4 weeks! My first pregnancy and looking for some buddies!

[pradabooties]

Hey Lula! I've been feeling pretty normal since testing, although I knew something was up before that (which was what made me test) with sharp twinges and cramping mostly on my right side and some stomach heaving (but not really nausea). The most consistent thing is bloating - I now have a belly where there wasn't one a few weeks ago and it really just looks like I've gained weight or ate too much and have a pizza baby, gas (tmi), and today started mood swings, bruised feeling boobs (heavy and a bit larger too) and exhaustion.

What about you?

Hi Emmy, I am about 5 weeks with my first (waiting on a scan to get an exact due date due to missing prior periods!) and feeling much the same as you. I am SO bloated, I look like I've gained so much weight around my tummy but also my face seems puffy. So emotional, excruciating nipples, heavier breast and abdomen twinges. We are very much in the same boat!

 

[Emmymommy]

Welcome pradabooties, I think I remember you from WTT or TTC! It's funny how we're so desperate to be pregnant and then we get all the symptoms and it's like ugh. So thankful and happy, but still ugh. Haha

 

[proudwifey]

I must say, I feel great. Not many symptoms other than being tired, but I was always tired anyway. I guess my major symptoms is worry. I worry about everything and hope everything is going good! How about you Emmymommy?

 

[Emmymommy]

Proudwifey I agree for the most part I can't complain, I'm pretty symptom free so far! The boobs are driving me nuts but I am for sure thankful I don't have any morning sickness yet! The bloating is annoying when it happens but it's not constant like it was earlier.

I know what you mean about the worry - I'm usually in a constant state of worry and anxiety, but miraculously I have been very calm ever since a day or two before I took my first test. Maybe the hormones are having a strange effect on me or something, but where my former self would have had a meltdown over waiting for tests and how long I have to wait for an ultrasound, I've been pretty calm about it and feel deep down like everything is ok, although I'm still being proactive in doing what I can to be sure.

How's it going with everyone?

 

[Emmymommy]

On another note - I feel pretty spoiled today - DH is taking me out for a date night to celebrate the pregnancy and as my first Mother's Day gift! I totally melted when he planned it out!

 

[pradabooties]

Welcome pradabooties, I think I remember you from WTT or TTC! It's funny how we're so desperate to be pregnant and then we get all the symptoms and it's like ugh. So thankful and happy, but still ugh. Haha

Oh yes probably! Before finding out I was pregnant I actually didn't have AF for a couple of months prior so I was posting a lot trying to figure out what on earth was going on! I think I posted on both TWW and TTC although I was technically in the Not Trying Not Preventing category. Yesss I definitely agree with you there. I was thinking that only this morning... like I've always looked forward to being pregnant and now that it's here I guess I didn't consider how uncomfortable even the early weeks are! So funny

 

[proudwifey]

I'm with you ladies on this one. My only symptom is fatigue. I am anemic so even before I got pregnant, I was always tired. Now, I'm even more tired. I text my husband throughout the day letting him know how tired I am and he got tired of me complaining. He said I wanted to be pregnant so bad, and now all I do is complain about being tired. So I need to start to embrace it and stop complaining. I mean, it could be a lot worse. Fatigue isn't the worst thing.

 

[Emmymommy]

Oh man I'm sure our OHs would be complaining just as much if not more!! They're 50% of the baby, they can listen to a little moaning and provide sympathy!! My SIL is on her second pregnancy and it's been a much rougher go than her first, and my DH said he felt sorry for her husband. I'm sorry WHAT?? Cause he has to deal with some hormones while she's puking 15 times a day? No. So thankfully he understood my stand on sympathy before we were preggo and he's been good so far lol.

 

[proudwifey]

Oh man I'm sure our OHs would be complaining just as much if not more!! They're 50% of the baby, they can listen to a little moaning and provide sympathy!! My SIL is on her second pregnancy and it's been a much rougher go than her first, and my DH said he felt sorry for her husband. I'm sorry WHAT?? Cause he has to deal with some hormones while she's puking 15 times a day? No. So thankfully he understood my stand on sympathy before we were preggo and he's been good so far lol.

Oh definitely. My DH would definitely be complaining. But he works from home, so taking naps and waking up late is in his normal routine anyway! Must be nice, right? So my husband thinks I'm being a weirdo. In a few weeks, our friend is having a birthday party. The whole party is revolved around drinking, and games, and tournaments. Well, my DH will be away and I am left to attend without him. However, we are not telling people but everyone is very skeptical and keep making comments. I feel very uncomfortable when people are all talking about me being pregnant, and I'm standing there with a lame excuse of why I'm not drinking. If people knew I was pregnant, then I wouldn't feel uncomfortable to go to this party. So instead, I made plans with a girlfriend to have a girls weekend and go away, so that I have a legitimate excuse of why I can not go to this party and participate in the drinking shenanigans. Do you think I should be going to this party?

 

[Emmymommy]

I think your decision makes sense!! Especially when you don't have DH there to back you up in front of questions/help you pretend you're drinking or whatever. I'm such a terrible liar so I depend on mine to be the one to say we're not pregnant (also because I want to tell everyone even though I know I shouldn't). You could also just insist you're driving if you end up feeling pressured to go!

 

[proudwifey]

Thanks for the reassurance. I would say I'm driving but the party is 10 houses away from mine and clearly walking distance. Haha. I'm a terrible liar too! But it's a done deal, I'm going away for the weekend with a girlfriend who knows I'm pregnant. Were going to the beach for 2 nights. Can't wait. I sure have been taking my secret pregnancy to a lot of vacations recently! So we have told 3 people this far. One close friend each and one family member. How about you?

 

[Emmymommy]

That sounds like it'll be a nice getaway! I've told my best friend and one other close friend, mostly because she'll be my doula. Then just strangers when I have an excuse lol, like why I want my steak cooked well at a fancy restaurant! We're telling our immediate families this weekend and then will be quiet for a while...maybe until 12 weeks or maybe after 14.

 

[Emmymommy]

Oh and I've got to tell me employers soon...maybe next week if I'm feeling increasingly nauseous and exhausted so they don't think I'm just lazy, or around my first appointment if I can hold out (since I'll have to be making more appointments after that). I won't explain what's happening to the girls I nanny until I'm showing or after 14 weeks.

 

[proudwifey]

That's a good plan. I would love to tell our families this weekend, but DH wants to wait. We already had an ultrasound, but it was very early and the doctor could hardly see the fetal pole. I go again in a week from tomorrow and we're hoping to hear the heartbeat. Maybe we will tell parents at that point. However, I do not think that my mom and my sister can hold secrets. They will want to selfishly be the person who shares the news with other family members before me. So, I don't think I'll be able to tell them until right before I tell other family members. My DH's mom is great and we will probably tell her as soon as we get a sonogram picture to put in the picture frame that I bought her.

 

[Emmymommy]

That's frustrating about your mom and sister! I wish I could keep the secret until we've cleared the first trimester, but we're close enough with both our families that I know they're already suspicious and I just don't think we can keep hiding it much longer and I'd rather it be a genuine surprise rather than "ya we know". Plus I'd need their support should anything happen! We feel kind of like it's sort of not real until our families know too....keeping the secret just us feels like it can't be really happening! It'll be such a relief to have it out in the (sort of) open.

 

[proudwifey]

That's a good point. I really wish I could tell our immediate family, but at least for my family, we will have to wait a little bit longer. Next week when we go for our next ultrasound, I will ask them for a picture. If they can give us one, then maybe we'll tell DH's mom. She's going to be so happy!

 

[Emmymommy]

Happy Mother's Day ladies!!

We told my family yesterday which was great, it was a bit of a production as I wanted my sister involved and she lives far away, so I was surprising my family with her on skype, and then when I gave my Mom her Mother's Day card that said "for you Grandma" she read it outloud and then started yelling "I knew it!" Lol, my sister on Skype "you're Pregnant??" And then screaming and dancing! So exciting, and my brother was pumped too, he gave me the tightest hug I had to escape from due to those darn sore boobs!

Looking forward to round two of telling DH's family today.

In the symptom department, I've been having some nausea this week and aversions/cravings. Mostly when I'm hungry - if I don't eat or drink right away then the nausea starts and I can only thing of one thing that sounds appealing and the thought of/smell of/sight of anything else makes me want to vomit. I've been all about eggs, but yesterday all I wanted was a specific sandwich, and while eating my sandwich the smell and sight of DH's egg sandwich was too much to be around. Thankfully I haven't actually vomited yet! Boobs are still mostly sore but some days it's not as bad as others. Still getting some slight twinges/cramping when I've been moving around a lot. Still has and bloating (yuck).

How's everyone feeling?

 

[proudwifey]

Emmymommy,

That sounds like such an amazing mother's day weekend. So happy you got to tell everyone and get it off of your chest! How did it go with telling DH's family?

DH and I told his mother a few nights ago. We just got really impatient and wanted to tell her. We didn't do anything special, just came out and told her. She practically cried. I showed her my nursery plans. I also ordered some maternity clothes and 2 pairs of baby moccasins. I don't know how I'm going to control myself baby shopping. Their clothes are just so cute! It's going to be tough though because we are not finding out what we're having. So all the clothes that I pick out have to be unisex. Have you bought anything?

So have you thrown up yet? I really am so pleasantly surprised with how I am not nauseous. [Knock on wood.] The only time I start not feeling well is when I am hungry. I also have frequent head aches. My major symptom is exhaustion. Naps save me!

 

[Emmymommy]

I'm so glad you got to tell someone!! That's great that she was so excited!

Telling DHs family was great! Glad it's out in the open for the most part now!

I bought two books I've read with the girls I nanny that have always been special to me, and also a swaddling blanket. I think we'll find out, but of course as you said anything I buy now at least is unisex. Trying so hard to hold off on buying clothes!! I agree they're just so adorable it's impossible.

I haven't thrown up yet, but have gagged (it always seems to happen in the shower) a few times. Mine is pretty much exclusively when I'm hungry but haven't been able to eat then it turns to nausea, like you said. I've gained some weight and my skin has broken out so I'm feeling pretty unattractive! I'm tired as well and my hormones have been unkind to me. Other than that boobs are just super sore!

Are you able to take anything for the headaches? Those are the worst. I seem to get them a lot normally (and had to go off the pill due to migraines), but I've been lucky to not have too many since I've been pregnant. Advil is the only thing that usually saves me, and I've read it's not safe while pregnant!

Speaking of hormones, last night my DH told friends of ours he's visiting out of town our news - I'd asked him to have my on speakerphone when he told, but instead I called and was put on speakerphone only to hear he'd told without me! I was so upset I burst into tears but couldn't let it be heard, so as they're congratulating me I could barely choke out a thank you I was so disappointed. I must've sounded miserable to be pregnant. He says he couldn't get me on the phone to tell like I wanted, but I don't totally think he tried that hard as id been on speaker phone with them a few minutes earlier and he'd gotten me off the phone! So of course he doesn't understand why I'm upset and thinks my reaction was ridiculous. Frustrating!

 

[proudwifey]

Aww those books sound cute because they mean something to you. For my baby shower, I'm going to ask that people bring books rather than cards. I've now ordered 2 pairs of moccasins. I am trying to control myself with nursery decor, but I'm not sure if I will be able to hold out much longer. The things on etsy are so cute! My nursery is going to be safari theme, but not cartoon looking safari animals.

I haven't really gotten too nauseous at all. Haven't even gagged. But the cramps I get are pretty annoying. After I eat, I get cramps. They feel completely like period cramps. That's strange that you don't feel well in the shower! My headaches are random and not bad enough for me to want to take anything. They're definitely manageable. My scale doesn't say that I've gained weight, but wow my pants are so tight! I may have to start wearing maternity pants sooner than I'd thought! I want to try that belly band thing. Have you heard of it?

That stinks that you couldn't be present or on speaker for the news to be spilled, I know how it feels. It's like we only have this one opportunity to surprise someone with the news, we want to see/hear the initial reactions. I am thinking of telling my parents this weekend. Saturday is my parents anniversary, so I thought it would be cute to wrap up the picture frame with the sonogram picture in it. We go for an ultra sound on Friday, so depending how the appointment goes, we may tell them.