3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[fisher640]

Well, at least with fertilization then perhaps we've got a good shot with ICSI. But with egg quality.........I wouldn't know what else to do. I don't think donor eggs are an option for us.

Yesterday, I went in for my baseline U/S for the 3rd IUI. RE will not increase my clomid dose (currently at 50mg) because he says I ovulate on my own. He's asking us to agree to one last clomid cycle this time and then move onto injectables next.

At this point, I really just want to go straight to IVF and get some answers. I so tired, emotionally and physically to go through any more IUI's, but my DH and parents want me to continue IUI a couple more times.

I'm just really scared. I feel like if it hasn't worked then it's either fertilization issues or egg quality issues, although I've heard that ferilization issues are more rare than the later for "older" women. I turn 35 in two weeks =(. I feel so hopeless.......so so scared.

TTCbaby, what is your age again?

I was feeling exactly the same as you. it's not hopeless yet. Hang in there!!!

 

[Trulyoo]

Fisher, were your first 4 iui's unmedicated? You had success on your 5th try! You give me hope!

 

[Sunshine24]

Hi girls congratulations to those of you who got a BFP your stories are def inspiring!
I see many of you are in similar situations as me! I had 3 failed iui's and am completely heartbroken and depressed. Some days I am really bad and don't know what to do with myself. This month and next month I am taking a break. I will be going for a second opinon with a new RE next month as well.

Hey Chris, just wanted to say keep your chin up sister.... I am almost in the exact same boat and I'm also 31 yrs old. I'm thinking about you.

I am also currently taking a break until my lap Feb 12th --- I am trying to embrace the break and take the time to let my body enjoy being off meds and let my mind enjoy not having to remember meds, appts etc.

I'm sorry you're going through this though, because I know how hard it can be. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you!!!

Has your doc suggested a lap surgery yet? They may be able to find what is going on....

 

[Chris_25]

Hi girls congratulations to those of you who got a BFP your stories are def inspiring!
I see many of you are in similar situations as me! I had 3 failed iui's and am completely heartbroken and depressed. Some days I am really bad and don't know what to do with myself. This month and next month I am taking a break. I will be going for a second opinon with a new RE next month as well.

Hey Chris, just wanted to say keep your chin up sister.... I am almost in the exact same boat and I'm also 31 yrs old. I'm thinking about you.

I am also currently taking a break until my lap Feb 12th --- I am trying to embrace the break and take the time to let my body enjoy being off meds and let my mind enjoy not having to remember meds, appts etc.

I'm sorry you're going through this though, because I know how hard it can be. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you!!!

Has your doc suggested a lap surgery yet? They may be able to find what is going on....

Thank you and you are in my thoughts as well! The doctor i'm with mentioned that I can do the lap if I wanted to, but doubts he will find anything. I been having lots of weird pains going on in my whole pelvic area that shoots up to my hip so I dunno i'm all screwed up! I hope the new RE next month actually i'm going on Feb 12th as well hopefully he will do a lap! I just want an answer! I wish you luck

 

[Bma11]

to all of you.

I wish a lap could be mandatory before starting fertility treatments. I didn't even know I was having symptoms of endo before my third IUI failed. That's when I started doing more research on symptoms and with the help of all the girls I've come across here, everyone seems to agree you don't always have classic symptoms for everything that could be going on.

Before doing fertility treatment I had to do a Hysterscopy . Wish I would have done the lap too. Maybe for my case I wouldn't have had three failed iui's. but it is what it is. I'm excited to get this show on the road though.
But as much as I cried after my 3rd failed IUI, and all the other emotions we are all feeling and have felt, I'm much better now. We as women are so strong. This will pass. We have to keep going

 

[Chris_25]

to all of you.

I wish a lap could be mandatory before starting fertility treatments. I didn't even know I was having symptoms of endo before my third IUI failed. That's when I started doing more research on symptoms and with the help of all the girls I've come across here, everyone seems to agree you don't always have classic symptoms for everything that could be going on.

Before doing fertility treatment I had to do a Hysterscopy . Wish I would have done the lap too. Maybe for my case I wouldn't have had three failed iui's. but it is what it is. I'm excited to get this show on the road though.
But as much as I cried after my 3rd failed IUI, and all the other emotions we are all feeling and have felt, I'm much better now. We as women are so strong. This will pass. We have to keep going

I agree that it should be mandatory! I'm glad you were able to find it and I really hope I could get a lap done soon. So you didn't have any symptoms of endo?

 

[Sunshine24]

Hi girls congratulations to those of you who got a BFP your stories are def inspiring!
I see many of you are in similar situations as me! I had 3 failed iui's and am completely heartbroken and depressed. Some days I am really bad and don't know what to do with myself. This month and next month I am taking a break. I will be going for a second opinon with a new RE next month as well.

Hey Chris, just wanted to say keep your chin up sister.... I am almost in the exact same boat and I'm also 31 yrs old. I'm thinking about you.

I am also currently taking a break until my lap Feb 12th --- I am trying to embrace the break and take the time to let my body enjoy being off meds and let my mind enjoy not having to remember meds, appts etc.

I'm sorry you're going through this though, because I know how hard it can be. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you!!!

Has your doc suggested a lap surgery yet? They may be able to find what is going on....

Thank you and you are in my thoughts as well! The doctor i'm with mentioned that I can do the lap if I wanted to, but doubts he will find anything. I been having lots of weird pains going on in my whole pelvic area that shoots up to my hip so I dunno i'm all screwed up! I hope the new RE next month actually i'm going on Feb 12th as well hopefully he will do a lap! I just want an answer! I wish you luck

I have no idea if they will even find something on my lap either, but my doc mentioned that just actually DOING a lap promotes a higher rate of pregnancy in the 3-6 months following it because it forces the uterus to heal itself and completely clears out your system. Who knows--we'll have to see I guess!

 

[Bma11]

Not that I knew and definitely not stage 2-3. Blew my mind. I had one symptom. When I was on my period and had to go number 2 it always hurt. I just thought it was normal. Then reading more into endo that was a symptom and also my mom had it BAD. My RE said if that is your only symptom then it would be advanced stages of endo. He seemed skeptical that I had no other symptoms leading up! But the endo was in my rectum, this is why it hurt !!!

 

[Chris_25]

Hi girls congratulations to those of you who got a BFP your stories are def inspiring!
I see many of you are in similar situations as me! I had 3 failed iui's and am completely heartbroken and depressed. Some days I am really bad and don't know what to do with myself. This month and next month I am taking a break. I will be going for a second opinon with a new RE next month as well.

Hey Chris, just wanted to say keep your chin up sister.... I am almost in the exact same boat and I'm also 31 yrs old. I'm thinking about you.

I am also currently taking a break until my lap Feb 12th --- I am trying to embrace the break and take the time to let my body enjoy being off meds and let my mind enjoy not having to remember meds, appts etc.

I'm sorry you're going through this though, because I know how hard it can be. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you!!!

Has your doc suggested a lap surgery yet? They may be able to find what is going on....

Thank you and you are in my thoughts as well! The doctor i'm with mentioned that I can do the lap if I wanted to, but doubts he will find anything. I been having lots of weird pains going on in my whole pelvic area that shoots up to my hip so I dunno i'm all screwed up! I hope the new RE next month actually i'm going on Feb 12th as well hopefully he will do a lap! I just want an answer! I wish you luck

I have no idea if they will even find something on my lap either, but my doc mentioned that just actually DOING a lap promotes a higher rate of pregnancy in the 3-6 months following it because it forces the uterus to heal itself and completely clears out your system. Who knows--we'll have to see I guess!

Hm interesting! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

 

[Chris_25]

Not that I knew and definitely not stage 2-3. Blew my mind. I had one symptom. When I was on my period and had to go number 2 it always hurt. I just thought it was normal. Then reading more into endo that was a symptom and also my mom had it BAD. My RE said if that is your only symptom then it would be advanced stages of endo. He seemed skeptical that I had no other symptoms leading up! But the endo was in my rectum, this is why it hurt !!!

Wow i've never heard of that. I don't know too much about endo, but am def curious if I have it. I am going to demand a lap

 

[Sunshine24]

Not that I knew and definitely not stage 2-3. Blew my mind. I had one symptom. When I was on my period and had to go number 2 it always hurt. I just thought it was normal. Then reading more into endo that was a symptom and also my mom had it BAD. My RE said if that is your only symptom then it would be advanced stages of endo. He seemed skeptical that I had no other symptoms leading up! But the endo was in my rectum, this is why it hurt !!!

Wow i've never heard of that. I don't know too much about endo, but am def curious if I have it. I am going to demand a lap

Demand it! You go girl! I have a good friend that tried for 2+ years on her own, went to a fertility clinic for almost a year ( 3-4 IUI's cant remember ), and then finally got recommended for a lap. She went in, they found a TINY bit of endo ( no symptoms ) and then literally the next month's IUI was a success. TWINS!

 

[Bma11]

Oh sunshine! Love hearing stories like that!!!!!!!

My sis had stage 4 ( the worse) and has went on to have 2 kids (one in the womb now) and naturally. She had done 3 iui's before too. Gives me hope!

 

[Chris_25]

Not that I knew and definitely not stage 2-3. Blew my mind. I had one symptom. When I was on my period and had to go number 2 it always hurt. I just thought it was normal. Then reading more into endo that was a symptom and also my mom had it BAD. My RE said if that is your only symptom then it would be advanced stages of endo. He seemed skeptical that I had no other symptoms leading up! But the endo was in my rectum, this is why it hurt !!!

Wow i've never heard of that. I don't know too much about endo, but am def curious if I have it. I am going to demand a lap

Demand it! You go girl! I have a good friend that tried for 2+ years on her own, went to a fertility clinic for almost a year ( 3-4 IUI's cant remember ), and then finally got recommended for a lap. She went in, they found a TINY bit of endo ( no symptoms ) and then literally the next month's IUI was a success. TWINS!

That's right I will! Lol
Wow that's amazing!

 

[Chris_25]

Oh sunshine! Love hearing stories like that!!!!!!!

My sis had stage 4 ( the worse) and has went on to have 2 kids (one in the womb now) and naturally. She had done 3 iui's before too. Gives me hope!

Wow so maybe you take after her and u will be getting your baby soon!

 

[fisher640]

Fisher, were your first 4 iui's unmedicated? You had success on your 5th try! You give me hope!

The very first one was unmedicated. Then I decided that was dumb, mostly because we were unexplained and IUI with clomid only takes u up to like a 20% chance each cycle, so without meds is even lower. (DH was also initially afraid of twins, but seeing how upset/depressed I was getting helped him over that) then the next 4 were all with clomid 50mg day 3-7

I ovulated on my own before and the 4 clomid cycles I had between 1-3 follicles each time. The highest DH's count ever was was 33mil post was, but it was 11 the cycle it worked.

 

[LuckyW]

Thanks Mimi and everyone else for this thread.

I had 3 failed IUIs last year with an ob/gyn, so I sought out a fertility specialist. Turned out I had a polyp in the way. Once that got removed, the next IUI worked!

But it didn't work out, I ended up losing. So back to IUIs.

And now there have been 3 more that didn't work.

[...]

But I'm 42, not too far from 43. This last IUI not working out has hit me pretty hard. Like I need to face that this really might just never be.

We'll be taking the next cycle off to just enjoy the holidays. And maybe my body needs a rest from all the exogenous hormones. The acupuncturist seemed to think a month off from all the drugs would be a good thing.

But it feels like we should consider calling it done, not meant to be. Then I could at least start moving on.

So all these failed IUIs, with lots and lots of drugs, drugs then more drugs, and plenty of follicles every month...

We decide to take a month off, and what do you know, a BFP happens without medication intervention, without our RE in the room!

I'm feeling very cautiously optimistic, because at my age, my chances of delivering successfully are still not great. But hope this gives some of you some hope.

As my mate always says, and Mimi too, it's basically a numbers game. Like rolling dice.

Heartfelt hug to everyone in this thread.

 

[PinkPeony]

Fantastic!! Congrats!! I love hearing stories like that. Praying for a very sticky bean for you!!

 

[fisher640]

Lucky,
Looks like a perfect gummy bear so far tho!!!

 

[Sunshine24]

CONGRATS! Good luck!

 

[Sunshine24]

So my lap is now MONDAY!!!!!! My doc had a last minute cancellation and can fit me in THIS Monday. I am so pumped I dont have to wait any longer! She called me this morning and MADE MY DAY!

It's literally a month earlier than my originally scheduled procedure.

Hopefully they can figure out what is going on and we can move forward asap.

2013 is our year ladies!!!

I will post an update after surgery to let everyone know how it went and what they found, as I know a few of you are considering this procedure as well.

Enjoy your weekend, all.