A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[filipenko32]

Raspberry that must have been hard to have little support from dh's parents - one thing that has kept me going through this is my husband's mum actually had 4 mc's before having 3 children so at least DH's dad is understanding (DH's mum is sadly no longer with us). My dad is super supportive but my mum pretends none of it has happened!! It's so funny how people react differently isn't it? Apart from the ladies on here my main support group is from men! My sister has had 2 problem free pregnancies and I'm sure she thinks i keep falling downstairs or something!!! So she really doesn't understand.

 

[BeachChica]

Hi ladies, can I join you? I fit this thread and i have only just seen it!! I am just turned 32 and have had three losses at around 8 weeks over 10 months. I has been a horrible year. At the moment I am about 7 days away from bfp testing after my 3rd loss and with no af. yet after the 3rd mc. I know I ov'd so we really went for it and i'm hopeful!! Congratulations raspberry!! fantastic news! That gives me a lot of hope too.

Hi Cazi :wave:

Welcome filipenko32 - I just joined the group after 3 MC as well. When did they start your testing? My doc's started mine after MC #3 but the whole process took about 3 1/2 months. I see you just had MC #3 this month.

RM - sorry about the problems with DH's parents - as if all this isn't hard enough. Every time I get prego we tell less and less people. FX'd for you this time.

 

[lexi374]

Filipenko and welcome sorry for your losses, i think i have seen some of your posts before, on the recurrent miscarriage thread maybe??

AFM Temp was up this morning so will have to check again tom and see if its due to ovulation or just a shocking nights sleep. If its ovulation on fri it caught me out. was expecting it sat/sun, and ive seen no ewcm this mth, where as last mth i had 2 days of it before ov. Im annoyed we didnt BD thur now. We did wed am and fri am, and today but thats probably too late. Oh well on to next mth!

to all xxx

 

[filipenko32]

Hi Beachchica, I had the testing after 2 mc's as i was worried something was wrong. Had everything but had to pay as they don't test until 3 as you say. They didn't find anything, what about you?

 

[RaspberryMini]

Raspberry that must have been hard to have little support from dh's parents - one thing that has kept me going through this is my husband's mum actually had 4 mc's before having 3 children so at least DH's dad is understanding (DH's mum is sadly no longer with us). My dad is super supportive but my mum pretends none of it has happened!! It's so funny how people react differently isn't it? Apart from the ladies on here my main support group is from men! My sister has had 2 problem free pregnancies and I'm sure she thinks i keep falling downstairs or something!!! So she really doesn't understand.

It is funny - its like it's never happened. They just come around with stories about my SIL when she was pregnant she did this because of "her age" they forget that that was nearly 4 years ago making her the same age then as i am now and she had a problem free pregnancy! They seem to think we get over it after a week and just move on. It's harder because we live close to them and my parents are 130 miles away. Both my parents are brilliant about it all.

I don't talk to my friends about any of it except a couple of older work colleagues who've had similar experiences. Unfortunately all my close female friends are pregnant and I find it too hard to deal with, so I've just kept away mostly, but they understand why.

I don't think anyone can relate to you really unless they've been through a similar experience.

 

[filipenko32]

Hi Lexi :wave: Thanks, I hope you haven't missed your ov and get a positive test soon

 

[filipenko32]

Raspberry I feel for you, you're so right, others sometimes do expect you to get over it in a week (!) and it's a shame your parents don't live closer. I have gone from having a million friends to wanting to stay away from everyone as they're all pregnant or have children and it's so hard to deal with at the moment as i'm sure you know. My parents are 200 miles away and I hate that. I totally get everything you're saying.

I plan to creep back into the land of the living when all this is over!! All my friends know and respect my wish to be left alone at the moment. My 'world' has narrowed significantly because of the emotional stress of the mc's but I know it won't be forever. Luckily I have a super supportive husband so very lucky in that sense too. I think we're still young at 32 do you? There seems to be a massive age range for recurrent mc's to happen doesn't there?

 

[RaspberryMini]

Raspberry I feel for you, you're so right, others sometimes do expect you to get over it in a week (!) and it's a shame your parents don't live closer. I have gone from having a million friends to wanting to stay away from everyone as they're all pregnant or have children and it's so hard to deal with at the moment as i'm sure you know. My parents are 200 miles away and I hate that. I totally get everything you're saying.

I plan to creep back into the land of the living when all this is over!! All my friends know and respect my wish to be left alone at the moment. My 'world' has narrowed significantly because of the emotional stress of the mc's but I know it won't be forever. Luckily I have a super supportive husband so very lucky in that sense too. I think we're still young at 32 do you? There seems to be a massive age range for recurrent mc's to happen doesn't there?

Sound like we have some similar situations, my DH is amazing too, I feel so lucky too as I know it can put a strain on your relationship.

32 is definitely still young, I went to the Dr after the second mc and she said I'd plenty of time left yet. Plus we haven't had trouble concieving so we are lucky in that sense - I know that's little comfort when all you want is a baby, but we know we can get pregnant, it must be just as awful and frustrating for those that can't.

Hope all the ladies on the thread get their forever babies soon.

to you

 

[filipenko32]

Yes definitely - getting pregnant quickly is definitely a blessing! I feel for those ladies who are LTTTC. All my docs have also made a point of saying i'm still young too I was never really broody until I was 31 anyway, I used to think oh thank goodness i'm not tied down!! Really done a 360 now! I'm hoping for a bfp in 8 days, i've all the signs like last time one being my dh says i only snore when im pregnant and ive started snoring at the same dpo as last time. Also my hunger is incredible and ive lost a few pounds to 10.5 stone so don't wanna put anymore pounds on! So pleased you got pregnant so quickly, it takes some of the pain away doesn't it. Yes feel lucky to have a good hubby, that's something to be very grateful for x x

 

[BeachChica]

Hi Beachchica, I had the testing after 2 mc's as i was worried something was wrong. Had everything but had to pay as they don't test until 3 as you say. They didn't find anything, what about you?

I still had to pay for all of my testing too (well insurance did) but my doctor would not refer me to the specialist until after the 3rd MC. They did all kinds of bloodwork, I also had a Hysterosalpingogram and did the 4 hour glucose test. All of it was pretty awful. The only thing they really found was a high homocysteine level which I am now taking 2mg of Folic acid for, in addition to my prenatal vitamins. My doctor is not really sure that that could have caused the MC's but since it can cause birth defects he definitely did not want me TTC until the level got to a normal range. I also had my 3rd MC tissue tested and a Trisomy 12 caused the MC. I just got the green light to start TTC again this month so I hope I'm all good to go with all the poking around they did.

 

[filipenko32]

That's all good news really beachchica, if they can't find anything really wrong there's a 75% chance that all will be well next time - I posted the study about this on the PAL forum. There's a well known miscarriage clinic here in London and one of the top consultants there has a theory that people who recurrently miscarry are 'hyper fertile' and it really is bad luck. You know how a lot of people can take at least 6 months to get pregnant, well his theory is our bodies are not rejecting the bad embryos when they should and most women do and never know they were pregnant. I like that theory, do you? I have lots of hope that we'll get there soon x I'll let you know the results of my chromo test in a few weeks. Good luck with the testing in 4 days!!

 

[BeachChica]

That's all good news really beachchica, if they can't find anything really wrong there's a 75% chance that all will be well next time - I posted the study about this on the PAL forum. There's a well known miscarriage clinic here in London and one of the top consultants there has a theory that people who recurrently miscarry are 'hyper fertile' and it really is bad luck. You know how a lot of people can take at least 6 months to get pregnant, well his theory is our bodies are not rejecting the bad embryos when they should and most women do and never know they were pregnant. I like that theory, do you? I have lots of hope that we'll get there soon x I'll let you know the results of my chromo test in a few weeks. Good luck with the testing in 4 days!!

Thanks filipenko32 - that is an interesting theory. I am going to have to look for your other post and take a look. I definitely have not have any problems getting pregnant once I figure out the timing (I never realized when I was younger that we have such a small "window of opportunity". I just wish a good embryo would come along so I wouldn't keep having to go through these MC's. My specialist said also that he believes I have a 75% chance next pregnancy too. FX!!!

 

[filipenko32]

Here it is Beachchica

This is an interesting study. It says that if no known causes ( 'idiophathic miscarriage' ) can be found for recurrent miscarriage (3 or more as defined in this study) then there is a 75% chance of success next time.
https://humrep.oxfordjournals.org/con...4/11/2868.full

Another interesting fact this report gives is that because of this 'bad luck' statistic, this accounts for the small percentage of women who recurrently miscarry due to bad luck alone i.e. (the 25% chance can be repeated 3 or 4 times in about 1-2% of women who miscarry) So if no reason can be found it really could be bad luck.

With treatment if something has been diagnosed i know the stat is 75% also

 

[BeachChica]

Thanks filipenko32 - I was just reading over it. Very interesting. I will do some google searches too and ask my doctor about it next time I go in. Have you tried progesterone at all? My doc mentioned it at my last appointment but said that the problem is that you keep a bad pregnancy going when your body would normally reject it. After finding that my last MC was due to a Trisomy 12, I definitely don't want to keep a bad pregnancy like that going.
My regular OB usually doesn't do the first ultrasound until about 10-12 weeks. I am hoping with my next pregnancy that I will get some monitoring a lot sooner and see if that helps my success rate.

Anyone else have thoughts on progesterone?

 

[filipenko32]

Yeah that's right about it keeping a bad pregnancy going and a good one would produce enough prog anyway. I took it last time but just for the sake of it really.

 

[patiently]

RM...hoping the delay is because you are preggo

Some happy news for me...I went for an interview and I got offered the job pending references will be a fresh start to 2012 and much needed

XxX

Congrats NSN!! thats great news...2012 looks like its going to be a good year ahead hopefully i will get a new job soon too..

Hi ladies, can I join you? I fit this thread and i have only just seen it!! I am just turned 32 and have had three losses at around 8 weeks over 10 months. I has been a horrible year. At the moment I am about 7 days away from bfp testing after my 3rd loss and with no af. yet after the 3rd mc. I know I ov'd so we really went for it and i'm hopeful!! Congratulations raspberry!! fantastic news! That gives me a lot of hope too.

Hi Cazi :wave:

Hi and welcome, sorry or your losses this thread really is so helpful and the ladies are soo supporting its amazing! seems like you've covered all bases for your bfp this month...fingers crossed and baby dust your way...how many dpo are you now?

AFM Temp was up this morning so will have to check again tom and see if its due to ovulation or just a shocking nights sleep. If its ovulation on fri it caught me out. was expecting it sat/sun, and ive seen no ewcm this mth, where as last mth i had 2 days of it before ov. Im annoyed we didnt BD thur now. We did wed am and fri am, and today but thats probably too late. Oh well on to next mth!

to all xxx

Hi Hun, dont worry hun if you did OV on friday you still BD on wednesday and friday morning...so there's a still a chance!! some of those swimmers last for a few days so you're not out of the race! you BD every other day and thats still a good chance for conception...as for the ewcm...i saw on a documentary that with all types of cm pregnancy is possible even sticky cm...its just easier for them to swim in ewcm but like i said some of those little swimmers are determined! Fingers crossed and GL hun sending baby dust your way..hope you get your bfp!

There seems to be a massive age range for recurrent mc's to happen doesn't there?

Well we've been ttc since I was 22 and now just turning 24 i have had two mc's so i do agree that the age range for recurrent mc's is massive!

AFM i have no idea where I am in my cycle...have been sort of crampy for a few days especially if I O when we BD! i have been BD every other day this week but i have no idea...My cm seems to be every stage i think...one day its ewcm the next its sticky the next its creamy sorry tmi! i have no idea what to think....I have a suspicion that my aunt who is 8 years older than me is expecting too...I would be happy for her if she is but so sad for myself...My heart broke this weekend when my OH kindly asked why I think its taking us so long to have our baby and I wanted to break down...all his friends are having their own little ones and I feel like because of me and my body he has to wait...he has been so great to me and he is truly my rock at the moment I just want to be able to give him a baby that we so desperately want...ahh sorry rant over!

Fingers crossed that November is our month ladies x x x

Baby dust to all

 

[Ladyfog]

Hi ladies

I read up a lot about progesterone after MC 2 and decided it probably wouldn't make much difference - from what I've read there's little evidence that it will make much difference in the majority of pregnancies - as both of mine ended at different times, I think there was probably just something wrong with each of them that meant they were never going to make it I had hormone testing which didn't show any issues so am just going to let nature take it's course again and hopefully this baby's got all the bits it needs to be healthy to make it through.

Patiently, don't blame yourself it takes 2 to make a baby and either half can have chromosomal issues that could result in MC. You are doing a wonderful thing, just going through all this for you DH and I'm sure he doesn't blame you. You are so young and have so much time and you will get there in the end. It makes me think that how ever old you are, you still feel like you're being left behind

Not really looking looking forwards to tomorrow - just hope work will be OK this week. Everything else I going well - felt really queasy yesterday which is great! Never thought I'd want to feel ill so badly!!

Hope everyone else has good weeks

 

[patiently]

Not really looking looking forwards to tomorrow - just hope work will be OK this week. Everything else I going well - felt really queasy yesterday which is great! Never thought I'd want to feel ill so badly!!

Hope everyone else has good weeks

Hey Ladyfog glad everything is going well!! i have heard that nausea and feeling queasy are very good signs!!!

I like when you update us on how you're feeling i don't know if anyone else feels this way but when i speak to a pregnant woman I'm so curious as to what or how she feels as it brings me so much hope and i get an idea of what to expect when it happens to me!

so happy for you hun

 

[BeachChica]

I am looking forward to your updates Ladyfog too. I didn't feel any of those symptoms when I was pregnant (but we know how those ended) so I definitely think it's a great sign. Gives me hope as well. Please be sure to post updates!

Patiently - don't worry about DH - like Ladyfog says, it takes 2 and what we have to go through for a baby (even without all of these additional complications) is waaaay more than their contribution. Your time will come, you are still very young!!! I am trying to get this going at age 38 now I waited waaaay to long, unfortunately!!

 

[patiently]

Hi Beachchica thank you for your kind words...i dont think there is a time thats too early or too late hun...i started early and we're both here together...you done what was right for you and im sure that we will go on to have our forever babies and when we do we'll appreciate them that much more!