Adoption journey

[Rainy123]

Oh dream, hope little guy is feeling better.

Just seen my SW for the last time she came out with family finder who is going to look after me until I get a new social worker. Spent the whole time talking about the 2 gorgeous boys I saw the profile of earlier this week. They seem very positive, going back to chat to their social worker and hopefully go to pre linking next week. Fingers crossed for me - this really feels right!

 

[Lolly1985]

Oooh definitely fingers crossed for you Rainy, you more than deserve this xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks rainy he is much better, barely noticeable today!
Oh rainy this sounds so very exciting! I will be praying these are your little ones!! Eek!! Xxx

 

[aimze]

Oooooo I hope this is it rainy! Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Channel 4 at 9pm tonight ladies xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

I'll be watching lolly, prepared to have a good cry through it all! Xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Wow, this is all very close to home, many many similarities in what happened to little pink

 

[dreamofabean]

I felt the same with our boy Hun. It was very hard to watch but I also found it frustrating, especially that bloke who was such a bully. The young lady seemed to have quite grown up views, I wonder what her chances would have been outside of the relationship?! Very sad

 

[Lolly1985]

I said that to other half, if she could get away and be supported by her mother, auntie etc I think they would have allowed her to keep the little girl. Sadly I think she was very vulnerable and was very much under his spell. I've seen it in my job, women choosing their abusive partners over safeguarding their children. Very sad

 

[dreamofabean]

Yeah I have too lolly, it's truly very sad

 

[Rainy123]

I watched it too and felt such a strange mix of emotions. A lot of pity. It reminds me that quite often birth parents aren't bad people but just confused and make bad decisions.

Found out today that pre linking is going to be next Thursday and have also been approached (social workers all ready to progress to meeting me) for another boy I enquirer about. It never rains but it pours but my heart is with these 2 at the moment so really focusing on them.

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh my gosh rainy! How very exciting!!! You're going to be a mommy before you know it! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Rainy this is all sounding great. I think you are definitely right to wait for pre linking next Thursday, I hope you hear Friday so you know how things have gone. Thinking positive thoughts lovely

Ladies I won't get on my high horse again (I already have on another forum and also me and Dreamy have been ranting to one another ) but have you all seen the possible changes to adoption contact post adoption order in the revised children act? (due to come into force end of this month) I think you UK girls should all be aware

 

[dreamofabean]

Ha ha lolly!!! I'm still waiting for our sw to reply about it!

 

[Lolly1985]

I'll be asking ours next week too. Very interested to hear their take on all these changes xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

https://www.adoptionuk.org/comment/12303#comment-12303

Ok, maybe not as disastrous as I first thought...

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah that's really reassuring lolly! Thank lord! X

 

[Lolly1985]

May I step down from my high horse now...?!! Ummm, nope, think I'll wait until after our second court hearing for that!!!

 

[aimze]

Rainy amazing news! I hope this is the boys for you

Yes ladies I had read about this on literally every adoption forum, caused quite a kerfuffle! I just feel like we're just long term foster careers without the benefits..should be reverse rules too, so if staying overnight why can't we claim money like if parents split up & one raised their child!!

Grrrrr

 

[aimze]

Also, if they go overnight...what about all the good work an routines an boundary setting we've done?!? All goes kerplunk & LO is thinking BP house is more fun because they let them stay up till midnight?!? X