A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Tweak0605]

Bells - I'm sorry, I don't know what that could be about. I know I've heard of ovulation bleeding, or implantation bleeding, but not before ovulation.

Patiently - No idea about cramping after AF. I had a few sharp twinges a cycle or 2 ago after AF, but that's about it.

NSN -

Mpepe - Welcome, and sorry about your losses You're in great company here, as we're all so supportive. Like you, I've haven't heard the heartbeat of my babies either We'll all get there

JW - Do you know when you'll hear about your blood tests? I hope it's soon, and I'll have good news to wake up to!! Good luck!


AFM - 12 DPO and a BFN. Plus my temps took a huge nosedive towards the coverline. Which I'm basically taking that I'm out Onto the next cycle. I've decided if we're not pregnant again by after next cycle, I'm calling my doctor again and demanding more tests be done. It's been 6 months since my 2nd miscarriage, and I want to make sure I'm ovulating and everything is okay.

 

[justwaiting]

no hcg and my progesterone is 14.2 and has dropped by almost half in 3days so I'm out, Just gotta wait for af to show no.

Good luck for the rest of you.

 

[lexi374]

Welcome belles and mpepe sorry for your losses, have either of you had testing done?

Tweak and Just Waiting sorry you guys are out this mth

NSN hang in there hun, prof Q said 6-8 weeks as she is behind should be getting the other results from oxford in 3 weeks or so x

Patiently i think things end up a bit screwy after mc, i never knew what to expect or when to expect it after the 2nd

AFM ive taken 80mg soy cd3,4,5, last night 120mg and will do the same tonight.

to every1 else xxxxxxx

 

[Tweak0605]

JW - I'm so sorry

Lexi - good luck with the soy! I'm taking 160 mg from CD3-7 again!


AFM - temps dropped even lower, below the coverline. So it looks like I'm just waiting for AF to show too. Boy, this sucks.

 

[Neversaynever]

Mpepe...have seen you around before and sorry you are here too

JW...sorry and

Tweak...I'm sorry

Lexi...at least you might get some answers...so you are actively TTC this month? coming your way

to everyone..this really is a crappy, soul destroying place to be eh?

XxX

 

[mpepe32]

Thanks for the warm welcome tweak, lexi, never and justwaiting. Had all testing, all came back normal. All bloodwork, ultrasounds show all normal. I really think it's my progesterone that is the problem too. Couldn't get the endometrial biopsy done to check the lining bc my cervix just wouldnt cooperate. DH and I also agreed not to get the genetic testing done bc even if there was a problem, I can't go on the fertility drugs to do egg selection and IVF because of my endometriosis and beyond that, not sure if I could even bear going through those precedures.


I hope we all get our forever babies too

 

[justwaiting]

Thanks for the warm welcome tweak, lexi, never and justwaiting. Had all testing, all came back normal. All bloodwork, ultrasounds show all normal. I really think it's my progesterone that is the problem too. Couldn't get the endometrial biopsy done to check the lining bc my cervix just wouldnt cooperate. DH and I also agreed not to get the genetic testing done bc even if there was a problem, I can't go on the fertility drugs to do egg selection and IVF because of my endometriosis and beyond that, not sure if I could even bear going through those precedures.


I hope we all get our forever babies too

Mpepe, I'm glad all the tests have come back normal, it is heartbreaking not having an answer but my FS told me no answer increases the rate of success, whereas having an issue although it can be treated carries with it it's own problems and risks.
Also your mention your cervix didn't cooperate, As a person who has uterine scarring things like that set off alarm bells in my head. firstly have you had a dnc? Are your cycles regular and normal (Flow length)? My reason is if he couldn't get into your cervix it might be because it is blocked wether partially or otherwise, which would not show on an ultrasound. I don't want to scare you or add more things going through your head, I just thought I'd ask.


I'm sorry to everyone who is out this month, if your anything like me you'll be taking it pretty hard but hoping for next month.

Goodluck to everyone!

 

[futurephotos]

Hi Ladies,

I haven't had a chance to read much of this thread yet to learn about all of you, but was wondering if I could join?

I'm 27- DH and I have been TTC since December so we're in month 10 now. I had 2 early MC the first in May and 2nd in July (so 1 mo apart).

I'm getting really frustrated! The part that is a struggle for us is that DH works out of town and is only home on weekends so we miss our fertile time a lot. I'm amazed we were able to be pg twice! Now I'm hoping we'll have one that will stay with us.

 

[Ladyfog]

Good morning ladies

Welcome MPepe - you are a brave woman for dealing with 4 MCs, but you will get your baby one day - we all will. It's a bit crazy but sometimes you just wish a test could find something wrong so you have a reason for it all to have gone wrong and they can do something to make it all better. Leaving it all to chance is a bit scary!

NSN, I'm holding out OK thanks - Hope you're doing OK It's such an emotional roller coaster - I wish we could all get back to the innocence of first trying and our first pregnancies. I'm still waiting to test, but just finding it hard t get excited this month. I'm thinking of taking a break for a while if it's a no this month to get my mojo back!.

JW and Tweak, sorry it's not your months, but there's always next month - remember first day of AF is the first day of your new cycle!

Patiently, I'm not sure what bleeding before OV means, but I think I heard that it may be a sign of being extra fertile (sensitive cervix?) if it's only a little bit. If it was a proper bleed then maybe head to the Docs just to check it's all OK?

Sorry I can't remember who mentioned about a weird period but thought I'd contribute...AF seems to take a while to settle after a MC - mine have always been crazy and very hormonal for the first 2-3. So if AF isn't behaving as normal, maybe things are just settling down. It's a bit like goldilocks (bare with me!) when one is too heavy, and then one too light, then eventually it goes back to normal again

Hi to everyone else, and to you all.

 

[Tweak0605]

futurephotos - welcome sorry about your losses I've been trying for almost 11 months with 2 losses, and I agree with being frustrated. Lots of baby dust for you!

Ladyfog - how are you doing?

Hope everyone else is well

AFM - Just as I suspected AF is here. Onto a new cycle - soy CD3-7 and hoping it work this time.

 

[Neversaynever]

Future..sorry for your losses but you are in a good place with us lot...we all understand where you are coming from and the emotions that are sometimes just so unbearable

Mpepe...I hope JW has given you something to consider?

Tweak...so sorry the hag has arrived..be kind to yourself

Ladyfog...I agree regarding the post MC AF's...after Ginge I had two light/short ones, next one was two days early, heavy, painful, clotty and lasted 5 days, the one after was back to normal and then I got pregnant with Furry. I guess everyone is different hoping this is your month

Everyone else and and hope you are getting on ok

XxX

 

[futurephotos]

Thanks for the welcome

I was feeling really yucky yesterday- headache, nausea, dull cramps. I could O any day now. I'm hoping all this was still only my body preparing and that it hasn't actually happened yet because DH isn't back until tomorrow night. The last time we BD was on Sat. & Sun. so we weren't really able to hit these last few days right prior to O if it happened yesterday or today. I'm really praying it will be on Sat. so that our timing will be better.

 

[lexi374]

Welcome future, hope you manage to ov after dh gets back!

Tweak did you take soy this last cycle aswell?

xxx

 

[Tweak0605]

Welcome future, hope you manage to ov after dh gets back!

Tweak did you take soy this last cycle aswell?

xxx

Yup, i took soy cd 3-7, 160 mg. I'm doing the same amounts and same days this cycle. I fully believe it helped me ovulate sooner last cycle.

 

[Ladyfog]

Welcome Future Photos - have you and OH tried OPKs? I know they don't work for everyone (me included!) but could help you know when you OV. I hope you catch your egg this month when OH get home

Tweak - rubbish that turned up this month, but at least you feel the soy is working. There's always next month!

AFM - I'm not going to test until Monday, even though I could tomorrow as I just can't be doing with the disappointment of seeing a BFN for now. Hopefully AF won't turn up after all!

Hope everyone has had OK days

 

[mpepe32]

hi ladies

justwaiting, thanks for your input. I didn't have a dnc for any of the mc's because they were so so early. dr thought my cervical path could either be really small or not straight. And from what I've read, this is not uncommon in women who have never given birth. DR. wasn't concerned because he said if blood can flow with my periods, than sperm can get up there, which is has and with this last one, we got pregnant the very first month of trying. You are right that it is good in a way that no problems were found, but none the less still frustrating.

I cringe to go on facebook nowadays. My husband's cousin's wife is due iany day now and seeing pics her belly just make me want to burst into tears and crawl into a dark closet and stay there. And at the same time I feel guilty bc I can't be happy for them.

This issue and and repeat mc's is just another disappointment in my life. A year after I got married, I was diagnosed with MS and had to give up practicing law because the fatigue was just too much and I couldn't handle the long hours or stress of the job. At the same time, my grandmother who I was soo close with had past away and this all put me into a very bad depression. It took a long time to swim back up to the surface. I did give up taking all my meds for depression while ttc but now, it's not a option. If I dont take one of the meds, I don't sleep and this makes the ms much worse so both dh and I have decided that I will stay on 1 of the 3 meds. I've read alot and treating the depression is so important in pregnancy and this one is not linked to any birth defects like the other ones that I stop taking. sorry for rambling its just nice to have people to talk to about this. I only have one person in my extended family that has gone through repeat mc's but she at least has 1 healthy child so I feel not even she fully understands what it is like not having any healthy pregnancies. Thanks for listening.

PS: good luck to all the ladies testing this month

 

[Tweak0605]

Ladyfog - Good luck!!

Mpepe - I totally understand the FB issue. Sometimes I'm afraid to go on FB, juts to see another pregnancy announcement. I've actually blocked a number of people, so I can't see their status. But a part of me is curious, and I still read them. One is a friend who got pregnant with her 2nd baby accidentally and prayed she wasn't pregnant, and another is DH's cousin who is the most whiny pregnant lady ever. Seriously complains about everything. You've been through so much, and I know your sticky BFP will be here soon

 

[patiently]

AFM - temps dropped even lower, below the coverline. So it looks like I'm just waiting for AF to show too. Boy, this sucks.

Im so sorry justwaiting but hang on in there its not over till she shows...and if she does just think you could just be a few weeks away from your bfp!

Hi Ladies,
I haven't had a chance to read much of this thread yet to learn about all of you, but was wondering if I could join?

I'm 27- DH and I have been TTC since December so we're in month 10 now. I had 2 early MC the first in May and 2nd in July (so 1 mo apart).

I'm getting really frustrated! The part that is a struggle for us is that DH works out of town and is only home on weekends so we miss our fertile time a lot. I'm amazed we were able to be pg twice! Now I'm hoping we'll have one that will stay with us.

Welcome futurephotos, you are an inspiration for me actually because though you said you usually miss your fertile days your proof that it can not only happen at any time, but if the sperm wants to meet the egg it WILL find a way...you've got pregnant twice already despite your OH being away a lot of the time, so i feel confident that you will become pregnant with your forever baby...fingers crossed i hope you get your bfp soon x

Good morning ladies

NSN, I'm holding out OK thanks - Hope you're doing OK It's such an emotional roller coaster - I wish we could all get back to the innocence of first trying and our first pregnancies. I'm still waiting to test, but just finding it hard t get excited this month. I'm thinking of taking a break for a while if it's a no this month to get my mojo back!.

JW and Tweak, sorry it's not your months, but there's always next month - remember first day of AF is the first day of your new cycle!

Patiently, I'm not sure what bleeding before OV means, but I think I heard that it may be a sign of being extra fertile (sensitive cervix?) if it's only a little bit. If it was a proper bleed then maybe head to the Docs just to check it's all OK?

Sorry I can't remember who mentioned about a weird period but thought I'd contribute...AF seems to take a while to settle after a MC - mine have always been crazy and very hormonal for the first 2-3. So if AF isn't behaving as normal, maybe things are just settling down. It's a bit like goldilocks (bare with me!) when one is too heavy, and then one too light, then eventually it goes back to normal again

Hi to everyone else, and to you all.

Hi ladyfrog it was me who has the weird AF i havent actually ovulated and i dont think im near ovulation as cd1 was last thurs...but AF was normal low but for 1 and a half days then i had spotting and it completely stopped after 3 days including the spotting. Like you i miss the innocence of ttc without the thought of mc...im so looking forward to getting my bfp but after the initial excitement fear and worry set in fast. Well at least we are here to support each other through these hard challenging times. I have to be honest im feeling good this month ladies im sure were going to get bfp's!! November seems like a lucky month...

hi ladies

justwaiting, thanks for your input. I didn't have a dnc for any of the mc's because they were so so early. dr thought my cervical path could either be really small or not straight. And from what I've read, this is not uncommon in women who have never given birth. DR. wasn't concerned because he said if blood can flow with my periods, than sperm can get up there, which is has and with this last one, we got pregnant the very first month of trying. You are right that it is good in a way that no problems were found, but none the less still frustrating.

I cringe to go on facebook nowadays. My husband's cousin's wife is due iany day now and seeing pics her belly just make me want to burst into tears and crawl into a dark closet and stay there. And at the same time I feel guilty bc I can't be happy for them.

This issue and and repeat mc's is just another disappointment in my life. A year after I got married, I was diagnosed with MS and had to give up practicing law because the fatigue was just too much and I couldn't handle the long hours or stress of the job. At the same time, my grandmother who I was soo close with had past away and this all put me into a very bad depression. It took a long time to swim back up to the surface. I did give up taking all my meds for depression while ttc but now, it's not a option. If I dont take one of the meds, I don't sleep and this makes the ms much worse so both dh and I have decided that I will stay on 1 of the 3 meds. I've read alot and treating the depression is so important in pregnancy and this one is not linked to any birth defects like the other ones that I stop taking. sorry for rambling its just nice to have people to talk to about this. I only have one person in my extended family that has gone through repeat mc's but she at least has 1 healthy child so I feel not even she fully understands what it is like not having any healthy pregnancies. Thanks for listening.

PS: good luck to all the ladies testing this month

Im so sorry or all your losses, you are such a courageous woman! and an inspiration to carry on! FB is the hardest thing at times...the photo's and the status updates all about pregnancy, isnt it funny that when you are ttc especially after a loss you see tonnes and tonnes of pg women..on the tube on fb, in your family etc...but we will join them one day and we will share those photos, status updates and happiness and we will appreciate our little babies that much more. Good luck and welcome to this thread i am so happy it was created!

Future..sorry for your losses but you are in a good place with us lot...we all understand where you are coming from and the emotions that are sometimes just so unbearable

Mpepe...I hope JW has given you something to consider?

Tweak...so sorry the hag has arrived..be kind to yourself

Ladyfog...I agree regarding the post MC AF's...after Ginge I had two light/short ones, next one was two days early, heavy, painful, clotty and lasted 5 days, the one after was back to normal and then I got pregnant with Furry. I guess everyone is different hoping this is your month

Everyone else and and hope you are getting on ok

XxX

Hi NSN have missed you hope you are ok you give me hope that my weird period is my bodies way of sorting itself out...how are you?

AFM i am still cramping and feeling kind of (tmi alert) wet but im sure im not ovulating, im on cd7 have decided that this month im going to stay away from opks and checking cervical mucus...im just going to go with the flow as they say...i have a hospital appt on 14th nov so hopefully i get some understanding of my body and whats going on. Fingers crossed for us all lady roll on november for all those BFP!!

 

[mpepe32]

tweak and patiently - all I see at the mall are pergnant women, seriously every second woman of child bearing age has a bump! And now I work, my manager is pregnant and is due when my third loss would have been. So so hard seeing her bump and thinking that's what I would have looked like if my bean had stuck.

I also can relate to opps it was a accident and the complain about everything pregnant lady! A girl I used to be very close with (but had a falling out years ago but are fb friends) is that very person! Really, you've had 2 kids and know when to ttc and it was an accident, give me a break.

I have faith we'll all have are little ones and will just appreciate that gift that much more when it comes and maybe not complain about those sleepless nights and countless diaper changes like other moms do.

 

[justwaiting]

Mpepe - I'm glad to hear that you didn't have dnc's. It is frusterating not getting answers besides my scarring all the tests came back completely normal. I wish you all the best in the future.

I hate wingey pregnant woman, seriously I tune out when my neighbour talks about her pains or how tired she is. Yes I know it's uncomfortable but seriously no one wants to hear u complain constantly. Partly I think it's jealousy but apart of me thinks have some compassion I would love to be as uncomfortable as you!

Wouldn't it be nice to actually have an accident tho. Not to worry about o times and tww's just suddenly realise you haven't had a period in a while do a test and bing your bfp. That to me sounds like heaven and especially if I managed to get past 8wks before I found out. No all I need is some amnesia pills to erase the last year of baby making and I'm off to make an accident!