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[libbyam2003]

Krissy -
Hey thanks!! I really do love hearing all the advice! I have never done this so its all new! He has been the type to put her in her crib if she was crying since she was a little baby which is why I had a hard time letting him watch her... but yeah now maybe is old enough to learn from it?? I tried a time out seat last night and she kept getting up... but finally got her to sit for almost a minute so then it was time to eat. Well she cried when I got her out of her high chair... so she walked over and sat in the time out seat and stopped crying, started talking to herself, and got up and walked off!! Ha. So maybe there is something to the time out thing.

 

[Krissy485]

Libby you said it lady!!! i am always telling him to do it himself lol....

 

[Krissy485]

Beleive it or not Libby there is.... just keep with it and it should work...not always but should...and i understand why your dh put her in her bed when she cried though bc if he tried everything and she still cried the BEST thing he did for her was put her there bc she was safe and crying can make even the best parent supper frustrated and then bad things happen like shaken baby syndrom. so once again hate to admit he did the right thing on that one to....damn it lol

 

[MnJ]

Krissy u are soooooo funny! Why I oughta... *shaking fist* lmao u make me laugh. I busted out laughing when I read ur "old broad" comment yesterday. I was in my car by myself sitting at a light so I prbly looked like a SENILE old broad! lol. Men are so damn frustrating, I'm with ya! They try to say women are hormonal and irrational?! Ha! No room to talk buckos!

Libby - Happy blueberry! When is ur appt today and what time zone are u in? I did time outs the whole time raising my daughters. I'm not a spanker. Your baby is a smart girl and she's testing her limits right now. Let's see what I can get away with... You gotta train her what's ok and what's not before she trains u! Haha. Just my humble opinion. I'm no expert. Another thing that I felt helped is giving them decisions. For example if they want candy and throw a fit when u say no tell them they can either have a banana or crackers (or whatever). That way ur really getting what u want but they feel in charge because THEY made the choice. Know what I mean?

Nurse called back and said Dr said they would just do a sono. I go in at 4:00 today. Yay!

 

[libbyam2003]

Krissy - thanks for the honesty! Really! It can be annoying if everyone is always just so darn agreeable, ha! And yeah I didn't dog him for putting her in her crib... it was just disheartening... kept thinking they'd get better together... she still cries a lot when I leave her with him and I really want that to improve... I think he has less patience for her and thinks he can watch his tv shows and clean his gun etc and she should be able to watch his show with him, even if its NCIS, ha. Maybe later when she's like 8 or 10 she'll like what he likes! I tried getting him to read her a book so I could cook and he called for her to get a book and when she didn't, he left it alone, saying he tried. Where I'd sit down and get her to make eye contact, then ask her if she wanted to get a book... and ask a few more times if needed bc she's easily distracted and might have to hear things a few times before she really even hears, ha. But he wants a happy wife... I got mad and we talked and later I saw him reading to her, aww. Just needs a bit of guidance with her. Which I can't do when I'm not there. No idea why she screams constantly for him.

Thank MnJ!!! Appt is at 330... central time... its almost 1030 right now. Woohoo 4pm appt.. what time is it right now for you?? Yeh I've read about the choices thing! I plan to do that! Right now, I think she doesn't quite understand what we say so it doesn't work. She's not making choices... like when I ask her what to wear etc by pulling out two things, she looks at me like I'm talking in French. Yeah so many people I've talked to smack the hand or rear... to each his own, but so far that just doesn't feel right. I know I talked back as a kid and SOAP in the mouth was the best punishment for me!

 

[Krissy485]

Misty- makes me smile to make you smile!!! yay for an awesome dr who will put your mind at ease! now just remember you have the appt..teehheeehheee ok no more old jokes! cant wait to see that pic

Libby- no problem! and i have the same issue with my dh and our kids! how old is your dh? mine is 27 now and 21 when our first was born. he does stuff some times but does more his own thing...and your duaghter cries bc your mommy lol. my daughter cried EVERY time i left the first yr of her life BUT stopped as soon as i left...if that makes sense? i swear they are just trying to make us feel bad...drove my dh nuts. but all 3 and him have a great relationship now! cant wait to hear about your appt to!!! yay

 

[MnJ]

Libby I'm in Central time too! In Iowa. How old is your daughter?

 

[MnJ]

Krissy - think they'll give me a pic since impromptu scan?

 

[Krissy485]

Mine always printed one off for me! but i have heard of others not getting it. i live in EST so you people are an hour behind....grrr on you!!!!

 

[armymama2012]

I'm reading all your kid advice and I'm like "oh shit I'm in trouble". My daughter will be 20 months when Dh gets deployed. I then deal with potty training and tantrums all by myself while pregnant. I'll have family and friends nearby but she will still be with me 5 days a week.

On a good note, my daughter loves books and she loves how we change our vices when we read to her. I have plenty of kids books for when she's 3-5 but I plan on starting to read them to her as soon as she turns 2. I am hoping that focusing her on her books will help with distracting her from the fact that DH is going to take away her Ipad while he is deployed.

I got 4 boxes packed yesterday! Aiming to get 2-3 done today in between folding laundry, collecting trash, and general tidying up. My back already hurts and I know I need to eat something because I have that empty feeling again.

 

[Krissy485]

Take it easy apple seed!!! hahahaha how much more time till you move? i dont know how you do it letting your josh go...i may want to beat mine half the time lol but in the end i dont think i would be able to handle him gone...and you will be fine with your daughter..we all have those tough days...

 

[MnJ]

I had the same question, Nicole. When do u move? When does he deploy? Also, what time is ur appt on thurs? Ur eastern Time like Krissy poo right?

 

[janelleybean]

So much to read this morning.

First is Libby, when it came to my son I always just ignored him when he would have a tantrum. It took about a week for him to get the point, but his tantrums stopped and he rarely has one. I agree with what everyone has sad, but I do have one little thing that I personally chose not to do and that was putting him in his room if they had a tantrum. The only reason was, I was afraid that my son would start to think that if he were bad that he would go in his room and that would make going to bed and nap time more difficult. I didn't want him to think he was in trouble or bad. The other thing that worked for us especially during dinner was an Aquadoodle. We would only bring that toy our when we were preparing dinner and that was the only time he would be able to play with it. He loved that thing and he would look forward to playing with it. In fact that tactic has always worked for him so far. He wouldn't want to take a nap there for awhile, so I would get him excited for what was going to happen when he woke up, then he couldn't wait to go to sleep. It always works! Best of luck to you!

Misty, You keep me posted. I'm sure everything is fine, but I know you're just going to worry worry worry if you don't get any answers. If your doctor give your and ultrasound just ask him for a picture. I'm sure he will give you one. ASK HIM WHAT SIDE OF THE GESTATIONAL SAC THE PLACENTA IS ON!!!!

Pissy Krissy, I'm so sorry your husband is being a butt again. He's always complaining about not being happy, well hell you know what could really help him, getting laid every once in awhile. Geesh. I know my husband would be a total jackass if we never had sex. I think its time to tell him that he needs to have sex and start smiling... or go live with his mom and sulk because your really trying to be there for him, but shit you can only put in so much effort before you break yourself. Set your boundaries now, don't wait until you're hangin' by a thread.

Nicole, you've already proved you're a strong woman. I'm sure you'll be able to handle it no problem. My son an ipod addict with my MIL's it's amazing how much they know! I don't even know how to work it, but he's got it down pat. She has so much crap on hers and he still knows right where to go. It amazes me. I would try and break the ipod habit before he goes, in my opinion. Then you will be prepared for the worst and you can both work with her rather than you having to deal with her all alone.

 

[armymama2012]

Take it easy apple seed!!! hahahaha how much more time till you move? i dont know how you do it letting your josh go...i may want to beat mine half the time lol but in the end i dont think i would be able to handle him gone...and you will be fine with your daughter..we all have those tough days...

Since my mom will most likely be driving here to pick us up, I am giving myself til November 17th to be ready. So that gives me 4 and half weeks. I just today made sure that all the dishes were clean then packed away what I dont use weekly so therefore I'll spend less time doing dishes. I cant decide whether to pack my maternity stuff in my suitcase for this trip to IN or put it in a box for DH to bring to IL over Christmas. I dont know how big or uncomfy I'll be at 16 weeks.

DH gets deployed as far as we know, the last week of January. But I wont see him after he has to come back from Christmas leave on January 4th. As far as letting him go, some days I think it'll be easy because he's a spoiled brat but then again with being pregnant I know that's not true. And I went through this exact thing for 4 months in 2010 so I'm pretty ready for it.

My appointment is at 1 p.m. on Thursday, Misty. Yes, I am in EST just like Kristy. You have permission to stalk me if I'm not on here with an update by 3 p.m. EST that day.

 

[MnJ]

Janelle - U such u smart lady! And yes I know I'm a spaz and I'm praying Jake can yell at me and say see everything's fine, will u stop worrying now?! He's so tired of me being a worry wart. I don't know how to stop! I hope it's not the same crabby u/s tech. Hopefully everything is ok and I can get a real due date! I had the same thought, too, to ask which side its on. Not sure why I want to know tho, just for sleeping purposes I guess. Is there another reason?

Krissy - Janelle has a darn good point, that man needs some RELEASE!! lol

 

[armymama2012]

So much to read this morning.

First is Libby, when it came to my son I always just ignored him when he would have a tantrum. It took about a week for him to get the point, but his tantrums stopped and he rarely has one. I agree with what everyone has sad, but I do have one little thing that I personally chose not to do and that was putting him in his room if they had a tantrum. The only reason was, I was afraid that my son would start to think that if he were bad that he would go in his room and that would make going to bed and nap time more difficult. I didn't want him to think he was in trouble or bad. The other thing that worked for us especially during dinner was an Aquadoodle. We would only bring that toy our when we were preparing dinner and that was the only time he would be able to play with it. He loved that thing and he would look forward to playing with it. In fact that tactic has always worked for him so far. He wouldn't want to take a nap there for awhile, so I would get him excited for what was going to happen when he woke up, then he couldn't wait to go to sleep. It always works! Best of luck to you!

Misty, You keep me posted. I'm sure everything is fine, but I know you're just going to worry worry worry if you don't get any answers. If your doctor give your and ultrasound just ask him for a picture. I'm sure he will give you one. ASK HIM WHAT SIDE OF THE GESTATIONAL SAC THE PLACENTA IS ON!!!!

Pissy Krissy, I'm so sorry your husband is being a butt again. He's always complaining about not being happy, well hell you know what could really help him, getting laid every once in awhile. Geesh. I know my husband would be a total jackass if we never had sex. I think its time to tell him that he needs to have sex and start smiling... or go live with his mom and sulk because your really trying to be there for him, but shit you can only put in so much effort before you break yourself. Set your boundaries now, don't wait until you're hangin' by a thread.

Nicole, you've already proved you're a strong woman. I'm sure you'll be able to handle it no problem. My son an ipod addict with my MIL's it's amazing how much they know! I don't even know how to work it, but he's got it down pat. She has so much crap on hers and he still knows right where to go. It amazes me. I would try and break the ipod habit before he goes, in my opinion. Then you will be prepared for the worst and you can both work with her rather than you having to deal with her all alone.

Thanks. I am already trying to break her of it and all technology basically. She doesn't watch much on the TV but she knows how to work Netflix or the movies on the Ipad and she sits and watches a movie or 2 each day. So now I am putting her in her octagon playpen for at least an hour with her board books and stuffed animals so she gets used to not having access to technology.

 

[janelleybean]

Misty, I read a study about the sex of your baby based on the side of the placenta. it's like 97 percent accurate! So be sure to ask the side of the placenta.

Nicole, sounds great!

**QUESTION**
Has any of you ladies ever traveled when you're pregnant? We go to Florida every February and this year we're leaving January 30th and coming back February 5th. I will be 24 weeks. Flying makes me nervous but the plane tickets are $200 a piece. That's a steal of a deal. Any words of advice. My doctor gave me the okay, but told me that it really depends on now and then whether he will give me the okay.

 

[MnJ]

The side of the placenta? Or which side of the uterus u mean? And nope I haven't flown while pregnant. I'd be nervous too! I'm sure that shocks u about me...

 

[janelleybean]

LOL, not shocked at all. You're my little worry wart! I think that should be in your name definition. j/k

No, it's what side is the placenta on. I will find the article and send it to you. It was a study that was done. Those who had the placenta on the right side were more likely to deliver boys and those who had it on the left were more likely to deliver girls.

I don't think you can see it in a picture, so be sure to ask which side.

 

[libbyam2003]

Krissy - Dh is 31, one year older than me... but when we met I was more matured... he was still partying and staying out late and I had mellowed out. Luckily, he's gotten old with me lol. Ok I keep hoping soon Siena will be better with her daddy! I think maybe he's just not a baby person?? Bc daycare and grandparents are good with her.

MnJ - She's 18 months! We live in Alabama.

Nicole - Oh don't get me started on worryin about potty training lol. I wish I could do that NOW before baby #2, but nope she's not ready yet, grr! I'd say at around a year she started paying more attention when I read to her. And she's getting better! I actually need to get some books with more words in them now!

Janelle - Yeah my DH wanted to put Siena in her room or play room... but soon play room will be room for #2... and I don't want her associating being bad with being locked up, yeah. Aquadoodle! I have some sort of writing thing like that put up for Christmas... think she'll be able to figure it out by then. She's just now starting to figure out crayons and such, but still has a really light touch. Also, I flew to NYC during my second tri last time... I found out the gender right before, so around 20 weeks or 21 maybe. And stayed there a week. I was so worried about the flight... I got an aisle for the bathroom trips but I ended up not needing to go. Hard part was subways due to the crowds and standing while it was moving, so was worried about falling... and then stairs ugh out of stations. All that walking! But meant I took more rest stops and walked slower. Not bad!!