Your thoughts on nursery?

[eddjanuary10]

I have a relative who keeps saying to me that ihsan will def be ready for nursery in a few months as he is very sociable/active/clever etc. I had never thought of putting him in a nursery until he was about 3 or 4 (as in the year before school) and people often look at me as if I am mad when I say this. Do people put their lo's in a nursery before then? i know some people have to because they have to work but otherwise? sorry if i sound daft but i have just never thought about it. I take him to gymboree class, bounce and rhyme and ducklings swim class, so he does mix with other babies etc. but nursery?

What do you all think?

 

[xUniquex]

personally none of our LO's will be going to nursery before 3/4 (usualy state nursery age)
this is because we don't like childcare in general and also would rather the kids could talk and tell us their day before we let anyone else look after them.

if your LO is being socialised at groups etc then i can't really see the need for nursery TBH!

It is also a myth that children who go to nursery develop faster than their non-nursery attending peers..it depends on what you do with your LO and also them personally..plus any gaina child MAY have evens out by the time they go to pre school

If you are happy as you are then continue that way! You know what is best for your baby!

 

[surprisemummy]

i was thinking about nursery as my friends who have babies are all putting theirs LO in. thne i thought why would a 10 month old need to go to nursery anyway :S he cant play with other children, he would just go there and play with an adult and sleep, exactly the same as he does at home but with me for free. i dont feel like i need a break so ive decided not to bother untill hes 3 when its free lol xx

 

[KiansMummy]

Im a nursery nurse and I personally dont think babies need to go to nursery its much better for them to be with mum and do what your doing, taking him to groups etc. But i think it is a good idea when they get to 3-4 so it prepares them for school. Although my LO will be going to nursery when i return to work in May, as id have no other childcare, but he is coming to the same nursery i work in so it wont be so bad im hoping. xx

 

[eddjanuary10]

Thanks unique I agree with your view and do feel happy with Ihsan just doing the activities we do together and feel thats enough for now whilst he is this young.

I haven't really come across anyone thats put their lo in nursery unless it was because they had to work so didn't realise it was something people do tbh.

xx

 

[eddjanuary10]

Im a nursery nurse and I personally dont think babies need to go to nursery its much better for them to be with mum and do what your doing, taking him to groups etc. But i think it is a good idea when they get to 3-4 so it prepares them for school. Although my LO will be going to nursery when i return to work in May, as id have no other childcare, but he is coming to the same nursery i work in so it wont be so bad im hoping. xx

Thats good that you can be in the same nursery with lo

 

[eddjanuary10]

i was thinking about nursery as my friends who have babies are all putting theirs LO in. thne i thought why would a 10 month old need to go to nursery anyway :S he cant play with other children, he would just go there and play with an adult and sleep, exactly the same as he does at home but with me for free. i dont feel like i need a break so ive decided not to bother untill hes 3 when its free lol xx

Also a very good point

 

[xUniquex]

Thanks unique I agree with your view and do feel happy with Ihsan just doing the activities we do together and feel thats enough for now whilst he is this young.

I haven't really come across anyone thats put their lo in nursery unless it was because they had to work so didn't realise it was something people do tbh.

xx

tbh hun i think it's BETTER for them to be home as you can give one on one,where as at a nursery they have to share the caregivers.

I also think that the early years are the time for strong bonds to be formed,and whilst nursery doesn't prevent this it does hinder it IMO

i think that when they are 3 it is good as it prepares them for school and by that age they are wanting to socialise and make friends etc

 

[Mumtobe20]

Im a nursery nurse and I personally dont think babies need to go to nursery its much better for them to be with mum and do what your doing, taking him to groups etc. But i think it is a good idea when they get to 3-4 so it prepares them for school. Although my LO will be going to nursery when i return to work in May, as id have no other childcare, but he is coming to the same nursery i work in so it wont be so bad im hoping. xx

Lucky you I work in a nursery too and we re not allowed our kids to be in the same nursery x x

 

[kiwimama]

Well I am pregnant with my second due in March and Ella is with a childminder at the moment. I am going to continue to send her 2 mornings a week, on the mornings that she takes them to playgroup. I think this will allow me to bond with my new baby and give him some one on one, as well as let Ella, who is extremely outgoing and active, to see her friends that she has made over the last year she has been with her childminder.
If I only had one child though, and didn't need to work to survive, I wouldn't send them to a childminder or nursery. Doing things at home and community programs with parents is just as beneficial as going to nursery.

 

[maisiemoo]

personally none of our LO's will be going to nursery before 3/4 (usualy state nursery age)
this is because we don't like childcare in general and also would rather the kids could talk and tell us their day before we let anyone else look after them.

if your LO is being socialised at groups etc then i can't really see the need for nursery TBH!

It is also a myth that children who go to nursery develop faster than their non-nursery attending peers..it depends on what you do with your LO and also them personally..plus any gaina child MAY have evens out by the time they go to pre school

If you are happy as you are then continue that way! You know what is best for your baby!

Completely agree with this. My issue with nursery is that I cannot trust them enough to monitor my child to the extent she needs (due to various operations she is at a higher risk of choking and getting food stuck). This also applies to her personal development - I just cannot see how attending nursery can rival the one on one attention I provide. My daughter attends music, sensory, swimming classes and has the benefit of a mummy being there to ensure she gets the most out of each experience. I also believe it's inevitable for favourites to emerge within a nursery environment. It's fine if your child is one of them, but if not I would hate for my child to be overlooked and age when she is unable to tell me.

I think nursery has it's place and for mums that don't have a choice, it's an invaluable resource. I just don't think it's a necessity in the context of enhancing your baby's development.

 

[Seity]

We don't plan on putting him in daycare ever.

 

[vaileasmama]

personally none of our LO's will be going to nursery before 3/4 (usualy state nursery age)
this is because we don't like childcare in general and also would rather the kids could talk and tell us their day before we let anyone else look after them.

if your LO is being socialised at groups etc then i can't really see the need for nursery TBH!

It is also a myth that children who go to nursery develop faster than their non-nursery attending peers..it depends on what you do with your LO and also them personally..plus any gaina child MAY have evens out by the time they go to pre school

If you are happy as you are then continue that way! You know what is best for your baby!

Completely agree with this. My issue with nursery is that I cannot trust them enough to monitor my child to the extent she needs (due to various operations she is at a higher risk of choking and getting food stuck). This also applies to her personal development - I just cannot see how attending nursery can rival the one on one attention I provide. My daughter attends music, sensory, swimming classes and has the benefit of a mummy being there to ensure she gets the most out of each experience. I also believe it's inevitable for favourites to emerge within a nursery environment. It's fine if your child is one of them, but if not I would hate for my child to be overlooked and age when she is unable to tell me.
I think nursery has it's place and for mums that don't have a choice, it's an invaluable resource. I just don't think it's a necessity in the context of enhancing your baby's development.

one of my friends works in daycare, and she quite blatently has favourites, as do the other staff - before i had a baby i thought it was funny how she would talk about her favourite, but now its actually not as funny!!
however, i have no choice - my babe will be going to daycare... i hope she's someone's favourite (besides mine and daddys of course!)

 

[MrsT&Ben]

Even if I didnt need to send my lo to nursery he would still go from around 1.
He started last December and he loves it there.
He is sociable and loves other children. I think It helps them to develop in ways that I can't show him.
There job is to play and teach your child. I know I can't spend all day playing with lo as I have house work to do.
Maybe I'm on my own with this view.but I was incredibly shy as a child, and still am to some extent, I didn't want lo to be the same!

 

[xpinkyperkyx]

Im a nursery nurse and I personally dont think babies need to go to nursery its much better for them to be with mum and do what your doing, taking him to groups etc. But i think it is a good idea when they get to 3-4 so it prepares them for school. Although my LO will be going to nursery when i return to work in May, as id have no other childcare, but he is coming to the same nursery i work in so it wont be so bad im hoping. xx

i'm also a nursery nure i work in the baby rom and i don't think that you should be worried about putting your LO into nursery-sounds like you do so much with him he doesn;t need any extra at all and personally i think that there's no care like the care mum gives as hard as nursery staff try! my DD went to the nursery i work in when she was 9 months old and even though i worked there i hated it! my DS will be going to a friend who is a childminder when i return to work then nursery when he's 3 as that's the stage developmetally when children will most benefit from it-plus of course it's free!

 

[aob1013]

We are lucky that Leni will never have to go to nursery as i am able to stay at home with him. However, we don't like nurseries and i don't believe they will carry out my wishes. Having worked in nurseries before i didn't like how they interacted and looked afte the children.

Leni will go to a prep nursery at 3 or 4, but won't be going to any type of nursery before that, i think going to lots of groups is more than sufficient, and also bayb gets one to one with you

 

[Lu28]

Aisling is with a childminder while I work but if I didn't have to work, I wouldn't send her to childcare before 3/4 years old. When I was at home, we did a group of some form every day and she had loads of interaction with others her age. I had also planned on getting more indepth on the foundation stage curriculum to make sure I was giving her just as good a start as a nursery or childminder could. Sadly needs must and I'm back at work now so she has to have a childminder. She absolutely loves her but I just don't see the need personally unless unless it's necessary.

 

[brownlieB]

Before I planned to go back to work, I had all these ideas how I was going to join groups and take her to swimming etc all the things you do...Then I realised I'd be going back sooner than I thought and was sad I wouldn't get to do all those things.

So we picked a nursery that has loads of outside space, offers lots of activities has a variety of animals (ducks chickens rabbits a pig) and a woodland surrounding them that the take the children through and a beach near by they have outings to too. She's going in 4 days a week as i'm working 3 then the day i'm off in the week I get to blitz the house, then I have Friday through to sunday to play and do all the things I planned.

If I had the luxury to stay at home I would but needs must, we weren't going to comprimise on standard though it had to really impress. I'd of left her with her nana instead but she also works.

My friends son, was in nursery to start with then they couldn't afford the fees anymore so he went to his nan and he's bright, out going, sociable etc. So in answer to your question No I don't think they need to go to nursey, but I do think it's good to do all the things you're doing if they aren't. xx

 

[discoclare]

If I was a SAHM I wouldn't put her into a nursery until later, but I have to go back to work so she is going to nursery in April. Your LO goes to classes and is socialising. What you are doing sounds great, and I would do the same as you if I was staying at home.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

As other have said - no need unless you have to. Although I can totally see why mums with a new baby would continue to send their toddler to nursery / CM part time.