36 and TTC number 3

[GalvanBaby]

That is great!! Congrats girl!! Mine was a BFN this morning at 12dpo.

 

[poppy]

12 days is still early...not even a slight shadow on the test? Whatever happens this month, remember it was just an 'extra' one before the IVF. It will be great if you get your BFP this month, but if not, I'm sure the IVF will be successful for you. Did you ask about the progesterone again?

 

[GalvanBaby]

Not even a shadow. I did the whole up in the light. I wven let them sit way past the 10 minute mark. Not even an evap.

Yeah, I am bummed, but didn't expect anything this month anyway. I am going to start the HCG diet this weekend and no TTC or NTNP for 3 months due to l9w vitamins during the HCG. They say not to get pregnant while on the diet, but I prefer to be on the safe side and wait until I am eating normal again.

I will do the HCG this month. Then next month start with a trainer for a few weeks to see what I need to do to get my body back from TTC fatness and out of shapeness.

 

[MoonCatsy]

Hi guys!
I have a lot in common with the first post.
I'm 36. I'm trying for baby #2. My cycles have been irregular since baby #1 (9mos ago). At first they were still 28 days but then kept getting longer. My last cycle was 10 days late (an equal 40 days from the last)! I do believe it was stress due to house hunting, it was a very bad month for me.
So the only thing I can do now is wait to see if they return to "normal", which seems to be an average of 32 days.

But anyway, I was wondering if over the counter fertility treatments would be suggested?
I talked to my doctor and she sort of blew me off about it (told me to give it time). I don't want to give it time! I think I'm just really, really scared that I won't be able to conceive a second time and I want another baby so badly!

Do you think I'm worrying too much? Should I take a mental chill pill?

 

[GalvanBaby]

How long have you been TTC, Moon?

BTW, welcome!

 

[GalvanBaby]

If you have been TTC for more than 6 months, you do need some help from a specialist.

 

[MoonCatsy]

We've been taking our chances since baby was 3months. But we've been more aggressive for the past two months.
Baby is 9m now.

Thanks for the welcome!

 

[poppy]

Hey Moon! Welcome to the thread!
I had two weirdly long cycles at the end of last year - one of around 39 days and one of about 41 days. I was really stressed, looking after two small boys, working three days a week as a teacher and completing a big essay for my postgraduate course in autism (I am a Support for Learning teacher) and had a bad cold one of the months, so that could have affected things.

My cycle got back to normal in January and I fell pregnant in February of this year. Unfortunately, that ended in a miscarriage at 7 weeks. I waited one cycle and am really grateful that I fell pregnant again recently. I am hoping that this pregnancy is a sticky one.

How are you doing?

Galvan, how are you?

 

[GalvanBaby]

Waiting on AF. Other than that, fine.

Moon, I would see a doctor. They say to wait 6 months if no pregnancy after 35 to go to get help.

 

[poppy]

Although, your cycles can take time to return to normal after having a baby, especially if you are still breastfeeding.

 

[GalvanBaby]

AF got me yesterday.

 

[poppy]

I'm sorry G, I hope you are ok.

xxx

 

[GalvanBaby]

Thanks. I am fine. I didn't expect anything else anyway. How are you and little bean?

 

[MoonCatsy]

Unfortunately, I'm not breastfeeding anymore, I just had so much trouble keeping my milk up! I'm still hurt by it as I planned to have baby still on breastmilk even if pumping.

Anyhow. My doctor told me it could take up to a year. And she was more concerned about my weight than anything. I started out 30 pounds overweight and gained another 30 with baby. Just started last month at putting forth effort to get it off.

What's got me upset is everything I'm reading online - that after age 35 you only have a 10% chance of becoming pregnant... that the closer to age 40 you are the worse condition your eggs are in... yadda yadda! It's like I keep finding things to keep me stressed out!

 

[poppy]

I don't think it's any where near to low as 10% - I think between 35 - 38, your chances are only slightly lower than in your early 30s (I'm sure I read that somewhere!). I think it is only when you reach the cusp of 40, it really starts to drop off. I think it also depends on your own natural fertility level as well - you have women in their mid 20 with low ovarian reserves and women in their late 30s with pretty high ones. You have had a baby recently, so I am sure you are in with a good chance.

I am 36 and will be 37 in September. My hubbie and I ttc for five cycles and in that time, I have conceived twice (unfortunately, first time ended in a miscarriage at around 7 weeks) and I am currently over 6 weeks pregnant (hoping this is a sticky one! ). So, hopefully you and Galvan will get your BFPs soon.

xxx

 

[GalvanBaby]

My trouble is mainly my TR. I don't have a strong O which is causing my LP defect, but that is common in TR women unfortunately.

 

[poppy]

Really sad news today. I had a bit of bleeding, so I went to get a scan (I would be 9 weeks today). Very quickly I realised that the baby had no heartbeat. She/he was measuring just over 8 weeks, so had stopped developing around a week ago. I have to go and take tablets tomorrow. I feel devastated that this is happening again after having a miscarriage a few months ago. I had had a scan two weeks ago and the baby had a strong heartbeat, so I don't understand why, a week later, everything just stopped. The baby was measuring a day behind at the first scan though and as both my boys measured a good week ahead at all scans, I did worry a bit about that.

After tomorrow, I am going to try and recover physically and mentally and then think about if we are going to ttc again or not. At the moment, the thought of potentially going through nearly a whole agonising first trimester just for it to end badly makes me feel stressed. I worry about whether it is my age, but the Dr said that 36 is not old and would not have caused miscarriage, that it is just one of those things. Plus, they won't run tests until 3 consecutive miscarriages; I really hope I don't have to go down that route.

 

[GalvanBaby]

I am so sorry, Poppy. Get better physically and as emotionally as you can before making any decisions.

 

[poppy]

Thanks Galvan, feel a lot better this week, bleeding has tailed off and hormones are lowering. I think I am going to wait a couple of cycles before ttc again. I know I will be potentially 'wasting' a couple of eggs but I need to try and get body fit and healthy again (and lose a stone!) before ttc. I have put off a lot since October last year on the premise that I 'might be pregnant' or 'I'll lose weight after baby is born' etc etc - I realise that I have to do these things now as who knows when I might get pregnant again and if it will be a sticky or not.

How are you?

 

[GalvanBaby]

I am good. I am finishing up my Associate's Degree. I graduate in a month so, I am trying to gget all of my exams and last assignments turned in. It has been a challenge because I got really behind with TTC.

As for TTC, we are basically NTNP, if it happens great if not, oh well. We will try IVF next year during one of my breaks from school. I am to the point that I am ok if it never happens. I would love to have a baby with OH, but will be ok if I don't.

I need to lose about 30lbs which I believe is about 2 stones? I hoep to have them off by December1 I woudl love to bring in the New Year with a hot sexy body! LOL