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[CallMeAL1982]

Hi, all...

Kels, those numbers sound great, and definitely going up. Like Lindsay said, maybe you have your dates wrong. I have my fingers crossed for you.

Linds, are you happy to be home or do you miss the freedom of being on your own?

Rach, you should definitely be able to get on Andrew's insurance... your losing your job's insurance due to disability should qualify as an event, and there shouldn't be any penalty for pregnancy. Additionally, you just got married, and you are entitled to add a spouse to your insurance after marriage even when you're not in the 'open enrollment' period... Rob and I actually got married at the town hall a year before our 'wedding' so he could get health insurance, and it wasn't during my 'open enrollment' period. All you need is your marriage certificate. Your HR person should be able to help you.

Sam, how is your foot? Are you getting around better?

AFM, I basically melted into a puddle this weekend. Having to go beyond the gyno (even though I realistically knew I would and it's probably better this way) really messed me up, as does the knowledge that I likely won't be pregnant by the one year point of my first pregnancy/miscarriage (since testing takes a while and I'll be gone for July). I kind of curled up into a ball on Thursday night and thought really bad thoughts. I'm doing a little better now, each day of the weekend felt a little easier. Not sure if I've told you girls this, but I've struggled a lot with depression and anxiety my whole life, and this whole situation has tipped it off big-time.

I have an appointment with the FS (just an initial consultation to decide what tests to do) on June 10th, which is pretty soon, and the timing should work out to get testing done before I leave for TFA (my summer job) and they can get results back/analyze them within 6-8 weeks, which is their normal time frame. The lady I spoke with on the phone was very sympathetic and understanding, so at least my first contact with them was somewhat positive.

In better news, this weekend, Rob and I adopted another kitty! I tried to attach a pic. We named her Minerva McGonagall (from Harry Potter). She kind of reminds me of Grace in some ways (my kitty who passed in December) but is definitely her own sassy girl. We're keeping her isolated in a bathroom for a few days until we can take her to our vet, but she seems really healthy. I think she was abused, she's very skittish and swipes at us sometimes, also gets triggered by noises pretty easily. I hope as she gets to know us she settles somewhat... I think we have a pretty good home for her.

 

[babydust818]

Kelsey - that is wonderful that your HCG is going up. I can't wait for Friday to get here. Keep hanging on pretty girl. I still have sooo much hope for you!

Alyssa - i too struggle with anxiety and depression. My sister, mother and grand father do/did too. I know what it's like curling up in a ball and thinking horrid things. I'm so sorry you're in such a dark place right now. I can't wait for the next 2 months to pass for you so you can get your answers and start working on everything so you can feel better. Your kitty is adorable. Was she a stray? Poor baby. So happy there are people like you in this world to rescue. How is Rob through all of this? Is he understanding? Comforting?

Thanks for all the info ladies. Andrew called his benefits dept and they said i could get on his insurance (YAY). Only thing i am afraid of is with the insurance i had it was going to be $1200 deductible to have baby, but i exhausted that because of all these bills i've had since January when my insurance renewed. Now if i jump to a new insurance company this one is $1750. That scares me because my Dr office already asked to have the $1200 up front and paid by August before baby is here. If they ask that again there is no way. I just got a bill in the mail for my hospital stay/surgery. It would have cost me over $15,000 but with the insurance i only pay $2000. Thank goodness. Anyways.... wish me luck for my interview tmrw.

 

[BeachChica]

Kelsey - wrote a long post for you earlier but have no idea where it went. I am so excited about your HCG levels. I think everything will be fine for you! As I told you my doctor expected to see more on my first scan too based on my levels and everything turned out fine.

Alyssa - so sorry for what you are going through! Sending you a massive hug. This is a difficult journey for some of us, but I will tell you that once you get your rainbow - and you will - you will appreciate him/her so much more because of everything you've been through! Glad you are going to the RE!

Rach - good luck for your interview tomorrow. I would take the front desk job no matter what, I think it will be better for you in the long run! With 32 hours they will consider you full time so I would try to get in there and then just see if you can pick up the extra day. Also, check but I think the FT hours are averaged over a period of time so you may be ok for a while based on the hours you worked in housekeeping. Definitely check. I would probably not switch insurance based on your situation with the deductibles.

 

[babydust818]

Jessie - I would love to not have to switch insurance companies, but since this job is part time i automatically lose my current insurance So i have to get on Andrew's. It sucks because i'll have to start all over with deductibles. Ughh. Thanks for the good luck. I sure need it. How are you doing? I see you've been on the boat a lot! I'm super jealous. How does Isabela do on it? She seems like she's a good baby. Is she very fussy?

 

[BeachChica]

Rach - I was hoping you'd be able to hold out on your insurance for a bit to see if you can pick up the extra hours. Good luck today, you'll do great. One tip of advice... They may start asking questions about customers. Remember the customer is always right and you need to do whatever you can to make sure they enjoy their stay and come back. One thing you can tell them is that you really enjoy acknowledging special events and the guests are always very appreciative. Customer service is hard (especially at the front desk because that's typically where people go to complain). Just put a smile on and try to be as positive as possible.

Isabela did great on the boat! She slept 7 hours that night which was just amazing!

 

[confusedprego]

Hey Ladies!

Alyssa - I'm so sorry you're having such a tough time and I totally understand why! I struggled with depression just for a very short time before I met Kirk but I was a real mess - I typically weigh ~115lbs and I dropped down to 92lbs just because I didn't feel like eating....ever. It was not so good. I hope your hubby and new kitty can help keep you from falling too far and we can help to reassure you that this struggle will be worth it in the end and you will get your baby!
I'm insanely happy to be home! I'm exhausted because I came back to a sick kid and went straight to my in-laws house from the airport and ended up leaving in the middle of the night Sunday night to go home because Oakley was coughing so much we just weren't getting any sleep but I'm just thrilled to be home - it was tough being away so long! From the sounds of it, it was really tough on Kirk too, so I'm happy to be back for him.
When do you head off for your summer thing? *sorry if you've already said it!*

Sam - How are you doing?! How is B doing?? Hopefully sleeping better for you! We're getting close for you now!

Kels - How are you, hun??? What's DH thinking? Have you told anyone besides us? I figure not if your sister is struggling. What time is your appointment on Friday? I think your numbers sound great so I'm optimistic for you! I forgot about Jess' first scan and that they didn't see much early on for her - so hope you're hanging in there and haven't lost hope! Hopefully we won't cross that bridge but if we have to, you know you have successfully had a baby before and we will be here for you through it all!!

Rach - Sounds like you don't have a choice in the insurance thing. I would think for the deductible for baby delivery that you could set up a payment plan with your OB office or they will start collecting it closer to when baby is due so they know if delivery will be vaginal or C-section. It's $1200 regardless of the type of delivery? Good luck with your interview and let us know how it goes! I hope you get it as it will be better to have a job with something that you don't have to lift anything heavy for.

AFM - I'm getting settled back in at home and Oakley is still coughing a lot but he had a better night last night, so we got a bit more sleep, thankfully. The stomach bug that O had last week, Kirk had this weekend and I had a couple days ago seems to be subsiding so hoping this weekend will be relaxing. The house is NEARLY completely done so my reno pics will be coming shortly!! I will definitely be posting those on facebook but can here too if you ladies want!! It looks SO much better already! We're just waiting on gutters which should be in some time this week. The basement is really coming along as well, so hopefully that will be getting sanded and painted by the end of next week and we can move on getting carpet down there and practically doubling the size of our house! We also will be able to set up the guest bedroom downstairs which will allow us to set up Oakley's new room, so that'll be exciting too. I will also be getting a dining room upstairs as I'll be moving the TV room to the basement - I can't tell you how much nicer it will be to have a dining room instead of an eat-in-kitchen!! Whenever we have anyone over for dinner I always pray for good weather so we can sit outside!

Now I'm just rambling - hope everyone is doing well!!

 

[korink26]

Oh Alyssa, I wish I could take some of your pain---I so feel for you. I just really think this is the start of an amazing year for you. The timing of your testing will be perfect, because with your summer job the wait for results will hopefully go quicker because you'll be preoccupied. Then you'll get home in time to take action. and what a beautiful kitty! I'm such a huge advocate of rescuing, so I'm so pleased to hear you took that route. I hope she settles in quickly and learns to trust what a wonderful family she was just adopted into
Rach hope you're killing it at your interview! Let us know right away how it goes. Can you look into the Medicaid to help with the deductibles you'll be stuck with on Andrew's insurance? Then you can have his insurance as primary and maybe the medicaid would work as a secondary. Def check into it!
Jessie---I spent awhile looking back for your earlier posts on your first scan---and it reassured me a ton! I totally forgot you had that stress in the beginning---and it gave me a lot of hope. THANK YOU!!! What a perfect boat mate Isabela is! Sleeping like that is amazing! and jess, you are looking GREAT girl! Seriously, how'd you lose it so quick!?
Lindsay, can't wait for pictures! I didn't realize you all had the stomach bug, how awful while pregnant! You are such a tough chick, I'd be in a ball feeling sorry for myself (I'm the worst baby with pain/sickness) and you probably didn't miss a beat.
Sam--hope that ankle is holding up and hope you're getting through your days at work ok. I'm sure you're just exhausted when you get home, but that's when the bigger job of mommy starts. No time for rest...
AFM--Ryan is the most positive optimistic person alive (which is the exact opposite of me, so thank God he really rounds me out). So, he's been totally positive about it from the beginning, and with these numbers he's really excited. I had him read about a Blighted Ovum and how the numbers look great with them as well, just to try and prepare him but he didn't want to hear it. He's not able to come with me to Fridays appt because it's finals at school and he absolutely couldn't miss it. I could have taken a later appt so he could come, but I wanted the first one possible. Today I woke up feeling horrible, horrible headache and bad stomach. Smells are really bothering me today and I just feel sooo tired. all symptoms could be from my headache...but idk. Absolutely no pink/brown discharge today or last night. Weird because my first miscarriage when I started spotting, it didn't stop at any point.
Girls, sorry to be so about me this past week, you girls have been my saving grace, for serious. No matter the outcome, to have you guys to lean on is amazing. THANK YOU FOR BEING THE BEST FRIENDS EVER! XOXO

 

[confusedprego]

Kels - I haven't lost hope at all for you and I'm so excited to hear you have the first appointment on Friday - you're a tough chick even if you think you're not - you'll be fine at that appointment on your own! Would you want your mom there with you just in case? Is that an option? I feel like I'm fortunate to have my SIL always scanning me so if something is wrong, she's family/friend/health expert all in one! I don't think you'll need the support - just someone to celebrate with Everything I've read about blighted ovums suggest that the hcg may rise initially normally but past 10,000 and even 5,000 it most often does not rise appropriately - so we're just going with it's too early!!

Rach - looking forward to hearing about your interview!

Jess - sorry I forgot to comment on yours! How awesome you got a 7hr stretch! you need to sleep out on the boat more often

 

[babydust818]

Lindsay i can't wait to see pics! I love watching shows that renovate houses. I think it is so neat. Sounds like your house is really coming together. I saw you had wrote about a stomach bug. Yuck! Glad it's leaving the house. I really hate those. Hope Oakley keeps feeling better

Kelsey thank goodness for your hubby! I wish i could come with you to your appt on Friday. Feel so bad that you have to go alone, but like i said i have SO MUCH hope for you. I feel like things are going to be okay. The headache and high sense of smell is great prego symptoms. Hoping for the absolute best for you. I honestly wonder if you were just too early to be seen on the ultrasound and right now you have something going on with the whole pregnancy process. Nothing bad... but just something being irritated or maybe you had a cyst that burst? I know cysts on ovaries can cause very bad stomach pain. Let's pray that's all it is!! Oh an thanks for the heads up about Medicaid as a secondary. I don't know much about that, but i'll look into it.

I got the job! I go tmrw to start paperwork. My short-term disability company is giving me grief about paying me. They approved me until May 5th and i had to have my Dr fax all my paperwork over so i could be approved until May 26th. Well, got a check in the mail along with a letter saying i was approved ONE more week which leads up to May 12th. Ugh! So frustrating. So i been on the phone trying to figure all this crap out. Can't wait for everything to start clearing up. I'm almost there. Yikes!

 

[korink26]

Jess I think I'd arrange to get your boat to that pond by your house and that's where I'd be sleeping everynight with her
THanks Linds---everything I've been reading says that the worst part of the BO is that the numbers cont. to rise as normal which is why people go to their 10 week appt completely unsuspecting because their numbers have been perfect all along. I need to google your situation, will help me feel a little better.
My mom offered to go, but I'd feel like a baby I think...so I'll just put my big girl pants on and go. And then cry like a baby regardless of the outcome (happy tears or sad tears)

 

[korink26]

OH RAch we were typing at the same time--CONGRATS!! knew you'd get it How crappy, seems like anything with insurance they'll always make you fight for what's yours. Hope you get what you have coming. So when do you start at the front desk?

 

[babydust818]

I go in tmrw to do paperwork and will start to schedule me after that. So basically i'll know more tmrw. I am REALLY happy to get out of housekeeping. I worked with Andrew's cousin in that department and sadly enough she's being a baby about me leaving. She made a comment i guess that said, "I worked up until i had MY baby". Uhh sorry every pregnancy is different and everyone has diff needs. Oh AND i am working. Just a diff position. Sorry that you're stuck in your job, but don't be a hater.

Really can not stand drama. I just let it go because i hate being caught up in it.

 

[BeachChica]

Rach - congrats on getting the job!!! I knew you'd do it! Who cares that Andrews cousin is being sour grapes! Maybe she's just jealous! I the ink you'll really enjoy working there and gives you some great experience with customer service that has helped me even in my accounting job. You learn a lot of patience dealing in that type of situation, especially during tough times. I always hated telling people they did not have a room when the hotel was overbooked, but you get through it!

Lindsay - so sorry you were not feeling well and came home to a sick house too! Poor Oakley! Can't wait to see your Reno pictures!! What will you guys do with yourselves when you're done renovating houses!!???

Kelsey - I am so excited about your appointment on Friday!! I think everything will be perfect! When you looked back at my posts, did I give my HCG levels? I remember them being high and them not seeing much on the scan. I was pretty negative going into each pregnancy with all the losses anyway so it did nit help that the doctor had me all freaked out but it turned out to be fine! My secret to weight loss is not eating (there seems to be in time with her) and a lot of pacing around the house with her LOL!

Sam - how are you feeling girl? Any contractions yet?

Alyssa - your kitty is so cute!!! Pets do help get us through our tough times! Hope you are doing ok. When is your appointment with the specialist. Do you know what kinds of tests they will be doing initially?

AFM - Chris and I are in Orlando for a couple days. He has a conference and Isabela and I are going shopping! Got an email from the school we wanted to get Isabela into and they said she can start August 18th. That's still 2 months after I go back to work but much better than January as they originally told us!!! I am so excited for her!!! I think it will be a great experience!!

 

[babydust818]

Thanks Jessie! I know there will be a lot of obstacles that come up with that job, but hopefully i can take some of my customer service skills that i already have and be able to use it lol. I'll be working the fun shift... check in time. Yikes. That is SO great you can get Isabela into daycare so soon! That is a major difference from January. WOOHOO! Have fun shopping with little Miss.

Have any of you ever experienced little shocks of pain randomly from your stomach to the left side of your chest? I was laying in bed last night and i had a few stabbing pains randomly. Just had one now too.

 

[korink26]

Jess that's all exciting news---being in Orlando (soooo beyond jealous) and Isabela's acceptance letter I think that'll be a really good age for her to start. So in the mean time, your parents will watch her? Will they still watch her a day or 2 a week or will she be in daycare everyday?
You did list your HCG, and I forget exactly what it was but I think about 20000? So I guess it really is true that you shouldn't go by your HCG as to what you'll see on the u/s. Shame on your Dr. for freaking you out like that. I'd still think at 140000 I'd at least see a yolk sac, but who knows. Very anxious for tomorrow. It's weird, my stomach is starting to get hard on the bottom and I'm getting major bloat!
Rach, not gonna lie---customer service can be a challenge. Not gonna lie, I want to punch people in the throat pretty regularily, but, it's also very rewarding sometimes. I think you'll do great, and it'll be much better on your body physically. Just be prepared for the dickheads, because unfortunately, there's enough of them. Please don't take me as being negative, because I think this is a GREAT opportunity and I'm so happy for you!

 

[korink26]

Rach, once again, we were posting at the same time!
Umm...idk if I remember the pains going to my chest?

 

[babydust818]

LoL we must be twins! I know what you're saying about customer service. I know it's no walk in the park. I love to punch ppl in the throats too lmao. I just think if i compare wanting to do that to cleaning a nasty trashed room... i'd prefer checking ppl in. I really really think tmrw is going to go great for you!! I got everything crossed. What time is your appt? I think you're an hour behind me, right? It's 11 here.

 

[confusedprego]

Hey girls!

Rach - so awesome you got the job and I think you'll enjoy it a lot more than cleaning up after everyone! So exciting to start something new!! When's your next appointment?? I get really bad pains in my like groin area any time I stand up too fast or try to pick something slightly heavy up while I'm bent over. It hurts pretty badly but I guess those are round ligament pains. I get the sharp pains in my chest on the side pretty frequently and I assume that's gas - I get that even when I'm not pregnant but def more often while I am pregnant.

Kels - I'm looking forward to tomorrow for you too so you can sleep better!! I'm convinced everything is going to be fine! I'll be stalking like a mad woman tomorrow How are you feeling today? All your symptoms are really promising!!! Did they recheck your progesterone each time? Have they made any comments about that??

Jess - awesome you can get into daycare so quickly!! Will she go in full-time right away? I've been amazed how well Oakley has done at daycare and how much he's learned. We realized yesterday in the bath that he can recognize and say every single letter and number (1-9) and he can even count to 10! Just amazing! I work on that type of stuff with him but not enough for him to know it all by now so his preschool is definitely doing something!!

Sam, Mar, Alyssa - how you girls doing?

AFM - just had my anatomy scan. Little booger is still a boy and is growing perfectly He's 15 ounces and I have practically 100 pictures to choose from to show you guys so I'll do that a little later. He was rolling around in there - he's breach right now, which obviously is fine as he has plenty of time (and room) to flip - and I think that's why I feel him move so much right now - my SIL said he was Irish dancing on my bladder - which makes a lot of sense too haha.

Happy almost Friday, ladies!! Can't wait for the weekendddddd

 

[babydust818]

Lindsay my anatomy scan was when i was 20w6d and he too was breech! I think he still is honestly lol. I always feel movement very low. Glad everything looks great! Have you put anymore thought into names? Orion? Yes? No? lol. Yay tmrw is Friday. You doing anything this weekend? I hope to go camping.

 

[korink26]

Yep Rachael you're an hour behind me-and my appt is at 8. No matter how much people suck at the reception, you are so right, soooo much better than having to pick up their mess.
Lindsay I've asked them to check my progesterone but they said at this point they wouldn't anymore because there's no point. Soo...no clue why there's no point---if that's super super low, I think it would also let us know what's going on. I wonder if they can see that, or if just an HCG is requested, is that all they'd get? Today I'm not nauseous like yesterday---so it was just my headache. I'm more crampy/achy today. I guess we'll see soon if that's a good or bad thing.
Lindsay---I can't wait to see pictures of that stud! Anymore talk on his name?! What about the rest of you---nobody answered me---are you guys sick of me harrassing me about your baby names?!