30 yo and TTC #1

[JCM]

RforReal that is great news! I know when I was researching my specialist I looked at his pricing and it's about 10k which includes everything. We didn't discuss it at all because he wanted to treat my "endocrine issues" for insurance coverage reasons. He kind of mentioned he was paving the way for as much coverage as possible for whatever we decided to do. He knows about the male factor but that's not included in my chart yet so I'm hoping at least for some help with insurance.
I'm going to see my doc next week as soon as I get AF to have an ultrasound of a polyp on my uterus. I think that's the day I'll lay it on the line. Lol look, let's bring in the male factor NOW cause I need a plan. I never imagined this being the way I had to have a family but if this is how it's gonna go, let's move! I'd like to keep doing my course of treatment and then start the IVF cycle stuff next cycle and hope to be pregnant by June. I don't like to tell doctors what to do but 14 months feels like forever...
Curious, I hate that feeling. Do you feel like you're in a rut? Maybe take a whole day and be sad and sit on the couch watching tv all day eating pizza. That's what I do. Then the next day, I'm ready to get up and go. Also, buy a new outfit and have a date with your awesome hubby!
Ladders, at the beginning his count was low (3mil) then it hiked up to normal numbers (21mil) and that was last summer. Now, over Christmas it was back to low (8mil) so we thought maybe it was a bad sample. But sadly no, this sample from last week confirms 3 mil. His motility is super high though which I guess is good news to have good ones to inject into an egg. Does your hubby have analysis very often?

 

[lsd2721]

Curious, how upsetting! I hope your period or bfp comes soon!

 

[JCM]

Curious, when are you due? I'm sure if you call your doctor they will just tell you to wait it out. Once, I was such a wreck that I called the office the day I was due and had a blood test. Even if it was just to get it out of my mind. It was obviously negative but I was just such a mess. I know how you feel, you just want to know either way so you can get on with it! My period was supposed to come yesterday and it's not here yet. I know it's coming because we have a very low chance due to the crappy sperm count so I wish it would just come already and we can move forward!!! I love that your husband is so worried and involved. Reminds me of mine. Sometimes when I'm feeling sad, I go do something nice for him to thank him for being so great. It sounds silly but it makes me feel good. I don't work right now either. Maybe meet him for lunch?
Funny story, so yesterday after the bad news the doctor told him he needed to do his yearly prostate exam. He is over 40 and his dad had prostate cancer so we have to be super careful. Of course, he doesn't want one right because who wants that!? Anyway, his visits are always cash pay because of his reversal not being covered my insurance. So he was furious because he actually had to pay cash out of his pocket to get violated!! Poor guy. So I bought him a candy apple while he was at work later that day. He appreciated it and it made me feel happy. Win win. Minus that awful exam...

 

[curiousowl]

Thanks for the laugh JCM. Definitely needed that today! That's a really nice idea to do something for my super supportive DH. You're right, I should do that.

I'm feeling a bit better this afternoon (definitely better than last night and earlier today) and I think my interview this morning went well so that's a relief. Still no AF though 16dpo! Maybe. I don't even know at this point. My temp has flatlined the past 3 days. I don't know what that means either. I'm just confused and frustrated. And STILL taking OPKs! If I haven't ovulated my chart is a huge jerk, as well as my body with this crazy PMS. I'm used to a couple days of feeling a little emotional and then moving on as soon as AF starts. Not day after day of not feeling like myself at all. But typing that didn't make me start crying so hopefully AF starts today.

 

[lsd2721]

Curious, Does it look like OPKs are getting to a positive?!

Well, tonight I have the Elton John concert and just got back from getting toes and nails done! Love girl time! Love doing these things to get my mind off of baby making!

 

[RForReal]

Curious I don't think you are out yet. The average first BFP is at 14.5 days so that means a significant amount of people don't test positive til after that. Your chart seems pretty clear that you ovulated when you did, in my opinion anyway. Still hopeful for you!

Lsd have fun tonight! Enjoy getting your mind off TTC for a bit!

JCM - sounds very frustrating! Does your insurance not cover any infertility treatments? We are fortunate that ours covers a portion. I hear you though, I'm a month behind you, just entered month 14 of TTC and I'm so ready to move on to something new and get my family started already! Do you have an appt scheduled to talk about next steps?

We aren't dealing with a reversal but my hubby has low count and motility, the double whammy. At least his morphology is good. His most recent count was 8 million but only 20% motility.

I'm really thankful for these boards. It's hard for me to talk about TTC and my frustrations with DH because he feels responsible and guilty. I keep telling him that it's our problem and that we are dealing with it together, just like we would if I also had an issue or if I alone had an issue, but he just feels like he's preventing me from having something I want so badly. Makes it tough to be sad in front of him. It's nice to be able to come here and vent so I'm a little calmer when I talk with him.

 

[curiousowl]

Curious, Does it look like OPKs are getting to a positive?!

Well, tonight I have the Elton John concert and just got back from getting toes and nails done! Love girl time! Love doing these things to get my mind off of baby making!

Nope, the lines on the OPKs get a little darker and then light again. I'd think I was having another anovulatory cycle if it wasn't for my chart. Sigh!

Have a fabulous time tonight. You deserve it

Curious I don't think you are out yet. The average first BFP is at 14.5 days so that means a significant amount of people don't test positive til after that. Your chart seems pretty clear that you ovulated when you did, in my opinion anyway. Still hopeful for you!

Aw, thanks I didn't know that about the average. Interesting. If I make it to 18dpo I'll test again.

 

[ladders]

Jcm and Rfor really sorry to hear that the results haven't improved for you and that it looks like you'll need help.
Jcm my dh has had two sa the first one was borderline motility and progression with count of 47mil but high abnormal forms so had the test repeated and had normal amount abnormal forms and count steady at 46 mil but had Low motility at 49% and low volume at 1.2 ml. Had greatly increased viscosity and liquidation time and then therefore poor linear progress. Been looking at ways to help so have him on count boost and motility boost, trying to drink more water and I have ordered some mucinex from America which iv read can help thin his semen because at the moment the sperm are stuck because it's too thick.
Just every month that things are timed perfectly and no bfp I think it's telling me this won't happen.
We would be eligible for ivf on the nhs and depending on where you live you get 1-3 goes before having to pay. Needless to say we of course live where you only get one on the nhs.know I'm probably being pessimistic and hopefully won't get to that but is hard not to be when it's totally out of your control. Guesse I am a bit of a planning control freak!

 

[JCM]

I honestly have a planning obsession. Everything has always needed to be planned in my life. This stuff kills me! My husband had been taking some fertility vitamins his doctor recommended on amazon. They helped with motility. I will find out what they are called. Might help with other issues. Vitamins can't ever really hurt!

 

[JCM]

Curious I don't think you are out yet. The average first BFP is at 14.5 days so that means a significant amount of people don't test positive til after that. Your chart seems pretty clear that you ovulated when you did, in my opinion anyway. Still hopeful for you!

Lsd have fun tonight! Enjoy getting your mind off TTC for a bit!

JCM - sounds very frustrating! Does your insurance not cover any infertility treatments? We are fortunate that ours covers a portion. I hear you though, I'm a month behind you, just entered month 14 of TTC and I'm so ready to move on to something new and get my family started already! Do you have an appt scheduled to talk about next steps?

We aren't dealing with a reversal but my hubby has low count and motility, the double whammy. At least his morphology is good. His most recent count was 8 million but only 20% motility.

I'm really thankful for these boards. It's hard for me to talk about TTC and my frustrations with DH because he feels responsible and guilty. I keep telling him that it's our problem and that we are dealing with it together, just like we would if I also had an issue or if I alone had an issue, but he just feels like he's preventing me from having something I want so badly. Makes it tough to be sad in front of him. It's nice to be able to come here and vent so I'm a little calmer when I talk with him.

I have to wait for cycle day 1 to call to schedule my next appt. of course I'm 2 days late but I think it's because the meds help to get me on a good cycle! Crazy how fast they work! I've only been on them a couple weeks! Wouldn't it be insane if I turned up pregnant this month? Wishful thinking...I'm going to check on my insurance before I see my dr though. I'm supposed to have an ultra sound on cd6,7, or 8 this month so he can check out my hostile uterus. Lol I hope he's ready for my bossy/demanding attitude.

I love this group of ladies. I get tired of talking to friends about it because half are pregnant and the others have tiny babies! Such a nice relief. My poor husband just nods a lot when I have too much to say on the subject. He looks like he's in a daze sometimes!

 

[Miskas mommy]

my chart is confusing the crap out of me.. my temp keeps going up and down.. i take it at the same time every morning but it seems to flux a lot. can one of you ladies take a look and tell me if im nuts or if that much flux is normal????

 

[DosPinkies]

Miskas, I would but I can't see your chart. When I click on the link, it's blank.

 

[curiousowl]

I honestly have a planning obsession. Everything has always needed to be planned in my life. This stuff kills me! My husband had been taking some fertility vitamins his doctor recommended on amazon. They helped with motility. I will find out what they are called. Might help with other issues. Vitamins can't ever really hurt!

Me too JCM! I'm such a planner. I find this indescribably frustrating that you can only plan this stuff so far.


Miskas, maybe you need to mark your charts for sharing? I think I remember doing something like that when I made my account. I think you have the right link, it just doesn't have any charts on it.

 

[Miskas mommy]

Dos, i cant figure out why its going to a blank page! i am using the BBCode from the share button.

My Ovulation Chart

 

[lsd2721]

Miskas, why don't you try deleting everything on your signature and copy and pasting again. It does allow you to preview your signature before you accept it.

 

[DosPinkies]

I'm just not sure what's going on with your chart link. It seems to work...it goes to your FF homepage thingy, but there just aren't any charts listed.

 

[lsd2721]

it shows your wheel chart. that's it. Do you have it on private view or anything?!

 

[imphope]

How do you add more than just your chart to the signature? I tried to add the ticker or anything else BnB said it was too long or too many lines or something. Any thoughts? Sorry to jump in. I've been following along for a while.

 

[DosPinkies]

Imphope, the only thing I can think of is that. Ah be you're using the wrong code. Are you using the bbcode?

 

[RForReal]

I am no help on the chart adding, that's why I never tried!

But the being a planner thing, I think it's a woman thing. I'm the same way! Good and bad, you know? Sometimes I wish I was one of those people that could just let things lie as they will.

Ladders - don't give up on us! I think it's around 85% of healthy couples will get pregnant by one year. That means there are still 15% that don't get pregnant by one year and they still go on to have healthy pregnancies after the year mark. By 8 months that number is closer to 70-75%. Even if it turns out that you have to go to a fertility specialist and get assistance, you aren't doomed by any means! Just destined to be extra specially thankful for your little one when you finally are blessed with a child. I know that the wait is terrible and devastating. Every day. But we have to believe that it will all be worth it.