35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[tommyg]

Hay we are all on this journey together and we are entitled to have a moan.
Currently about CD10, we are both getting ready for some dancing, the last 2 cycles its been CD18 then CD22 when I've ovulated. Going to try the opk this month too.

 

[tommyg]

Not seen Issacralf or Barbikins comment for a few days. Hope they are both doing ok.

 

[gemmy]

Cd6 and dragging...

Hey we get you, have a moan and it only shows us that when we feel like that too we are not alone! !

And there is nothing to stop you ttc AND enjoying what you have now. I felt like that too when I was several months into trying and I was sitting with ds and I was squinting at ics and taking photos and I was spending too long going over b n b journals etc and that was the point where I looked at my little boy and I felt so guilty so I put everything down and pulled myself out of getting down... and then anytime that i felt it was taking over I would calm that down. I limited myself to just evenings coming on here ( though I am not limiting that now as I have got out of that obsessed and getting down about it ) but what I also did although I miss it was I gave up temping as that ment I had to think anout ttc first thing in the morning every single day of the whole cycle. I do feel now like I can relax inbetween af and ov and in the 2ww I feel less aware of what day I am on. I tell myself I am enjoying every day with ds but still giving him opportunity to have a brother or sister by dtd around ov lol.

I still get down moments of wanting to stop completely and I still feel like in ten years time I will still have one but can say I tried :/ I think the hardest part for me is the strain on dh and I and then we biccer and then I don't want to dtd and feels like a chore

Anyway time to get on, hope you all have a good week, anyone testing??

 

[Nikki1979]

Hi. Can I join this group?

Little bit of background info:

I am 34 years old and have a 6 year old DS. He was conceived in the first month of trying. My hubby wanted to try for another baby after my sons first birthday but I wanted to wait until we had bought our own house and were financially stable. I have bee trying since 2011 ( taking a few months break in 2012 after the death of my father as I used to be depressed all the time). I got pregnant this year but lost the baby in March. Have been trying since but no luck.

Baby dust to all

 

[tommyg]

Of course you are welcome to join the group Nikki - and I spot you are newish to B&B so welcme to the forum too.

I never got into the whole temping thing, felt it was easier to watch out for EWCM. But I could understand temping becoming obessive and far to clinical. Since I discovered how to use the subscribed threads it has cut my BnBing tremendously. Means I can keep up with a few threads rather than scrolling through for them and getting side tracked along the way.
But the thing I find hard is I'm always saying "don't know where we are going to be", work, holidays, all just seem to be on hold on the basis that life could be upside down in 9 mths. DH's ski magizine landed yesterday "Oh we could have a ski holiday" well I might be pregnant!!! Mmm My cousin is getting married in July I would like to go but not if I'm about to give birth or have a tiny new born.

 

[barbikins]

Tommyg ive been the same for near two years. Cant plan too far ahead. But ive recently decided to stop waiting and start planning life. Ive missed out on opportunities. I can always figure it out if the time comee that im pregnant.

 

[gemmy]

Yeah you are right , today we have been considering holidays for next year and I said not in august in case we have newborn, and maybe we shouldn't fly. .. it effects a lot.

Welcome nicki you have found the perfect group

 

[IsaacRalph]

Hey girls! Still here reading but been a little busy the last fewu days. Thanks tommy for thinking of me. Seems we are all mostly feeling a bit low atm, I know I am! Think it's finally hitting home just what an emotional roller coaster it's been in the last 2 years and approaching treatment its making me think even more. I suppose I just feel sorry for myself and my boys and atm I feel like I have to go through this in order for me to proceed with plan B.
Welcome to the group nikki sounds like you've had an ordeal too be sure to share all your ups and downs with us!
Hope your feeling better orchid? Feeling some cyber hugs needed all around
Afm cd 15 still no positive opk and dtd every other day! Feeling like it's approaching feeling a dull stretching and got some ewcm. Please please god give me a bfp!

 

[tommyg]

Don't be down about needing a bit of help. I firmly believe it's better to have help than faffing about. Having semi regular cycles is a boost to me at the moment im not questioning is this cycle going to be 12 wks. At least on fermara they've both been about 5 wks. When I think back to this time last year, 12 wks followed by an 8 wi cycle = 2 eggs in 5 mths!

 

[barbikins]

Hey girlies -well I've got major AF cramps coming & AF is due so I'm going to be out.

Which means I have to schedule my uterine exams

I hope the HSG some how does smth....I did the Sono test but I didn't get pregnant from doing that like some woman do. Also, I'm still on these herbs & acupuncture. Some thing has to help!!!!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Thanks girls! Just having a bad day yesterday. My boobs hadn't been nearly as sore this cycle - just the odd sensitive twinge on and off - so I had started to get excited that maybe it had happened this time but full on sore and tender yesterday so know I'm out again. Also temps slowly dropping down so expect AF by Sat at latest Oh well! I think for next month I'm going to stop temping - it's so true, it totally means you start thinking about it from the second you wake up and I want/need a break from that. I have enough other ovulation symptoms that I don't need to temp so I am putting the thermometer back in the drawer! Also looks like DH is going to be around next week so going to talk to him today about booking his SA appt for next week. Since I'll have AF anyway it will be the perfect time.

Re. the planning ahead - I totally know what you mean! It's hard to believe it now but my sis got married a year past July and when we were picking bridesmaid dresses my big concern was that I might be pregnant for her wedding so needed a dress that would work if I was! And I've also done the travelling thing - big time, but now I have stopped and we have 2 trips planned in January including a weekend to Vegas! I can't wait!

Nicky - welcome to the group. Sounds like you have been though a rough time so you are in the right place!

Isaac - FX and good luck for this cycle! It would be so fantastic if you got your BFP before having to start any treatment. I totally understand how you are feeling - it is a very frustrating, over-whelming experience.

To everyone else - FX and good luck for your cycles this month - would be great if we could keep up the good luck and have someone follow in Cali's footsteps and announce their BFP! It's amazing how exhausting the whole cycle is and I guess the only time we really do relax is in the first week once we've got over the disappointment and frustration that AF arrived cause after that it's time to start DTD then it's the dreaded 2WW!!

Hugs to you all x

 

[eyemom]

Hi Nikki and welcome. Sorry you're in a place where you wound up here, but the ladies here are lovely. I'm in a similar situation with the TTC since a m/c and it really is emotionally draining. Hope you get a sticky one soon!

Man, if not for the subscribed threads thing, I'd get lost in here daily, hehe. I keep up with you ladies and the ladies in one other thread and even then I can hardly remember what I've posted where.

I think the main thing that's helping me stay positive right now is the HSG I had recently. I know it doesn't help everybody. Not even most people. But it gives me something to be hopeful about. Clinging to that extra bit of hope for 2-3 months, but if nothing happens by then I'll probably find myself at another low point. I guess I'm in for a bunch of ups and downs, just praying it can end at a high point with another precious baby.

barbikins, sorry you feel AF coming on. Hopefully the HSG will help us both! I have a friend who had secondary infertility and she got pregnant and she swears it was the Chinese herbs. She also had an HSG done a few mos prior so who knows??

Orchid, sorry your temps are headed downward. I always want to hold out hope for the ladies who are sure AF is coming, but I also know that sometimes you just know she's going to get you. GL stopping the temping. I did that one month. It's true after doing that stuff for a while, you just kind of just KNOW when it's ov time anyway because our bodies give us other clues. I kept it up mostly because when I started I hadn't seen my Dr yet and I wanted to have that information to share with him. That's exciting about your upcoming vacations! Glad you have some fun things to look forward to.

Isaac! Good luck!

AFM, my temps are on the way up. I think I probably ovulated yesterday. Hope to DTD again tonight for good measure, but it's going to be a pretty hectic evening, not sure if there will be time before we just pass out from exhaustion!

GL everyone.

 

[Nikki1979]

Eyemom - I had a HSG done in May and I had read that you are fertile for a few months after that. Unfortunately it didnt work for me. I was so sure it will work. Was down when I hadnt conceived by August. Maybe I am one of the minority. Hope it works for you and you get a bfp soon. I know how hard it is seeing a bfn month after month.

Orchid- I know what you mean. Last cycle I was convinced I was pregnant. Had sore breasts from 1 dpo and it was really bad. Much more sore than normal but got my period on cd26. This cycle no sore breasts until today ( I am 9dpo today) so I am guessing AF is on its way. AF is due on the 10th.

Does anyone use the clearblue fertility monitor in this group? I started using that from last month and hoping it works for me.

Good Luck everyone

 

[tommyg]

The HSG means you may be a little more fertile after it, the FS who I spoke to suggested it was a study done on IVF patients, they were slightly more likely to conceive if it was the HSG cycle which they thought might be to do with the stuff roughing up their lining making the embryo more likely to stick. They also think cleaning the tubes may help some but it's not a big percentage.

Not used the monitor but going to try the opk.

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Well it looks like today is going to be CD 1 for me I was kept awake with back pain last night, haven't got even the slightest bit of tenderness in my boobs and spotting as soon as I got up. Temp still high but had a bad nights sleep due to back pain and DS not feeling well so up with him so have discarded it. Sigh....Well I have to say I may be pouring myself a LARGE glass of wine tonight!

On a positive note though I spoke to DH last night and he thinks he should be able to go for his SA next week so hopefully I can book that today then we can get things moving with further tests since I suspect there has been no change since his infection was treated.

Anyway I'm out and onto cycle 20 cry but FX for the rest of you! x

 

[gemmy]

White orchid, know exactly how you feel. As always hoping the spotting stops and you get a nice surprise but you just know don't you but you enjoy that wine if that is the case. Hope ds is feeling better. Great news about sa

 

[gemmy]

Afm...Dh called doc today and now has a joint appointment for us both a week friday (18th) to hopefully arrange sa. Apparently wants to see me too . Think I am going to write everything down with dates as getting very confused by what I have had done and when. I will be cd21 then so half way through my 2ww. Funnily enought it was this month in 2009 that we fell pregnant. Would love a four year gap!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Thanks Gemmy!
That's good that you are both going - will be able to really talk things through and work out what's next. I would definitely write things down cause otherwise it's so easy to forget.... especially when you are talking about both of you. That being said fingers crossed that you get your BFP instead! x

 

[IsaacRalph]

Hey girls sorry been away last few days visiting family up in the Midlands so not had chance to come on here! Not sure where to start but so sorry it looks like af got your orchid did it defo come? Hopefully your over the worst of it now and starting to feel better? Did you mention dh getting a sa done this week?
Hey eyemom way to go on getting your cross lines looks like we are cycle buddies this month I'm 1dpo today got my smiley face on Friday afternoon dtd that night abd last night hoping for a miracle! Good luck in your tww we want some more bfps please!
Hey gem good luck with your joint app this week I find it best to write a list of all the questions I need to ask so I don't forget! Not ever used the clearblue fertility monitor because by dtd every other day from cd 10 should cover some of your extra fertile days! I do use clear blue ov sticks though which are good.
What's happening with Tommy and barbie and anyone else I've missed? Sorry on my phone do can't go back more than a page without losing all this!
Afm like I said 1dpo today and the weekend has been quite emotional knowing its our last chance for a bfp I have defo been more relaxed about dtd and at one point I nearly rebelled and wasn't going to. I feely so cheated that I've not been given the chance this time around. I'm excited about Tuesday (planning app) but also scared to death what if it all goes wrong and the meds don't agree with me? Just got to think positive I suppose as soon as I get my af in 2 weeks its all systems go.
Anyway hope your all having a great weekend girls xx

 

[eyemom]

Hi orchid! Doing okay? Has the SA been scheduled?

Hi gemmy! Good luck!

Hi Isaac! Yes I've been wanting to post for a few days too, just not finding time. Did you have a nice time with family? I really hope you get your BFP. But if you don't, at least it sounds like you have a plan of attack. Please let us know how your appt goes!

I was sooo happy to get those cross hairs! One day I freaked out because I didn't think it was going to happen! My temp shot up just like it does after ov, but then the next day it went back down which concerned me. I've not had that happen before, that I recall. I was so scared I had geared up to ovulate and then didn't for whatever reason. The night after my temp had shot up, we meant to DTD for good measure but didn't. So I was beating myself up for not doing it that night. Next day, my parents had my dd out running around town and DH and I both got home from work before they brought her back, so we had an early evening quickie LOL just in case. But then I got those cross hairs after all! I hope it's accurate...if it is, we timed everything well. If it's a day off, well, could be better could be worse. So I guess I'm 4 dpo now.

Hi everyone else! Wishing you all the best. I gotta scramble to get ready to leave in 45 minutes...everyone in my house is still in pajamas and I'm the only one out of bed! Eeeeee~