A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[lexi374]

and welcome raspberry and lyn, sorry for your losses but you will get lots of support here

NSN good luck with ww

NTAT glad your experience was as ok as it can be, take as much time off work as you need.

As for seeing Prof Quenby, ive done it off my own back, found her email and sent her a message and she replied the next day, with a leaflet of what to do. It says you need a gp or consultant letter, well i wrote to my gp asking for a letter 10 days ago and have heard nothing, and there is no way the hospital consultant would do it, when i brought the subject up he dismissed it and told me not to pay privately for tests and the nk theory isnt proven. So i emailed Prof Quenby last week and said i was having trouble with the letter, how necessary was it and what did it need to say, and she said its not essential.

Basically you buy opks when you get positive, email her and see her for the test 7-10 days after ovulation. It costs £260, she phones you with results 5 weeks later.

Sounds simple, here is my problem..... i dont get on with opks and usually dont use them i temp instead, have been doing them since thur no positive yet, now on day 20! Well my average ov day is around 19, had ewcm thur, fri, and sun.
Temp has been up a bit last 2 mornings but not enough for me to be sure ive ovulated 36.49, 36.44. Normally after ov it would be 36.5-36.7, Before ov usually 36-36.3.
Cm gone creamy today.
Ah im so frustrated this is bloody typical, wanna get this test and get sorted so can try again next mth and now i dont even know if ive bloody ovulated or not!!

Any ideas ladies?? I guess will have to temp tom and go from there!

Hows every1 else getting on? xx

 

[lexi374]

Welcome Inoue xxx

 

[Inoue]

^^ Thankyou

Just read the other pages and i noticed i didnt introduce myself

Im 23 years old, DH is 26.
Weve been trying for #1 for 2 years, took along time for my ovulation to come back after the Depo shot - can now seem to get pregnant pretty quicky (1st cycle after pill BC and 1st cycle after first mc) so i know im good in that department... i just cant seem to carry them past 12 weeks . Doctors need me to have another mc before i can have testing done, such a nice thought , dont they think two is bad enough!

We will most likely try again after xmas, try and let my body recover for abit, esp after the D&C. Not looking forward to going back to work next week as i didnt actually tell them i was pregnant in the first place, my poor DH had phone them from the Hospital explaining why i wont be in for 9 days . Not looking forward to having to explain myself to all the staff

Anyway, thats me! Thanks for the welcome xxx

 

[Hope25]

Hi ladies do you mind if i join you?
Just had another loss at 13.5 weeks last month
So sorry that people are going through the same things its heartbreaking but hope there is light at the end of the tunnel for us all

 

[Ladyfog]

So glad you're feeling perkier NTAL - it feels a bit relief when you stop bleeding as it feels like you're body's finally moving forward.

Welcome Lyn and Raspberymini. Hope I haven't missed anyone

Tweak I know what you mean about feeling like babies are everywhere. I haven't been too bad recently, but sometimes it just feels like there are bumps and babies everywhere. I try to remember that many of them will have gone through similar experiences to us on their way to getting that baby and it makes me feel not so bad and also gives me hope that it'll be me one day.

NSN - hope you're feeling OK today - you've been having a rough time recently so lots of hugs. Sometimes the 2ww is just too much to deal with!

AFM I visited my friend on Saturday who had her baby 2 weeks before my due date. We had been pregnant together before my MC. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and her little girl is lovely. I just can't wait for it to be me, but was still a little bit grateful I'm still able to get a full night's sleep for the time being

I'm not sure what going on but I'm DC 14 and have had lots of EWCM since Friday so we're BDing in earnest for the next few days. I'm not expecting to ovulate until CD16, but maybe the egg will arrive a bit early this month?!

Hope everyone's Mondays have been OK.

 

[RaspberryMini]

Thanks ladies for making me feel so welcome.

And thanks for the advice re the journal I might give it a go. It's definitely good to see people going through the same emotions makes me feel like I'm less insane !

I'm giving my CBFM monitor a go this month now I have finished my first AF, only started using after my first m/c and it worked first try so we'll just have to wait and see just trying to remain positive and focussed and get through the milestone of my first due date.

 

[Neversaynever]

Inpoue...welcome although I'm sorry that you're in here

It does seem a kick in the teeth when you think you are finally past the danger zone and for it to happen more than once is just too cruel. Lots of support in here though

Lexi...how many times are you testing with opk's? Your surge may be short which is why you would miss it. I used to test three times per day around ovulation to make sure I didn't miss it

Hope25...sorry to you too it makes me feel really sad seeing how many people go through this more than once

Lady...I hate the TWW and I have no inkling or symptoms of a BFP and I actually don't want to test...yet I'm only 7 DPO and always start testing from now but have no tests of any kind

Raspberry...good luck with the cbfm...I've heard good stuff about it and hoping it's a sticky one next time

XxX

 

[lexi374]

Welcome hope 25

NSN i only tested once a day so yeah could well have missed it! I hate those bloody things im always drinking or weeing, they are no good for me!

If i get another 36.4_? tom i think ff will say i ovd sat, but these temps are def lower than i would normally have, also ewcm has usually dried up before i ov but i saw a blob yest....? Im confused, but i guess things may be different again after every miscarriage?!

Well done on resisting the urge to poas! xx

 

[NewToAllThis]

Lexi - thanks for the info about Prof Quenby, definitely something to think about.
I agree with NSN, you could be missing your surge. I used to test twice a day and sometimes I'd only see the positive on one of the two so quite a short surge.

Raspberry - I use the CBFM (since Xmas), I don't think its helped me get pregnant as such but has taught me a lot about my cycle and when I ov. Good luck with it.

Welcome Hope25 and Inoue - sorry for your losses

 

[lexi374]

Well 36.56 this morning so i guess i missed my surge and ovulated saturday with a slow rise who knows?!

Will email Professor Quenby later.

No probs NTAT will keep ya posted x

 

[Neversaynever]

Lexi...how strange?

I know that last December I was testing once a day and and didn't see a positive yet was pregnant that month after one rudie I even tested two days after AF was due convinced it was just AF being all over the place coming off the BCP

Now I test 2/3 and my surges are longer and last almost 24 hours but again, if I were to only test once..I'd more than likely miss it. You can cheap ones from Amazon that do the trick.

Let us know what response you get form Prof Q

XxX

 

[pink80]

ladies

Sorry I came and then went again - just been feeling all over the place.

I have to test a couple of times a day aswell otherwise I would miss the surge - just got my delivery of new OPKs from amazon this morning. Hope you get a quick response

I tested with an IC PG test this morning - it was still showing very positive on Saturday - an the line is alot feinter now so that's good. I also did an OPK and it was positive but I'm assuming that is from the HCG still in my system. I don't want to 'try' this month but I do want to know how my cycles are - iykwim.

We haven't DTD since my ERPC - I know it wasn't that long ago but they did say we could as soon as I felt ready and stopped bleeding. Well I haven't bled for a few days now and I want to, but he won't.... Has anyone else been through this...?

xx

 

[Inoue]

When did you have your ERPC pink80? Im just asking as im not sure when to start using some IC's to see if the line dissapears

 

[pink80]

Hi Inoue

I had my ERPC on the 29th - so 12 days ago xx

 

[Inoue]

Arr right. Ill probably wait another week then before i use IC's. Im sorry for your loss by the way, hope you can start to TTC again soon! x

 

[NewToAllThis]

We haven't DTD since my ERPC - I know it wasn't that long ago but they did say we could as soon as I felt ready and stopped bleeding. Well I haven't bled for a few days now and I want to, but he won't.... Has anyone else been through this...?

xx

Me! I am not entertaining just yet but did mention to DH that I could ahem, sort him out if he wanted and have hinted at all sorts, but he's not interested at all. I have started thinking he doesn't want to come near me anymore, I have even had to ask for a kiss or hug lately and its not nice.
I didn't have this problem last time, he was up for it as soon as I was able!

Has he said why he doesn't want to? I can't get any sense out of my DH!

Glad your IC is getting lighter. I did one yesterday and mine was light too. But I realised later that it wasn't FMU and that might have been the reason it was light. Think I will do another at the weekend.

Doc has signed me off for this week and next, without me pushing it.
Are you still off hun? x

 

[pink80]

He says it's weird He's worried that he'll hurt me or that I'll start bleeding. I just want to feel close to him - we only DTD once whilst I was pregnant - so it's been such a long time, he's not a very touchy feely king of guy so sometimes I crave intimacy - iykwim. He's says we will soon but I don't know, we didn't wait that long last time - just over a week - so I'm feeling a bit like he just doesn't want to.

I'm back at work - started on Thursday - although it was my first day in the office yesterday. I'm lucky I work from home 3 days a week and I don't have to be in again until Thursday.

 

[lexi374]

Well i emailed Quenby at 10 am and havent had 1 back, she emailed back quickly the last 2 times, just my luck shes on holiday or something now!

Maybe your dh's are scared of hurting you or are worried about another miscarriage again xxx

 

[lexi374]

I take it back, she has emailed!

I am seeing her monday afternoon! xxx

 

[justwaiting]

Yay lexi I'm glad you have an appointment on monday not long to wait at all. I've have heard her name a fair bit on the boards, she seems to really know her stuff. let us know how it goes.

As for the dh no sex thing. We were told not to dtd for 2weeks past the d&c and dh wasn't chomping at the bit to do it. I was so I convinced him fairly shortly afterwards. But after both mc he was different, the 1st he was keen to get started again but after the second even up until about 2 weeks ago he didn't even want to try again for a while, the thought of another loss scares the crap out of him and it makes him afraid to try. He is less pushy with it these days and waits for me to initiate, as much as the bugging annoyed me I miss it!.
Maybe your men are just a little scared and cautious now. They don't want to hurt you or have to think about another loss so soon. Maybe let him know that he can wear a condom if it makes him feel better and safer until he is ready to try again. It's so difficult when your not on the same page.