1 day DPO and in need of buddies :)

[BeachChica]

Alyssa - sorry about the bad news today. Why did they send you home with birth control if you are TTC?

Regarding the specialist, my insurance did not cover "infertility" treatments, meaning they would not cover IVF etc, but they did cover all of my appointments and testing with the RE. Perhaps just closer monitoring by a specialist will help you get your rainbow. If I ever had anything that was questionable by my insurance the doctor would submit a letter stating it was necessary and they would cover it. I hope this will be the case for you too! Don't give up, you will get there!!!

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Jess- my schedules are so out-of-whack that they couldn't even do any testing on me (since so many tests need to be done on specific cycle days) as of right now. I talked about it with my doc and he agreed that I can wait two weeks based on my chart to see how things go. We also agreed that having a month or two of regulated hormones might be better for me emotionally because I've been in a really bad place in that department regardless, and since my hormones are so insanely out of control it would be good to have some stability. I will be away from Rob for the last week in June and all of July anyway, so I guess we'll be taking a TTC break for a bit.

 

[pinksmarties]

Linds - glad you this week hasn't been too bad and you also have a lovely weekend with your guys to look forwards to.

Jess - I agree that maybe Isabela doing a bit of both and gradually increasing the daycare when you feel everyone needs it. AS Kels says whilst she is young and not as mobile it might be easier on the grandparents. One of the reasons I wanted nursery/daycare was they do have educational and can promote learning through play more that I could probably as well as the interaction with other children which he seemed to need (although B was much older when he went). I TOTALLY get hat you mean about the grandparents doing their own thing. My dad and step mum are great and respect my choices and wishes but not OH parents. They gave him chocolate when I said no and other sweet goodies when they see him at a weekend. They once came round to baby sit one evening and FIL put him into his cot 'upside down' put into context I had elevated the head end to help with his cough/runny nose and FIL had put his feet on the pillow and head in the middle of the bed!!

Kels - I can understand your worries, especially not being on clomid this time but I am still thinking all will be okay. As for the bottle B is still on his but like you wish I had changed it sooner as I doubt we'd be able to take it away without severe trauma all round. I initially kept with it as he didn't have teeth to worry about and I have read it doesn't cause as much harm to teeth as previously thought, it more those parents who let the baby have the bottle in the crib and they fall asleep with it or drink from it on and off. What is your bedtime routine. Is she resisting sleep after the bottle?

alyssa -I am soo sorry things didn't turn out the way we all wanted for you. I am confused at the the birth control. Its hard just seeing pg women never mind knowing what would be when someone was at a similar stage

afm - I fell this afternoon and really hurt my foot. B and I was at the library and he was practicing walking up the outside step (shallow with a wall to support him) and then running round down the access ramp. I was playing peekaboo and didn't realise I wasn't on the bottom step and just fell. Luckily I fell in my back not my bump. I had my prenatal yoga this evening but that was really difficult as I couldn't put much weight in it to balance. Oh home really last last night and then in work this morning so haven't had much chance to catch up with him as he is out for a leaving do tonight after I came back from my yoga.

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Thanks for the support, girls. I'm probably going to be struggling a bit trying to come to grips with everything in the next few days.

The birth control will just help me have a cycle or two of a more regular period, I won't be on it long term (sorry if that was confusing) and it happens to line up with when I wouldn't be TTC based on location anyway.

 

[CallMeAL1982]

I had chocolate cake for dinner. I regret nothing.

 

[confusedprego]

I'm so sorry, Alyssa! They say that a couple regulated cycles with birth control can help kick start normal ovulating cycles. I too hope your fertility specialist appointments will be covered and they can maybe get you the trigger shot and get you a rainbow within a reasonable price range.

Jess - it became too much I think for everyone. Especially once O became mobile it was exhausting for our parents and then they were still giving him a binky during the day when I didn't want them to and bottles whenever he wanted them and it was just easier to send him to daycare with a stricter schedule. He's also learning so much and while it's tough to drop him off there initially it has become a (very expensive) blessing haha. So, basically, if I could do the same for our next, I would probably have help while he's not mobile but move him into daycare as soon as he starts crawling. But, I'm pretty sure my parents are expecting the next to go straight into daycare because that's really the only thing we've talked about since finding out we're pregnant. Kirk's brother's wife is pregnant too so I think we're going to encourage his mom to go help them out as they're struggling more than we are.

 

[confusedprego]

I'll do more later - need to get some sleep!

 

[pinksmarties]

sorry alyssa I missed your previous post whilst writing out my epic. I hope as Linds says a couple of medicated cycles off helps you emotionally and kicks start a shorter cycle with ov. Insureance is something we don't have to deal with over here so can't help you there.

 

[korink26]

Aww, Alyssa, I'm sorry What a disgusting trick your body played on us! I have heard of the pill helping to regulate the hormones a bit. My sister was also afraid of the cost of a fertility specialist, as our insurances cover nothing related to infertility. BUT, she found out that they try and code everything possible as nothing to do with infertility so that a lot of things are actually covered. I hope that's the case for you as well. You eat that cake girl, and anything else your heart desires.
Jess how scary to see the blood on Isabela's back! My parents are super good about listening to what we want, but the in laws, not at all. Actually, my FIL really has no interest in Khloe at all. My MIL, does whatever she wants. When she was smaller we'd always tell her to put her in the crib when she fell asleep so that she'd get a good nap. Instead she would always hold her the whole nap, which would be a couple hours! We didn't want Khloe to know sweets or junk yet, but any chance she gets she gives her cookies/chips ect. I'm to the point where I'm ok with her eating it, but it drives Ryan up the wall. She just doesn't respect our wishes at all. Like Sam though, a huge reason for me was the educational point of it and the interaction with kids. But she didn't pay attention to those 2 aspects until a little older which is why we held off.
Sam how is your foot today?! If anybody was around I bet they came running-scary to see a pregnant lady fall! Another reason hubby needs to baby you
Lindsay--todays your fun day! Enjoy every second of it!! Less than 24 hrs and you'll be home---bet you get so excited just thinking about seeing them Happy 20 weeks--HALFWAY THERE!!!

 

[pinksmarties]

It was a quiet little library so no one saw me fall but just as I turned over to get on my hands and knees to haul myself up a man came out. B was on his hands and knees too playing with stones so I just think he thought I was down on the gravel playing with him!

Foot still very sore but manging to hobble around work, I am even slower than I was before!

Kels - how are you feeling? What time is the appointment tomorrow? (I'll have to work out time diference so I can wtch for updates)

Linds - happy halfway, wow time does seem to be flying by.

Jess - when do you go back to work? Its crazy how short a time you guys get off work with your LO's comapred to us. Still leaning more towards daycare?

alyssa - hows things today? Glad you enjoyed your chocolate.

 

[korink26]

Well good cover Sam, I think I would have preferred him think I'm picking rocks than come running over and make a scene.
My ultrasound is at 200, meeting with the dr. to go over it at 245. I'm feeling good---hungrier, tired and still extra cm....I didn't have much for symptoms with Khloe either, but what I did have was a little stronger. I guess just need to be patient another 26 hrs. I think I've said it before---just hope it's conclusive one way or another. Not like my first miscarriage where there was a slow hb (97) and she gave me false hope.

 

[BeachChica]

Happy 20 weeks Lindsay! Oh the pics of the glasses was so cute! You need to post one of Oakley with his on!!

Happy 32 weeks Sam! How is your foot today? Yes, it stinks the little maternity leave we get here, only 12 weeks. I go back June 16th.

Alyssa - so with BC do you go to a 28 day cycle? Then what happens in the following month?

Rach - loving your bump pics!!!

Kelsey - how are you feeling? Looking forward to your update today!!! I think everything will be fine for you! If you change your mind about the progesterone let me know.

Yes, we are still looking at the day care option. We have an application in to one place right now (it's more of a school) so just waiting to hear on availability. They only have 8 children in their infant class so I hope it won't take too long to get her in. We really liked it.

Anyone have any big plans for the long weekend? Chris is getting off early today so we are going to try an overnight on the boat with Isabela. We will come back in tomorrow afternoon. Sunday we are going to a BBQ and then just relaxing on Monday.

 

[korink26]

Oh Jess, sounds like a great weekend!
Happy 32 weeks Sam!
And yes, Lindsay the glasses are so cute! I want pictures with everybody wearing them!
AFM-I'm feeling so anxious to cancel the appt today! By LMP I'm 6W4D by but my possible OV date I think I'm more like 6W1D....just seems way too early for a scan and it'll only cause me stress. Any hb less than 120 I will be upset about and if I'm closer to 6 weeks, there could be a chance it'd be less than 120. I don't know what to do....I had to get up last night to go to the bathroom and this morning I had to eat breakfast because I wasn't feeling the greatest. Who knows, probably just my anxiety.

 

[babydust818]

Sam - When do you get to go on maternity leave? You're 32w so you're getting close. I can't imagine what i'll be like in just 8 more weeks. How is your foot? Are you able to put anymore pressure on it? Not good hobbling around being so far in pregnancy. I bet that is frustrating.

Jessie - glad you found a daycare you like. That is very important! I totally understand your reasoning for putting Isabela into daycare earlier because i too will be picky about my baby. It's really annoying and pisses you off when someone doesn't want to listen! I know they're your/Chris' parents and have had kids and experience, but when you have set rules and they don't follow... oh goodness! I would go ballistic! I think it would be a lot healthier for your relationship as well. As Linds said though, maybe give your parents a shot first. You know what is best for your baby. Just an idea.

Lindsay - have a safe trip back home today! The sunglasses are adorbs! Ya'll deserved the treat. What a nice weekend you have planned! Lots of sunshine and by the water..... very relaxing!

Alyssa - i am really sorry this cycle is being a bitch. I really thought we were in the 2WW with you. Don't take it out on yourself though. You are doing what you can. Just remember that. So once you start taking the birth control and have regulated cycles for 2 months... then what is next? I know you said you were recommended to see a fertility specialist. Will you not know what is next until you see them? Just don't think everything is over just because you'd have to see a fertility specialist. Many, many women get pregnant with a little boost from the fertility specialists. There's still so much hope hunny. I know it's hell going through all of this and trying to pin point what exactly is going on, but they WILL get down to the nitty gritty of it (fertlity specialist). That way they can get to the point and not jerk you around anymore. I have faith you will get pregnant an carry again. Remember, you got pregnant once... that is HALF the battle. Some women can't even conceive. That ALWAYS made me feel better everytime i was feeling like shit. Don't forget that.

Kelsey - I'll attach a pic of my 6W6D ultrasound. I did hear heartbeat at mine and she never did tell me what it was. I have faith that everything will be great at this appt. Is Ryan able to come with you? I know you said at the time he couldn't, but did you work something out? I think the increase in CM and BBs sore is a great sign! Remember though, i didn't have much symptoms myself and here i am 24w today. Don't rely on what the books say. Just worry about them ultrasounds and what the Dr's say! I'll be tuned in to see how it goes this afternoon. I just REALLY think you should be put on progesterone supplements. That is my opinion though.

AFM i am 24 weeks today. Feeling wonderful. Can't wait to get to 26 weeks because viability goes up to 80-90%! I don't remember if i told ya'll about my job yet or not? If i am repeating myself, i apologize. As you know i do housekeeping at a hotel in a casino. Well, I went to the Dr on May 12 and he allowed me to go back to work May 26th with a 25lb restriction. Well, with the line of work i do 25 lbs is like being able to lift only 1lb. Basically, i can't do anything. I handed the paperwork into human resources and they called me back the next day to tell me i can not return to work until baby is born (that is when restriction is until). She told me to call my disablity company and try to extend (i would only be able to extend 5 more weeks. Have already used 7). So that would not work. She told me i could also call my boss and see if there's ANYTHING i can do. So i called her and she told me she would look around. She called me later that day and told me i could come in for an interview for the Front Desk at the hotel. So i did that Tuesday. It's only part time which blows and means i would lose all insurance. So, they're trying to work in full time for me. I will know answers today. If it's not FT i am wondering if i should just collect unemployment and get on medicare? What do you guys think?

 

[BeachChica]

Kelsey - I think you should go to your appointment! You know what to expect based on your dates so even if there is no HB yet you can still get positive reassurance from your scan. They will probably book you for another scan in a couple weeks too.

Rach - happy 24 weeks! Sorry I missed that on my earlier post. I would try not to lose your job and insurance if you can avoid it. I used to work at a hotel too, I can't believe they can't find you some light duty work. If you can get into the front desk that would be great. I loved working at the front desk and there is a lot of flexibility in hours since you can work the evening shift if Andrew is working days. I think it will be good in the long run. I can believe housekeeping doesn't need help with the linen room or some administrative office just to make up the few extra hours to get you to FT status.?

 

[babydust818]

At my job if you're FT you get insurance, but if you're PT you don't. Front desk position is just PT. So i was wondering if it wouldn't even be worth going back if that is all i'm offered. I wouldn't have insurance. Better off to collect unemployment and get on medicare. Just a lot to take in. We don't need help in the linen room bcz we have a company that does our laundry. We have 2 supervisors that do all the office work. I really honestly can't believe there's not something light duty i could do too, but i think it's because my coworkers would throw a bitch fit. They're seriously like 50 year old teenagers. Feel like i'm in high school with them. It would be A LOT better for me to move to front desk. Just wish they would give me FT so i can keep my hours and insurance.

 

[BeachChica]

Even if its just PT at first, typically it would not take long for something to change. Get your foot in the door and try to get to FT as soon as possible. I don't know if you guys are seasonal but the front desk is a busy place and often has a few immature employees that call out a lot or leave.

Maybe the other girls can help but I would think your job would be required to offer you some type of light duty work to keep your insurance, I mean you are pregnant for gosh sakes. I would take to HR and plea your case!

 

[CallMeAL1982]

Good luck today, Kels... I am thinking of you.

 

[korink26]

Thanks for the support girls.
Rach do you have to be 40 hrs to get insurance---or like some places consider32 hrs FT and you can get insurance. That'd be really nice if you could get in at the front desk---I think you'd like that! Plus, then like Jess said you could hopefully make your hours work that you could work some nights after maternity leave. Totally up to you though and what you feel comfortable with. I guess at least you have the back up of Medicaid and unemployment. With unemployment, can you still get that when you're on maternity leave? I'm thinking not, but that would be nice if you could! What does Andrew think? He doesn't have the option of family insurance? Oh, AND HAPPY 24 WEEKS!! You're getting such a cute bump, love it

 

[babydust818]

I could get on Andrew's insurance, but since this is 'pre-existing' then i wouldn't be covered for pregnancy. I guess one of his co-workers just went through this. So it would be medicaid and unemployment. I know i got the PT job and i think i may just take it even though i wouldn't get insurance. I know i could apply for medicaid and would hopefully get accepted. Not sure what Indiana state law is for how much you're allowed to make to be accepted. Just so aggravating. One thing after another. At my job insurance is 32+hrs because that is considered FT. Anything less than 30 is PT. I am really hoping that they could at least pull some strings and get me as close to 30 as possible every week. I really need the money. I know regardless something is going to work out, but i hate dealing with it.

Oh and i have a crib bumper question! I've read how dangerous they can be. Should i not get one with my crib set? I was thinking once baby starts rolling i could buy a mesh bumper. Aren't those safer? Opinions?