1 day DPO and in need of buddies :)

[confusedprego]

Rach - you'll be OK - they worry about uterine rupture from the incision site so since they shouldn't have even touched your uterus (especially since you were pregnant at the time of the surgery!). How are you feeling now? Back to normal yet? By the way - I forgot to comment about your bump and I think you have a great bump!! Everyone carries differently and I think you look fantastic!

Sam - how nice you get to sleep in but I know what you mean about being away! It's really tough! Do you have this time off of work too? I worked until 39 weeks with Oakley and that last week especially was so difficult as it was mid-summer and I have a hell of a commute! But I wanted to take as much time at home with Oakley as I could so I didn't want to cut into that time if I could help it. How are you feeling? asthma doing better? What happened to our bump pic??

Jess - I counted by the day of the month - so she'll be two months on the 21st is how I would do it. Time is flying!! I can't believe she's already almost 2 months old!! Are you starting to get into more of a routine?? I really didn't get Oakley into a set routine until I swear like 4 or 5 months and my parents are the ones that really set that as they spent the majority of the day with him.

I leave for San Diego on Saturday - nearly a whole week away from Kirk and Oakley and I'm having so much anxiety about it!! ugh!! I'll probably be fine after the first couple days and I'll be really busy so it should be OK. *sigh*...

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Kels, I work in NYC doing a teacher training program... The Teach for America summer institute. I'm gone for 6 weeks and since we cant time when I'll O, there's no point in doing the drugs. I'm thinking the doc will want to draw more blood after he sees me... I'm still not certain I O'd, my temps are lower than usual post-o for me. I'll test on Wednesday before I go, I guess, but like I said, still not sure I O'd.

Sam, I have three girlfriends who all had vbac and were just fine! Two used a doula... Is that a possibility for you?

Linds, just relax and try to enjoy yourself! I know it's hard to be away from your men, but you deserve a break.

Jess, I'm glad it seems like Isabela is doing so well!!

Rach, how are you feeling about work?

 

[korink26]

Oh Alyssa, I can't even imagine what it's like for you! TTC was so frustrating for me, but I at least knew when to expect OV! To have no idea, is just awful! Do you look foward and enjoy those 6 weeks?
Oh Lindsay, how awful to be away that long? Do you have iPhones that you can facetime? A smidge of me would enjoy a LITTLE of the time to myself, but my gosh, I'd struggle with a whole day much less a week! At least you have Kirk though, so you don't have to worry. I have a friend who takes her baby EVERYWHERE because she doesn't trust her husband (not that he'd do anything horrible to the baby, just probably wouldn't pay a ton of attn--he's kind of a douche) with the baby. At least you won't have to worry...and omg, Kirk's "selfie" was hilarious---he had his head and hands and everything positioned exactly like yours!! loved it
Yeah, I worked up until due date, but I was lucky because the last week or 2 was around xmas and new years, so I didn't have to put a full week in! Worked out perfect. Plus, I don't have a long drive or a physical job.

 

[pinksmarties]

Jess - I counted the weeks but in terms of actually months old he was X months on the 2nd of each month. I think once you get to 20 odd weeks you stop counting in weeks and switch to months.

Rach - you'll be fine as Linds says its the scar in the uterus they are concerned with not the external scar. TBH its all the things you have to push for if you want a less intrusive vbac that was getting me upset (and its even worse in the US) even the good stories were making me anxious, can't explain it really.

Linds - I loved Kirks picture!!! So funny. It is hard not being there for them whilst you are away and even though you'll miss him (them) so much it is also nice to have that little bit of me time too. I am feeling more movements but still nothing as vigorous or frequent as with B. He has his quieter days which is saying something since he is pretty quite anyway then slight more movement on other days. Poor OH still hasn't felt any kicks as it just isn't predictable enough. He is still transverse too and I think his kicks are mainly inwards.

alyssa - when do you see the Dr? You probably said and I missed it. Soinds like a great job you'll be doing, will OH come out to see you at all? I know some people here in the uk used a doula but we can't really afford one, I think I just have to trust and hope my body really does know what its doing this time.

kels - how are you feeling?

 

[BeachChica]

Oh my gosh, just typed up a big reply on my iPad and lost it!!! Grrrr!

Thanks for the info on the months! I'll use the 21st to count them, I did that last month but then I wasn't sure.

Lindsay - how was your birthday? I forgot to mention, I loved Kirks pic too. I wish I would have had Chris do that! He put on some pregnancy weight too and it would have been cute for my album. As you get bigger he should keep doing them but maybe use a pillow under his shirt and have it show a little bit so it's funny! Is baby G going to use the Davenport crib? I just love mine!!! I recently ordered the bed rails for it and they just came in so I need to go pick them up.

Sam - maybe the less movement this far along will mean a quieter/easier baby!!! FX!!! Isabela is a terror in the evening, and looking back I remember having a lot of movement during those times when I was pregnant, she was probably a terror in there too!!! LOL! Did you get B's room all set up? Is he back today? Are you packed?

Kelsey - we need a ticker for you so we can keep track! When do you think you'll go to the doctor? Did you guys tell anyone yet? Is that your house that you posted for sale on Facebook? It's so cute, I love the laundry room!!!

Alyssa - that's great you'll be going to NY for the summer but I know it will put a wrench in your TTC plan. Do you do this every summer? It sounds like fun! Will DH come visit? Maybe some BDing during his visits without thinking about TTC is just what you need!

Rach - how are you feeling? Are you back to work now? Did you get your registry done? I wonder if your work will throw you a shower? We had 3 showers which helped a lot, a lot less things we had to buy ourselves.

AFM - got some time to start working on Isabela's baby book. The one I got has a lot of places for pics which will be nice when she gets older. My baby book didn't have this.
I think you girls asked but my mom and Chris's mom will be watching Isabela when I go back to work. I can already see it being a headache to coordinate those 2 so we'll see how it goes. My mom will have to spend the night when she comes so hopefully we'll all get along lol! Chris's mom is very routine oriented in her own schedule which she will have to change for this, so we'll see how it goes. We have an appointment with a daycare on Tuesday that our neighbor goes to so we can see how it is and get on their wait list so hopefully if it doesn't work out with our moms we'll at least have that as a backup. I think it will be stressful when we go back to work coming home exhausted and still needing to get things done around the house as well as care for her. Hopefully she will get over her "witching hour" soon, I'd hate for the few hours we have with her each night be her screaming.

 

[confusedprego]

I agree Kels - I think a couple days would be good to be away but almost a whole week is giving me a lot of anxiety. I leave tomorrow before Oakley will even get up and I'll be back at 5PM on Friday night. My conference is over Wednesday evening but I have a good friend that moved to San Diego that I want to go visit and so I gave myself one whole day to do whatever on Thursday and leave early morning on Friday - now I'm wishing I did the red eye on Thursday night but I didn't do that because I am pregnant and not sleeping sounds like a bad idea!! So - I'll survive haha. No facetime but we use snapchat a lot to send little videos of Oakley back and forth that helps a lot when we're away from each other. I think I'm more worried about Kirk than I am about Oakley to be honest haha I don't think he realizes how much I do for Mr. O every day. I have a feeling his parents will be here every day next week to help with dinner and little things. My dad will be taking Oakley to daycare every day because Kirk leaves too early...so I need to get to the store today to set up and label Monday-Friday breakfast and lunch. I'll let Kirk figure out dinner haha.

Sam - I'm going to guess that means this baby will be calmer too!! I know so many people that have had much calmer second babies. I wonder if it's because we're a bit calmer during pregnancy so they get those calmer hormones or something haha. I feel this one squirming every morning around 5AM when Kirk's alarm goes off and when I get really hungry but other than that, I really don't feel much. Sometimes if Kirk and I are snuggling belly to belly, baby will kick him and he thought he felt it the other day but I doubt it.

Alyssa - nice temp today!! You'll have a great time in NYC - and hopefully you'll be pregnant - although I hope that wouldn't make your time there more difficult. My friend's brother-in-law works for teach for America in Baltimore. Does your temp today make you more confident about O??? It may have been a couple days later than your crosshairs but we'll see as your cycle goes! Can't wait to hear about your doc appointment

Jess - my dad and Kirk's mom watched O for a long time and I found it comforting at first and then after a while it just became more stressful wondering if everyone was happy and I was constantly worried they didn't want to watch him anymore but just didn't want to say anything. You'll know when the right time to switch her to daycare is. Once Oakley started crawling and getting into everything, it got more difficult but it was when he started walking that we set up daycare because he was a real handful then! I hope it works out well for you guys!! I'm sure it will be perfect especially at first!

AFM - just trying to get all the laundry done and house cleaned up before I head out. I'm also waiting for a delivery today - we got Oakley a big boy bed!!
https://www.amazon.com/Rack-Furnitu...d=1400244586&sr=8-1&keywords=loft+storage+bed
New baby will be using the Davenport crib and Oakley will be moving into a much smaller room so we needed something that will allow us to store stuff in it. It's a bit advanced for him right now but he's never fallen out of his toddler bed (since we put a noddle at the edge) and this one has really great railings, so we think in a few months he'll be ready for it. We still have to finish our guest room downstairs before we can set it up but I think he'll be really excited for it!!

I hope everyone is doing great and have a great weekend!! Happy Friday!!

 

[confusedprego]

Oh and Jess - that colicky "witches" hour you talk about - they typically outgrow that by 3 months is what I understand, so that won't last forever Oakley would SCREAM from 9 or 10 to midnight every night for a couple months and then he just slowly outgrew it. He's still his fussiest at night but I think that's pretty common.

 

[korink26]

Jess I too kept track of weeks for a long time, but took my monthly pictures on the 2nd of every month. I've been debating a ticker....I don't remember how to do it though! And no, my mom is a realtor so sometimes she'll put houses on her fb that she's having an open house for, so then I'll share it on my page to help get the word out. Go you with Isabela's baby book! How awful is it that ours is still in the package?! At the hospital the nurse's asked for it to put her footprint in, and we both looked at each other like CRAP. Never even crossed our mind. Our parents covered us for the 9 weeks between my maternity leave and Ryan being done student teaching. So Khloe didn't have to go to daycare until she was 8 months old. Now my mom watches Khloe every Tuesday. If you find a daycare you like, you'll honestly love her at daycare. Khloe's daycare does SO MUCH with her and she LOVES going! When I go to pick her up she runs to hug me, but then tries to quick run away to stay and play. But, that's just my thoughts. I love her with mom though too because I get pictures all day and can call and check in whenever I want. But, it's a huge adjustment going to working mommy- but, you adjust quickly! My MIL stays over a lot of Thursday or Fridays to spend time with Khloe. I don't mind it, but yet she talks a lot and is opinionated about ipad use and tv time so I feel like I can't always do what I want. By the time I get Khloe down at 8, I'm exhausted after working all day and then being with Khloe that I want to just sit and watch my REal world or whatever show, and she really frowns on that. OMG, THIS JUST GO SO LONG WINDED! SORRY!
Oh LIndsay I love Oakley's new bed--all that storage will be so nice! Remember, I still want to see before and afters of all your remodeling you guys are doing!
AFM-I've been feeling pretty good---probably too good to be true. Although an hour ago I got pretty queezy and needed to eat asap. But I don't have the intense hunger I had with Khloe, although I am more hungry than normal. I'm more tired than I remember with Khloe, but who knows. I will probably call next week and set up an appt. I'll be 6 weeks on Monday. Part of not setting up the appt is I think the time moves more slow when I have a date set! I just hope she'll let me get a scan midway through my 7th week---that way I'll only have a week to wait once I set up the appt.

 

[babydust818]

Jessie - i have the same worries you do. Glad we can share them together (sorta). At least i can learn from you. I'm afraid of working all day and coming home to baby as well. Hoping i have enough in me to deliver everything i need for him and be a great mom. I know with time, everything will work out! I guess it doesn't really help to worry. That's great you have parents who will help with Isabela. My parents are in New York and Andrew's mom is in SC. So we have just his dad and his dad isn't the type to babysit. So i'll either make the decision to be a stay at home mom and maybe work a part time job 2-3 days a week OR i'll have to find a night job. Are you doing a scrapbook for Isabela? That's what i'll be doing A lot of work to making them though.

Alyssa - your temps are looking great!! Can't wait to see what the next few days bring.

Kelsey - i think waiting until 6w is good. That way when you get to your first ultrasound (7w) you will have a visible sac and baby with heartbeat! That way you won't worry as much.

Lindsay - love that bed! Do you think Oakley will do okay in a new room? Have you came up with any ideas on new bedding for LO?

I can't help but worry about everything. I'm worried most that i won't have everything baby needs when he is here. I'm having a baby shower, but i'm barely inviting anyone because it's all Andrew's family since mine is in NY. He doesn't talk to a whole lot of people so... i'm inviting like 25 ppl. I hope i can make it to NY to have one with my family and friends. I'll have a work one, but i doubt many will contribute to it. I seem to piss a lot of ppl off lol. I seriously work with a bunch of high school girls that are 50! I go back to work May 28th incase i didn't tell you all. Not looking forward to it. Knowing i'll have just a little over 3 months makes me feel better.

 

[confusedprego]

Adjusting to being a working mom is definitely difficult but I think it was easier than I expected. I honestly am less tired on days I go to work than when I stay home with Oakley lol. The house stays cleaner because he's at daycare - my house is a WRECK right now because I've been here with him all day and he drags all his toys and all my Tupperware or whatever else he wants out everywhere haha. It was definitely an adjustment and some days I still want to stay home with him but ultimately, I think my personality works best having a career. I hope I can find a flexible job and maybe even a part-time job would be great but I think I really need a job. It can make life difficult though if you don't have someone around to pick up the slack when both you and DH have to work late or you both have things to do that you can't bring LO with you.

Kels - With Oakley, I ate like a madwoman right from the start regardless of getting sick or not. I've not eaten well until this past week with this pregnancy. I've been eating like crazy this last week - I'm afraid to step on a scale to be honest! But this pregnancy - I was deliriously tired for a few weeks in the beginning! I'd get scared to drive home from work I was so tired! I even fell asleep with my head on the side of the tub while Oakley was taking a bath once (or twice)!

Rach - you'll be amazed with how much you don't need for a newborn - it'll become more apparent as he gets older what you need. We had so much stuff and I feel like we ended up using most of it but not for a couple months. My biggest suggestions would be a boppy, and breastpump if you're breastfeeding and then the pack 'n play with the two levels to have next to your bed for a little while. Oh and LOTS of baby blankets - they blow out of diapers all the time.

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Well, I do think I O'd but I'm wondering if it happened yesterday... My temp was actually 97.45 when I first woke up at 4:30 but was up to 97.58 by 5:15 when I temp usually (I retook it). I had a little ewcm yesterday but when I exercise I get that sometimes. If so, do you think I'm covered with BD?

My 5k yesterday was awesome!! I'm actually doing another one tomorrow.

 

[pinksmarties]

I think if you ov'd Thursday then you will be covered for bd. Have you still been doing opks?

Glad your 5k was great and its good that it makes you feel good. A lot of my asthma is exercise induced but I would love to do a 5-10k.

Linds - I am so glad it isn't just me that closed my eyes on the side of the bath a few times too!!!

Jess -I am an same as Linds and found my days to be less tiring at work than back at home but I have a great balance and work 3.5-4 days so still get my day with him as well as the weekends. We don;t have family to look after B (despite FIL living nearby) and he loves the nursery and runs off in the morning without a backwards glance so if thing don't work out or things change then Isabel will do great at daycare. B witching hour(s!) was a bit earlier in the evening, usually 5-7/8 but things got better after about 4 months.

Rach - linds is right, there is very little a newborn needs despite whats all in the shops. vests, sleepsuits, scratch mitts, nappies, crib/pack and play, blankets, bouncer, car seat, pram, bf pillow, pump, burp clothes, wipes/cotton wool, monitor (I had a one with a sensor pad so used that from birth). You'll be great.

 

[korink26]

Thinking of you today Lindsay! The week will go quick and you'll be home before you know it!
Alyssa, I think you covered BDing good with Ov. Today's temp is confusing, maybe a fallback temp? I usually had one 2-3 dpo.
Rachael you will be an awesome Mommy, do not worry about anything. You will adjust to whatever work schedule you have and it'll become your "norm". And don't worry about not having everything. Do you have rummage/garage sales by you? It's crazy all the really nice things I'm seeing on fb that ppl are selling in their sales. So much of it hardly used. I used the cloth diapers as spit rags, so just have a lot of them. Bassinet for sleeping (or whatever you decide to use), I used a little bouncer a lot to keep Khloe in when she slept during the day or I needed to get something done. I stocked up on diapers in all sizes months leading to her birth. Little bath tub, car seat and stroller. Lots of onesies. Activity gyms and all that Khloe didn't have a lot of interest in till much later. Oh yea and a lot of bottles and extra nipples so you don't have to wash bottles every 2 seconds. You can look at my registry if you wanted, I'd think it's still on there? I registered at Walmart and babysrus. Oh yea, def a boppy-Sam and Linds basically have it covered. I hope you can get home to have a shower with your friends and family. How's your sisters pregnancy going.
AFM-called the dr yest and was shocked she wanted me to come in for bloods to check my HCG and Prog. I begged for those tests when preg with Khloe and she refused-said she doesn't believe in those tests and they just make ppl worry. I kind of wish I didn't get them cuz it prob will make me worry. They said if my hcg is high enough they want to do an us right away next week. I don't want one at 6 weeks-that's too early. First time I was 7 weeks measuring 6w4d and hb was 97. I was worried bout it being slow and she totally blew me off and said hb just started so it was perfect. I don't want to do that again. If I wait till 7 1/2 weeks she can't make excuses and I'll get a straight answer. Now time is crawling waiting to hear my numbers on Monday. Idk know what my numbers shd be, what site did you guys use to check your numbers. What was everybody's numbers, if you can remember?

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Hi girls! Ran a 5k this morning and was thrilled with my time, hopefully a sign of good things to come!

Kels, no idea what's up with my temp... If I O'd when ff says I did, my fingers are crossed it's an implantation dip, but I doubt it.

I feel like docs are more likely to recommend bloodwork after you've been through a history of trouble... But remember that YOU are in control of when you get tests/scans etc.... They can suggest, but not force. I hope you're not stressed about your bloodwork, it sounds like your little bean is doing great so far!

 

[korink26]

Congrats Alyssa-what was your time!! I'm proud of you regardless because I'd still be trying to finish it . It's a sure sign of great things to come!

 

[CallMeAL1982]

How is everyone's weekend? Linds, travel safely! I'm sure Oakley and Kirk will be fine!

Rach, happy shopping! Have you looked on Amazon? They have a feature where you can search registries for a particular purpose... I bet there's some FTM ones.

Jess, how are you doing? Enjoying your time with Isabel?

Sam, how are you feeling? Getting closer now... Are you excited to do the newborn thing again?

Kels, how are you feeling, any new symptoms?

AFM my temp is back up but my crosshairs disappeared!! Sad. I'm going to call the doc Monday and ask for bloodwork so he has it for my appointment on Wednesday... Do you think that makes sense?

My 5k time yesterday was 34:34, Kels... Not great but great for me, and that's what matters! I started running again more seriously after my mc... Trying to find the silver lining.

 

[babydust818]

Will write more later, but Alyssa I would test Tuesday if your temp stays up. I've saw temp dips on implantation days. 2-3 days later is when you could test at the earliest. Good luck!!

 

[korink26]

Super bummed girls...my progesterone result I could see online and it was only 8.33.....I'm so much more upset than I thought I would be. not sure what my dr will suggest, but even if she suggested supplements I'm not sure I'd want to. Seems too late and like it would delay the inevitable....Really curious what my HCG was.

 

[babydust818]

Kelsey my Dr didn't get me on progesterone until after 8w. Mine was 14.8 I believe. I took them for a month. It's not over Kels. If they can get you on supplements very soon all it can do is help. You aren't cramping and you aren't bleeding. Everything is okay. Try not to over think and remember what's meant to be always happens. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Baby McCulley is going to be just fine! Love you.

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Kels, when I had my first pregnancy, my doctor told me that anything from 9-50 was normal early in the first trimester. Not sure what that means for you, but there's no reason to give up hope! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and your little one... I'll be thinking of you tonight! *hug*