A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Tweak0605]

mpepe - sorry you've been feeling so down I've been having up and down days, thinking of "what could've been." All these holidays and not being pregnant is gonna take it's toll on me. Hope you feel better

Raspberry - good luck!!

Ladyfog - good luck tomorrow! I hope you can try and rest and relax a bit. Take it one day at a time

JW - My cycles are between 33-35 days long. Last cycle was 33 days, because I took soy. I'm hoping to push it up even further taking soy again. We're definitely close in CD. I think we'll start BDing over the weekend and try for every other day to every 2 days.

 

[Neversaynever]

Mpepe...don't be harsh on yourself and you are NOT bringing the thread down at all..that is what it is for..good things, bad things lows and highs hun

Lady...totally normal and man we would all be nervous, petrified and on that roller ocaster just like you when we see those two lines take it ONE day at a time, we have all been there and we will all be there agian before we know it. I think we forget that intense fear and being out of our control and we also know that pain of a loss. You'll be ok

RM...you still holding off ok?

Future...patiently...lily....JW...tweak...pants forgotten other names but you are in my thoughts too

AFM...had a BFP dream and now I've woken up in a weird mood as it felt so real. Damn you subconscious messing with me when I was doing so well

XxX

 

[Tweak0605]

Oh hun, I'm sorry for that dream. I had one of those during the last TWW. One that was so real, that I was horribly disappointed when I woke up.

 

[2012Baby]

I'm new! Thought I might join you as I've been a "lurker" for a few months, but feel like questions come up or posts that I want to reply to...

I will preface with the fact that I know absolutely nothing about all of this ttc stuff and thought it would just happen. Well, it did, but then, it didn't.

I'm 34 and DH is 37 and this is our first time trying. We did get a BFP two years ago when not trying and that turned into a chemical pregnancy. We started trying officially in September - but ov had already happened. Tried again in October and got 3 BFP's on FRER. Went to the doc and got a BFN on a blood test. They would not do a quantitative test and said that I must have purchased a bad test. Um, no. Symptoms mixed with BFP's leads me to believe that it was another chemical.

Trying again this month using OPK - guessing at ov around the 15th!

 

[Neversaynever]

I'm new! Thought I might join you as I've been a "lurker" for a few months, but feel like questions come up or posts that I want to reply to...

I will preface with the fact that I know absolutely nothing about all of this ttc stuff and thought it would just happen. Well, it did, but then, it didn't.

I'm 34 and DH is 37 and this is our first time trying. We did get a BFP two years ago when not trying and that turned into a chemical pregnancy. We started trying officially in September - but ov had already happened. Tried again in October and got 3 BFP's on FRER. Went to the doc and got a BFN on a blood test. They would not do a quantitative test and said that I must have purchased a bad test. Um, no. Symptoms mixed with BFP's leads me to believe that it was another chemical.

Trying again this month using OPK - guessing at ov around the 15th!

Welcome and sorry to hear of the chemical pregnancies...as I always say...one loss is too many

Ask any questions you want...I'm sure there will be someone around to answer stuff whether in here or other sections.

Remember...you can time it to perfection and still nothing happens and TRY to keep it fun...hard I know

Tweak...it's put me in a funk all day

XxX

 

[pink80]

Hi Ladies

I've been lurking as I'm still all over the place - my body is driving me mad!!

Just wanted to leave you all some & xx

 

[Ladyfog]

Thanks Pink80 - sending some your way too. Hope things settle down soon - you're body knows what it has to do, it just sounds like it's taking a while.

NSN - sorry you've had dream that's brought you down, just as you were starting to feel better. Just try to think about it happening for real, which it will

And, welcome 2010baby. Any questions, feel free to ask - I was thinking this morning that we've probably all been pregnant more times than many people with babies have, so we're all technically pregnancy experts

RM - keep holding off until Friday if you can! - will have my fingers crossed for you!

AFM, had my Drs appt this afternoon. We filled in the forms for the scan, but she doesn't think I'll get an early 'reassurance' scan as we first hoped. She's going to check, but if not, I'll arrange a private one. I decided not to get one last time and really regretted it so I'll definitely have a scan of some sort at about 8wks - want to leave it long enough so there's no doubt about whether it's good news or bad...

Still absolutely terrified at the moment, and my anxiety has flared right up (have had issues in the past but it comes back with a vengeance each pregnancy for a couple of weeks). Just trying to ride it out for now.

Hi everyone else - hope you've all had good days

 

[Neversaynever]

Pink... hun, anything we can do to help?

Lady...I am ok, was just a bit unsettling and it brings it all home again

We have already discusses scans for next pregnant I will have one at 7 weeks and 10 weeks due to history with both losses. I'll be a loon by then anyway

XxX

 

[mpepe32]

Thanks never and tweak. You know, dreams do mean something bc 2 times I got a BFP, I had dreamt about it a few days before. So you never know!

Feeling slightly better today but still pretty bummed out. AF came yesterday so we are going to start ttc again this month. I just past the 2 year mark of ttc and nothing to show for it but 4angel babies. I took 2 (not one) months after this last mc because I just needed a break and was in no state to deal with another mc if it had of happened. I have spent the last 2 birthdays mc'g and I'm so ready to have my luck and all of ours turn around.

Hope all of you are doing well

Lady - try to at least enjoy a little bit of this. The nurse at my ob/gyn office tries to get me to think posititve and treat every new one as just that. It's a new one and being stressed and scared won't change things so try as best you can

 

[RaspberryMini]

Hey everyone - I'm still holding off but not feeling too positive as I feel more and more like AF is on the way. Trying not to stress about it as that'll only delay things for the next cycle to try again.

Never - I've had the same dream a couple of times this week, it is distressing, so much so it's affected my sleep when I've had the dream so I know how you're feeling

As the saying (or my version of) it ain't over until AF arrives to all and a hello and welcome to all new posters

 

[lexi374]

Lily hope and 2012 baby

Raspberry hope you are holding out ok x

Mpepe i feel much the same, just heard various announcements over the last few days from friends, on facebook and at work. Its crap its so hard to be happy for everyone when it seems so easy for them and so hard for us, i just hope we all get there 1 day really soon x

Ladyfog its hard to be positive after bad experiences but we are all hoping this is it for you, and this is your take home x

JW, Tweak, Pink

Nsn sorry bout the dream, that makes you feel and x

Afm yep ive started my mission, we at the weekend, then yesterday am and this morning, not sure whether to skip tom then do fri, prob ov somewhere between friday and monday? Dont wanna burn him out!

to all xxxxxx

 

[RaspberryMini]

Pink... hun, anything we can do to help?

Lady...I am ok, was just a bit unsettling and it brings it all home again

We have already discusses scans for next pregnant I will have one at 7 weeks and 10 weeks due to history with both losses. I'll be a loon by then anyway

XxX

Meant to add, we opted for a private scan at 7w 1d last time - I had an empty sac which showed as 5-6 weeks, obviously we know what the outcome was now but I ended up feeling worse and the place I went to I just felt as though they were after the money with no concern for my feelings. we were literally in and in 5 minutes with more questions than answers, the only advice they offered was come back next week and we'll rescan - for a fee of course!

I probably just had a bad experience but I'd definitely research and get recommendations for an early scanning centre for the future

 

[NewToAllThis]

No worries ladies!!

Thanks for all your lovely kind wishes - still can't believe it's happened but trying to be happy and not too scared. Can't see past the first scan yet, but keep telling myself that people do get pregnant and at the end of it actually end up with a baby so maybe that will be me this time. I hope so with all my heart.

It's lovely that we can all be there for one another

Ladyfog - OMG. Massive massive congratulations for your bfp. Great news. Our first one, yippee!
I know where you are coming from with the feelings you are having. If only we could be like first time bfp'ers, but hold onto that thought... people do get pregnant and end up with a healthy baby. It's what I have to tell myself all the time as it feels like it will never happen to me.
And yes, please stick.around. I'd be offended if you left us

Mpepe - yes, I remember you too. Think we started TTC and had losses around the same time. It's been 2 years for me now.
So sorry for your losses, 4 must be so hard. Really hope you can get some answers and get your forever baby. Sorry you're not feeling great, its so hard.

Hi to all the newbies, sorry for your losses but you're all very welcome here - the more the merrier. We can vent with each other.

AFM - not been on much, back at work now and its taking its toll. I'm knackered!
Plus my PMA has slipped the last few days. In limboland, no Ov and no AF and its so frustrating. Just praying AF doesn't make me wait 12 weeks like last time.
Plus facing yet another Christmas with no bump or baby, its a harsh reality

 

[patiently]

TBH no idea which way it will go I don't feel pregnant but nor do I feel Like AF is about to arrive. If AF does arrive then we'll try again one more month then take a months break as we've got a trip to the US late Jan/early Feb and if we kept going I'd still be I the risky early stages whilst we are there - I don't mind going pregnant but past the risky time but I don't want the added stress of being in the early stages of pregnancy and on my holiday!

hun i really do hope you get your bfp! both times ive been pregnant i really thought AF was about to show...i even had a scan at 3 weeks and the dr said that the lining of my cervix was so thick and was i expecting to start my period to which i replied yes...only 5 days later i got my bfp! so I do hope you get your bfp!! fingers crossed and sending lots of baby dust...

AFM, I have had the fear so badly today. Tummy and hips are achey and it just takes me right back to last time I was pregnant. I know it's normal, but I've been caught out twice with MMCs when I thought everything was OK so just don't feel I can trust my body anymore. I have a Drs appt tomorrow so she should arrange for an 8wk scan so it will be good to start the ball rolling. Sorry to winge when I've been so lucky.

I hope your dr's appointment goes well tomorrow and that she will reassure you that all is ok...its only natural to have this feeling after two losses but I do hope that your bean is a sticky one and you go on to have a happy and healthy 9 months...maybe try to do something during the day to occupy your thoughts and to distract you...you're really not winging!!! this si the place to vent and all what your feeling is exactly what we all are probably going to experience when we get our bfp...good luck tomorrow hun...wish you all the best x x x

My cycles are between 33-35 days long. Last cycle was 33 days, because I took soy. I'm hoping to push it up even further taking soy again. We're definitely close in CD. I think we'll start BDing over the weekend and try for every other day to every 2 days.

I hope you catch your egg this cycle Tweak!!

AFM...had a BFP dream and now I've woken up in a weird mood as it felt so real. Damn you subconscious messing with me when I was doing so well

XxX

NSN i'm so sorry your dream upset you..sometimes we think about things so much that they become reflective in our subconscious...I was thinking about my baby and then i had one of these dreams the other day. It was so realistic...but i really really do believe that its something positive, that our dreams our subconsciously letting us know that we're going to get our babies soon...fingers crossed for you hun and hoping that dream will become a reality really soon.

I
I'm 34 and DH is 37 and this is our first time trying. We did get a BFP two years ago when not trying and that turned into a chemical pregnancy. We started trying officially in September - but ov had already happened. Tried again in October and got 3 BFP's on FRER. Went to the doc and got a BFN on a blood test. They would not do a quantitative test and said that I must have purchased a bad test. Um, no. Symptoms mixed with BFP's leads me to believe that it was another chemical.

Trying again this month using OPK - guessing at ov around the 15th!

I am so sorry for your losses

Welcome to the thread, this is the most amazing thread i have come by in terms of support and genuine understanding...I hope you catch the egg this month and go on to having a healthy and happy nine months...

Feeling slightly better today but still pretty bummed out. AF came yesterday so we are going to start ttc again this month. I just past the 2 year mark of ttc and nothing to show for it but 4angel babies. I took 2 (not one) months after this last mc because I just needed a break and was in no state to deal with another mc if it had of happened. I have spent the last 2 birthdays mc'g and I'm so ready to have my luck and all of ours turn around.

So sorry AF came yesterday hun Its strange how now we measure time in our lives by what would've been our EDD and ttc time, I am so focused on ttc it has become my new way of figuring out time! I can imagine how it feels to ttc after two years as im not that far behind you, its been a year and half for me. But just think that in that two years time you could have an 15 month old child...i really do hope you catch your egg really soon hun

Afm yep ive started my mission, we at the weekend, then yesterday am and this morning, not sure whether to skip tom then do fri, prob ov somewhere between friday and monday? Dont wanna burn him out!

to all xxxxxx

Good luck hun hope you catch the egg...!!


To all the new ladies...welcome!!!

AFM im on cd 14 and have BD sunday and Tuesday i have no idea about when i will ovulate as im not using opks..were kind of just going with the flow this month...just going to bd as frequently as possible fingers crossed that november is going to be a good month!! bring on the bfp's!!!

 

[Ladyfog]

Good luck with the Lexi and Patiently. Hope you catch your eggs this month, and remember to have fun!

RM, thanks for the advice about the scan - our local hospital does private scans so I think the referral process will be pretty smooth if it's another 'sad scan'. I'm prepared for anything really, and both previous MCs were missed so have been there before.

I was really sure AF was on her way a few days before my BFP - had all the feelings, so hold on there. And if she turns up, we're all here for you

NTAL - thanks I hope AF turns up soon. It's ironic how you dread it for months but she's a wonderful sign that things are back on track. I'm sure she's on her way soon.

Trying to stay positive today - hormones were really bad yesterday. Cried at work, got a massive anxiety attack and then shouted at DH when I got home for not making the bed! Hopefully I will feel calmer today, and I know I need to be enjoying this bit. Even if my baby is only be with me for a short time I should appreciate it now. It's a new pregnancy so I have to believe this one's going to work - how's that for PMA today!

 

[Neversaynever]

RM...hoping AF stays away and if not... all here for you. First MC of mine, I got to 11+5 and had a bleed, went for a scan and no baby...just a large yolk sac and it devastated me. Last MC...went for a scan as I badgered my GP to sned me at 7 weeks and there was a HB and measuring on track. At 10+5 I had a tiny bleed and got seen at EPAU and got the bad news again. My GP will send me to the EPAU regardless so I won't have to go private

Patiently...happy and I am grateful that I also think this thread is helpful and I know where everyone is coming from too

Lexi...happy to you too, missing one day won't hurt

Lady...you will have ups and downs hun and it is going to be hard....loving todays PMA...are you going to put up a ticker?

and to all

XxX

 

[mpepe32]

Thanks lexi, new and patiently

New - yup just past the 2 year mark myself with nothing but heart ache to show for it. So hoping DH's cousin who just had a little girl doesn't visit for Christmas bc seeing a newborn would be too hard. They live in the US so as bad as it is to say and and please God forgive me, I hope they decide just to spend the holidays close to home. I hope God forgives me for these bad thoughts. I'm just so jealous that life is so easy for some and not for us.


Patiently - Thanks but I'm not upset af came yesterday, we took these last 2 months off. Last time I got a BFP (and then 4th mc) was the first time we got back to ttc and that was only 2 months after the third mc. I just couldn't handle another mc so close needed a break both physically and mentally.

 

[RaspberryMini]

Still holding off - one more sleep! I feel more than ever today that it will be BFN and I'm ok with it (i think) that may change tomorrow when it's confirmed one way or the other

Ladyfog - glad your local hospital provides that service. I'd be much more comfortable there than any private scanning centre now. Hope your doing ok too.

NSN - good you've got a supportive GP. On my second pregnancy I called the midwives office sobbing because I was so scared and the mw (not mine fortunately) basically told me not to be so silly. I've been to my own GP since who has offered us lots of support when we get pregnant again so I feel a little more at ease with it. I think its awful that your left without any support or advice for weeks on end especially when you've suffered losses - well that's the experience of my area anyway.

Hope everyone else is ok

 

[BeachChica]

It looks like you guys have a long posting but can I join you guys? I am TTC #1 after 3 MC's in the last year. Just went through all of my testing with the specialist and just got the green light to start trying so we did this month. FX that this will be good month.

 

[Ladyfog]

It looks like you guys have a long posting but can I join you guys? I am TTC #1 after 3 MC's in the last year. Just went through all of my testing with the specialist and just got the green light to start trying so we did this month. FX that this will be good month.

You are more than welcome to join this threat Beachchica. So sorry for your losses - did the specialist find anything wrong? Glad you are able to try again. Lots of coming your way.

RM - any news? Hope it's BFP but if not, we'll all be here for hugs . Thinking of you.

AFM, after my PMA of yesterday morning, work was an absolute nightmare - was in floods of tears by lunchtime! I've made a mistake with some numbers I was working on and I really p*ssed off my manager - pretty sure it wouldn't have happened if I had been thinking straight. My manager who knew all about my MCs and had experienced similar things herself left at the end of Sept and I've got a new manager (a man) who knows nothing about what I've been through this year so I can't explain to him why I've been so stupid. I'm just not sure he'll understand if I do tell him so for now I'm just biting my tongue and trying to patch up the mess I've made