Adoption journey

[LolaM]

I don't think the judge will get it. He just keeps hoping something will change, and it hasn't. We are still waiting on CPS to get some missing paperwork and I think its just the tribe stalling. I think CPS needs to get their butts down to the reservation, 5 miles away, and MAKE the people sign the papers.

 

[Lolly1985]

But surely if time after time after time sees no change the judge has to see sense?!! So wrong

To all the lovely ladies in the UK... HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! Whether your babies are with you, if you are still waiting to find them or for them to come home, or you are a mummy to an angel, love and hugs. We have been mummies without babies before, it hurts but I hope we can all now cherish the happy times

 

[LolaM]

But surely if time after time after time sees no change the judge has to see sense?!! So wrong

To all the lovely ladies in the UK... HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! Whether your babies are with you, if you are still waiting to find them or for them to come home, or you are a mummy to an angel, love and hugs. We have been mummies without babies before, it hurts but I hope we can all now cherish the happy times

she abandoned them, she was gone for 4 months, know one could find her and yet she is still getting regular visits. I just don't know what it is going to take for this judge to get a clue. Everyone on the case has told him, and we were supposed to hear from the service providers, her therapists and such but somehow, we just don't seem to get GETTING to that point, something always comes up so we have to continue.

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
We had a lovely long weekend by the sea the weather was lovely too!
Little man coped really well all in all, but there were little things that made me realise he was totally out of his comfort zone bless him!
He generally slept well but we found that whilst he will normally nap in his pram happily he was hysterical on two occasions very unlike him! I guess the dofferent smells and sounds threw him. I also noticed that he ate, ang ate! A lot!! Now I guess people would say what's wrong with that? But it's exactly how he was when he first came home. Almost like he doesn't trust fully when he'll get his next meal so just wants more and more poor mite! Funnily this was kind of confirmed as we got home this evening and he refused food! Lol, like phew, I'm home, I know I'll be fed!
Very strange but this is obviously a quirk of his and one I'll have to remember when we go away again!
We took soooo much stuff with us! Ha ha. Tried to keep everything as normal as possible, so musical toys for cot, blankets, usual lunchtime foods etc.
As I said before the weather was lovely and we got on the beach and built sandcastles was lovely!
Whilst it was a great break it was a nice feeling to get home, especially seeing the huge smile on our boys face when we pulled up at home!bless him
Hope everyone is well and sll the mommies had a fab Mother's Day yesterday xx

 

[Lolly1985]

That's lovely Dream, especially the coming home part, he obviously feels so safe and secure already, he knows where he belongs Interesting you have noticed a few little traits that others would never bat an eyelid about. It's good you know how your little man ticks and can accommodate the best you can accordingly. That's what being a fab mummy is all about xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah thanks lolly, you always know the right thing to say Hun
It was hard seeing those subtle changes as whilst he was all smiles, he obviously wasn't totally relaxed. You're right though, they're tiny little things that would be very easy to over look, I'm just neurotic! lol

 

[Lolly1985]

You're not!!! Your a mummy and mummy knows best!! We all get it on here so never feel neurotic! Unless we're all guilty

 

[aimze]

Aww I love reading about your weekends & times away as a family that's us soon!! 3 weeks till MP! X

 

[Monkey78]

Ladies, hello. So sorry I have been out of the loop, I have been catching up with all your news but just no time to post. Not sure where the time has gone since we were at panel. No news from me I'm afraid, our se took a well deserved holiday but has been off for a month so I'm chomping at the bit to ring her tomorrow for any news at all! Our LA do work a little different to many of yours so I know it won't be too long now. It has given us time to get our house finished, which turned from a small make over to a ridiculous renovation!!! And during that time the nursery was put on hold but now we are finally finishing that so its all go again....

Lolly I'm so sorry to hear that you are having to go through all of this, try and stay positive hun, the courts will make the right decision, but it is so unfair that they put you through it. Sending you big hugs.

Aimee great news with you, it's all happened so quickly for you I'm so happy. Are you all organized, ready and waiting? Oh cricket it's so real now isnt it.

Good luck everyone, Lola im sorry you too are going through the courts, sending you lots of luck. Zero good to hear from you, that must have been a very hard decision to make, but you know in your heart if its the right path for you, its just sad to be put in these situations isnt it.

Girls its wonderful reading your posts and how strong you all are together, i always feel so inpsired when i come on here, thankyou.

Hope you all had a wonderful mothers day. Xxxx

 

[aimze]

Ah monkey good to hear from you...wow a month off is a long time!

I hope you hear something very soon!!

Xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hopefully you'll hear something very soon monkey!
Aimze are you counting down the days?! Hee hee! So exciting!!
Lola I'm sorry you've got so much uncertainty at the moment, it must be tough

 

[ayclobes]

Lola - any news? I know there are certain protocols they have to follow, but abandoning her child for 4 months and she still gets/got visits?! uhm, yeah here that is case for immediate termination/the child would then be a CHIPS case.


We started the adoption process of our now son March 2012, he came home forever December 2012, but his adoption was not final until November 2013..1 1/2 months shy of his 2nd birthday! he went into foster care at 1 1/2 months old!

 

[Rainy123]

Hi all,

Still finding time to read just not to post as often as I'd like.
Lola - sorry things are so rough for you at the moment. I keep my fingers crossed that common sense prevails and the right decision is made.

Aimze - still so excited for you. Countdown to MP is well and truly on!

I'm just ticking along really. Been told by SW to stop enquiring about so many children I am in the early stages of considering a sibling group at the moment - I have seen 2 profiles for pairs of boys. The first, the needs are too great but saw a pair of gorgeous little ones today. I am developing my skills with patience - enquire and then wait for weeks. Boring!

 

[aimze]

Awww rainy hope you don't need to be patient for too long!

Any joy on be my parent? X

 

[LolaM]

there is no news and I guess here, abandoning your children and then coming back when the termination paperwork is started it like a do-over, and since her rights weren't severed, she gets all her services. Im tired of playing this game, three childrens lives hang in the balance, they are waiting...one foot out the door...

 

[Rainy123]

Enquire about a few on be my parent. 1 I saw the CPR for but needs are too great and another has asked for my par. I have learnt that hearing nothing is normal

 

[dreamofabean]

Morning all!
Ah rainy I hope you hear soon! The wait must be torture!!
I have a slightly strange looking boy this morning! Over the past hour his eyes have becom very red and he has a rash on his nose looks like it could be a slight allergic reaction. He's currently sound asleep but I'm going to pop over to the local pharmacy when he wakes and see what they say. He is absolutely fine in himself, just looking a bit red and blotchy bless him!
Hubby just reminded me that he was playing in the garden last night so whether it's the grass that's affected him? We shall see I suppose!
We have baby sensory this afternoon provided he is ok to go, he loves it! Far more than mommy does! Lol. It's one of those groups where the parents are super clicky and it took about a month for anyone to even say hello! Booo! My boy loves it though so mommy endures it! We only have 2 sessions left before this term finishes and he will start the new toddler session in May! Hopefully the mommies there are nicer

 

[Lolly1985]

How is little man Dream? Bless him! Wonder if they suggest Piriton or something? Hate the clicky mummy thing, get it here too. In sensory group too!! Ha! One of them was late yesterday and had to sit next to me (unlucky!) Little pink gave her baby a maraca so she had to acknowledge and said 'oh hi, it is poppy isn't it?' Ummm, no its not!! Oh well, we have plenty of lovely friends, who needs em, bah!!

Rainy, hope you hear soon lovely, waiting is tortuous

Lovely to hear from you Monkey, we waited a month before we heard from social worker after panel and then the world went mad!!

How are you all?

Our amazing social worker is back and visiting next week. We had a long chat and she really played this all down. Wish she had been around about 3 weeks ago, I don't think I would have got in such a state. Anyway, she's back and brilliant and I'm feeling positive

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah that's fab news lolly!!
Poppy.. Really?!nothing like little pink! Lol. It really annoys me that the moms can be like it! I think it raises suspicion turning up with an older baby maybe? I don't know, but I don't like the attitude!!
Little mans face is still dodgy! Poor mite! The pharmacist said just use aqueous cream but I gave him some piriton too! It's gone down a bit n looks almost like two lumps on his nose, don't know if he's stung himself on something in garden?! His eye is sore and a bit weepy too poor thing! He looks like he's got a black eye

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh poor little love, maybe he did get stung? I hate when it's speculation and you don't know, but even if you did you are probably treating him exactly right. Hope it clears very quickly