SO glad your back Viv. We missed you!
As for me, I totally forgot to mention last post that as many of you, I had it out with Doug last night and made him sleep on the couch. I was LIVID!
What I didn't mention is that he's lost SO MUCH WEIGHT having gone vegan that he looks VERY sick and anorexic. I've been trying to tell him the last month but it's like telling a drug addict that they're addicted to drugs.
At any rate, last night I was rubbing his back and felt his back bone all the way down.
Granted before bed isn't exactly the appropriate time to have discussion but once I felt his back I was just taken back. That wasn't the only thing. Last weekend he tried on a pair of skinny jeans I found on sale. Not really knowing WHY they're called skinny.
Well, he looked SO stick thin that I honesty was scared and embarrassed that he has gotten so thin that he didn't honestly see how thin he was.
At any rate, after I told him he was far too thin and needed to gain something....that I was afraid he was going to die...he pushed me off as over-reacting. He's said that this Dr. Essylstein's reverse heart disease says once you get to an optimal weight, it will taper off.
I was PISSED! First of all that he pushed me aside when I'm seeing DRASTIC weightloss. The fact that I'm his wife and love him. Second, He's going ALL THE TIME as a nurse. In order to STAY at an optimum weight you need to EAT. He's eating...YES....but he's eating vegetables that have no fat in them. He's not eating ENOUGH of them because his metabolism is fast and on the go all the time. He needs to put in MORE. He's lost weight, he's lost muscle completely and he just looks sickly. It's been an alarm going off the past few weeks, yet he keeps pushing me off. He was even approached by an older lady before she was laid off last month and she told him she was concerned about his weightloss.
After sleeping on the couch today....we met with my inlaws. Went to lunch and Dougs 73 year old dad said, "son, I want you to stop this diet your on. You've lost too much weight and you look very sick". He didn't say anything. When I asked him what he thought in the car he said, "I'm not hearing anything different than what I heard last night". He didn't say, " I get what your saying".
Just on the phone, I told him I'm stressed out. There's too much going on. He's losing WAY too much weight, we're dealing with Doug's parents right now because his siblings live out of state but won't directly step up to the plate to help figure out what living arrangements will be made when one passes. My father in law said he's not going to make it until next year and today he said he wants to make it to 75 (2 years) until June the month after his birthday. It's stressing my mother in law out, upsetting me too and then we have MY parents (I'm an only child) to deal with. He's been on this vegan kick, I've been feeling pressured to eat that way because he says it's healthy and well, it's expensive too so if we buy it, we better eat it. When telling him this over the phone, he says maybe we need to see someone to help us get through. Okay, I'm all for therapy....maybe it will help with the fact that I'm terrified to make love to a man whose lost so much weight his bones are sticking out. It's scary to me. I can also deal with trust issues from childhood and the anger and depression I've had since Jackson.....how do you deal with him wanting to STAY vegan but figure out how to gain the weight and have muscles. There ARE men who eat Vegan and look good. Happy Herbavore has just put a pic up here:
Happy Herbavore
I don't think he's anorexic mentality. I think he just thinks all this will level out and that he looks GREAT but then will eventually level out. Truth is, he's not eating enough and he's lost muscle which has made him look sickly. I'm not sure who I would talk with. I don't know of many Vegan Nutricianists nor do I know many vegan weight trainers who will teach Doug what he needs to do and eat to be the man I once married. I love him no matter what. I just don't want him to die because he's not aware.
an SUV which will be the family truckster for the next oh ten years lol! We don't normally trade vehicles often...my last car I kept almost 12 years, but we got a great financing offer and decided to go for it. We LOVE it and hubby now says he wants to trade cars with me lol! I think we will all really enjoy it and I'm looking forward to driving it. We needed just a bit more room than my old car provided, and this one will be easier to sling strollers and things into. Still have to lift up to the level of the cargo bay, but don't have to fight with the sides/edges of the trunk and its shape. I'm thrilled with our new wheels and Ethan (who is currently obsessed with cars!) really enjoyed his trip to the dealership! 
Sounds like everyone has their plates full!
!!! Although I will say it took me a minute to figure it out as I got the test with the plus or minus and it was dark in my house so I wasn't sure if I was imagining the plus sign or not LOL. I knew I should have gotten the digital test that said Not Pregnant or Pregnant LOL. 
so I will try and make sure he is awake. 
And he have a dozen red roses waiting for me this morning. I'm not even baking if you can imagine that. We are getting a small 6" cake from where we had our wedding cake done, in one of the flavors we had. So it truly is a day for both of us!
