A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[Emmediva]

I'm sorry you find yourself here Emma. There is a lot of support to be had by all these ladies, and there are also the odd success story in progress (such as myself) who pop in from time to time.
Look after yourself hun and ask as many questions as you need, we have all had every test under the sun been on almost every medication, done charting, tracking and all the above.
Good luck in the future and I hope you get your rainbow soon.

Thanks, I haven't read the whole thread but will get on it today. Congratulations on your LO

Thanks Pink, how are you doing? And Lexi too?

Emme, so sorry for what you are currently going through Have they given you any idea why this is happening? Have they tested your progesterone as well as your hcg? Take lots of time for yourself and rest xxx

Justwaiting, how are you getting on? Lots of pg symptoms?

Think my chart link is finally working, any analysis of my first charted month welcome :-D xxx

Thanks Sooperhans, I think the beanie implanted late, I am thinking that is the reason and the pregnancy just did not develop... When I misscarried in Dec, I am pretty sure it was because of Progesterone deficiency, when they tested this time, I was told it was low. I have to go in for bloodwork again on Monday, so I will be sure to ask for hormone testing... it's hard to know you are going to miscarry and there is nothing you can do my temp dropped today so it'll probably be in the next couple of days.

Morning everyone....
sorry you find yourself here emma....this group is lovely and very supportive so if you need us we are here
Thank you for all of your congrats, etc...
A little update from yesterday....they did the scan and saw a very small cyst that is in the right place to be the start of a pregnancy and thickening of my lining, the machine they have at St Marys is the best in the uk and can see things that a normal scanner would not pick up apparently! They did a urine dip stick test with a 25mui test and said it was negative but they are not surprised considering that I'm only 8dpo today I think! At first they said it could be remnants of last months mc but then cam back and said that it looks like the start of a pregnancy just really early....
I am going to test in a couple of days and see if it is for real and if it is then they have said that they will let me enrole to a new clinical trial called PROMISE which is where they give you progesterone supplements for the first 12 weeks, I know in the states it's normal to give progesterone but here in the uk for some reason the doctors say it doesn't help! So fingers crossed they may be able to help me in the future!
I am not counting this as my BFP until I see it with my own eyes! and then I will start jumping around like a lunatic! hehehe!
I am shocked as I really was trying not to try so hard this month too!
symptoms I am getting is sore boobs, very tearful this last 2 days, heartburn this morning and a couple of hot flushes! I really hope that this is it but I also think I'm going to prepare myself for the worst too as I don't want to be disappointed.
Lot's of love and to everyone for the support.

Ann-Marie xxxx

Thanks Annmarie I am rooting you on!! Lots of baby I need a good positive story while I am going through this I hope this is your forever

 

[wookie130]

Emme, I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Patiently, I've said it in your journal, but I can't say I'm sorry enough, dear.

Inoue, and Pink!!! YAY!!!!! Huge congrats, and I'm saying sticky prayers for you both!

Annmarie- I hope it is a new pregnancy! Best of luck!

 

[annmariecrisp]

Morning ladies, thank you for your words and all the baby dust!! I am 9dpo today and I took a test this morning and there is a very faint 2nd line!! I did 2 tests and both had the line! I am not going to get my hopes up until I see a blazing positive! I really hope this is the one too!! I have had what feels like the beginning of a cold and I got a hot flush this morning which for me is a sure fire way of telling I'm usually pregnant! My nipples are achy and my sciatica is playing up! I am taking some chinese medicine to help the implantation and I still have my fertility bracelet on, I'm taking my pregnacare vits aswell. So all in all I am doing everything I can to help it get comfortable in there

I have had some terrible news yesterday, we found out that my OH's dad has primary liver cancer and needs a transplant within the next 6 months to survive, so my OH has decided to be a live liver donor.....this involves loads of preparation and then major surgery, I am so worried about my OH, also very very proud of him, I lost my dad over 2 years ago and if I could have done something to save him I would have, in a heartbeat! Basically my OH will have to have something like 4 months off of work which will be a struggle but we should be ok but the risk of not pulling through by donating is 1 in 200 which scares me so much! My OH is one of my soul mates and I would be devastated if something went wrong! I love him and want him by my side forever........ I'm sure it will all be fine and will go brilliantly but I can't stop myself from feeling terrified at the same time

Really needed to chat to you about this and how you would feel and deal with it all. Thanks in advance xxxxx

 

[wookie130]

Oh, Annmarie...best of luck to your OH on that brave but difficult endeavor. I pray his father accepts the new liver, and all goes well with both of them. I do NOT blame you for feeling terrified.

 

[Emmediva]

Congrats on your BFP Annemarie! Sending positive thoughts your way! And about your OH that is frightening, best of luck to him and his father. That is very brave and unselfish of him to have volunteered to be the donor. God will bless you both, have faith everything will be ok.

 

[Lukas]

Hi ladies, I was hoping to join I really need some support, I have just had my second miscarriage my Dr is really good and sent DH and I off for blood tests.. Now I just have to wait Dr has asked us not to try until we get the results back as we fall really easily it just won't stick I am so worried that something is wrong.. My friends and sister in law are all pregnant I am happy for them but it's just do hard at the moment...
I am sorry for everyones loss... Xxx

 

[Inoue]

Hi Lukas ~ welcome to this group

Im so sorry to hear about your m/c's, its such a hard time to go through normally, but its quite bitter when you see family members and friends pregnant . I have the same problem, i can get pregnant at a click of a finger... but keeping hold of it is completely different. What stages where your m/c's at? Maybe your blood will come back with a reason why, mine came back as normal. Best of luck hun xx

 

[patiently]

Ladies its just going from bad to worst. Everyday its something new. Yesterday my car was broken into. So had to pay to fix that had a right rant in my journal but that had me in tears because I just cant deal with all of this. To top it off today my older sister has felt the need to text me that shes pregnant! ARGH! she said we were the same amount of weeks and have the same due date. I just cant take it. Why did she need to tell me now! I dont want to know right now i havent even got over how im feeling about my baby but yet you want to tell me that you are having one. I just think if i was in their shoes i would be so considerate and tell them when the time was right and ffs right now the time is not right! What have i done to deserve all of this at once. Both my sisters have got pregnant and i've had three pregnancies in that time and no baby. Why is life so hard. When it rains it truly does pour! no one understands me i cant talk to anyone about it my sisters just think of themselves and my mum usually has their side. I try to stay away as much as possible but they manage to find their way back to me all the time. It doesnt help that we live so close either. I just feel so low. I cant even fully write into words how im feeling right now. I dont even think she knows who the father is. She says its a certain someone she was dating for a while but she has seen quite a few men since. Why is it that when we try to do right keep healthy and optimise our chances it never happens yet people who dont give a dam have no problem what so ever! sorry for the rant I just needed to offload.

Congrats annmarie!! thats so lovely what your OH is doing so admirable.

Lukas sorry for your losses and believe me i know all too well about being surrounded by pregnancy.

Inoue how are you doing? Hope all is well and happy 4 + 2 xxxx

Emme so sorry for your losses. x x x

 

[annmariecrisp]

BFN for me this morning! 3rdmu but not even a sniff of a line....I think there must have been a problem with it implanting....
I have to say that with all that is going on at the moment with my OH and his dad it is probably for the best that I'm not pregnant this month as when I worked out my due date it would be right around the time that my OH would be coming out of hospital and I will have to care for him for at least 2 months when he gets home and if I had our baby to look after too it will probably be a bit of a struggle. I want a baby so much but at the same time I want to be there 100% for my OH when he comes out of hospital as it is a massive operation and he will need me more than ever to be calm and focused.
So, I will still be here and will support you all as much as I can and if I get a BFP in the next few months then I will be ecstatic and will let nature take it's course. It's a weird feeling letting my head rule my heart but it's the sensible thing to do at the moment I think.
xxxx

Patiently I'm so sorry you're feeling so down

And thank you to everyone for saying such kind words and supporting me xxx

 

[patiently]

Annmarie you couldve just diluted your urine too much. Dont give up you're still early. I have my fxed for you x x x You are so admirable and you have such a positive attitude. I really do need to try and be more like you. Hope you still get your bfp and if not then hopefully it is just around the corner. Have everything crossed for you hun x x x x

 

[annmariecrisp]

Annmarie you couldve just diluted your urine too much. Dont give up you're still early. I have my fxed for you x x x You are so admirable and you have such a positive attitude. I really do need to try and be more like you. Hope you still get your bfp and if not then hopefully it is just around the corner. Have everything crossed for you hun x x x x

Thank you, I think when life throws stuff like this at you you can go one of 2 ways, either it makes you stronger and gives you a bit more of how important life is and how you need to grasp on to every day like it's your last or you crumble into a heap and lose faith in everything and start wishing it was your last day, that is not an option for me. I have to be strong for my OH as he will be going through hell in the next few months and will be in and out of hospitals and having such major surgery I want to be there to give him anything he needs, he's my soul mate and the one I want to grow old with and taking care of him so he can be by my side forever is the most important thing in my life.
A little spiritual healing prayer to say 5 times in a row at the beginning of every day is: Everyday in everyway I'm getting better, better, better.
My dad was a powerful spiritual healer and he said if you are in need of healing this is the best way to start your day. He passed away 2 years ago and I still use this if I'm struggling. Try it honey it might work. I am also very spiritually connected....I have predicted 3 BFP's in another thread (2 months in a row!!) they started asking me for my predicitons every month lol!
You are a strong person but with what you are going through I'm not surprised you are feeling down, just try and think of the positives that will be coming into your life in the future. I have to say that your family do seem to be very insensitive of your situation....I have no idea why they would rub your face in it that way! I personally would tell them all to butt out and if they so much breathe a word about any more pregnancies until your over this then you will make them wish they hadn't! OOOOooooo I was getting a bit angry then for you! Some people just have no idea how you're feeling and don't even try! Anyway, deep breaths and try to relax xxxx
Lot's of love xxx

 

[wookie130]

Annmarie...it sounds like you had a chemical...I'm sorry. You could wait and test in a few more days with FMU, but I believe your attitude about it all is great. Hang in there...you've got a lot on your plate.

Patiently...I posted in your journal.

 

[annmariecrisp]

Annmarie...it sounds like you had a chemical...I'm sorry. You could wait and test in a few more days with FMU, but I believe your attitude about it all is great. Hang in there...you've got a lot on your plate.

Patiently...I posted in your journal.

Yeah I thought that too, but yeah I will test again on Monday just to make sure Thank you, I will have my weak moments I'm sure, just trying to be as positive as I can xxx

 

[pink80]

Annemarie it's still early - test again in a couple of days, big

 

[Lukas]

Hi Inoue, thank you I am trying to stay positive.. With my first pregnancy I was 10 weeks I had a d&c waited a month and then feel straight away the next was only early around 5 wks but my husband and I were so happy and thought we were so lucky to get a positive again so soon.. Then the bleeding started I think we are worse this time coz we are thinking maybe something is wrong.. I just cant wait to get our blood results back I really home they come back normal and we can try again soon..
How far wee you when you had you m/c?? Also do you know how long it took to get your results back? My dr said 10days but he marked them urgent for me so I was hoping they will be back Wednesday.. Xx

 

[Lukas]

Patiently, I am so sorry for what you are going through, at this point in our lives we need all the support we can get from family friends.. We need to stay positive that we will get out BFP soon and have a healthy baby.. Pleae keep in touch x

 

[Inoue]

My bloods took about 7-10 days (they said), but i had to chase up after 2 weeks . They werent a great help on the phone either, just quick sharp saying all come back in the guideline's. There was 4 counts where the results still were outstanding and she said to phone back in a month.... i never bothered in the end. Fed up with chasing it all up. Best of luck with you hun x

 

[BeachChica]

Hi ladies!

Ann Marie- I still have everything crossed for you that's it's just a little early. I also pray that everything will work out with OH and his dad. It's really such a great thing that he's doing!

patiently - so sorry for everything you are going through!

Emme & Lukas- welcome!

Hope everyone else is doing ok. I had my Day 3 FSH results come back normal and I have a sonogram scheduled next Friday too check my follicles. My chart has been nuts this month so not sure what's doing on there as I thought I O'd but then had another drop. If anyone wants to take a look, let me know what you think.

 

[Sooperhans]

Hi everyone, hope those in the UK have enjoyed the lovely sunshine

Beach, good luck with your tests, I hope they can pinpoint something that's very treatable and you then know where you are

Lukas welcome and sorry for your losses. We had our 2nd mc after falling straight after our first, we too felt very lucky until I got pains and I was tested, told my numbers were dropping and the loss was imminent. Horrid That was late Jan, I've since had an AF and ttc again this month. Fingers x'd and I hope you get your blood results v soon

Annmarie, hoping Monday's test is a bfp for you, I really do

Afm, it's my first month of temping and I don't know how to interpret the results? I need to know when I have o'd so I can start on the progesterone, but I don't know if I have or not? I have temp rises but not for 3 days, please please can someone help me work this out? FF has given me a green light until today, it's now red and will it give me the lines on my chart soon to say how many dpo I am? Any help would be great, thank you otherwise I may need to make a doc appt....

Thanks and hope everyone is well, patiently still thinking of you

 

[BeachChica]

Sooper- it doesn't look like you've O'd yet so keep it could be any day now. You want to be sure to BD on day of O and the day after.
FF will put the crosshairs on your chart after your temps have been up for 3 days. I would not start the progesterone until you get that. What DPO did your doctor tell you to start?