Bbliss- im sorry you are having a tough time with your DD. I think having your brother talk to her is a good idea. Like Melly I would always listen to my "cool" aunt. Such a tough time, I hope she comes out the other side of all of this sooner rather than later. You both will look back on this in the years to come and laugh about the torture and worry she caused you. I hope the end is in site.