A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Inoue]

Im also at a loss with the no bedding . Im only a week in after D&C but im biting at the bit to have sex ~ my DH seems to be uninterested. I think i find it harder as my mind works in over-drive thinking that he's not interested in me anymore and y'day when we were going through old boxes he found his end of school year photograph (was a mixed school) and i asked him kinda jokinly which one of the girls did he have sex with and he sharply replied "not telling you" then stared at the picture... i know it was years ago but im a very jelous person and hate it when he cant trust me even to show me who she was. Its not like im going to hunt her down or anything - it was like 10 years ago! I was just trying to make light conversation and i ended up withdrawing to my shell all afternoon and he was wondering why.

Sorry for my rant, just men make us feel more crappy then we already think we are

 

[SA JennyPenny]

Inoue, men r men hun! I'm yet to understand one and I'm very sure they say same bout us. I had the very unfortunate happening of my husband chatting up 6 women online,having cyber sex with them every moment all day that he could, with intent to meet one of them of whom he thought he was in love with and couldn't live without. Long story short,he filed for divorce..I fought it and proved to him a week later his long lost love was actually a Nigerian whore who was draining his phone account every time he loaded any airtime. We lost SO much money during that period due to her!!!! What a utter moron!!!! We have come far from that,therapy..family
interventions..etc etc .back onto trying to trust him again has been the hardest part for me! I want to lose it is I see him looking at another women or even talking to one! To me personally, the reassurance of him wanting to be with me is he allows me now to check his phone all day anytime,and he's always home with me. Never our with friends even..so to me..that's him making his effort as well as trying hard with me for our miracle baby. My mom always says, if a man wants to be with u,he just will no matter what. If he wants something else,you will see it. Hope things get better with u hun and u find some peace..I know exactly where u r coming from!

Our TTC journeys sadly ruin ones sex life and most of the time ruins our communications with our husbands...even me..my husband is a totally different person to the loving man that was once such a free spirit...its all sad...

 

[Inoue]

Inoue, men r men hun! I'm yet to understand one and I'm very sure they say same bout us. I had the very unfortunate happening of my husband chatting up 6 women online,having cyber sex with them every moment all day that he could, with intent to meet one of them of whom he thought he was in love with and couldn't live without. Long story short,he filed for divorce..I fought it and proved to him a week later his long lost love was actually a Nigerian whore who was draining his phone account every time he loaded any airtime. We lost SO much money during that period due to her!!!! What a utter moron!!!! We have come far from that,therapy..family
interventions..etc etc .back onto trying to trust him again has been the hardest part for me! I want to lose it is I see him looking at another women or even talking to one! To me personally, the reassurance of him wanting to be with me is he allows me now to check his phone all day anytime,and he's always home with me. Never our with friends even..so to me..that's him making his effort as well as trying hard with me for our miracle baby. My mom always says, if a man wants to be with u,he just will no matter what. If he wants something else,you will see it. Hope things get better with u hun and u find some peace..I know exactly where u r coming from!

Our TTC journeys sadly ruin ones sex life and most of the time ruins our communications with our husbands...even me..my husband is a totally different person to the loving man that was once such a free spirit...its all sad...

Oh god i so sorry for whats happened to you in the past, how awfull

I sat down with DH and spoke to him about my concerns, mainly the ones where i think he's not attracted to me anymore and now im not pregnant he might wonder to someone elce {who can actually give him a child }
(i know one girl at his work a lot younger [19yo] keeps flirting with him). He gave me a big bear hug and talked me about how he feels about me, i guess im bitter that i might lose him.. when actually im barking right up the wrong tree.

My love of my life years ago broke my heart and im fearfull i can never get over that. And i also agree, TTC does change your life (IMO) for the worse, i want to go back to the times where we were carefree and had fun xx

 

[Ladyfog]

Pink - I know what you mean about wanting to know what's going on with your body. It's one of the hardest things about miscarriage that your body gets so confused. It's possible that you're ovulating as some people do quite soon, but in my experience it'll be the hormones still giving you a +ve on the OPK. Once you get a BFN on the IC then you can start testing again to see what happening if you want to.

Sometimes it's hard for our OHs as they have seen us in a lot of pain both emotionally and physically and they get scared about 'hurting' us again. Let him know you just need to be close - it's not about making a baby, just being with each other. Hopefully he'll feel better about things then

In the 2WW now - just going to ignore everything this month, I don't have the energy to symptom spot this month. Just going to sit tight and see if AF turns up in a couple of weeks!

Found out that it's pregnancy and infant loss remembrance day today. My thoughts are will you all.

 

[Tweak0605]

Hope everyone is well

I'm in the TWW as well, 4 DPO. Had a crazy painful ovulation, since I took soy this cycle. But, I did ovulate and hoping the strong ovulation will bring on our BFP.

I saw a rainbow yesterday, and since it was Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, it was comforting to see it. Felt like my angels were looking down on me.

https://a2.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/307472_507100016787_144600004_30127176_889822817_n.jpg

 

[lexi374]

Wow cool rainbow!

I got bfp 1st time with soy last time, will prob try it again this cycle, good luck!

Well ladies im off to see Professor Quenby this afternnon for the biopsy/nk test.
Am scared from what ive read it really hurts!

Will be home late so prob update tom xxxxxx

 

[Tweak0605]

Good luck with everything today Lexi

 

[NewToAllThis]

Good luck.Lexi. Be brave. X

 

[lexi374]

Got back earlier than i thought....

Well she seems very nice, if a little mad! The nutty professor was what DH said! Shes a hundred miles an hour!

She said i was 'interesting' cos i have Crohns disease!

Anyway had an internal scan, then clamped open my cervix like you would for a smear, then she inserts a fine straw thats able to suck up some of the lining of my uterus. The thing is as soon as your uterus is touched it contracts so it wouldnt let her in!

Anyway she tried a couple of times, then decided to wait for a couple of minutes to calm down before she tried again. I was thinking to myself its uncomfortable but not that bad! Then she went in again and actully managed to get some this time and wow that hurt! Would have been doubled over if i hadnt been lying down!

You should have seen the tiny bit of tissue she took! She tried to go in again but i was cramping alot and she said it was tight shut! So hopefully she got enough!

Results in 6-8 weeks but if pregnant before email her and she will count faster!!

If Uterine NK levels are found to be high, treatment is with steroids.

Oh and apparently the latest study is that aspirin doesnt do any good!

Oh yeah and i mentioned about soy and she said it was ok to take again.


ladies xxx

 

[justwaiting]

Ow that sounds painful lexi. I'm glad it's over and done with. has she told you to not ttc in the mean time?
Atleast if you do have high NK cells you'll be able to treat it.

 

[lexi374]

Hi,

She told us to try again straight away, apparently scratching the lining like this can also improve your chances. xxx

 

[NewToAllThis]

Hi,

She told us to try again straight away, apparently scratching the lining like this can also improve your chances. xxx

So you saw Prof Q privately then? You didn't have to be referred by your Dr?
Where is she based? Probably a million miles away from me but worth a trip if she doesn't charge too much.

 

[sweethun]

Hi everyone! Hoping that I can join in on this group. I'm Shasta, 27. My DH is Jesse, 26. I have had 2 losses and we are ttc our first. My most recent loss was in March. I have yet to get pregnant after that loss. My body is seriously messed up.

 

[lexi374]

Welcome shasta

NTAT yeah i saw her privately paid £260, she is based at university hospital coventry, nearly 70 miles from me. Any other questions feel free to ask xxx

 

[Tweak0605]

Lexi - glad everything went well at the appt, and you can try as soon as you're ready

Shasta - welcome sorry to hear about your losses

 

[justwaiting]

Welcome Sashta. have you had any testing done? So sorry for your losses.

Lexi - fingers crossed for this month. So strange that mucking around down there can make us more fertile!

 

[lexi374]

Well ladies came today although pretty light so far,.... still only a 10 day luteal phase for me!

Think im gonna try soy again this cycle as i got lucky 1st time last time with it.

Where's every1 else at mo? Any1 testing soon?

xxx

 

[Hope39]

Anyway she tried a couple of times, then decided to wait for a couple of minutes to calm down before she tried again. I was thinking to myself its uncomfortable but not that bad! Then she went in again and actully managed to get some this time and wow that hurt! Would have been doubled over if i hadnt been lying down!

You should have seen the tiny bit of tissue she took! She tried to go in again but i was cramping alot and she said it was tight shut! So hopefully she got enough!


ladies xxx[/QUOTE]

ouch ouch ouch, i gotta go see her soon. i wish i hadn' read this

 

[Tweak0605]

Aww, sorry AF came Lexi

I'm testing this Saturday, at 10 DPO. Chart is looking good so far - had a wicked temp drop, followed by a huge rise this morning. I know it's super early, so I'm trying not to think too much into it.

 

[justwaiting]

Good luck with testing tweak. Fingers crossed. You doing any symptom spotting?

I'm 6dpo so will start poas on monday but go for blood to check for hcg early next week. I'm very impatient and can't bare the suspense!

Sorry AF came Lexi, I've heard a lot of women on Clomid for shortened luteal phase, what is Dr Quenby suggesting for it?