Honey - i'm sorry to say this but for your own sake get out now.
Wither its just been this once thats he's said these vile things to you or more than once it is massive red flag!!
Stop and think no matter how hurt and angry a person is at their partner, never would someone in love say something like 'i'll slit your throat!' That is in no way a healthy relationship.
Please dont linger thinking its just this once or it wont happen again - these type of things only get worse over time not better.
I have had to watch my best friend go through a bitter and twisted divorce because of a man who we all thought was the bees knees and a perfect match for her was actually mentally and emotionally abusing her - i would hate for you to end up in the same position.
Please stop and really think hard about everything.
Honey - i'm sorry to say this but for your own sake get out now.
Wither its just been this once thats he's said these vile things to you or more than once it is massive red flag!!
Stop and think no matter how hurt and angry a person is at their partner, never would someone in love say something like 'i'll slit your throat!' That is in no way a healthy relationship.
Please dont linger thinking its just this once or it wont happen again - these type of things only get worse over time not better.
I have had to watch my best friend go through a bitter and twisted divorce because of a man who we all thought was the bees knees and a perfect match for her was actually mentally and emotionally abusing her - i would hate for you to end up in the same position.
Please stop and really think hard about everything.
This is great advice, couldn't have put it better.
So sorry your going through this
I have the utmost respect for your friend. She is a strong women and her ex is a weak (insert rude word of choice)Honey - i'm sorry to say this but for your own sake get out now.
Wither its just been this once thats he's said these vile things to you or more than once it is massive red flag!!
Stop and think no matter how hurt and angry a person is at their partner, never would someone in love say something like 'i'll slit your throat!' That is in no way a healthy relationship.
Please dont linger thinking its just this once or it wont happen again - these type of things only get worse over time not better.
I have had to watch my best friend go through a bitter and twisted divorce because of a man who we all thought was the bees knees and a perfect match for her was actually mentally and emotionally abusing her - i would hate for you to end up in the same position.
Please stop and really think hard about everything.
This is great advice, couldn't have put it better.
So sorry your going through this
Thank you - she is now coming out the other side, but its not been easy for her and even harder having to care for their son, and hold down her job, whilst going through it all but she has been the strongest person i've known to get through it with the dignity she has.
Their son was only 1 when she finally saw the guy for who he was and got out after 9 years!!
It was very well hidden - even she wasn't aware of how abusive and manipulative he was until someone she barely knew regonised the signs in some of the things she was saying and pointed out that she wasn't happy or in a healthy relationship - i'll never forgive myself for not being able to see it.
I think the thing that stuck in my mind the most was when she told me that on her wedding day when her dad asked if she was sure, her reply was 'its too late now' - that should have had a few bells ringing!!
Original poster - I beg you honey DONT sweep this under the carpet - you are worth far far more than this guy! At the very least don't start TTC with this man until you have really and honestly (and honestly with yourself) thought through everything that's been said to you and you know in your heart of hearts that you will either be safe with this man or that you do need to leave.
I'm available if you need to PM me.
Thanks for listening ladies. The thing is one minute he is the most affectionate, caring, loving husband. Shows affection at home, in public, always kisses and hugs me. My whole family think he is such a loving and caring husband and he is except for when he is upset with me, he calls me names. I am beginning to think it may be some kind of anger issue he may need some help in dealing with. I know he loves me and would do anything for me, he is a 'perfect' husband until we fight and he calls me names. Sometimes I call him bad names back and sometimes I don't call him anything to see if he will stop. I think I might mention counselling to him. He slept on the couch the night we argued, I didn't tell him too, he just did. The next morning he didn't say anything to me, but as time passed and we were about to leave for work he started talking and said I love u.