35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

[eyemom]

I have been so busy I haven't been on a computer in a few days. But I've been lurking on my phone. I have a lot of catching up to do but I at least wanted to pop in and say congrats to Cali!

 

[barbikins]

Its great to see a lttcer get pregnant with unexplained. It gives me hope! But I see there is a bit of Male factor your you right Cali?!
I wish you a h&h 9 months.

 

[CaliDreaming]

Thanks eye mom!

Barbikins, yes I was pretty much unexplained for two years, but now after getting pregnant so quickly after dh started the sups I believe my IF was due to male factor infertility. My RE thought dh's sperm was O.K. because all the parameters were right at the minimum or a little below, except for the morphology. After my doing my own research, I disagree with the minimum standards for sperm and feel that for normal fertility they really need to be higher than that. I wasted so much time and emotion focusing on what was wrong with me when the solution was just a few vitamins for dh!

If I've learned nothing else during this whole endeavor it is that you can't rely on your doctors to accurately diagnose you. There have been several points along the way where they have been just flat out wrong!

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Well not only did hubby come home feeling ok (well better than he had been) but amazingly DS decided to have a nap in the afternoon yesterday (NEVER happens!) so we managed to DTD afterall! Hoping it wasn't too late but you just never know. Randomly I had super sensitive breasts from 2-4pm yesterday so not sure if that meant I was ovulating then or already had....who knows but at least we tried! I hope you are all having a good weekend x

 

[eyemom]

Yay glad you got to BD. Everything seems to have fallen into place. It'd be great if that meant a bfp is meant to be. ;-)

 

[tommyg]

Just catching up with you ladies.
Congratulations Cali.
Fingers crossed that eggy held out for you White.

Wicked Witch has just shown up here. So assuming my LP stayed the same I must have ovulated really late in my cycle.

Thinking of trying acupuncture along with femara this month.

 

[IsaacRalph]

Yippee orchid so so glad you got to dtd! I know so many ladies on here who thought they were out because they hadn't had chance to bd as much and low and behold it turned out to be their bfp month! Good luck and hope your tww goes quickly. X
So pleased for you cali I can't wait to feel the way your feeling!
Afm- my meds get delivered for our treatment on Tuesday its all feeling so real now. Only a few weeks now and it will be all systems go with scans and blood tests etc and it will be so so strange not to be dtd around ovulation time! They like you to abstain for 2-3 days before iui. I suppose we can the same day or day after but its gonna be weird.

 

[IsaacRalph]

Oh no sorry af got you Tommy onwards and upwards! X

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Sorry that the witch arrived Tommy As Isaac says though - onwards and upwards

Isaac - so what is your plan of action? What starts tomorrow? Excited to hear what the next steps are for you. It must feel good to be so proactive in the process. I have my fingers tightly crossed for you!!

Eyemom - good luck for your test tomorrow! I hope all goes well and not too uncomfortable.

AFM - based on this mornings temp FF has put my ovulation day as Thur which would mean we well and truly missed out That being said I'm hoping it's maybe a day off. My temps have been so much higher than normal this whole cycle so it all seems a little off. I guess the only good thing is that if I did O on Thur I'm now 4 dpo so at least the 2ww should go fairly fast especially since I'm not expecting anything. Onwards and upwards to the next cycle!!

to you all x

 

[eyemom]

Okay ladies, forgive me I'm copying/pasting what I put in another thread about the HSG.
(tl;dr version: no problems with cervix/tubes thank God)

My HSG went fine. No one told me to, but from what I had read, I took a couple of ibuprofen (400 mg total) beforehand.

One of my good friends from my high school and early college years was the radiology tech who worked with me, so it was nice to have someone I know. A little embarrassing in some ways too, but the pros way outweighed the cons of having her there.

There was some issue getting to my cervix I guess. It still wasn't too horrible. Like he put the speculum in and he kept adjusting it, adjusting it. He asked a couple of times how I was doing. I said okay, I mean I wasn't expecting it to be a walk in the park. The second time he asked, he told me what was going on and he had me prop my hips up with my fists to get a better angle. After that, whatever he needed to do, he got to it right away. Then after the cannula(?) was in, he was able to take the speculum out and it wasn't really uncomfortable at all.

My left side spilled out right away, so that one was really good. The right one took longer, and I kind of leaned to my right side to get the image, but it spilled out too. So it was a good result.

After going back over the images with the doctor, he asked me how I was feeling, and I said fine. And really I was feeling fine. He said however I felt right then was as bad as I was going to feel. A few minutes later, I was feeling just a little crampier, like menstrual cramps, but another couple of minutes and I felt like normal again. Right now I feel completely fine.

TMI warning, the worst part of it (not related to the actual test)....

Spoiler

The way I react physically to anxiety is that I really really have to poop. It's rarely an issue now that I'm no longer in school and I don't have exams or anything, haha. Knowing I'm like this, I got up early enough that there would be time to go, but by the time my body wanted to go, there was no longer any time. So holding off the poop was honestly the worst part of the whole thing.

Dr wanted us to try another couple of months or so, and I'm also hoping this kind of "cleared out the cobwebs" so to speak. But I asked him what's next if nothing happens. He said then we'll start talking meds or IUIs. I don't know if I would want to do an IUI, but there I'm getting ahead of myself. So one month at a time for now....

I took MOST of my work day off. Even rescheduled one I was supposed to have at 11:00. I suppose it's a good thing to plan just in case for the unforeseen. But I kinda wish I had left my work day alone. I'm not going to be in the mood to work anymore by the time 3:00 rolls around.

Dr didn't mention it, but my friend told me to not DTD within 24 hours because the risk of infection is much higher. She said some of the other Drs tell their patients that. So she thought I might appreciate knowing just to be safe. I think I'll start my OPKs on Thurs/Fri. If history is any indication, I'll likely ovulate around Sunday-Wednesday of next week.

 

[tommyg]

Good stuff, glad it went ok for you. There's some research that shows you have a slight increase in chance of getting pregnant in the 3 cycles after HSG.

 

[eyemom]

Yes I'm trying not to be too hopeful about that, but I'm still hopeful. I keep telling myself: "It's a diagnostic test! It's a diagnostic test!"

 

[IsaacRalph]

Oh eye mom that's really good news that your hsg went okay such a relief! They also had troubles visualising my cervix they said mine is located nearer my bottom?? Sounds like you have tthe same as I had to prop myself also! That speculum was the worst bit! Hope it has cleared out the cobwebs I was hoping that but didn't work for me. Good luck it helps with you.
Hey Tommy hope your af is treating you fairly.
Hey orchid- let's hope ff is off a day or so and you bd'd on the right day. Wishing you so much luck in your 2ww. I only got my delivery of meds today not actually taking it for few weeks yet. Got to have planning app first on 8th October! Scary stuff

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Great to hear it went ok Eyemom! Hopefully the cobwebs have been cleared and you get your BFP soon!
Isaac - that's so exciting! You must be on countdown til the 8th of Oct so you can get a plan in action!
If DH had managed to do his 2nd SA I would have been heading to the Dr's tomorrow to get the results and work out what's happening next but instead nothing. Since he also away for the majority of the next month I don't see it happening anytime soon I guess I should try and make the most of the break and get on with things and stop always thinking about TTC all of the time, but easier said than done!

 

[barbikins]

@eyemom, hope it works out for you! I did the Sono & it didn't make me any more fertile. I have the dye test in a few weeks if I get AF so maybe that'll help GAH.

@Orchid, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time this cycle.
I wish I could give you a hug!!! it really sucks some months eh? I had it bad last month.
When will he do his SA now?

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

Thanks barbikins! That's so lovely I am definitely feeling a lot more frustrated and irritable again today and I hate it! Wish I could just be mellow and ok with things as I was for so long That being said I think I might be getting sick as was just at the gym and literally had NO energy at all. My workout was a complete struggle which is unusual so maybe I'm just not quite right and that's why I am feeling cranky again!!

As for his SA I have no idea. He knows he needs to go but I don't want to keep on asking him as I know he is super busy over the next little bit but I am hoping he will surprise me and just book it for a time when he is home.... I doubt it will happen in the next month though so in the meantime I just have to get on with things. That being said until he goes nothing else can happen as our Dr isn't going to refer me for tests until we have an updated SA..... just feel so in limbo and would really like to get on with things or preferably just get preggers!! What's next for you? When is AF due?

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

@Barbikins - sorry I just saw your signature so see that you have the test in Oct then IUI in Nov. I'm so clueless - what does the IUI all involve?

 

[IsaacRalph]

orchid so sorry your having a crappy time! Sometimes i find it just hits you like a truck and just can't snap out of it for few days! Keep strong it will happen for us all eventually look how far we have all come so far!
I'm having iui too in October. You can have it 3 ways either natural or with oral tablets like clomid/ femara or injectables (which I'm having to hopefully produce 2-3 follies) they scan you to see how things are developing then when follies are big enough depending on how your doing it you either wait for lh surge or they trigger ovulation then 36 hrs or so later they inseminate you with the best of your partners sperm they do this by preparing it before hand! They use a very thin catheter to bypass your cervix and inseminate near the tubes snd there you go! Are you interested in it?

 

[WhiteOrchid24]

orchid so sorry your having a crappy time! Sometimes i find it just hits you like a truck and just can't snap out of it for few days! Keep strong it will happen for us all eventually look how far we have all come so far!
I'm having iui too in October. You can have it 3 ways either natural or with oral tablets like clomid/ femara or injectables (which I'm having to hopefully produce 2-3 follies) they scan you to see how things are developing then when follies are big enough depending on how your doing it you either wait for lh surge or they trigger ovulation then 36 hrs or so later they inseminate you with the best of your partners sperm they do this by preparing it before hand! They use a very thin catheter to bypass your cervix and inseminate near the tubes snd there you go! Are you interested in it?

Oh I know and I hate how you can't control your moods and it literally just hits you wham bam and it's so hard to turn it around. That being said I always try to stay positive that if I feel crappy 1 day I should feel better the next!

I might be interested - in fact if they thought it would work I definitely would be! I just don't know how it would work with hubby's sperm issues.....and then cost could also be an issue for us. But yes it is definitely something I would consider in the future if we can't do it naturally. As sorry as I am that you and barbikins are going through it I really hope you get your BFP and appreciate as much info/ honest opinions of the procedures as possible! I think it's fantastic that you are trying it - FX for you both that it works!!

 

[eyemom]

Aw Orchid that's so hard. I think it's probably normal for everything to hit just all of a sudden sometimes. I think sometimes you just have you allow yourself those days, then after that you can pick yourself back up and face the world again. If that makes any sense? Maybe I'm just projecting because that's how I feel sometimes.

GL to everyone with the upcoming IUIs. Wow Isaac yours is coming up really soon! Orchid, I could be mistaken on this, but I think they're supposed to be helpful with male factor situations since they isolate the good sperm. Though I guess he'd have to have SOME good ones. Might be worth talking to the Dr about after he can do his SA.