it. My son has been fine on our settling in sessions so fingers crossed he will quickly settle in and enjoy nursery x