A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[mpepe32]

jw - you said it perfectly! And when you find those amnesia pills, be sure to let us know where so we can purchase them too lol

 

[futurephotos]

Wouldn't it be nice to actually have an accident tho. Not to worry about o times and tww's just suddenly realise you haven't had a period in a while do a test and bing your bfp. That to me sounds like heaven and especially if I managed to get past 8wks before I found out. No all I need is some amnesia pills to erase the last year of baby making and I'm off to make an accident!

That would be perfect! It would take so much of the worry away.

 

[patiently]

Ladies my friend who is one day ahead of what i wouldve been in my second pregnancy wants to go to the baby show saturday and I said yes. I do feel excited to see all the things they have as ive always wanted to go. I hope it doesnt turn out to be an emotional day and hopefully i can just enjoy the day or my friend...wish me luck!

 

[futurephotos]

patiently- for me, I've found that I really enjoy looking at baby stuff- like "getting a fix" of it. In some ways it reminds me of what I lost and don't have yet, but in others it makes me all the more excited to have a baby. I think it is great that you're going to support your friend and who knows it may be helpful to you too.

 

[Ladyfog]

Patiently - remember that you will have your baby one day so the baby show can be good research for the future I hope you don't feel too emotional when you you're there - I'm sure you'll have a great day with your friend Hope your cycle settles down too - you never know, you may catch your egg anyway!

MPepe - you've been through such a lot! It's amazing how resilient people can be. I know what you mean about FB too - I have a friend who had a MC at the same time as my first and she's now 25 wks. I'm really happy for her, but she's starting to put lots of sickeningly happy updates on FB - I remember her saying how hard it was to see updates on FB and now she's doing it herself!!! I know it'd her privilege but can't help feeling a bit miffed that she's not being more sensitive!! OK, rant over!!

JW - I'd love to have a 'happy accident' - a friend of mine found out she was pregnant when she was 6 months - she was kind of in denial for a while and was only 21, but still, she basically had a 3 month pregnancy! I think it's sad she missed out on some of the excitement, but hey, she missed out on a lot of the worry too!!

AFM, still no AF!! - it was due yesterday so things are looking more positive, but I'm still not going to yet (had used about a million HPTs by this time last month!). Trying not to get excited, but fingers crossed!

 

[patiently]

my fingers are crossed for you i really hope this is it...BFP time!!! its a shame when friends cant be more sensitive, i think she's probably just lost in her own excitement...and hopefully you will be joining her with your excitement...when are you going to test? x

 

[mpepe32]

patiently - hope you have a fun day out!

ladyfog - hoping af doesn't show up F'x

 

[lexi374]

ooooohhhhh ladyfrog fingers crossed for ya xxxxxxx

Patiently i hope you have a nice day with your friend and it is not too stressful for you

 

[NewToAllThis]

Ladyfog - when are you going to test?
Exciting stuff. Any symptoms?
Sending you lots of

 

[Ladyfog]

I'm trying very hard to wait until Monday as I'm not sure when I o'd so want to give myself plenty of time one way or another. Still not sign of AF though so you never know!

No major symptom but my nipples are really sore and I'm full of wind! I was sure the was on her way a couple of days ago - had the kind of tummy ache I've had before my MCs, not a dull cramp but more of a scratchy tender feeling - not sure how else to describe it. That's gone now though. The only other symptom is that I really don't feel I am...know this sounds weird but every time I've been pregnant before I have been convinced I'm not and every time I'm not, I'm convinced I am!

Anyone else getting to the end of their cycles?

 

[Neversaynever]

Ladyfog... and hoping you see two lines when you test

Mpepe...so sorry that it all seems like a never ending nightmare of things happening I apologise for asking but have you bhad all the extensive testing? Autoimmune testing? Only asking seeing as you have MS also, you are right to be taking care of the depression and there is NO shame in that at all

Patiently...hope the baby show was fun...you WILL get your rainbow baby before you know it

Tweak...how are you doing?

Lexi... lovely

AFM...in a better place right now and hoping it stays that way for a while. I never got that low before and it scared the crap put of me

to any testers and to everyone

XxX

 

[patiently]

Hi ladies unfortunately I never went to the baby show...i just couldnt face it as the time got closer i just elt worst and worst i really tried...so i have said that if all is well we'll go in february her baby will be a newborn by then...i felt bad but she was really understanding and said that £20 can be used towards other things. But thank you all for your support.

NeversayNever...welcome back I really missed you hope you're feeling better, sometimes the lows just hit you like a tonne of bricks but you always bounce back...and if you ever need support for the bounce we are all here for you. Taking time out from bnb is ok too..i had to do that earlier in the month...take each day as it comes and try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes i feel a tad bit better after a good cry. We all try to be such brave women trying to carry on as if nothing ever happened...especially after the loss of two...its ok to let it all out or keep it all in...we should do whatever we feel is best for ourself but like i said im glad your back...we just have to keep pressing forward there can only be light at the end of the tunnel...!

Lady frog...big day tomorrow!! fingers and toes crossed (if thats possible) i hope you get some good news hun...will be thinking of ya x

AFM I really want my baby but i dont know if this is the best time...as i have recently stopped working to have work experience in a huge organisation and its unpaid so i literally have no money...but I still want to keep ttc...because I think what will be will be if i dont have a job by the time i get my bfp I will have to deal with it then...please tell me ladies if you think im being so silly and I should stop ttc..I just dont want to miss my chance...not going to use opks, or anything this month just going to wait and see...GL to all ladies, fingers crossed and baby dust to those who are testing x

 

[mpepe32]

never - glad to hear you are feeling better I had all the blood tests after my second loss and nothing showed up. I thought maybe soemthing autoimmune would have showed up bc of my health issues but nope. And thanks so very much about your kind comment relating to my depression. I do carry alot of shame with it and making the choice to stay on one of the meds is one of the hardest things I'm doing at this point.

patiently - life will work itself out, so if it were me, I wouldnt stop ttc. I see plently of moms who aren't in the best financial situation, but things do have a funny way of working out!

I hope we all have really good luck on this thread and can move these conversations to the PAL section sooner rather than later! Hope everyone had a nice weekend

 

[mpepe32]

Ladyfog - when are you going to test?
Exciting stuff. Any symptoms?
Sending you lots of

hi I remember you from the other threads. Sorry to see you've had another loss.

 

[Ladyfog]

Good morning .

Patiently - glad you did what was right for you and didn't go to the baby show. Sometimes there are simply things that we need to avoid for a while - and and you will be able to go again (hopefully with a bump!). It's so hard to decide not to try and I think that life is never perfect - if we always waited for the right time, it would never come...so if you fall pregnant while doing your work experience then that's a blessing and you will make it work no matter what

NSN, I know how it can hit you when you least expect it - the darkest of times can creep up on you. Glad you've come back round again - it's the greatest irony of this whole process that if we give in to the sadness we'll never get our babies

AFM - brilliant news!!! tested with an IC first and got a good strong second line (had been sure it was a dud batch last month!) and then my CB Digi says 3+ weeks!!! I guess I must have O'd early as that's a quite a strong +ve. I really hope this is the one that sticks. The excitement is mixed with terror that it could all happen again. But going to stay +ve and take each day at a time - i'll get getting a scan at 8wks so just praying I can see a heartbeat for the first time.

Would you girls mind if I stay on this threat for a while? I know I'm not technically TTC anymore but I'm not confident enough about things to start posting on a PAL threat yet. Would like to see how you all get on too

 

[RaspberryMini]

Ladyfog - Congratulations on your BFP!

I'm a couple of days away from testing trying desperately hard to hold off and not symptom spot!

Hope it's good news for all forthcoming testers! xx

 

[lexi374]

Ladyfrog

whoo hooo!! So pleased for you honey! Yay our first bfp!!!!

I checked this morning to see if you had posted but must have just missed ya!

Congratulations and please stay on the thread, i think we should all stay whether we get bfps or not xxx

Patiently there's never a right time for a baby and you can never afford 1 but just do what you feel is right for you now, and if you do carry on and get ur bfp i have no doubt you will cope just fine xxx

FX for raspberry mini

to every1 else.

BD week for me, prob gona ov this weekend xxx

 

[Neversaynever]

Hi ladies unfortunately I never went to the baby show...i just couldnt face it as the time got closer i just elt worst and worst i really tried...so i have said that if all is well we'll go in february her baby will be a newborn by then...i felt bad but she was really understanding and said that £20 can be used towards other things. But thank you all for your support.

NeversayNever...welcome back I really missed you hope you're feeling better, sometimes the lows just hit you like a tonne of bricks but you always bounce back...and if you ever need support for the bounce we are all here for you. Taking time out from bnb is ok too..i had to do that earlier in the month...take each day as it comes and try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes i feel a tad bit better after a good cry. We all try to be such brave women trying to carry on as if nothing ever happened...especially after the loss of two...its ok to let it all out or keep it all in...we should do whatever we feel is best for ourself but like i said im glad your back...we just have to keep pressing forward there can only be light at the end of the tunnel...!

Lady frog...big day tomorrow!! fingers and toes crossed (if thats possible) i hope you get some good news hun...will be thinking of ya x

AFM I really want my baby but i dont know if this is the best time...as i have recently stopped working to have work experience in a huge organisation and its unpaid so i literally have no money...but I still want to keep ttc...because I think what will be will be if i dont have a job by the time i get my bfp I will have to deal with it then...please tell me ladies if you think im being so silly and I should stop ttc..I just dont want to miss my chance...not going to use opks, or anything this month just going to wait and see...GL to all ladies, fingers crossed and baby dust to those who are testing x

Thank you it is sometimes such a crappy place and you want to be left alone which is ok but you also have to pull yourself out of the hole at the right time too. I feel much calmer about things right now and I hope to stay in that same frame of mind.

I'm sorry you didn't make it to the show but you are only human so don't pressure yourself to do things if you don't feel comfortable with it there is also never always a perfect time to have children and like you well know...you can't time it either...go with the flow and enjoy it as much as you can

never - glad to hear you are feeling better I had all the blood tests after my second loss and nothing showed up. I thought maybe soemthing autoimmune would have showed up bc of my health issues but nope. And thanks so very much about your kind comment relating to my depression. I do carry alot of shame with it and making the choice to stay on one of the meds is one of the hardest things I'm doing at this point.

patiently - life will work itself out, so if it were me, I wouldnt stop ttc. I see plently of moms who aren't in the best financial situation, but things do have a funny way of working out!

I hope we all have really good luck on this thread and can move these conversations to the PAL section sooner rather than later! Hope everyone had a nice weekend

I am glad you had all the testing but again...how frustrating to not have answers have they not said anything else on the matter seeing as they are all around the same time? it takes a bigger and better person to admit they have mental health issues and I take my hat off to you for dealing with it in such a positive manner. Your forevevr baby and angel babies will all be very proud their mommy for doing so

Good morning .

Patiently - glad you did what was right for you and didn't go to the baby show. Sometimes there are simply things that we need to avoid for a while - and and you will be able to go again (hopefully with a bump!). It's so hard to decide not to try and I think that life is never perfect - if we always waited for the right time, it would never come...so if you fall pregnant while doing your work experience then that's a blessing and you will make it work no matter what

NSN, I know how it can hit you when you least expect it - the darkest of times can creep up on you. Glad you've come back round again - it's the greatest irony of this whole process that if we give in to the sadness we'll never get our babies

AFM - brilliant news!!! tested with an IC first and got a good strong second line (had been sure it was a dud batch last month!) and then my CB Digi says 3+ weeks!!! I guess I must have O'd early as that's a quite a strong +ve. I really hope this is the one that sticks. The excitement is mixed with terror that it could all happen again. But going to stay +ve and take each day at a time - i'll get getting a scan at 8wks so just praying I can see a heartbeat for the first time.

Would you girls mind if I stay on this threat for a while? I know I'm not technically TTC anymore but I'm not confident enough about things to start posting on a PAL threat yet. Would like to see how you all get on too

Lady fog I am so pleased for your fantastic news and I for one have NO problem you staying on this thread...we will all help and support you as much as we can. If anyone does feel uncomfortable with it, would you mind putting your updates in a spoiler maybe? I don't know how everyone else will feel but I am ok with seeing your fantastic news and updates

Raspberry...when are you testing? and good luck

Lexi...happy shagging

XxX

 

[RaspberryMini]

Neversay - I'm trying to hold out until the weekend but it's getting so bad I'm dreaming about it! AF is due on Thursday so I want to wait at least until then. I've been using CBFM so I miss POAS!!!!

 

[Neversaynever]

Raspberry...my doctor told me I'm just torturing myself by waiting to test and I do see his point. I just hate seeing BFN's but have no way of holding out till AF

Ladyfog...was meant to have asked you, when was your LMP? Was it a normal period? Either you have more than one egg in there or you really did ovulate really really early

XxX