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[kit_cat]

Clare..how are you and have things improved any? Sending you big x

 

[babyhopes2010]

yeh they have improved alot between me and DH but im still really low
i never felt like this before.Im going to go to the drs when i get back from Ireland x

 

[Essie]

Whoah! No disrespect to your mum at all, but the times have changed and women are no longer considered only good for housework and child rearing. As much as it is completely our responsibility to ensure our children are loved, cared for adequately and nurtured appropriately, it does not mean that it has to be you or me who does that 24/7. There is a very good argument that says a happy working mum is far better for her child than a miserable SAHM who scrapes by. However, if you feel you will be a miserable working mum, that's a whole different thing. Personally, I don't think I will be miserable at work after the initial wrench. It's a very personal thing though. Try not to allow the guilt to make decisions for you...I say just do what feels right and makes you happy

I had the same reaction when she said it, I think in her defense she meant it from a personal standpoint rather than "all women should be homemakers". However I still wish she'd said nothing.

It's strange. While I was pregnant I planned to go back doing almost full time, and had no problem with that. Since having lyra I have no desire to go back. I don't miss work at all.

I'm sorry I'm using the thread as a sounding board tonight. Just the thoughts that are consuming me at the moment. In reality (bar a lottery win) I'm back at work in 6 weeks, end of.

 

[Essie]

Clare I've been thinking of you, wondering how you and baby Freya are.

 

[kit_cat]

yeh they have improved alot between me and DH but im still really low
i never felt like this before.Im going to go to the drs when i get back from Ireland x

It's no wonder you are low..you've just had a baby and your marriage has taken a bashing. That would take its toll on anyone. A trip to the docs sounds wise, even if it's just for some advice rather than medication

 

[mummyApril]

Evening all!

April..so relieved there's nothing serious going on with James I tried BBMing you but wasn't sure if you would get it

So we've had a nice little day The couple who came round for dinner a few weeks back had a birthday party for their little 1 year old girl this afternoon I kept thinking that by the time Cara is having her 1st birthday celebrations, I'll be back at work

Anyway..tomorrow we are having my friend, her DH and their twin girls round for lunch...I'm going to cook a cheese, broccoli and bacon casserole and OH is doing his signature veggie pasta bol For dessert I thought it would be fun for me to ask the girls (who are 4 by the way) to help me make ice cream sundaes for everyone...on paper it seems like a good idea

Hope all is well with everyone

Sounds like a fun day, and another good one planned tomorrow. I bet the girls will love making sundaes with you.

I know what you mean about work, I had a massive sob earlier that six weeks tomorrow I will be back at work. It will absolutely break my heart to go back, I'm still staring at our finances trying to figure a way I could stay at home, even though I know none exists

Me too Essie..I've done much soul searching over the last few weeks about this exact thing. Should I give up work, sell my house for a smaller one and live a leaner existence in order that I may stay home and take care of Cara or should I return to work as has always been the plan thanking my lucky stars I was able to be there for her first year and because I work she will have many things I never had as a child? My head explodes sometimes

can i just put in my 2 cents? although im not in the position and never have been, i have ALWAYS said to Angel i wish i could give her everything she wanted, but i cant, but when she has children shell be able to because shell have a job etc, i dont know but i seem to think its what Angel would prefer youre a brilliant mother so anything you decide will be good for Cara anyway

Thanks April. I honestly don't think your girls or James want for anything. They have all your love

i try and convince myself that is all they need, by the time Angel is in her teens and NEEDING clothes etc etc il be able to get it for her without the worry

 

[mummyApril]

going to love you all and leave you not 100% and need my bed xxxx

 

[kit_cat]

Whoah! No disrespect to your mum at all, but the times have changed and women are no longer considered only good for housework and child rearing. As much as it is completely our responsibility to ensure our children are loved, cared for adequately and nurtured appropriately, it does not mean that it has to be you or me who does that 24/7. There is a very good argument that says a happy working mum is far better for her child than a miserable SAHM who scrapes by. However, if you feel you will be a miserable working mum, that's a whole different thing. Personally, I don't think I will be miserable at work after the initial wrench. It's a very personal thing though. Try not to allow the guilt to make decisions for you...I say just do what feels right and makes you happy

I had the same reaction when she said it, I think in her defense she meant it from a personal standpoint rather than "all women should be homemakers". However I still wish she'd said nothing.

It's strange. While I was pregnant I planned to go back doing almost full time, and had no problem with that. Since having lyra I have no desire to go back. I don't miss work at all.

I'm sorry I'm using the thread as a sounding board tonight. Just the thoughts that are consuming me at the moment. In reality (bar a lottery win) I'm back at work in 6 weeks, end of.

Hey, that is what this thread and we are all for. It's always a good thing to spill out your thoughts to people in the same position as yourself...it always makes me feel less alone and it's nice to be understood no matter what your view is.
Like you, being a mum has changed me beyond anything I anticipated. Before Cara was here I wouldn't have considered the possibility of not returning to work as it's simply not financially viable. The fact I've given it considerable thought in spite of this speaks volumes. It's not necessarily that I don't want to return to work, it's that part of me thinks I should prioritise Cara over work no matter how I feel about doing that or how viable an option that is. Ohhhh, my head hurts again

 

[kit_cat]

going to love you all and leave you not 100% and need my bed xxxx

Good night my lovely...I hope you get some decent rest and so does our James

 

[kit_cat]

 

[kit_cat]

Ok turtles....we are now good to go with the TAs. The burning question is when?! Would a night this week work or should we wait until next weekend now (bearing time differences in mind) What do you all think??

 

[addie25]

Any time should work for me

 

[Sarachka]

Any time should be good for me Kit

Took a laxative earlier bc, well bc of the normal reason you would. I can feel it working. Belly ache.

 

[firstbaby25]

Sorry for posting and running this afternoon I had a visitor and then Erin came an she has only just gone to sleep. It was my first time without any comforts at all. Dummies and bottles it should only get easier!

Essie and kit these sound some tough emotions to be going through and big choices I hope you are ok.

I miss and love you all... But I am a bit better, resolved if you will that it is happening and that it is what I want though at times it is sooo hard... Adjusting to being alone ..

But yes thanks Kit I wore my mustard dress painted my nails red was fun. Spoke to people that I haven't really seen for 2 years or so because Adam didn't like them it's a girl and a boy and they are now seeing each other. A bit weird, but nice. I used to live with the girl...

 

[Crunchie]

Hi ladies

Firstly April, so happy you are all home and James is on the mend !

Clare - so happy it's getting a little easier ... You have been on my mind lots. Do be kind to yourself as this motherhood lark is a huge adjustment xxxx

I also want to be a SAHM but living in London will not allow it ...... I think we will all feel guilty about something .... Going back to work, not going back ... The guilt will always be there .... If that makes sense ???

 

[kit_cat]

Hi ladies

Firstly April, so happy you are all home and James is on the mend !

Clare - so happy it's getting a little easier ... You have been on my mind lots. Do be kind to yourself as this motherhood lark is a huge adjustment xxxx

I also want to be a SAHM but living in London will not allow it ...... I think we will all feel guilty about something .... Going back to work, not going back ... The guilt will always be there .... If that makes sense ???

Hi Crunchster

You're spot on my dear...parental guilt seeps under our skin the minute we give birth I think. My friend told me on the phone that she thinks I am a great example of how "women can have it all"....I didn't even know where to start to explain how that will never be possible, in my eyes anyway.

 

[Crunchie]

Hi ladies

Firstly April, so happy you are all home and James is on the mend !

Clare - so happy it's getting a little easier ... You have been on my mind lots. Do be kind to yourself as this motherhood lark is a huge adjustment xxxx

I also want to be a SAHM but living in London will not allow it ...... I think we will all feel guilty about something .... Going back to work, not going back ... The guilt will always be there .... If that makes sense ???

Hi Crunchster

You're spot on my dear...parental guilt seeps under our skin the minute we give birth I think. My friend told me on the phone that she thinks I am a great example of how "women can have it all"....I didn't even know where to start to explain how that will never be possible, in my eyes anyway.

Funny how I used to be so rational, now I question everything I do !
I do tend to let Lauren play quite alot on her own .... So that then triggers -
Perhaps I don't hold her enough ?
Is that why she will not sleep/nap on me at all ?
Perhaps she does not like me holding her ? This can go on for AGES in my head lol
When in reality she likes exploring without me and throws me big smiles to show how clever she thinks she is !!!

We will get there ladies....

 

[Crunchie]

Now I can not remeber if Newbe is going to be team yellow or not ?????

 

[addie25]

I am going to start watching youtubes on how to do different hair styles. I want the girls to always have lovely hair styles and I am not good at doing hair!!!!!

DH and I picked out the tile for our bathroom. We are having a very hard time picking out vanities tho. The paint we picked out for the girls bathroom looks bad on the wall so we need to get new colors tomorrow and hopefully like one since the painter is coming next week!!! Tile guy comes Tuesday so wish we had vanities picked out so we can get them installed next week but we just don't like any. Hopefully we find 2 we like tomorrow. We also got this awesome chair for our room. I am calling it a daddy gift for DH. It reclines so he can sit and feed the girls in it. It will be in our room. Comes in 4-6 weeks tho so long wait but well worth it, it's so lovely.

 

[kit_cat]

Now I can not remeber if Newbe is going to be team yellow or not ?????

Nope...Newbs is definitely a finder-outerer