Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

I honestly don't think it will be enforceable, it would be a legal nightmare! Potentially every Bf of a child adopted in the last 10/15 years could come forward... It would be unmanageable!
Reading it I thought it tended to refer to fcs where they've been in placement over 12 months, as I know they legally have rights then. I dunno, it's potentially scary but I honestly can't see it happening! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Martin Narey has apparently told adopters on his twitter feed 'not to worry', the guru speaks and so I shall not worry.... yet!

 

[Lolly1985]

So we are back to the mega clingy stage! It's like little pink is trying to claim me, we have a consistent 'my mama' to label and a constant need to try and climb me at the moment. If me and daddy have a cuddle she is melting down, crying, climbing, trying to push daddy away. We are trying to group hug but she's still unhappy, grabbing for me and kissing my face repeatedly. She's had a morning with daddy and loved it but is turning on the tears if she sees or hears me. Tried to stay away! She's happy to play with me or even alone if I'm at her level but heaven forbid I stand up or try and sit on the sofa to give my poor knees and rest! Daddy says to ignore the cries because I need to rest sometimes but how can I deny her when she's crying at my legs 'my mama' I can't, it's obviously a need right now. Fun and games these babies!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh bless her!! little man has been very similar the past couple of days! Crying when I leave the room and again, constantly babbling 'my mama' which melts my heart!! We went to a party last night, well me and the boy as daddy was working! He clung to me n refused to let anyone else hold him! I secretly loved it
I agree that you do need rest though Hun, she needs to get used to spending times with others or she will struggle when her little brother comes along! X

 

[Lolly1985]

I know, it's a little concerning right now, but I know she is maturing all the time so hopefully all will be well... eeek! Funny how similar our little babies are Dream. Little man is a mummy's boy, it's lovely to hear he didn't want to be passed around, amazing attachment to mummy ♥♥♥

 

[dreamofabean]

I'm sure she will be fine Hun, as you say she's getting older and it's just phases they go through.
I wonder whether it's just an age thing with the clinginess! Little man was hysterical at bedtime a few nights ago! Normally goes down straight away but screamed n screamed! Took me lots of cuddles, 4 put downs and an extra little bottle to get him off! As soon as I was leaving the room he sobbed, very unlike him! Dh kept telling me to just let him cry it out but I couldn't! He needs to know that when he cries, mommy comes! Otherwise I worry about his trust and attachment! Probably daft but that's me!

 

[dreamofabean]

He's once again hysterically screaming tonight! I've given up trying as he's just dreadful when I leave room so dh is trying.... And failing

 

[Lolly1985]

I would be totally the same Dream! Bless him! Little pink was the same at 14 months for a time, so only a little older than your little man and probably home about the same amount of time. We were doing ok on that front until last few days. It will come in spells I guess, just forgot how tricky it can be for all of us. Luckily DF doesn't get upset or jealous and understands its because her main attachment is with me because she's my little shadow! I do think he needs to try and do a little more of the caregiver role though. It's just hard with working and him wanting to watch the football at every opportunity!! Boo! I find it interesting they're both saying 'my mama' now though! Earlier DF put his hand on my leg and good god, hell to pay! She pushed it away and replaced with her hand. Can't be having that though really. I haven't tried putting my hand on daddy's leg thinking about it, may see how she copes with that next xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh dear Dream What if you just lay quietly by his cot?

 

[dreamofabean]

I tried that the other night lolly, he kept standing up and pointing and waving at me
Well dh put him down and he didn't cry, just moaned.... And only stopped about 10 mins ago! Ha ha.
How funny with little pink! You are hers and no one else's! it's tough isn't it? I try and get dh to bath him too and feed him when he's home as I think it's really important. Much as I've never left him at bedtime I want dh to be able to do the routine as at some point I might want to have an evening out!
It is interesting how they're both laying stakes on us! Love the 'my mama' though, I always tell him 'yes I am, no one else's! ' lol

 

[aimze]

Awwwww my mama! love it x

 

[Lolly1985]

I always repeat mama and point to myself and then say 'my little pink' ♥ Glad he went down ok in the end lovely. It's tough isn't it? But equally its lovely Little pink is ok when I'm not there at all, like she knows there's no point playing up because I won't come and step in! It's when she knows I'm downstairs or something. Control much?!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Little pink has just come and asked me for help to get her fish puzzle out of the bag purely using Makaton signs!! So proud!

 

[dreamofabean]

Such a clever little pink!!!

 

[aimze]

How's everyone doing?

Two weeks till panel for us! Eeeeeeck x

 

[LolaM]

same old same old. Nothing new here

 

[Rainy123]

Hello ladies,

I have been away at my sister's wedding - what an incredible day!

Just had a call from my social worker to say I made it through pre linking with those 2 little boys so I'm now waiting to meet my new SW and the boys' SW. Exciting times!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh my god Rainy I am absolutely delighted for you!!! That is wonderful and so deserved, eeek, let's hope a meeting is scheduled soon!

Not long now Aimze! Are you busy wrapping things up at work?

Hope everyone is well. We have had our social worker visit this morning. First from her since she came back off sick leave. I love her! She said she was sad she hadn't been here when I found out I was pregnant as she knew I would have been worrying and said 'I would have said, embrace it, enjoy it and shout it from the rooftops'!! She wanted to look at scan pictures, rubbed my tummy and started discussing her ideas for names! I swear she is more excited than me In terms of the appeal case she doesn't see it getting off the ground and we discussed all the reasons why. We phoned the court as the deadline has now passed for birth mother to have submitted her report and they haven't received anything. While this is great news sometimes they do extend a deadline (that one made me angry!!) and would allow birth mum to speak if she were to turn up next week. In a way I think it should be thrown out there and then due to not following procedure, but equally she wouldn't show herself in a good light if she were to speak so maybe that's good too. Just waiting and hoping. Not sure if little pink is starting with chickenpox. She has spots but none have blistered yet. When she wakes I'll be stripping her again and having another look. Maybe it's viral, either way she's not 100% but did me very proud during the visit. She always does ♥♥♥

Love to you all xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh rainy what fantastic news!! Ooh it's getting exciting for you!
Aimze not long at all now! Yay!!
Lolly I'm so glad your sw meeting went well! Must be a huge relief I really hope little pink perks up and it's not the dreaded pox!!
We've had a lovel few hours out at a local nature centre and then the adjoining park! Weather was lovely too which was great! Little mans had his usual 2 naps today and quite early too, so I'm hoping we might just get him back into a proper routine after a few weeks of rubbish sleep! Fingers crossed!! X

 

[Rainy123]

Aimze - panel is getting so close now. Can't imagine how excited you must be. Are dates for intros sorted?
Lolly - glad your SW has returned and put you at ease. She sounds like a great SW!
Dream - sounds like you're having a lovely time with little man - so jealous.

Spoke to my new SW today briefly. She is coming out to see me first thing Monday morning and then we will be joined by the boys' social worker a bit later. I am glad this meeting is happening quickly so I can get my head around things and let myself get excited